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Mailmans Baby Momma · February 2014

Ok ladies, after the week we've had on here, these should be dynamite...

...and not flame free.

Mailmans Baby Momma · February 2014

The reason I'm up so early pumping and bumping is because my kid took a shit so loud that it woke me up via the monitor. He didn't wake up but I did.

My confession is that I didn't get him up to change him because he will wake up and it will throw his routine off for the day. It's just like when he poops during the night and I never hear it, right?

Second confession: last time this happened I rolled over and went back to sleep myself.

Edited because mobile is stupid and posted before I was finished.

Preppytraveler · February 2014

@LJGS1010 you are not alone. I could have written this verbatim, but it is hot and humid summer weather where I am. I am not cut out to be a stay at home mom and I feel bad.

Mailmans Baby Momma · February 2014

LJGS1010 said:

Mailmans Baby Momma said:
The reason I'm up so early pumping and bumping is because my kid took a shit so loud that it woke me up via the monitor. He didn't wake up but I did.

My confession is that I didn't get him up to change him because he will wake up and it will throw his routine off for the day. It's just like when he poops during the night and I never hear it, right?

Second confession: last time this happened I rolled over and went back to sleep myself.

Edited because mobile is stupid and posted before I was finished.
6:40 is early for your kid? Damn, man. In my dreams. Evan never sleeps past 5. FML.

No girl, we are on CST over here if that helps. It was 5:40, which is still later than 5...

EandIMommy86 · February 2014

LJG I agree with pp. The playgroup/playdates can be hard bc a lot of times people wait until LOs are a bit older. Being home too long with baby can be exhausting. You are not alone in how you feel nor is it unreasonable.

rbtrumpet · February 2014

Mailmans Baby Momma said:

The reason I'm up so early pumping and bumping is because my kid took a shit so loud that it woke me up via the monitor. He didn't wake up but I did. My confession is that I didn't get him up to change him because he will wake up and it will throw his routine off for the day. It's just like when he poops during the night and I never hear it, right? Second confession: last time this happened I rolled over and went back to sleep myself. Edited because mobile is stupid and posted before I was finished.

I was up from 11pm to 4am trying to get L to go back to sleep last night (she would sleep, but only if I was holding her/she had a boob in her mouth) - at 4am, when she finally fell into a deep enough sleep to put her down, what's the first thing she does? poops! I had had 1 hour of sleep so far, there was no way in heck I was waking her back up to change her! (I figured she'd be up by 6/6:30 anyways - which she was)

jennifertewart · February 2014

I am with those who are done being stuck inside with LO. I cannot wait for spring and take N on his first walk and let him breath in some fresh air. My FFFC is that I will probably stay in my pajamas all day since I am not going anywhere and DH wont be home until after 10. N can't tell on me

katie.725 · February 2014

DH has been sick this whole week with the Man-fever... I have been playing single parent... something I don't wish on my worst enemy...

Have I been nice to DH? Eh, could have been nicer... I asked him to camp out in the guest room... he takes our room... He asked if there was anything he could do (oh how nice). I mentioned vacuuming - apparently that's too strenuous.

In short: I've been a mean wife to a sick husband this week. Bring in the Moscato!

lnreynol · February 2014

I have a really important job interview with the state this morning and I just popped the button off of my dress pants, partially because I was too cheap to buy new ones and also because I kept telling myself they fit. So I am sitting here in the waiting area, trying to discreetly fasten my pants with a hair tie!

fitmama418 · February 2014

I felt super bad for TB yesterday and the post that escalated out of control and just wanted to give her a big ol' hug.

However...this BMB has been a pretty big snooze-fest the past few weeks so I'll admit it was nice to see a little action the past week. But now, I'm exhausted. May even take an N13 hiatus...

EandIMommy86 · February 2014

I haven't gotten my eyebrows waxed in about two months...and have still failed to make an appointment.

fitmama418 · February 2014

TaviaBrad said:

I haven't gotten my eyebrows waxed in about two months...and have still failed to make an appointment.

ME TOO. Tweezers just can't combat these arches anymore. Outta control.

EandIMommy86 · February 2014

nciesla said:

TaviaBrad said:

I haven't gotten my eyebrows waxed in about two months...and have still failed to make an appointment.

