Who is in with you?

flerlgirl · April 2014

I feel exactly the same as I did before - just DH and me in the delivery room! I am a RCS anyway but even if I wasn't, I really just want it to be the two of us. If I haddd to pick another person, I would pick my BIL. He is calm and quick on his feet and generally does not stress me out.

hlp2709 · April 2014

When I had my daughter it was my husband and my MIL . She came in to see how I was doing and ended up just staying in the room at the top of the bed. I wanted my mom but it was early in the am and by the time she would of got there my daughter was born.
For this one I want my mom in the room along with my husband and my MIL can if the allow that many people in the room. I forget how many people can be in the room.

efino87 · April 2014

amoot890 said:

@elfino87 I haven't changed my mind at all about it just being DH. As for keeping people out. Easy, we're not telling anybody until after she gets here and we're ready for a visit. They can't be there if they don't know!

BUT If you have already have a kid, I guess you will need to tell someone so that you can have a sitter. Choose carefully or your chosen watcher will spill the beans and you'll get the room full of people again.

My parents will be watching our DD at our house until it gets close to baby time. I have told them repeatedly not to call/text/facebook anyone else. The problem is the MIL. She would flip if she wasn't called ahead of time but she would also invite her entire extended family to come join us as soon as baby is born. For some reason they do this at every single family event. Unfortunately they all live in town and within 10-15 minutes of the hospital. This hospital also tends to let whoever come strolling in the room. FX baby comes in the middle of the night and I have an excuse not to contact them all right away.

temursgirl · April 2014

My ILs are coming at the end of July and staying until October... the plus side of which is that there is no question of them expecting to be there for the delivery. I don't think they would anyway. They were kind of shocked when DH said he will be there.

We will tell my dad when we go to the hospital and again when we're ready to see him, and he's not intrusive at all so he'll stick to that. Other people will get the call after the fact.

My hospital has a form where you can fill out who is/isn't allowed in the room, and L&D is secured so people can't wander in.

kd&cd · April 2014

It will be DH, OB & nurses at delivery time, however during labour I don't mind others being around as Long as they are not in the way. It will be nice to have company while going through labour. Thankfully m OB has the same rules as DH and I...if my MIL or mom for that matter really wanted to be in there, my OB wouldn't let them.

nikki0808 · April 2014

My hospital has a rule of no more than 2 in the room during labor/delivery. I told family I don't mind if they're at the hospital and coming in and out during labor BUT only DH is in the room for checks and delivery. They're all ok with it too.

With all my issues with the pregnancy so far, I like the idea of some family support just in case anything emergent happens so DH isn't sitting alone freaking out.

TonyaCody06 · April 2014

Just DH & the delivery team X 3 deliveries! I am thinking of paying a friend who is professional photographer to be at this last one though since we are team green and this is our last baby.

rastrau · April 2014

Agree with all the PP, @lellymine your MIL is BSC! This is about your rights, not hers.

For us, it's just me, DH and the med staff in the room during delivery. I don't like audiences - DH has never even seen me puke and I had morning sickness for 13 weeks!

During early labor my own mom and little sister (she's a massage therapist - woot!) are allowed in, but they are banished when it comes time to push. No audience, no way.

eta - my ILs live 3+ hours away and won't be called until after baby's arrival.

CJnKR2014 · April 2014

My mom and DH are going to be there for the delivery- I really need support and DH has already made it clear that he will probably pass out.
DHs family is who lives close by so DH and I have to discuss when they will be allowed to visit. I may wait to see if the boys are delivered vaginally or by cs and how I feel after to decide when people can visit.

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