@LeaLupins I don't know what typical protocol is, but when we bought our house we sent thank you notes but no gifts. Our realtor even gave us a gift as a thank you/housewarming. But ours didn't go above and beyond or anything. She just took us to a house we picked out and we chose it and bought it. It all went pretty smoothly which was fortunate for all involved. But no special action was taken on her part.
I think giving a gift would be appreciated by him/her though if you want to give one and feel he/she really deserves it. So do what makes you feel right about it.
@LeaLupins I don't know what typical protocol is, but when we bought our house we sent thank you notes but no gifts. Our realtor even gave us a gift as a thank you/housewarming. But ours didn't go above and beyond or anything. She just took us to a house we picked out and we chose it and bought it. It all went pretty smoothly which was fortunate for all involved. But no special action was taken on her part.
I think giving a gift would be appreciated by him/her though if you want to give one and feel he/she really deserves it. So do what makes you feel right about it.
Thank you! I think I will just do a thank you card and maybe a small gc if anything. I'm sure she appreciates her commission more than anything else, ha!
@LiteraChick. This could work to your advantage. What does he need that you don't want to buy? "I can't wait to pay for his college tuition! It's so important to me that I pay for it and have all the money set aside before his 10th birthday."
Maybe you could present the issue as "I really appreciate that you want to buy things for Brom but can I ask you to check with me before making any more 'first' purchases because my family wants to buy him some things too." That way you aren't accusing her of doing it on purpose and you've laid down the law with her. Then if she does it again you have all rights to flip shit on her.
I agree with this. You could also phrase it more along the lines of "check with me before making any more purchases because that item may have already been purchased for Brom." That way it leaves out any mention of who is buying what, when they are buying it, and for what underlying reason (wants it to be the "first") they are buying it. Just simply that you want to avoid duplicates of things.
All this talk of babies is reminding me that no matter what our living situation is in July, whether we have the perfect home or not, we're totally going to have a snuggly baby girl regardless! Yay!
“When the first baby laughed for the first time, its laugh broke into a
thousand pieces, and they all went skipping about, and that was the
beginning of fairies.” - J.M. Barrie Peter Pan
I have died every day waiting for you. Darling, don't be afraid, I have loved you for a thousand years. And all along I believed I would find you, time has brought your heart to me. I have loved you for a thousand years. I'll love you a thousand more.
I daydream so much every day about the way babies smell, how soft their hair is (if any) how their toes curl and their chubby legs kicks out, how they have no necks at first, how they'll be kinda cross eyed until they learn to focus, how their tiny lil' pink fingers wrap around your thumb....
I swear, it's a wonder I can drive anymore. I talk DH's ear off about every beautiful, amazeballs thing Brom is going to be like. Even him screaming his head off and turning red when he poops sounds adorable. I know, FTM, famous last words. But IDGAF. I've waited 9 years for this LittleDude and I'm going to squeal over every thing! I know y'all are with me on this :-D
So tell me, what scene do you replay in your head as you are falling asleep at night? I know I'm not alone in doing this!
I daydream about going in the nursery in the morning, when the soft light is coming in through the windows and she's cooing and kicking and giving me gummy smiles. And when I pick her up, she nestles into me and her weight is so delicious in my arms and shes all happy and smiley!
Of course, she may be like her father and hate mornings, but this is my fantasy!
“When the first baby laughed for the first time, its laugh broke into a
thousand pieces, and they all went skipping about, and that was the
beginning of fairies.” - J.M. Barrie Peter Pan
I have died every day waiting for you. Darling, don't be afraid, I have loved you for a thousand years. And all along I believed I would find you, time has brought your heart to me. I have loved you for a thousand years. I'll love you a thousand more.
I daydream so much every day about the way babies smell, how soft their hair is (if any) how their toes curl and their chubby legs kicks out, how they have no necks at first, how they'll be kinda cross eyed until they learn to focus, how their tiny lil' pink fingers wrap around your thumb....
I swear, it's a wonder I can drive anymore. I talk DH's ear off about every beautiful, amazeballs thing Brom is going to be like. Even him screaming his head off and turning red when he poops sounds adorable. I know, FTM, famous last words. But IDGAF. I've waited 9 years for this LittleDude and I'm going to squeal over every thing! I know y'all are with me on this :-D
So tell me, what scene do you replay in your head as you are falling asleep at night? I know I'm not alone in doing this!