ME TOO. Tweezers just can't combat these arches anymore. Outta control.

It's really bad. I havent gotten a fill in in a month either..,or a pedi. With the crappy weather it has made me super lazy.

EandIMommy86 · February 2014

dollphnfreek10 said:

TaviaBrad said:

I haven't gotten my eyebrows waxed in about two months...and have still failed to make an appointment.

ME TOO. Tweezers just can't combat these arches anymore. Outta control.
I nair mine. 3 minutes to perfection.

Absolutely no way I could do that. I don't have a clue what I am doing when it comes to my eyebrows. Just my luck I would put nair on it and it would drip and I would have half an eyebrow. I will leave it to the professionals. Oh another confession to add to it but it might be TMI, I like looking at the wax strip after they wax my eyebrows to see how much hair came off.

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katie.725 · February 2014

TaviaBrad said:

dollphnfreek10 said:

TaviaBrad said:

I haven't gotten my eyebrows waxed in about two months...and have still failed to make an appointment.

ME TOO. Tweezers just can't combat these arches anymore. Outta control.
I nair mine. 3 minutes to perfection.

Absolutely no way I could do that. I don't have a clue what I am doing when it comes to my eyebrows. Just my luck I would put nair on it and it would drip and I would have half an eyebrow. I will leave it to the professionals. Oh another confession to add to it but it might be TMI, I like looking at the wax strip after they wax my eyebrows to see how much hair came off.
)

I get mine threaded... after I shaved one off when I was younger... my eyebrows have always been in someone else's hands... I need to get them threaded today, but it will have to wait until Wednesday... Catepillar brows commence

ETA: Schmidt

EandIMommy86 · February 2014

dollphnfreek10 said:

dollphnfreek10 said:

TaviaBrad said:

I haven't gotten my eyebrows waxed in about two months...and have still failed to make an appointment.

ME TOO. Tweezers just can't combat these arches anymore. Outta control.
I nair mine. 3 minutes to perfection.

Absolutely no way I could do that. I don't have a clue what I am doing when it comes to my eyebrows. Just my luck I would put nair on it and it would drip and I would have half an eyebrow. I will leave it to the professionals. Oh another confession to add to it but it might be TMI, I like looking at the wax strip after they wax my eyebrows to see how much hair came off.
)
Haha! I've had too many "professionals" do hack jobs on my brows! I hate the super thin brow that looks like a hook over your eye. Every time I go in...I end up looking like I just got surprised! Lmao been nairing for the past 10+ years.

I'm dying at "looking like I just got surprised" because I know EXACTLY what you are talking about. hahaha.

fitmama418 · February 2014

OMG Katie that episode of New Girl was HILARIOUS. @TaviaBrad...I do that with my Biore pore strips, don't worry.

J&JJ2011 · February 2014

Today is day three of daycare. When dropping little man off, he gave the daycare lady a HUGE smile. This made me immediately think of @JoeLies ecard in relation to the daycare lady. I know I should be happy that he likes her and I probably will eventually, but right now I'm not.

ETA: Added words so that it actually makes sense...stinking lack of caffiene.

fitmama418 · February 2014

Sing2phins said:

I keep typing mine out and deleting it. I have a million.

Don't tease us, woman!

rach1283 · February 2014

LJGS1010 said:

Mailmans Baby Momma said:
The reason I'm up so early pumping and bumping is because my kid took a shit so loud that it woke me up via the monitor. He didn't wake up but I did.

My confession is that I didn't get him up to change him because he will wake up and it will throw his routine off for the day. It's just like when he poops during the night and I never hear it, right?

Second confession: last time this happened I rolled over and went back to sleep myself.

Edited because mobile is stupid and posted before I was finished.
6:40 is early for your kid? Damn, man. In my dreams. Evan never sleeps past 5. FML.

My confession today is that I don't like being home. I love my kid to pieces, and I'm lucky to be home with him for this long, but I don't enjoy it. Is that weird, that I enjoy my kid but I don't enjoy being home with him? Maybe it would be different if he was a bit older and we could have real play dates, or if the weather was nicer and we could get outside, or if he wasn't such a high needs baby in general...flame me, please, because I feel like a horrible person for admitting this.

