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KellersPrag · March 2014

Go.

KellersPrag · March 2014

I like the idea of year round school. The kind of setup where it is 3 weeks on, 1 week off, or something similar.

This brought to you by an education major who never finished her degree so I can't say I'd still like it in practice, but I assume I would.

KellersPrag · March 2014

I really need to clean my bathroom.

KellersPrag · March 2014

I was offered another job last night. I wouldn't have to work OT anymore, and it is a huge raise even on top of my OT money. My stomach is in knots trying to finalize my decision to do it.

Nita2603 · March 2014

Kellers, sounds like a good thing with that job. What's keeping you with the old job?
Either way, congrats. Always nice to be wanted and valued.

Nita2603 · March 2014

DH is taking the kids this morning so
I can go and get my health card renewed.
I fully plan to go get a bra and maybe even a pedicure or something.

Flamingemu · March 2014

I rarely hold te elevator for people at work. If I catch someone's eye, I make the gesture to ht the door open button and loudly exclaim that I hit dor close instead and say sorry. It is a long way to the top of my building and I hae having to stop at every floor in between.

BeebopandBuddy · March 2014

@kellersprag Congrats on the great job offer! Why are you hesitating?

FFFC: I don't like to argue, especially with DH. I have multiple hypothetical arguments in my mind with him every day when he says something annoying but I don't feel like I actually saying something, so I just battle it out in my head.

MeatballEsq · March 2014

Flamingemu said:
I rarely hold te elevator for people at work. If I catch someone's eye, I make the gesture to ht the door open button and loudly exclaim that I hit dor close instead and say sorry. It is a long way to the top of my building and I hae having to stop at every floor in between.

I always wanted to do that at my old job (27th floor) but my guilt issues usually prevented me

thebanich · March 2014

I ate poptarts for breakfast. I worked out yesterday so its totally fine...

right?

PS: Kellers! Congrats! Tell us why you are struggling with the decision?

kdsmith43 · March 2014

@flamingemu have you tried this trick? I saw it on Pinterest and I'm dying to know if it works...

Hehehehe

thebanich · March 2014

DH pissed me off this morning because he got in the shower right we I needed to be in there and then while I was running around like a psycho trying to get things ready/make DD pee on the toilet he was sitting on his ass looking at MM brackets. I was so mad while I was in the shower that I was amping myself up to say something/get into a fight but at the same time wanted him to leave and not talk to me....

...until I realized I forgot to grab a towel. #-o Then I had to be all nice. I was really disappointed.

Pokedot · March 2014

FFFC: I just registered to vote. Yup I'm 29 and officially got my card in the mail yesterday. I've had anxiety about it for years, hence the 11 it took me to do it. Before anyone bashes me on women's suffrage, etc I have an opinion on politics but I didn't voice it because well legally I couldn't. Now I can!

Yesterday at DC pickup DS was playing outside having a ball. I felt bad to end the fun but told him we'd play at home outside. He flipped his shit when he realized we were leaving. I threw his boots and hat off after 10 minutes of trying to get him in the car and realized it would be 10x easier getting him in the carseat if it were FF. I'm all about safety and many of you know how I feel about RF before 2 but I might end up eating my words. The kid is way too strong to get him down in the seat when he freaks. He was hyperventilating it was so bad. I had a drink last night after he went to bed to reward myself for not losing my complete cool.

BeebopandBuddy · March 2014

Banich4eva said:

DH pissed me off this morning because he got in the shower right we I needed to be in there and then while I was running around like a psycho trying to get things ready/make DD pee on the toilet he was sitting on his ass looking at MM brackets. I was so mad while I was in the shower that I was amping myself up to say something/get into a fight but at the same time wanted him to leave and not talk to me....

...until I realized I forgot to grab a towel. #-o Then I had to be all nice. I was really disappointed.

