Due Nov. 21! Looking to connect with others with same due date.

Bandia12

This post has me  )    GBCB in 3...2...

wifeofadam

I had an unplanned unassisted birth at home with my last.  We were planning a homebirth, but the labor happened so quickly that the MW didn't make it in time.  She was, however, on the phone, talking us through what to do as she sped to get there.  And she arrived thirty minutes after the birth to help deliver the placenta and deal with any possible tearing/assess the baby.

DH and my BFF were able to deliver my daughter safely, but I would never ever want to do it again without the MW there.  Also, my DH and BFF would have in no way been able to help with the placenta and know if it all had come out or assess me and the baby after the birth.  You need a qualified professional to do that.

I totally understand not wanting to go to the hospital, I do.  I have homebirths, so I get it!  But I really think that having a MW there is a good idea.  Birth is so unpredictable!

Good luck with whatever you choose!!

theMadRadishes

This isn't the next level of natural birthing. Even aboriginal tribes have midwives...

Kristy774

I missed so much today.....between this and the adult post, I'm just now catching up....and I have nothing to say because everyone had already said it. Good job ladies.

OP, please have a midwife at least. Ok not gonna beat a dead horse.

Melissa2216

miissperez said:

I never used the word "unassisted" in that post! I was just talking about the simple, routine hospital birth. Even choosing an "assisted" home birth would be much more special. Just saying. And thanks a lot guys! I'm loving this....how y'all misunderstand & take things out of context. Keep it coming!

Where do I sign up for one of these "boring" births? I would love that! My last one was far too exciting.

We are talking my leg propped up on a table with my OB elbow-deep in my hoohah trying to flip my son or untangle the cord from around his neck, his heart rate plummeting with every contraction. All while 4 nurses and my husband watched in horror. When that didn't work, I was rushed quickly for a c-section.

Bottom line: If I was having an unassisted home birth, my son would have died.

P.S. - Tell me more about how weak I am for getting an epi. Please.

KateLouise

I'm popping in from the natural birth board too.

I feel confident this is a troll, but in case it's not, I thought I'd share my unplanned unassisted birth.

DH delivered DD2, while ambulance officer talked him through it on the phone.

Midwives arrived around 30 minutes after she was born. They assessed me and baby, and it was nice to have them there. It was even nicer to have them there around another 30minutes later when I started heamorrhaging and they had the drugs I needed on hand.

Stuff happens in and after birth. It has nothing to do with how interesting your birth is or how strong you are as a mother. It's just childbirth is an imperfect system and any number of things can happen that professionals are trained to identify and deal with, often before you even realise there's an issue.

DebateThis

Oh, I'll judge and not hide it behind "concern". Freebirthing is fucking stupid. The end.

cashews29

If my mother forced me to watch the birth of my sibling, I'm pretty sure I would need years of therapy.

AMcLaws

I'm lurking from July '14. And I cannot wait for my fully assisted, RCS with plenty of drugs during and afterwards. This birth will be every bit as magical as yours. Though, mine will be safer. I'm confident in that

barbarajeanr

I'm due on the 20th!! First pregnancy.

KatzKiss

I'm all for home births if that makes the mother more comfortable. But personally, I fucking love hospital births. It's like checking into hotel where you are not judged for not getting out of bed for days. Nice ladies bring you food and drugs and you don't have do any cleaning. And then you get a baby when you leave. It's like a dream come true!

DebateThis

aragosta said:

I will say this as gently as possible. I had a completely uncomplicated low risk pregnancy. Shit can still happen. I'm not trying to be an alarmist, but SOMEONE is always that statistic. That statistic of a person who loses their child was not always high risk or with pre existing conditions. You cannot predict what will happen. Having a trained professional may literally save yours or your baby's life. I won't even touch the "you aren't strong enough" bull shit.

Hugs, honey. And congrats on your BFP. You and LO will be in my thoughts.

Salsera29

Hi from July 14! I've got five bucks on OP not vaxing. Any takers?

Bandia12

Beautiful response!

@joules235

snortlegeist83

Well, I will be having a c-section due to a birth defect and not being given the option to deliver vaginally. I'm going to go ahead and opt for the spinal...I hope this doesn't make me come off as weak. Then again..it would be more exciting without it.. Lol

Msollenb18

I think that while some comments have gotten a little rude or emotional, everyone opposed to unassisted home birth is coming from a place of concern for you, your baby, and your family. My mother had me completely naturally with a midwife and started bleeding heavily during delivery. If my mom would've had an unassisted birth she would've bled out and died right there and I never would've known her. Please don't take that risk- your children need you too much. Midwives can be as little or as heavily involved as you want, but in the end they can monitor the birth and make decisions that can save your babies life as well as your own. If you think everyone on this board is judging or being rude, I think it is mostly due to a little shock and some in response to some rather rude remarks you made yourself regarding the birth choices of others. In the end no one can make this choice for you, but you may want to keep the topic off the message boards if you don't want the feedback or experience offered.

chevronseven

Also lurking from July '14. Just smh. Has to be a troll, I mean it HAS TO! No one is that stupid or reckless.