I can relate! Though I miss her dearly now that I am back to work, it was time to get out of the house for me. I think it was definitely a combination of having a high needs baby and dealing with this brutal weather. Don't feel like a horrible person!

cagoldi · February 2014

wedding06 said:
@JoeLies 1) ouch! 2) I need deets on how you had a falling out with your waxer. Please explain.

Edit: fuck autocorrect!

Yes. This made me LOL. I just never anticipated reading a sentence that started with "but I had a falling out with my waxer..."

katie.725 · February 2014

kellykinns said:

@Sing2Phins be serious if you need to be serious.

Continuing on my sleep theme... I'm terrified of the day Doug is too big for the swing. During the day I have only been able to put him down drowsy ONCE in 4 months and had it succeed. If he doesn't fall asleep in my arms when I'm feeding him, he falls asleep in the swing or on car rides. That's it. If he falls asleep in my arms half the time I can't even put him down or he'll wake up. I'm pretty sure I created this problem but I don't know what to do about it.

His sleep causes about half of all of my anxiety attacks.

This.... in the beginning I would have breakdowns every night around 7:30 because I didn't know what the night ahead would hold...

cagoldi · February 2014

kellykinns said:
@cagoldi Holy heck! The picture of Atticus is so precious!!! I'm now contemplating a visit out to California so I can kiss those cheeks. Is that creepy?

Aw, thanks! Not creepy and he would love it. The boy is a huge flirt.

I would love for you to visit! We can dine on stuffed zucchini and hang out with MIL. That's way more exciting than it sounds.

EandIMommy86 · February 2014

Sing2phins said:

Ok, here's one:

I feel like I must be doing something wrong because BFing doesn't really make me feel bonded to my baby. Don't get me wrong: I'm glad I can do this for her (and biologically, it's amazing to me that my body can provide everything she needs to stay alive right now), I'm happy to continue doing it (though I'm starting to dread pumping at work), and I'd rather nurse her than have someone give her a bottle. BUT.

I keep reading people here and on the BF board say they just fucking love nursing and their babies are so snuggly and make noises like they're enjoying themselves when they nurse and their babies stare at them and hold their fingers while they nurse and the MOTN feedings are such a special time and I just don't get it. That's not my experience and so I feel like I'm "doing it wrong."

BF is hard. If anyone tells you it is not they are lying. Between your nipples getting used to the suckling, obsessing over milk supply, pumping, etc. you want to pull your hair out sometimes. In the brief amount of time I did get to breastfeed, I felt the same way as you. To be honest, it was more frustrating than bonding because I had cracked and bleeding nipples, they would always hurt, they would be engorged. It is not always the experience people make it out to be. So no, you are not doing it wrong. What goes on behind closed doors vs. what someone says about it on here can be different.

fitmama418 · February 2014

Sing2phins said:

Ok, here's one:

I feel like I must be doing something wrong because BFing doesn't really make me feel bonded to my baby. Don't get me wrong: I'm glad I can do this for her (and biologically, it's amazing to me that my body can provide everything she needs to stay alive right now), I'm happy to continue doing it (though I'm starting to dread pumping at work), and I'd rather nurse her than have someone give her a bottle. BUT.

I keep reading people here and on the BF board say they just fucking love nursing and their babies are so snuggly and make noises like they're enjoying themselves when they nurse and their babies stare at them and hold their fingers while they nurse and the MOTN feedings are such a special time and I just don't get it. That's not my experience and so I feel like I'm "doing it wrong."

Nope. Not at all. BF-ing was not something I was built for and after two weeks I became an exclusive FF-er. I did not feel that "bond" either and I did not enjoy it. At all. It was painful. Sophia wouldn't latch well. My let down was so strong it gave me back pain; I dreaded breast feeding. Now that I FF, I will say I enjoy staring at her while she eats and we make eye contact and I smile and she smiles. It's like..."thanks mom!" I don't think it matters how the child gets food as long as he/she is being fed. THAT'S what bonds me to her. She needs me no matter what. Hugs to you! Just know you're not alone. I thought I was at first too; like I was broken and nobody was feeling the same as me. So not the case.

katie.725 · February 2014

Sing2phins said:

Ok, here's one:

I feel like I must be doing something wrong because BFing doesn't really make me feel bonded to my baby. Don't get me wrong: I'm glad I can do this for her (and biologically, it's amazing to me that my body can provide everything she needs to stay alive right now), I'm happy to continue doing it (though I'm starting to dread pumping at work), and I'd rather nurse her than have someone give her a bottle. BUT.