My DH does this most mornings. I get up and get ready while he lays in bed. Then he gets up just in time to get himself ready while I get the kids ready to go. Then I gather backpacks, make breakfast, help the kids while they're eating (I dropped my fork, I spilled my milk, etc.) and get my things together while he stands by the kitchen counter and stares at his phone. He will help if I directly ask him to, but I get so tired of asking for the same things every damn day. You know the routine, help!

thebanich · March 2014

Pokedot said:

FFFC: I just registered to vote. Yup I'm 29 and officially got my card in the mail yesterday. I've had anxiety about it for years, hence the 11 it took me to do it. Before anyone bashes me on women's suffrage, etc I have an opinion on politics but I didn't voice it because well legally I couldn't. Now I can!
Yesterday at DC pickup DS was playing outside having a ball. I felt bad to end the fun but told him we'd play at home outside. He flipped his shit when he realized we were leaving. I threw his boots and hat off after 10 minutes of trying to get him in the car and realized it would be 10x easier getting him in the carseat if it were FF. I'm all about safety and many of you know how I feel about RF before 2 but I might end up eating my words. The kid is way too strong to get him down in the seat when he freaks. He was hyperventilating it was so bad. I had a drink last night after he went to bed to reward myself for not losing my complete cool.

I've never voted in an election either (26). I tried to in 2012 but something with my registration went wackadoodle and they still had me registered to vote in a county that is 3 hours away. Sorry Mr. Prez...not driving to the boonies to vote.

thebanich · March 2014

BeebopandBuddy said:

Banich4eva said:

DH pissed me off this morning because he got in the shower right we I needed to be in there and then while I was running around like a psycho trying to get things ready/make DD pee on the toilet he was sitting on his ass looking at MM brackets. I was so mad while I was in the shower that I was amping myself up to say something/get into a fight but at the same time wanted him to leave and not talk to me....

...until I realized I forgot to grab a towel. #-o Then I had to be all nice. I was really disappointed.

My DH does this most mornings. I get up and get ready while he lays in bed. Then he gets up just in time to get himself ready while I get the kids ready to go. Then I gather backpacks, make breakfast, help the kids while they're eating (I dropped my fork, I spilled my milk, etc.) and get my things together while he stands by the kitchen counter and stares at his phone. He will help if I directly ask him to, but I get so tired of asking for the same things every damn day. You know the routine, help!

He is usually up and out of the shower by the time I wake up but I think he overslept today. He has to leave before I do but sometimes I just want to nut punch him and chuck the damn phone out the window. "HELP MEEEEEEEEEEE"

melody921 · March 2014

@KellersPrag: what's the job and why are you hesitating? GL with your decision!

@Pokedot: why were you reluctant to register to vote? Maybe it's a power trip thing for me, but I love voting and making my voice heard!

Pokedot · March 2014

melody921 said:

@KellersPrag: what's the job and why are you hesitating? GL with your decision!

@Pokedot: why were you reluctant to register to vote? Maybe it's a power trip thing for me, but I love voting and making my voice heard!

I have no idea. I like to voice my opinion obviously but for me it was so stupid. My license renewal came in the mail and it was the perfect time. I felt ashamed to go to the office and register. I'm freaking 29! Anonymous by mail was much less intimidating! I'm just so happy I did. Now I can't wait to vote! And yes @KellersPrag tell us what's up!? Congrats btw!

MeatballEsq · March 2014

I cannot for the life of me understand not voting. Sorry guys but IMO that's the most flammable thing I've seen around here in a while.

willy_gert · March 2014

Congrats @kellersprag ! I am with everyone else, tell us why you are hesitating!

I ordered a whole dinner last night and ate maybe 5 bites. So wasteful and I felt horrible about it.

DD pooped right as we were leaving the house for daycare, I decided I was taking her anyway, because I was already running late thanks to DH.

melody921 · March 2014

I'm on the verge of losing my shit with DS. I posted last week about how he's been so defiant/argumentative. I ask him to do something, he says no and yells about it. I tell him he can't do something, he calls me stupid and yells again. It's bedtime, and he's out of his bed countless times until it's two hours past when he should have been asleep. Every.single.day it's something. This started when DH was traveling but has not really improved in the week he's been home, so I'm not sure it's just related to the schedule being different.

