Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: The Randomest Thread
Me: 28 DH: 27
What I didn't plan on happening was being so exhausted/drugged up during my eventual section that I passed out and missed his birth. I spent most of the evening ugly crying about all the memories I missed, like his first cry and seeing DH hold him for the first time. That whole first night is such a haze. I feel like I'd handle it better if I had had to have been put under for a reason, but it was just me not being strong enough to stay awake.
Hugs to both of you, tallash and legallyginger.
Problem is the treads need to be varnished before installation and even with the woodstove going in his shop it has been too cold for varnish to cure.
So MH said fuck this and is varnishing the treads inside, downstairs, with both stoves cranking on full (wood and pellet) and all sorts of windows open. I am upstairs on the couch cuddled under a blanket with multiple windows open and a pretty good cross breeze. It is 15F outside.
Pretty sure it's too late in the game for varnish fumes to hurt LO but if he comes out with two heads we'll know why!
Yesterday we had a birthday party for my grandma. Lots of family members got to see the twins for the first time. I hardly got any time with them at all!
Today DHs family is over. No kids for me again. Ooh and I have to leave my normal pumping station and take all my things to the bedroom and leave them with the twins for 20 minutes while I pump. I'm just sitting here hooked up listening to them enjoy themselves and my kids! I freaking hate it!!!
MIL took K to feed her and I said I don't even remember the last time I fed her and she said too bad...you can later!
I'm ready to cry, scream, and have a meltdown like a 2 year old!!!!
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And unfortunately some people just don't get it!
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Emma Rose
Born 3.11.14
8lbs 14oz, 21.5 in
@chalephoto does Netflix show older tv series in general? I was thinking of getting it once the baby is born for something to do while BF....
I only get mia when she is hungry.
Engaged 12-12-10 Married 5-12-12 Baby Jaxon 3-23-14
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RIP Dr. Irving Fishman - 10/1/19-7/25/10 - thank you for holding on for me.
You made my wedding day complete.
Please, please, please stay asleep for a while little guy. Mommy is at her wits end.
Me: 28 DH: 27
Just sayin'.
RIP Dr. Irving Fishman - 10/1/19-7/25/10 - thank you for holding on for me.
You made my wedding day complete.
RIP Dr. Irving Fishman - 10/1/19-7/25/10 - thank you for holding on for me.
You made my wedding day complete.
I just need to tell my anxiety that.
I want to check in her every five minutes.
@legallyginger *hugs*
@ntdane My mom kept pushing on the baptism thing, and I finally just had to tell her to stop bringing it up along with any other religious commentary. She still brings things up, but at least I can just remind her that it's all off the table and change subjects.
@ ladies with contractions Good luck! I hope they progress!
@amymheidecker, how did Mia sleeping in the pnp go?
@ProudMommy030614, good luck with everything today!