I just can't wait to smell this little DD or DS as soon as she/he is born.It is the best smell. I mean all newborns smell awesome it's just a fact, but YOUR newborn will smell better than anything you've ever smelled in your whole life.
At this point I have no idea what we are having. I have no gut feeling on boy or girl. I can't wait to know if I've got Emma or Harrison to complete our family. I also can't wait to rock this baby to sleep.
Also, for all your FTM let me give you a piece of annoying STM advice. Don't let anyone tell you to not rock your baby to sleep if that's what you feel is right. DH followed babywise and that's one thing the book says not to do: no sleep props. You know what felt right to me? Rocking my angel girl to sleep every night, so I did! My heart broke when she stopped wanting it. I hope this one wants to be rocked until he/she is three or hell even five. Rock your babies mommas, sit in that chair long long long after your LOs have fallen fast asleep and admire every tiny curve in their ears, every tiny lash on their eyes and savor their sweet breath on your arms. Soak it all in.
I daydream so much every day about the way babies smell, how soft their hair is (if any) how their toes curl and their chubby legs kicks out, how they have no necks at first, how they'll be kinda cross eyed until they learn to focus, how their tiny lil' pink fingers wrap around your thumb....
I swear, it's a wonder I can drive anymore. I talk DH's ear off about every beautiful, amazeballs thing Brom is going to be like. Even him screaming his head off and turning red when he poops sounds adorable. I know, FTM, famous last words. But IDGAF. I've waited 9 years for this LittleDude and I'm going to squeal over every thing! I know y'all are with me on this :-D
So tell me, what scene do you replay in your head as you are falling asleep at night? I know I'm not alone in doing this!
I always imagine a tiny chubby little ball of squish with curly dark brown hair looking up and smiling at me with his little hat on! Just rocking him and looking at him with awe. It's the best!
I day dream about bigger babies. Who say hilarious things and make me laugh and want me to teach them. Im not going to wish away tiny baby sweetness but the first time my toddler shows sass and personality is what im super psyched for. Love kids!!!!
I day dream about bigger babies. Who say hilaroous things and make me laugh and want me to teach them. Im not going to wish away tiny baby sweetness but the first time my toddler shows sass and personality is what im super psyched for. Love kids!!!!
This! Don't get me wrong, DS was, and still is, an adorable baby, but he's gotten so much more cuddly lately and I'm loving it. He'll actually sit with me for longer than 5 seconds and wants to lay with us in bed in the mornings now and just love on us and it's the best thing ever. And his smile and laugh? And really, you guys should see the way this kid grooves. He loves to dance and it's about the best thing ever.
Lol you guys are dripping with FTM adorableness. I'm so excited to see how much more in love you are when your LOs come. You guys are gonna make me cry with all your crying. ( :P
Every night when I'm falling asleep, I think about what Abigail might end up looking like! I picture her as a little baby, but then even more so as a toddler. I try to combine my features and DH's features in the cutest way possible because OF COURSE she'll be flipping adorable. I'm so excited to see her! (But not so excited that she can't bake for a few more months!)
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Married 7.28.2012 DD born 7.27.2014 BFP 09.2015 - m/c 10.21.2015
I'm looking forward to DD2 being very lovey with DS2. She's so fascinated with babies right now it makes it even more exciting! On a side note, I had an appt today and my little man is still measuring 2 weeks ahead! I know they can grow more then even out but I'm slightly excited about him possibly being a bigger baby.
This is probably a really dumb question, but how in the heck do they determine which position my LO is in if they aren't planning on anymore ultrasounds?
He feels breech to me, due to the tickles and kicks I feel but I am not a good judge of position. I know there is time yet before he'll settle in but with considering a C section and all of that, how do they tell?
I asked my OB the same thing and basically it comes down to training according to her. She can just feel around and know since this is what she does for a living. She was like "oh yeah, here's the feet, here's the head, etc" at my last appointment.
And when you go into labor and start dilating, the nurses will be able to feel if there's a head, a butt or something else coming first.
This. Plus, if they can't figure it out they will do an ultrasound!