I'm really at a loss for what's driving this. DH and I obviously don't yell and name call at home, so I don't know if this is something he's witnessing at school. He's mentioned a couple of times that some of the older kids at daycare say things that aren't nice, such as "You're not my friend, go away," but when I ask for more details, he doesn't give them. This morning, he just looked sad. One of his teachers said he hasn't really been saying much at school (I want to talk to the lead teacher to get a better feel for how he's been overall). Last night, my FIL was watching the kids for a few hours, and when we got home at 9:15, DS was still up, argued a ton about going to bed and FIL looks absolutely defeated and just kept saying, "He just doesn't listen."

I feel like my kid is turning into one of those monster children that I can't stand to be around (and that others won't want to be around either), which is sad because when he's not being such a punk, he's a fun, loving, interesting kid. I have no idea what to do. DH and I don't like to approach things from an overly punitive standpoint, but there are some rules that are not negotiable, and name-calling is never OK. I'm exhausted right now. If you read all of this, here are some cookies:

BeebopandBuddy · March 2014

I have only voted in presidential elections. I don't take anough time to research and figure out who to vote for in the other elections and I feel that an uninformed vote may do more harm than good.

willy_gert · March 2014

DH has been pulling some crap with his meds again and it showed in his most recent labs. I am pretty angry about it, because he knows that this is life and death and that taking his meds is SOOOO important. I tried to talk to him last night about it and he said that he was depressed for like 4 days and just didn't want to do it all, so he didn't. I am angry and hurt, because not doing it all could have catastrophic results.

BeebopandBuddy · March 2014

willy_gert said:

DH has been pulling some crap with his meds again and it showed in his most recent labs. I am pretty angry about it, because he knows that this is life and death and that taking his meds is SOOOO important. I tried to talk to him last night about it and he said that he was depressed for like 4 days and just didn't want to do it all, so he didn't. I am angry and hurt, because not doing it all could have catastrophic results.

Depression is common with people that have serious illnesses like his. Has he spoken to his doctor about his depression so that he can get treatment? There may even be a local support group or something that he can attend.

thebanich · March 2014

I never voted (before 2012, I count that year as a loss I couldn't control) because I was young/dumb/uninformed. Now I actually give a shit and will vote in allllll of the elections.

MarisaKathleen · March 2014

I keep thinking something is wrong with this baby because when pregnant last time, I had felt Nancy move by now.

I'm sure this is irrational, but my stomach doesn't even feel like a rock like it did last time either. We heard the heartbeat 2 weeks ago, so my anxiety is probably for nothing, but it's still weird.

thebanich · March 2014

MarisaKathleen said:

I keep thinking something is wrong with this baby because when pregnant last time, I had felt Nancy move by now.

I'm sure this is irrational, but my stomach doesn't even feel like a rock like it did last time either. We heard the heartbeat 2 weeks ago, so my anxiety is probably for nothing, but it's still weird.

My anxiety was way worse with #2. I had expectations of everything being the same and it just wasn't. He was "lazy" and didn't move like Lilly, I carried him completely different and I was always 100% certain that something wasn't right.

Flamingemu · March 2014

kdsmith43 said:

@flamingemu have you tried this trick? I saw it on Pinterest and I'm dying to know if it works...

I used to do it in cllege ALL the time. I haen't tried here yet. I am never in THAT much of rush, but if I were, I would.

MRoxy0628 · March 2014

I found my ex-boyfriend's wife's blog via Facebook and have been reading it.

AlinnJo · March 2014

@melody921 I'm so sorry you are going through this. Have you tried a sticker chart or some kind of reward system. I had a student in my K class that was having a rough time with similar behaviors. We created a Velcro chart. He had 3 chances in the morning and 3 in the afternoon. When I saw a negative behavior he was warned once and if it continued, he had to take a picture off his Velcro chart. If he had at least one picture left in the morning, he got a reward. Rewards were extra computer time, read a book with me, he got to choose his center before the rest of the class, etc. He would pick out a reward right away in the morning and work toward that. He started over again in the afternoon.