ETA: Because I thought of this awesome gif and couldnt waste an opportunity.

mander82

I just now read this thread.....my two cents.... I grew up on a farm. Cows have babies every day. It's natural for them. They do not get pain meds, epidurals, or get hooked up to IV's or blood pressure monitors. Although they are expected to be able to give birth on their own in the field or in the pen in the middle of the night all by themselves.......they still have a higher survival rate for mom and baby if they have assistance from the farmer or the vet. Even they need help. If they get help in time they have a very high survival rate. On their own.... Who knows. Found a lot of dead calves this way. Either out of the mother or still in the mother.

lookame3639

Lurking from Aug 14. I had my son 7 years ago he was healthy and i had a perfect pregnancy. I was induced early due to leaking amniotic fluid and consistent contractions for two weeks. During labor you know what happened? We lost my son's heartbeat on the monitors and my contractions weren't getting picked up on the monitors either. Still a couple of pushes and out he came...along with a gush of amniotic fluid(there was a lot of fluid and his head was blocking most of it which caused the slow leak but no breakage). Poor kiddo sucked all that fluid back into his lungs and had to be taken to the NICU to get monitored and some extra air. I hate for that to happen at your unassisted home birth...

Bandia12

mander82 said:

... I grew up on a farm. Cows have babies every day. 

I just have to say that I love your siggy @mander82 ! Cows make me happy lol.

lmsmith1222

miissperez said:

"Boring"??? Isn't having a healthy baby the point? I'm all for a home birth, birth center, whatever your preference is. But you are saying that if we don't choose a reckless, unassisted plan the birth of our child is "boring"? Wow! Now that's judgemental.

I never used the word "unassisted" in that post! I was just talking about the simple, routine hospital birth. Even choosing an "assisted" home birth would be much more special. Just saying. And thanks a lot guys! I'm loving this....how y'all misunderstand & take things out of context. Keep it coming!

Funny... For someone who doesn't want to be judged, you sure do throw an awful lot of judgments out yourself.... Weak if you have an epidural, hospital births are easy, and home births are special. Hmm. Look out for those flying shards of glass as you throw your stones. Sorry sister but you have all the judgments in the world coming at you with judgments you are making like that.

lmsmith1222

cashews29 said:

If my mother forced me to watch the birth of my sibling, I'm pretty sure I would need years of therapy.

^THIS!!!!!!!! ROTFLMAO. What kid wants to watch a baby coming out of their moms vagina? I don't even want to watch it as a grown adult!

JamieK1882

missnacholover said:

miissperez said:

If you're going to have so many family/friends present, why not throw one more person who just happens to be a medical professional into the mix?

I never said I, personally, would have many people there at the birth. But it is an option you dont get in a hospital. Every woman has a right to birth the way she chooses. You have no right to criticize anyone's decision. I don't understand why so many "women" feel the need to be so judgemental. How I choose to birth doesn't make me any better or less than you! I'm not criticizing anyone's decision to have an old, boring, traditional hospital birth...or to get an epidural because their not strong enough to handle the pain...THAT'S YOUR DECISION! And I could care less about it >- *and when I say "you", that's just to everyone being judgemental

Talk about judgemental.

They're; not their

purplechic7105

I'm due 11/21 and would love a group of due date buddies! I'm ignoring the rest of this thread....smh.

lisaren

@purplechic7105‌ check out the spreadsheet on the top of the first page, that will list due dates and you can pm the ladies close to yours and buddy up!

Or just hang on this board since we are all due in November

Kristy774

@purplechic7105‌ sooooo your saying because I'm due on the 8th we can't be buddies? Damn.....Guess I'll just have to talk to the rest of these losers due in November.

LadyBird9

Kristy774 said:

@purplechic7105‌ sooooo your saying because I'm due on the 8th we can't be buddies? Damn.....Guess I'll just have to talk to the rest of these losers due in November.

I'm due the 8th.  We can be BFFs, mkay?!

purplechic7105

@Kristy774 Sure we can! The title of this thread was about those due on 11/21 so that's why I mentioned it.

pennyandandy

purplechic7105 said:

@Kristy774 Sure we can! The title of this thread was about those due on 11/21 so that's why I mentioned it.

Did you read the rest of the thread? Are you sure you want to be buddies with her? I mean, by all means, go ahead...

renbee

HisGirlFriday929 said:

barbarajeanr said:

I'm due on the 20th!! First pregnancy.

#didntreadthewholethread

Lol - there's always one. 

And I love all of the visitors on this thread! Hi friends :x

purplechic7105

knitsmagee no because it's all a bunch of judgemental nonsense. 

 

 

missnacholover

purplechic7105 said:

knitsmagee no because it's all a bunch of judgemental nonsense. 

 

 

Oh, FFS.

purplechic7105

missnacholover right back atcha!

missnacholover

purplechic7105 said:

missnacholover right back atcha!

K.

MrsG1019

Oh em gee. Can we get this post stuck to the top of the board? This is getting better and better!

I'm gonna make a November 1st EDD thread.. Interacting with November 2nd and on ladies is so lame.. They have no idea what a difference that day makes

purplechic7105

Good freaking lord forget I said anything my goodness!!

nurrieum

Jeeebus guise...

brooklyngirl18

hahah this is the thread that won't die i love it.

KatzKiss

I'm really starting to like my BMB.

Bandia12

I PPH so many of you!  \:D/