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October 2013 Moms
UO
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Re: UO
Honesty I think getting people wedding presents nowadays is a little odd. Especially if they cohabitate already. Most people have already started their lives and don't need a bunch of stuff. I think celebrating a marriage and commitment is a lot of fun. But I don't think people necessarily deserve gifts. Bridal showers are extra strange to me. Unless it involves lots of lingerie and alcohol. But isn't that a bachelorette party? It's worth noting my phone changed that to bagel other party.
I am totally guilty of this as well. But in my mind if I am trying to look slightly more put together I will wear my chucks. Hoodie, tank, jeans, and shoes is my winter SAHM uniform.
Eleanor 9.30.13
I'm an atheist and I celebrate the crap outta Santa and bunnies.
I adore sneakers (tennis shoes, etc..) with jeans and own many pairs depending on my mood. I also like boots. I think Uggs are overpriced and not that cute. I worship cute heels, but can't wear them.
I think you are ridiculously rude if you feel you have to go into a thread on here that is a parent worried and reaching out for help, just to say or hashtag YOUR belief that the procedure they chose to do with their child is wrong.
We all know, by now, most people's opinions on circumcision and ear piercing etc.. Making a parent feel bad or like it is their fault when something goes wrong serves no purpose. And your hash tag isn't cute. Nor are the "love it's" that were added.
@cousinvickie and followers this is totally directed at you. Thread did not involve me, but I was so disgusted by that hashtag I thought a break was due.
#2 due 12.23.17
CV was probably being a butt though. That's kind of what she does. Tries to shame others for funsies.
#2 due 12.23.17
2. Cheapo flip flops are just wrong. I don't hate the ones with a little bling, maybe a wedge. But the others, yuck. Shoes are not meant to cost $1.
3. Gym shoes are for working out and nothing more.
I like pretty shoes. I love me a designer bag and shoes but I even think the basic Uggs are ugly. Stick a little heal on them or something.
4. I love all the holidays regardless of religion. Parties are fun!!!
5. Mint chocolate anything is delicious (except toothpaste -gross).
6. I have no idea who this Phelps person is. At first I thought Michael Phelps died and was sad.
7. I side eye 2nd/midweek weddings but get over it quickly bc I like parties.
8. I too use OCD too much and will try to stop. I do think OP is a little OCD about OCD. Ok I'll stop now.
9. I wish my asshole neighbors would offer me some stuff from their garden. I compliment it all the time and nothin.
UO - I think those dancing guys in that gif are kind of sexy. It must be the pretty shoes.
Franco Paul born 6/4/15 at 39 weeks. Mila Francesca born 10/19/13 at 37 weeks. Both born via C-Section after 6 years of fertility treatments, disappointments and losses. Love them!!
I thought maybe it was a joke so I just let it slide.
#toodepressedtofightaboutdepression
#imayneedtoupmymeds
@carriet2018
Obsessive behavior becomes a diagnosable mental illness when it begins to interfere with the completion of your daily activities/responsibilities, your relationships begun to suffer, and/or your ability to go to work/school is impacted. It's about quality of life. You might obsess about the picture on the wall, but do you have to get it perfectly straight before you feed the baby or go to work? If so, then it could be a mental illness. If not, you're just very particular.
The need for increased mental health awareness got brought up in last week's UO (I think) and I couldn't agree more. As an instructor in Mental Health First Aid, I am constantly surprised at how little people know about mental illness and how much stigma still exists. It depresses the hell out of me.
@hlb622 Considering how you are calling for increased mental health awareness, don't you think it is hypocritical to then say that something "depresses the hell out you me." Is depression not also a mental illness that deserves respect?
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I say that as someone who has battled with a depressive disorder since adolescence. And when I try so hard day in and day out to educate people about how individuals living with mental illnesses can recover and live full and productive lives, despite their illness -- and sometimes fail -- yes, it makes me terribly depressed.
I try not to focus on the ignorance of one or two people who make hurtful remarks (not here, just in general), but it's really tough. I work with people struggling to overcome incredible challenges and they deserve respect, encouragement, and the ability to access treatment when they need it. When I feel like I've failed to help someone see their potential, I feel like I've failed the entire community of folks we serve...and myself.
I see what you were saying, though, and not knowing me IRL, you wouldn't have known I was speaking literally.
Sorry, didn't mean to post and run. Love bug is outta sorts today.
Anywho. Yeah when you take a break, it may take awhile to get off your chest what caused the bad feelings. I think I at least managed to get it in the month that thread actually happened?
Took the break to see if I was just overwhelmed and upset for no reason or if it truly bothered me. Truly bothered me. This is unpopular opinions and mine definitely is not popular, so I guess it fit.
I will make no apologies for my feelings, though I will apologize for waiting so long and if my words seem too harsh. I think it is rude and I was thoroughly disgusted, however, that does not mean I think anyone is disgusting. Hopefully you can see the difference.
And I feel better to just lay it out. Takes a lot to truly bug me, but that did. I felt for those mom's and I didn't think the comment was appropriate. I'd have posted the thread, if I could have found it quicker, sorry, I will definitely include it next time.
Strangeness is coming back to do more than graze a post or 2 and becoming active again and getting your one year award.
When it comes to something as serous and physically altering as a circumcision I would hope that every single parent of a boy did all the research to make an educated decision and be comfortable and confident in what that ended up being. Someone else saying they decided not to for whatever reason shouldn't make that person suddenly question themselves. If it does then tough luck, Charlie, you should have thought about it more when you had the chance.
"This is what you get when you circumcise! Rawr"
And 20 days later?... this is just silly.
I'm disappointed in today's UO drama...or lack thereof.
@taylormarie923 I would hope they did. I find it offensive, as I stated, because it was grossly inappropriate to a thread where moms are upset and simply seeking others who might have had a similar problem.
As I stated before, I completely get that people are anti this or that. I simply didn't think they needed it thrown in their face about their decision, confidence or not. And yes, I see the counter argument that if they didn't want to take a chance on people criticizing or posting about their decision they should not have posted about it on a messageboard.
It is my opinion and it is vastly unpopular which is perfectly fine.
And @cousinvicki I missed most of the circumsion debates, so did not see those comments and so don't have the right to really comment on exactly what I think about them. The difference, since I need to explain it multiple times, is that I don't believe they were posted on a thread where your child was having an infection. Perhaps tactless is a better word?
At any rate, you are right, perhaps, much ado over nothing to most (or all) but I think there is a time or place to once again push your beliefs and I didn't believe (and still don't) that that particular thread was the place.
@elllaf
Believe I covered that in my first response. No reason to be sorry, it is a very accurate response.
Go on ahead and be disappointed that the drama llamas weren't better fed this week. Maybe next, but very doubtful if ever by me, unfortunately. I tend to fall more on the conservative boring side.