Once his behavior started to improve, he only got one reward and he had 3 chances for the whole day. It was a lot of work on my part in the beginning, but eventually, we phased it out. I talked to him about it A LOT. explaining how it worked, asking him what rewards he wanted, explaining what a good behavior vs. a bad behavior was, etc. He physically took off the Velcro pictures and if he redeemed himself, could put one back on.

I'm sorry this is so long but the behaviors were similar to my students and this really helped. The student was really seeking a lot of attention which he was getting with negative behaviors. It didn't take long to get him to understand he got positive attention with positive behaviors.

Flamingemu · March 2014

willy_gert said:

Congrats @kellersprag ! I am with everyone else, tell us why you are hesitating!

I ordered a whole dinner last night and ate maybe 5 bites. So wasteful and I felt horrible about it.

DD pooped right as we were leaving the house for daycare, I decided I was taking her anyway, because I was already running late thanks to DH.

L pooped as I was putting her in her crib last night. Damn kid. I hated having to essentially restart he bedtime routne.

BeebopandBuddy · March 2014

MarisaKathleen said:

I keep thinking something is wrong with this baby because when pregnant last time, I had felt Nancy move by now.

I'm sure this is irrational, but my stomach doesn't even feel like a rock like it did last time either. We heard the heartbeat 2 weeks ago, so my anxiety is probably for nothing, but it's still weird.

Remember that you already had a baby in there this time, so things are already loosened up with a little more room for this baby.

MarisaKathleen · March 2014

MRoxy0628 said:

I found my ex-boyfriend's wife's blog via Facebook and have been reading it.

I did this too. It was weird...we broke up and he started dating her within around 3 months. She looked so much like me it was uncanny, only she's short. Also, weirder? Her name is Marissa.

It made me sad to find her blog though...he's been in and out of rehab since right after they got married and now they're divorced. It sounds like since he never bothered to get a job (his family is extremely, extremely well off) that she supported him 100% and ended up having to pay him alimony when they divorced.

Pokedot · March 2014

MeatballEsq said:

I cannot for the life of me understand not voting. Sorry guys but IMO that's the most flammable thing I've seen around here in a while.

And I get that. Trust me I'm ashamed to admit it. I felt even more ashamed to go to office at 24, 25, 26 and register. It was irrational I realize but I'm so happy now that I am! I'm exicted to voice my opinion. I wasn't informed before and I didn't want to vote on an issues I knew nothing about either.

ETA: words

OceanLover26 · March 2014

@melody921 I know that must be frustrating! I started telling my boys "It's okay to be mad, but it is NOT okay to be mean." And they apologize for the name calling and we talk about what we are supposed to be doing. (bedtime, eating, bath, clean up) I actually heard another mom tell her 4 year old this during a Super Bowl party we had this year and I started using it! It seemed like for a long time there I had to be right behind my kids in every step of everything they did because they were so defiant and wanted to argue, so I basically led them through their routines just to keep them on it, no matter how much they grumbled. Hopefully the lead teacher will have some good insight to what's going on at her end. My oldest took it really hard the first time kids started saying things like that to him. Maybe some extra cuddles and one on one time could help? A few weeks ago I noticed one of my little guys feeling down and acting out so I put off my grocery shopping till the evening and took him alone with me (after DH got home to watch the others) so we could talk and stop for a treat out together. It seemed to help his mood tremendously to have that extra attention, and while he was in a good mood I was able to talk to him about what was going on lately. Hang in there!

Flamingemu · March 2014

MarisaKathleen said:

I keep thinking something is wrong with this baby because when pregnant last time, I had felt Nancy move by now.

I'm sure this is irrational, but my stomach doesn't even feel like a rock like it did last time either. We heard the heartbeat 2 weeks ago, so my anxiety is probably for nothing, but it's still weird.

Until I was getting appointments every other week my anxiety was on high alert - even when I could feel L moving.

MRoxy0628 · March 2014

MarisaKathleen said:

MRoxy0628 said:

I found my ex-boyfriend's wife's blog via Facebook and have been reading it.

I did this too. It was weird...we broke up and he started dating her within around 3 months. She looked so much like me it was uncanny, only she's short. Also, weirder? Her name is Marissa.