I keep reading people here and on the BF board say they just fucking love nursing and their babies are so snuggly and make noises like they're enjoying themselves when they nurse and their babies stare at them and hold their fingers while they nurse and the MOTN feedings are such a special time and I just don't get it. That's not my experience and so I feel like I'm "doing it wrong."

I totally and completely felt the same way 100%

cagoldi · February 2014

@sing2phins - I'm on the edge of my seat!

My FFFC, I'm afraid that this board war business scared some people off of N13.

I'll be the first to admit it's completely dysfunctional around here sometimes and sort of had a Lord Of The Flies flavor every now and then. But I think we do rally to support each other when necessary.

I hope some of the less active members weren't run off, and if they were they find a good board as their new Bump home.

PirateMonster · February 2014

My child is both my napkin and my kleenex. Hell, he'll be out of the clothes/bib/burp cloth in an hour anyway.

Zilly13 · February 2014

Sing2phins said:

Ok, here's one:

I feel like I must be doing something wrong because BFing doesn't really make me feel bonded to my baby. Don't get me wrong: I'm glad I can do this for her (and biologically, it's amazing to me that my body can provide everything she needs to stay alive right now), I'm happy to continue doing it (though I'm starting to dread pumping at work), and I'd rather nurse her than have someone give her a bottle. BUT.

I keep reading people here and on the BF board say they just fucking love nursing and their babies are so snuggly and make noises like they're enjoying themselves when they nurse and their babies stare at them and hold their fingers while they nurse and the MOTN feedings are such a special time and I just don't get it. That's not my experience and so I feel like I'm "doing it wrong."

I don't think there's anything wrong with this. I think you can have the same feelings whether you BF or FF - for me it's not the act of BF itself, but rather that during those few minutes she's the only thing that matters. Where I'm her everything - if that makes sense.

fitmama418 · February 2014

@ashleyross what super special formula was recommended?

mwhipple77 · February 2014

@sing2phins I don't think you're doing anything wrong. I feel the same, breastfeeding is hard. I have days where I hate it and days where I'm okay with it. I know many wish they could breastfeed, so I think that makes those of us that don't enjoy it, feel like maybe there is something wrong with our love/hate relationship with it. I love that I provide the nourishment that DD needs, I hate that it isn't easier. Hopefully that makes sense.

@cagoldi I doubt most of us N13ers are going to leave. Maybe I'm only speaking for myself, but I'm sure that most of us see the support we all provide each other, if we post a lot or not. I realized I never properly intro'd myself, but have never had anyone be rude or disrespectful. I do also think carefully about what I want to say. I know what I'm thinking in my head, but a lot of times when I type it out and read it, I know it could be taken the wrong way, so I re-type it multiple times to get it to read properly without making me sound crazy!

I guess my FFFC is that there are many times I want to contribute more to the board, because I enjoy having other women to communicate with that are sharing the same experiences (good and not so good) with our babies. But because I know I can't type what I want to come out properly, I realize I will get flamed, so I keep a lot to myself. Maybe that makes me a chicken shit? IRL, I am not chicken shit, I'm pretty confrontational. Who knows what my issue is! And now I just sound crazy!

cagoldi · February 2014

@sing2phins - no need to question anything you're doing. Maggie is happy and you seem like an awesome mom! And I am super jealous that you have a Developmental Psychologist at your disposal.

@ashleyross - Atticus is on Neocate. We switched at 5 weeks. It was hard at first, I cried the first few feedings he had. But his reflux and allergies made him so miserable when we were BF and he is a new baby ever since we made the change. He literally screamed all day and all night, now he is the happiest little guy.

The hypoallergenic stuff is expensive, but so worth it, IMO. We couldn't get insurance to cover ours, but I wouldn't change a thing.

I don't want to say what you should do when it comes to BF, but changing it up has made us all so much happier.

