November 2014 Moms

Due Nov. 21! Looking to connect with others with same due date.

Hi! I'm kind of new to this thing & I would love to meet other mom's with the same (or near!) due date.
I am a mother of 3 girls, my youngest being 6. Although I am quite nervous about this pregnancy/birth, I am considering an unassisted homebirth!
I am looking for others to share thoughts & experiences with. >:D<
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Re: Due Nov. 21! Looking to connect with others with same due date.

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  • abbyful said:

    What do you mean "unassisted home birth"? You aren't going to have a midwife present?

    If that's the case, I can tell you right now that idea isn't going to get any love either here or on the Natural Birth board. It's reckless and dangerous.

    I would expect many close-minded, uninformed people to think that. But I've had three previous healthy, quick, unmedicated natural births & it's a decision I'm more than sure we can handle. We'd definitely have a backup plan in case of an emergency. Although, I don't see giving birth as a "medical emergency" as most people do. I believe our bodies were created to handle childbirth. And in some cases (not as common as many think) things could go wrong, I don't deny that. I am not against hospital births, I just don't think it's always necessary. I have, and still am, educating myself on homebirth/childbirth and the possible complications. It's definitely something I've put a lot of thought into.

    I don't expect everyone to agree with my personal decision, but I DO hope people wouldn't judge and be so close-minded about it. [-O<
  • abbyful said:



    I don't expect everyone to agree with my personal decision, but I DO hope people wouldn't judge and be so close-minded about it. [-O<

    If you are looking for an open-minded judgement free place, The Bump forums are not it. I personally don't bat an eye at an unassisted birth and don't waste my time judging other peoples choices, because, frankly, I couldn't care less. Unfortunately that puts me in the minority both on this board and IRL.

    Also due Nov 21st.

    Anyway, welcome to the board. If you share information here, be prepared to hear everyone's opinion about it. That's the way things go.
    Elkanah Brave, born 02/06/2012 7:26am
  • Not to mention like you said your youngest is 6- 6 years can take you from a low risk patient to a high risk patient- and a lot about your health and ability to have an "easy birth" can change.
  • atokatok member
    Things can go from good to bad very fast. I had an easy pregnancy, an easy 19 hr labor and birth but then started bleeding bad, needed a blood transfusion and meds very fast after my ds was born. Please rethink your birth plan
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  • https://www.sheknows.com/parenting/articles/966059/unassisted-childbirth-at-homettp://www.sheknows.com/parenting/articles/966059/unassisted-childbirth-at-homeI respect all of your opinions...I'm not going to argue with you. This isn't the first time I've heard/read all this. It doesn't change how I feel about my decision. And someone asked, yes, I WILL be going to regular prenatal check ups. I just believe birth should be natural, intimate & special...with no unnecessary interferences. And with as much family/friends present as you desire! I want my children to be there to witness the birth of their sibling. And I've experienced hospital births & wasn't very pleased with how they went. Freebirth is not as uncommon as you think...you should definitely read into it! I appreciate all your thoughts & opinions. ;)
  • Wow. Just wow.

  • If you're going to have so many family/friends present, why not throw one more person who just happens to be a medical professional into the mix?

    I never said I, personally, would have many people there at the birth. But it is an option you dont get in a hospital. Every woman has a right to birth the way she chooses. You have no right to criticize anyone's decision. I don't understand why so many "women" feel the need to be so judgemental. How I choose to birth doesn't make me any better or less than you! I'm not criticizing anyone's decision to have an old, boring, traditional hospital birth...or to get an epidural because their not strong enough to handle the pain...THAT'S YOUR DECISION! And I could care less about it :)>-

    *and when I say "you", that's just to everyone being judgemental :)
  • Boring hospital birth. As in not having my family running around me screaming because my baby is dying and there is no one there who knows what to do. And having an epidural because "I can't handle the pain"? Who's judgmental now. I'm sorry but I don't think you're going to fit in here. In fact, why don't you just GTFO now!
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  • suzyrenee said:

    "Boring"??? Isn't having a healthy baby the point? I'm all for a home birth, birth center, whatever your preference is. But you are saying that if we don't choose a reckless, unassisted plan the birth of our child is "boring"? Wow! Now that's judgemental.