It made me sad to find her blog though...he's been in and out of rehab since right after they got married and now they're divorced. It sounds like since he never bothered to get a job (his family is extremely, extremely well off) that she supported him 100% and ended up having to pay him alimony when they divorced.

We've been broken up for a long time, but I still think of him. They seem to be doing really well and she seems like someone I would be friends with, which surprises me. I guess I like having a glimpse into his life, because I know we could never/will never be friends.

Flamingemu · March 2014

We have to do self evaluations at work every 6 months, for each different project you work on. I never completed my final evaluation at my old project and now it is due. So last night I wrote a whole evaluation about my transition of duties to other people, my 'struggles' with the management, how difficult it is to transfer 5 years of knowledge to people that have no idea what they are getting themselves into, and how I couldn't grow as a person there any more.

Basically I blasted the management team there for a while, then thanked them for everything I learned while there. haha

Cheenomae · March 2014

MarisaKathleen said:

I keep thinking something is wrong with this baby because when pregnant last time, I had felt Nancy move by now.

I'm sure this is irrational, but my stomach doesn't even feel like a rock like it did last time either. We heard the heartbeat 2 weeks ago, so my anxiety is probably for nothing, but it's still weird.

I know every experience is different, but I felt Mason much less and much later than I felt Kenleigh. Also, throughout my entire pregnancy I felt Mason move much less. Turns out he's a much more chill kid than Kenleigh was (in movement, not attitude). Don't stress....enjoy. pppffsshh!

Cheenomae · March 2014

Banich4eva said:

MarisaKathleen said:

I keep thinking something is wrong with this baby because when pregnant last time, I had felt Nancy move by now.

I'm sure this is irrational, but my stomach doesn't even feel like a rock like it did last time either. We heard the heartbeat 2 weeks ago, so my anxiety is probably for nothing, but it's still weird.

My anxiety was way worse with #2. I had expectations of everything being the same and it just wasn't. He was "lazy" and didn't move like Lilly, I carried him completely different and I was always 100% certain that something wasn't right.

Or I could have kept reading and said all this!

Cheenomae · March 2014

melody921 said:

I'm on the verge of losing my shit with DS. I posted last week about how he's been so defiant/argumentative. I ask him to do something, he says no and yells about it. I tell him he can't do something, he calls me stupid and yells again. It's bedtime, and he's out of his bed countless times until it's two hours past when he should have been asleep. Every.single.day it's something. This started when DH was traveling but has not really improved in the week he's been home, so I'm not sure it's just related to the schedule being different.

I'm really at a loss for what's driving this. DH and I obviously don't yell and name call at home, so I don't know if this is something he's witnessing at school. He's mentioned a couple of times that some of the older kids at daycare say things that aren't nice, such as "You're not my friend, go away," but when I ask for more details, he doesn't give them. This morning, he just looked sad. One of his teachers said he hasn't really been saying much at school (I want to talk to the lead teacher to get a better feel for how he's been overall). Last night, my FIL was watching the kids for a few hours, and when we got home at 9:15, DS was still up, argued a ton about going to bed and FIL looks absolutely defeated and just kept saying, "He just doesn't listen."

I feel like my kid is turning into one of those monster children that I can't stand to be around (and that others won't want to be around either), which is sad because when he's not being such a punk, he's a fun, loving, interesting kid. I have no idea what to do. DH and I don't like to approach things from an overly punitive standpoint, but there are some rules that are not negotiable, and name-calling is never OK. I'm exhausted right now. If you read all of this, here are some cookies:

I'm sorry, this is really nerve wracking. All we want is to know that we are doing everything right so they don't get to be "that kid", and even when it feels like we are I think there is always an anxiety that there's something more we could do. DD went through this exactly around her 4th birthday, and I'd say just in the last month things are starting to turn around. Hang in there!

Eta - Sorry, I didn't really offer advice. The thing that did work well for us is what Roxy suggested and that's the chart. We got her this one and it really did make a big difference. It's just been in the last month that she seems to be getting the hang of things without the constant reminder of the chart. She gets a reward (very small) at the end of every day as long as she has 6 of her 7 dots earned.

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