Random, Vents, and AWs

vulpini · April 2014

TrueBeliever925 said:

@KQuinonez My sister gave all three of her kids the honey flavored Teddy Grahams before a year. They were all fine. None of them have any food allergies.

I also just read this: "Commercial foods that contain honey, like ready-to-eat breakfast cereals and baby food, are safe for your baby because they've been heated enough to kill the spores." But that was on Baby Center and I haven't looked TOO much into it.

On a side note, she was giving me crap about giving J eggs before a year. She was surprised that our doctor okayed it at our 6 month appointment.

The issue with honey isn't allergies, but the risk of botulism. By a year a baby's digestive system can handle the potential C. botulinum spores, but the further away from a year old a baby is, the higher the risk. The spores themselves are actually heat resistant, but the toxin they make is killed by near-boiling temperatures, so anything honey-flavored that was boiled/baked should be fine to give a baby. I'd hold off on honey itself and honey flavored yogurt, but crackers are ok. Infant botulism is pretty rare either way though.

KQuinonez · April 2014

vulpini said:

TrueBeliever925 said:

@KQuinonez My sister gave all three of her kids the honey flavored Teddy Grahams before a year. They were all fine. None of them have any food allergies.

I also just read this: "Commercial foods that contain honey, like ready-to-eat breakfast cereals and baby food, are safe for your baby because they've been heated enough to kill the spores." But that was on Baby Center and I haven't looked TOO much into it.

On a side note, she was giving me crap about giving J eggs before a year. She was surprised that our doctor okayed it at our 6 month appointment.

The issue with honey isn't allergies, but the risk of botulism. By a year a baby's digestive system can handle the potential C. botulinum spores, but the further away from a year old a baby is, the higher the risk. The spores themselves are actually heat resistant, but the toxin they make is killed by near-boiling temperatures, so anything honey-flavored that was boiled/baked should be fine to give a baby. I'd hold off on honey itself and honey flavored yogurt, but crackers are ok. Infant botulism is pretty rare either way though.

Thanks. I will definitely being holding off on the real deal but this helps put my mind at ease.

Marvel1013 · April 2014

Vent- I've come to terms with things not changing between me and H at the moment. He needs to reevaluate his priorities and realize what comes first. Our relationship is crumbling and instead of,working on us.. He worries about making everyone else happy.. guess who got a job close to us and was told he,could stay here again? FIL. Fuck that. I told H no, but clearly my own opinion means fuck all in my own house. Sad to say that I'm packing up some stuff and will be going to my parents with the kids.

nnikki10 · April 2014

KQuinonez said:
You guys are making me sad thinking about weaning. ( My supply is still strong and we will probably start weaning between 12 and 13 months, but I am not ready for that. I love how he plays with my hair when he is nursing and touches my face. That feeling can't end. DH reminds me that he hopefully won't be the only baby I nurse but I have loved it so much. Now I am crying...at work...while pumping.

It sucks. I would have loved to do extended bf. But work schedule really has taken a toll on pumping schedule. Supply suffered. Maybe the next one.

kkay1982 · April 2014

KQuinonez said:
You guys are making me sad thinking about weaning. ( My supply is still strong and we will probably start weaning between 12 and 13 months, but I am not ready for that. I love how he plays with my hair when he is nursing and touches my face. That feeling can't end. DH reminds me that he hopefully won't be the only baby I nurse but I have loved it so much. Now I am crying...at work...while pumping.

I love nursing LO and the special time it gives us and will miss it when we get to that point. I don't mind supplementing but I am going to hold on to nursing for a while hopefully.

vulpini · April 2014

I'm still holding off on reducing my pumping sessions. I'm down to 4 sessions a day now and I make about 400ml total each day, which is less than half of what LO needs. He gets the rest in formula and solids. I told myself a couple months ago, when I was pumping 600mls, that I would cut down to 2 sessions a day and slowly wean from the pump when I was making less than half of his intake, but now I can't bring myself to do it. I hate pumping but I feel too guilty to stop. Which is silly, because when it became clear that I would have to EP and there would be no real nursing with this baby, my original goal was to make it 6 months and count every month after that as a bonus. LO is getting really into solids now, so maybe I'll feel better about it when he's less reliant on milk and formula.

