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DianeD1

FFFC: I don't like Chipotle. Or nerds. Or pop rocks. Well, this is probably more UO than FFFC... 8-|

amandad715

Holly_1007 said:

linzeek44 said:

melody921 said:

I'm on the verge of losing my shit with DS. I posted last week about how he's been so defiant/argumentative. I ask him to do something, he says no and yells about it. I tell him he can't do something, he calls me stupid and yells again. It's bedtime, and he's out of his bed countless times until it's two hours past when he should have been asleep. Every.single.day it's something. This started when DH was traveling but has not really improved in the week he's been home, so I'm not sure it's just related to the schedule being different.

I'm really at a loss for what's driving this. DH and I obviously don't yell and name call at home, so I don't know if this is something he's witnessing at school. He's mentioned a couple of times that some of the older kids at daycare say things that aren't nice, such as "You're not my friend, go away," but when I ask for more details, he doesn't give them. This morning, he just looked sad. One of his teachers said he hasn't really been saying much at school (I want to talk to the lead teacher to get a better feel for how he's been overall). Last night, my FIL was watching the kids for a few hours, and when we got home at 9:15, DS was still up, argued a ton about going to bed and FIL looks absolutely defeated and just kept saying, "He just doesn't listen."

I feel like my kid is turning into one of those monster children that I can't stand to be around (and that others won't want to be around either), which is sad because when he's not being such a punk, he's a fun, loving, interesting kid. I have no idea what to do. DH and I don't like to approach things from an overly punitive standpoint, but there are some rules that are not negotiable, and name-calling is never OK. I'm exhausted right now. If you read all of this, here are some cookies:

@melody921 I just did a parent workshop on challenging behavior this week. I don't know if it would be helpful, but if you think so, I can send you the link to it. One of the strategies is for encouraging compliance since noncompliance is exhausting.  

@linzeek44 I would be interested in this!

Me too! My three-nager is telling me everything is "bored". Lately, dinner is "bored", his day was "bored", etc. @linzeek44

MississippiCatfish

DianeD1 said:

FFFC: I don't like Chipotle. Or nerds. Or pop rocks. Well, this is probably more UO than FFFC... 8-|

Ooh. Good one. I actually prefer Burrachos to Chipotle, where most people would say it's just a poor man'a substitute.

I still managed to wolf down some carnitas tonight, though;)

kelbel527

@linzeek44 - Can you add me to the list of ladies who would be interested in the parenting workshop info?

@melody921 - coming in a little late here, but just wanted to say I can relate.  We're really really struggling with DS1 right now.  Some days are amazing, some are really tough.  Our biggest problem is tantrums when he doesn't get what he wants, which consists of screaming.  And definitely a lot of not listening.  His daycare teacher is frustrated because he doesn't take her seriously.  His biggest problem at school is yelling during naptime and disturbing other kids.  But we get reports that the rest of the day is great...so it's hard.

We're working on behavior charts, but the biggest thing we're focused on right now is quicker rewards.  So if he has a good day at school, he gets stickers on his chart and a reward of some sort.  It's usually the choice of dessert, some ipad time or a TV show.  At school, they're trying 10 minute incentives at nap time (after 10 minutes of quiet time he can have a book, etc...).  Then we're working on longer goals as well.  Once he fills up his sheet he can watch the Frozen movie sitting on the shelf. 

We don't have a perfect answer...so that was just a long winded response to commiserate with you.