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May 2013 Moms
Hiya ladies!
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Re: Hiya ladies!
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@bhjones1980 I was simply trying to explain things you missed. Everyone here has a bias; you aren't any different. Right now, you just really seem to dislike Shank. That's fine. You don't need to convince all of us that we need to also. You won't be able to anyway.
And, please, leave your FB dramz on FB.
Then, yeah, what she did was way worse than just peddling her wares...
The FB groups need to be kept separate from the BMB, IMO. There have been too many splits both here and there to keep this crap straight!
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That was the final outcome, which sucked, no one deserves to be stalked and have their family life compromised But I believe the treatment of this (more than slightly unstable) person might have lead to that
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If you could go back to the first rpalen posts where she was pushing her business on TB (I think she DD'd them), you would see my SN and others from our group that she rallied to come call her out. I know the history there.
And it's also clear that there is no shortage of drama or mean girls here -- you do not rise above.
You don't even know the cause you have decided to take up.
I am a very simple person.
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It looked super catty. You have to see that from our perspective.
You all can call me a troll or to STFU or whatever. It is no skin off my back. All it does is illustrate how you've adopted a mob mentality and think it excuses you forgetting to act like a compassionate human being.
I don't know if anyone here has exactly "taken up a cause" other than wondering why the hell all of a sudden people who apparently have been watching us but haven't had anything to contribute in 10 months decided to suddenly pop up. Especially when it's over something that originates off board with someone who has been here supporting the rest of us for a while.
And are well really freaking out over how Shank reacted to a poster who talked about spanking a 5 mo old and someone who lied to us every chance she got for her own benefit? Yet she has been so supportive to the vast majority of us thru sleep issues and eating issues, PPD and marriage challenges? Even losses recently? It doesn't add up. Something's fucky. Hence the response here.
Pay up, bishes!
Edit: Sorry, I'm a terrible human being.
You all can call me a troll or to STFU or whatever. It is no skin off my back. All it does is illustrate how you've adopted a mob mentality and think it excuses you forgetting to act like a compassionate human being.
Were you in the OG?
Meh, I've got a headache honey. Maybe, tomorrow?
People keep trying to point out that not all the facts were there in the rpalen thing. Maybe think about the probability that you don't have all the facts from anything offboard unless you were there for all of it. You know what was said here and whatever shank or anyone else PMed.
Nobody was upset that shank left, that's her choice. Did we think it made sense? No. But nobody is here because of being upset or mad about it.
The "new" regs on this board are not at all the same as the DOBs. If you recall the days just before we all had our babies, when newbs were popping up daily (some asked "dumb" questions, some didn't), some of the DOBs (Beachy, Blueyed, Nola) were unnecessarily snarky. Even after our babies were born and after the DOBs were gone, I distinctly remember you Beachy, coming back on that crazy post from Cindy's Mommy encouraging us all to lose the weight and reconnect with our husband's, with a gif that said "Fuck you, mom." The girl was nuts, but that gif was unnecessary.
None of the current regs on this board are unnecessarily snarky. Yes, Shank is probably the first to throw some snark but it's usually warranted and very rarely over the top - and if if is, she reflects on it when called out and apologizes when she thinks she is in the wrong. Something I have never seen any of the "mean" DOBs do.
Some may think the treatment of rpalen and Taryn was unfair. In the case of rpalen, no one "chased" her down on other boards. A May mom saw she was posting on the June board (and lying about her baby's birthday), the May mom commented here, and a June mom saw it and asked rpalen to explain herself. It was a shit show, but she certainly didn't help herself - multiple SNs, being caught in multiple lies on the two boards, trying to trick us into buying her crap... Which is a big deal on an Internet forum where we could all be hairy men living in their mom's basement.
In Taryn's case, she posted that her husband swatted their 5 month old to get him to stop crying. Instead of being horrified by it, her reaction was, "Meh, whatever works." So SpankGate went down, with the Parenting board actually schooling us "softies" on how to give a good flaming. Taryn disappeared for several months, only coming back to AW a new pg, on the heels of a reg's recent loss. So a lot of people have a bad taste in their mouths regarding her (she has never actually apologized, admitted wrongdoing, or thanked any of the posters who defended her to the Parenting board during SpankGate, BTW).
We all know that as in real life, people don't all get treated equally on an Internet forum. Those who have put themselves out of favor with the rest of the board don't get treated the same as a well-liked poster does.
Sorry to write a novel, but those are my two cents.
Now you're going to compare that to two cases where our board has blasted someone? Someone who spanked their kid (as pumpkinandthepeanut said, we actually got blasted by parenting) and someone who had multiple AEs? That's it. Do you really think either of those things would have flown on other boards? What about parenting? Or TTC? Really?
We don't flame people just to be mean. So get over it.
I'm using the term DOBs just to distinguish the old regs who disappeared from the old regs who are still here.