Also, LO apparently decided to take an extra long nap today. If I had known, I would have waited an pumped at 9:30 instead of 8:30. And if he's not up in the next 10 minutes, we're not going to his Gymboree class today.

TrueBeliever925 · April 2014

@Marvel1013 I'm sorry all of this is happening. Hopefully your H will get his act together and realize what he has and, potentially, what he could lose. <3333 ((HUGE HUGS!))

And if he even thinks his father moving in is a good idea after what happened last time, then he needs a huge boot in the ass.

MommyKristin88 · April 2014

@marvel1013 I'm sorry :-(

kkay1982 · April 2014

@Marvel1013‌ so sorry you are going through this. Your H needs to realize that you and kids are what most important and remember how awful it went last time with FIL. You just got him out of your house, don't let him back in. Hopefully this will be the wake up call your H needs.

Marvel1013 · April 2014

TrueBeliever925 said:
@Marvel1013 I'm sorry all of this is happening. Hopefully your H will get his act together and realize what he has and, potentially, what he could lose. <3333 ((HUGE HUGS!))

And if he even thinks his father moving in is a good idea after what happened last time, then he needs a huge boot in the ass.

Thanks. Yeah I honestly don't get why he would want him here again. I was told it woukd be for a week, yeah right. H had an apology off of,his family after the blow up last time, but nobody has said anything to me. I,don't want that in my home again, around my kids

TrueBeliever925 · April 2014

Marvel1013 said:

@Marvel1013 I'm sorry all of this is happening. Hopefully your H will get his act together and realize what he has and, potentially, what he could lose. <3333 ((HUGE HUGS!))

And if he even thinks his father moving in is a good idea after what happened last time, then he needs a huge boot in the ass.
Thanks. Yeah I honestly don't get why he would want him here again. I was told it woukd be for a week, yeah right. H had an apology off of,his family after the blow up last time, but nobody has said anything to me. I,don't want that in my home again, around my kids

I completely understand. Especially after that last fight.

I'm so sorry. @nnikki10 knows how to get rid of bodies, maybe FIL won't ever make it to your house? And if you need any of us to beat up H and knock some sense into him, I'm sure we can make a massive list of volunteers!

Keep your chin up. It will get better.

Michelle N · April 2014

LokiLahve said:

Michelle N said:
Total aw: we are leaving for our first big family vacation tomorrow! We are heading to Miami for a few days and then cruising the Caribbean! I went absolutely crazy buying nautical theme stuff for lo. This Canadian winter has been too damn long!
How exciting!!
Please give an update when you're back from the cruise. We are thinking about taking one & wondering how lo would do.

Will do:)

@Marvel1013‌ , I'm so sorry. I hope time apart will help things.

nnikki10 · April 2014

@Marvel1013‌ we could totally make his body disappear. I'm so sorry you are going through this.

KQuinonez · April 2014

@nnikki10 I completely understand your reasoning and I hope that you are more successful with the next. I know how lucky I am to have my own office and be able to pump as frequent as I need. I can imagine your work schedule is not very condusive to having a good routine.

@marvel1013 I am so sorry!!! I cannot believe that your H would put you through that again. He definitely needs to get his priorities straight! Sending you lots of hugs!

Marvel1013 · April 2014

Thanks everyone:) it's a pretty crappy feeling packing stuff up. It'll be good to see H's response to all this because I'll know where he stands. @nnikki10‌ I'm in

sftbllstr87 · April 2014

((Hugsssss)) @Marvel1013‌
Boys are dumb
Hope he realizes it's a terrible idea for fil to be there and to not put you and the kids first GL

tts432462 · April 2014

@Marvel1013‌ this makes me sad for you and your kids. I'm sorry you're dealing with any of it. You are in my prayers. Be strong.