I asked my doc the same thing, @literachick ! In my practice, they do more U/S later on...I'll have one at 32 weeks, and again at 36 or so. He also said what PP mentioned, that they "just know", and can tell where things are just by feel. They kind of have a cool job
Incidentally, I have convinced myself that she turned around today. My belly button area is SO painful, and now all the pokes and movement are way up higher. I know she'll still move around till she moves out, but at least she's trying out the right position (or so I tell myself).
This is probably a really dumb question, but how in the heck do they determine which position my LO is in if they aren't planning on anymore ultrasounds?
He feels breech to me, due to the tickles and kicks I feel but I am not a good judge of position. I know there is time yet before he'll settle in but with considering a C section and all of that, how do they tell?
This is a legit questuion. I didn't have an u/s after the a/s for DS and got to the hospital in labor only to find out he was breech. My midwife actually asked me who checked me last (you see different drs and MWs at your appointments because you don't know who will end up being on call when it's go time). Um, she was the last one to check me the week before...I will definitely be over doing it in the "are you sure LO isn't breech?" questions in the last couple of weeks.
So i found out over the weekend that my DHs best friends wife is KU and due in Dec. I kinda want to go creeping over to the board and see if she's on the bump.
I've talked about them before, both unemployed and on food stamps/cash aid and still TTC. I feel like she would be a total shit show and i want to watch. As it is i'm going to enjoy the dramatics when she finally tells her family.
Yes, i'm going to hell and i'm totally okay with it.
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I think giving a gift would be appreciated by him/her though if you want to give one and feel he/she really deserves it. So do what makes you feel right about it.
In some of the more sheer shirts you can straight up see the fake bump attached to them.. ahhh, low budget photography.
Sooooooo cute!!!!!
I can't wait to have a sweet snuggly newborn! I wonder if I will change my mind once I am getting zero sleep, but right now I am so excited!
“When the first baby laughed for the first time, its laugh broke into a thousand pieces, and they all went skipping about, and that was the beginning of fairies.”
- J.M. Barrie Peter Pan
married on the sweetest day 10.20.12
Chicken - 07.08.06 | Bubsy - 02.24.09 | Sunshine - 07.16.14
Of course, she may be like her father and hate mornings, but this is my fantasy!
“When the first baby laughed for the first time, its laugh broke into a thousand pieces, and they all went skipping about, and that was the beginning of fairies.”
- J.M. Barrie Peter Pan
married on the sweetest day 10.20.12
Chicken - 07.08.06 | Bubsy - 02.24.09 | Sunshine - 07.16.14
I just can't wait to smell this little DD or DS as soon as she/he is born.It is the best smell. I mean all newborns smell awesome it's just a fact, but YOUR newborn will smell better than anything you've ever smelled in your whole life.
At this point I have no idea what we are having. I have no gut feeling on boy or girl. I can't wait to know if I've got Emma or Harrison to complete our family. I also can't wait to rock this baby to sleep.
Also, for all your FTM let me give you a piece of annoying STM advice. Don't let anyone tell you to not rock your baby to sleep if that's what you feel is right. DH followed babywise and that's one thing the book says not to do: no sleep props. You know what felt right to me? Rocking my angel girl to sleep every night, so I did! My heart broke when she stopped wanting it. I hope this one wants to be rocked until he/she is three or hell even five. Rock your babies mommas, sit in that chair long long long after your LOs have fallen fast asleep and admire every tiny curve in their ears, every tiny lash on their eyes and savor their sweet breath on your arms. Soak it all in.
Lol you guys are dripping with FTM adorableness. I'm so excited to see how much more in love you are when your LOs come. You guys are gonna make me cry with all your crying.
DD born 7.27.2014
BFP 09.2015 - m/c 10.21.2015
I am in total love with them, and while I want them to cook longer, I am so excited for them to come out!
This. Plus, if they can't figure it out they will do an ultrasound!
This is a legit questuion. I didn't have an u/s after the a/s for DS and got to the hospital in labor only to find out he was breech. My midwife actually asked me who checked me last (you see different drs and MWs at your appointments because you don't know who will end up being on call when it's go time). Um, she was the last one to check me the week before...I will definitely be over doing it in the "are you sure LO isn't breech?" questions in the last couple of weeks.
I have a similar photo from my first full day at home with DS and it is absolutely one of my favorites!