    I never used the word "unassisted" in that post! I was just talking about the simple, routine hospital birth. Even choosing an "assisted" home birth would be much more special. Just saying. And thanks a lot guys! I'm loving this....how y'all misunderstand & take things out of context. Keep it coming!

    ;)
  • Next thing we will see is OP claiming she attended the birth of puppies, kittens, and unicorn foals, so she is perfectly able to perform diagnostic procedures for distress on herself and her fetus.
    This made Dh and i laugh so damn hard. I needed that.

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  • We aren't "judging" you. We simply don't understand why you would take the unnecessary risk. Yes, you have had normal births, but I would HATE for something to go wrong, you lose your baby or your own life. Not saying that it is going to happen, but it can. If you don't like people expressing their concern for your welfare and the welfare of your child, then you shouldn't post on a forum. And as for a hospital birth being boring, or not being strong enough to handle labor without the use of an epidural, whose being judgemental now?
    These people don't know me! So how can you say, and expect me to believe, that they're "expressing their concern" for the welfare of me and my child??? That's funny to me, actually. If I was to give birth in a hospital and my child died...would they care, or even know?? NO. It wouldn't make a difference in their lives. Everyone gets to choose their own personal birth plan and mine shouldn't be of concern to anyone who doesn't know me. What I choose shouldn't matter in the least to anyone here! You all obviously have no clue about what I know and what experience I have with homebirths. I never stated my experiences and education here...frankly, because it's no ones business. I will go ahead and let you all assume what you want. It's quite entertaining! But like I said, no one here knows me so it's impossible to truly care about my decision and/or the outcome. You all are just being very judgemental...and some, immature as well. [-(


  • These people don't know me! So how can you say, and expect me to believe, that they're "expressing their concern" for the welfare of me and my child??? That's funny to me, actually. If I was to give birth in a hospital and my child died...would they care, or even know?? NO. It wouldn't make a difference in their lives. Everyone gets to choose their own personal birth plan and mine shouldn't be of concern to anyone who doesn't know me. What I choose shouldn't matter in the least to anyone here! You all obviously have no clue about what I know and what experience I have with homebirths. I never stated my experiences and education here...frankly, because it's no ones business. I will go ahead and let you all assume what you want. It's quite entertaining! But like I said, no one here knows me so it's impossible to truly care about my decision and/or the outcome. You all are just being very judgemental...and some, immature as well. [-(

    I was ignoring this post but now you've pissed me off. I don't know how you could think that anyone who already is or is going to be a mother or just has a freaking heart would not care about the senseless injury or death of a mother and/or her child. And yes, somebody dying in this situation for these ridiculous reasons would be senseless.

    I don't care about your education or knowledge with homebirths- there's a reason that doctors or healthcare professionals get care from others in these situations- you are the patient. So unless your husband or one of your kids is a healthcare professional and is going to oversee the care of you and your baby, it doesn't mean squat!

    As Aaren said, these women are commenting because they care- they are asking you to rethink what you are doing. The fact that you can't see that and have attacked this the way that you have makes me second guess whether I give a crap about you personally but I sure as shit do about your child (though obviously you don't care about something happening to me or my child and it wouldn't make a difference in your life- according to how you see things).

    BFP #1- 4/2011; DD Brynn born 12/2011

    BFP #2- 7/13; EDD- 4/2/14; Lost DS at 20 weeks (11/16/13) due to cord accident

    BFP #3- 3/14; EDD- 11/28/14; Lost DD at 15 weeks (6/7/14)- cause unknown

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  • Just because you don't "know" a person, doesn't mean you cant be concerned. Again, if you are so perturbed by the concern from others, then maybe you shouldn't post on a forum. If you can't stand a few innocent comments, this is the last place you should be. And that is all I have to say on that. I won't continue to feed a troll. 

    Innocent comments?? PLEASE.. /:)
    I guess I thought this was a place to meet real, mature women. Where you can talk, share things with & support each other. Without being judged & criticized! I guess it too much to ask for in this day and age, huh? Either way....good luck to all of you. :)
  • We only know what you give us.  Since you're so educated on unassisted home births, why not educate us?  Maybe that will help us be more open to the idea.

    Just sayin'.
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