LokiLahve · April 2014

@Marvel1013‌ I'm sorry you're going through this. If I read correct it sounds like your H doesn't know you're packing up yet? Maybe he'll come home & wake the F up.
Wtf to him letting FIL come back. That makes me angry for you.

You know we are all here if you need to vent. (Huge creeper internet hugs)

ludali · April 2014

@Marvel1013 sometimes you need to do something so abrupt to make them see the bigger picture - I hope it all works out for you. I'm glad you're doing what's best for you and your kiddos.

@HauntedRadio - I agree with your "good luck" sentiment - I have pumping struggles and thankfully still can BF and make the bottles work out, but I want to cry every time I think of not BFing. The emotional part is going to kick my ass.

LokiLahve · April 2014

Random: since I'm on mobile 99% of the time there are several rows of smileys that don't show up when I try to use them. It drives me nuts.
I just keep thinking all the best smileys are all the way to the left & I'm missing out!

tts432462 · April 2014

This is random and I should probably wait for fffc because it's awful, but I'll forget by then. DR'S aunt just posted a pic on fb of Helen Keller hugging a tree in honor of Earth Day. I keep going back to it and laughing because the look on her face is priceless and all I can think about is how does she know what she's hugging?

Im a bad person. I'm going to go stand in the corner and think about why this is wrong.

Marvel1013 · April 2014

LokiLahve said:
Random: since I'm on mobile 99% of the time there are several rows of smileys that don't show up when I try to use them. It drives me nuts.
I just keep thinking all the best smileys are all the way to the left & I'm missing out!

He,does but he doesn't. I've always said empty threats. Because he won't listen to me or take me seriously I Texted him earlier letting him know (again) how I feel about everything and told him I was,going to my parents. I let him know he can come and see the kids as well. Wether he believes me or not, I'm not sure.. and I don't care anymore. Maybe if hhe comes to see the kids we can have an actual conversation instead of me having to send a flippin text. He hasn't called me or replied so I'm assuming he doesn't believe me, or maybe doesn't care

Thanks again ladies

MinnesotaMomma91 · April 2014

@Marvel1013‌ hugs! I am so sorry your going through that with your h. Im glad your able to go to your parents house. I hope he sees the big picture and fights for your marriage. I know you amd i arent close but if you ever need to talk about anything im a pm away

Marvel1013 · April 2014

Thanks @MinnesotaMomma91‌ !

MommyBolty · April 2014

@kkay1982 and @Bunnyfer Good luck making the decision to start weaning! It was a tough decision for me, and I always felt like I needed DHs permission. I think mainly bc I wasn't comfortable making the decision on my own or something. I dunno. Hopefully the transition goes smoothly for yall! My main reason for stopping pumping was that when my supply went downhill, my boob size changed. I already had the smallest inserts for my pump and it was hurting so bad to keep pumping. Anyways...good luck to you both!

@Marvel1013 - so sorry you are going through that again!! I hope your DH gets the picture soon!

Revez · April 2014

@Marvel1013‌ I'm sorry. Sending you lots of hugs! You can always come stay with me

@LokiLahve‌ I keep meaning to see what I'm missing out on when I go on my laptop, but I always forget.

Vent: why does my baby hate napping? What's wrong with napping?

AW: in exchange for no naps LO slept 9 hours straight last night. I don't really know if it's a fair trade or not though.

courtneykid · April 2014

@Michelle N‌ I'm super jealous about your Caribbean vaca! I'm excited to hear how your LO does on the cruise!! We are thinking about going on one early next year!

@KQuinonez‌ I feel the same as you when I think about weaning! My supply is slowly falling... I hope I can make it to a year!

@Marvel1013‌ I hope your H realizes what's at stake and comes to his senses! I'm sending positive thoughts your way!!

Marvel1013 · April 2014

I'm on my way @Revez‌!

thoughtfulmommy · April 2014

@Marvel1013‌ I am so sorry you are dealing with FIL issues again when you are trying to fix things with your H. I hope everything works out and your H will realize that he prefers living with his hottie wife and cute kids over his dad.

janneann1127 · April 2014

@Marvel1013‌ - I'm so sorry, I can't believe he would even consider letting him stay there again. I hope that you moving out for bit is a wake up call.

WildRumpus · April 2014

TrueBeliever925 said:

Another Random: @WildRumpus did you make those carrot cake cheesecake squares? They were freaking amazing and I got a ton of compliments. Thank you for the link!

Also, how the freak did you get them out of the pan? I made two batches and I destroyed half of the first one (still tasted amazing!). But I had to cut them out of the pan on the second one and ruined my cake pan. I seriously bake banana bread and cupcakes. That's about it, so this was new to me.

Yes, they were awesome! I used a stick of butter to grease the pan, then used a pie cutter to get them out

AprilRaine · April 2014

@Marvel1013 I'm sorry FIL is rearing his idiot face again. I'd offer you to come stay with me but after the lobster-scorpion in the bathtub incident I don't even want to stay with me. I really really hope your DH wakes the fuck up.

Cocolamo1 · April 2014

KQuinonez said:
Random: What is the consensus of A13 on Honey Graham crackers? Are they safe or not? We don't see the doc till the middle of May and all the literature I can find on it is conflicting. My mom bought LO some Organic Honey Teddy Grahams and she said she was fine if I didn't want to give it to him, but I just don't want to be over thinking this.

I give honey Grahams all the time, I've never even thought of it being an issue. Raw honey is a risk because of botulism. Crackers are so processed- I'm sure it's fine!

ETA: I'm such a flake! This had already been answered... Back to eating our grahams.

janneann1127 · April 2014

nnikki10 said:
@janneann1127‌ we are in so cal you too?? How'd I miss that haha

Are you in LA? Feel free to PM me if you want - I was going to PM you but I'm always mobile.

starshower22 · April 2014

@KatieS7‌ I told you you should have moved to Dallas!

TrueBeliever925 · April 2014

@dani_brewer I'm sorry your H wasn't very receptive. I know money isn't everything but jeeeeez! $11 more an hour would be aweeeeeesome! Is it a huge difference in jobs for him though? Maybe he's just so comfortable in his job now he just is not liking the idea of changing.

Hopefully you guys can work it out and comprimise so you'll be able to follow your dreams.

TrueBeliever925 · April 2014

@dani_brewer I'm sorry. :-( Maybe try and approach him again but let him know you don't want him to just "quit" his job. That there are many possibilities that could happen with him taking that job and just talk to him about what it is you want out of it. If he doesn't at least hear you out, then that really sucks

kkay1982 · April 2014

@dani_brewer‌ his reaction should have been "hey thanks for thinking of our family and helping me find a better paying job". Honestly I would jump for joy at $11/hr more.

MommyKristin88 · April 2014

kkay1982 said:

@dani_brewer‌ his reaction should have been "hey thanks for thinking of our family and helping me find a better paying job". Honestly I would jump for joy at $11/hr more.

If I could make $11/hr more I'd be running out of my job right now jumping for joy. I don't understand why he would turn that opportunity down. At least apply! Geez

PB102012 · April 2014

I need to add to this thread tonight.... I am having work done on my car AGAIN tomorrow. I am not sure if you all remember but I was rear ended and shoved into another car in December. My insurance company chose to repair my car instead of total it out. I think this is the fourth or fifth time I have had to return to the body shop with issues with my car. I have written a letter to State Farm expressing my irritation with this experience asking them to total my car, they refused and said I am stuck with it because I didn't pass the total threshold. I understand the rules, but aren't there always exceptions? We have ALL of our insurance ( and we have a ton) through this company, and I cannot believe that they aren't willing to take an extra step for me. So, tomorrow, my windshield is being replaced because it's leaking into my car when it rains (slowly, but to the point where the headliner is wet to the touch). So instead of getting rid of this problem, they keep paying, and paying, and paying......

Ugggghhhhhhhhhhhhhh....... that's all ladies.

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