Good luck, I know it's hard to make that decision.

LittleNan · February 2014

@kellykinns my son loooves his fisher price snail and it can keep him entertained during tummy time for a long time. I will say it's the only light up toy he plays with, so that could be part of it, but it might help. It has a mirror, the face lights up, and it rolls- fun all around!

@joelies I used to work at a salon and the owner said people like to wait because it makes them feel like the person they're seeing is in demand. I say, no, people like proper scheduling

@2013JEM I hate those signs, too. However, I recently learned that they were developed to alert first responders, which makes me a little less annoyed by them.

My FFFC- let me first say I am one of those people who enjoys bf. however, sometimes I look at my closet and think that if I didn't bf, I could wear everything because my boobs would fit in them and I wouldn't worry about easy access to my boobs.

And apparently I'm talkative today..

cagoldi · February 2014

DevynnMarie said:
@cagoldi .. LB , it did scare off some of us.. I caught that as well. It's a shame. No call outs, but if they end up reading this..

DONT GO PEOPLE! WE LOVE YOU HERE

that is all.

The ones I saw I told them I hope they stay and let us know if they establish a refugee camp.

And @TaviaBrad, I told her she has major UOs but she never gets butthurt when she is flamed and I wouldn't want to see her go.

EandIMommy86 · February 2014

If I may be honest, I think some may be intimidated on this board because some folks are afraid of being flamed and what not. Even though it is just the internet, I have seen people genuinely get their feelings hurt on a variety of boards on this site. The problem is a lot of them spout off at the mouth (like I had done before) and not reading proper etiquette (like I made the mistake of doing before) and then just assume everyone is mean.

As far as the UO's are concerned, thats kind of the whole point. My intent though is never to make people upset. I am fully aware that I am an airhead and can have blonde moments, in the end, a lot of the GIFs used when flaming are pretty funny. The only post that made me completely shocked was the one obviously from yesterday. Most if not everyone on here have been flamed at some point, but only a small percentage stick around.

EandIMommy86 · February 2014

DevynnMarie said:

Can Talapia and I have a badge for being "Flame Retardent".. Just sayin.. I think we should win SOMETHING.

It needs to have uhm....like body armor and be called "Flame Warrior" or something....stupid I know. Don't mind me. I am just brainstorming in my goofy head.

malberto · February 2014

cagoldi said:
@sing2phins - I'm on the edge of my seat!

My FFFC, I'm afraid that this board war business scared some people off of N13.

I'll be the first to admit it's completely dysfunctional around here sometimes and sort of had a Lord Of The Flies flavor every now and then. But I think we do rally to support each other when necessary.

I hope some of the less active members weren't run off, and if they were they find a good board as their new Bump home.

Honestly, some of us aren't scared off - just sort of done trying. I've never been a super active poster here, but I'm always reading and contribute when I can. I'd probably participate more if there weren't such a well defined group within the group that pretty much runs shit. Don't get me wrong - I generally think the regs are entertaining and I've wanted to join in and be snarky (because I'm hilarious, come on), but it feels impossible to be accepted this late in the game.

Add all the recent drama to things and I'm not sure how hard I want to try here anymore.

My FFFC: I think Parenting is hilarious and I may try to join up there when I have more posting time. I intro'd there when I had my first and it's still a lot of the same funny people.

PirateMonster · February 2014

I have mad respect for the BFing moms, especially when their babies get bigger. I EP'd from the first week because of bad latch and realistically a lot of personal preference, and now I can't imagine getting him into a good position to breastfeed. I have a feeling bottle feeding positions are much easier.

That said, EPing is still kicking my ass some days and I told DH I was probably going to stop around 6 months and go off the freezer stash, then supplement.

fitmama418 · February 2014

DevynnMarie said:

Can Talapia and I have a badge for being "Flame Retardent".. Just sayin.. I think we should win SOMETHING.

Honestly. You both should. No joke. Well earned.

BADGES FOR LYFE.

amberrrjade · February 2014

2013JEM said:

2) I HATE the 'baby on board' decals-- I find them obnoxious. Like what, you are more important than everyone else on the road?! Every car has precious cargo inside because human beings of all ages are in there-- ya know? And I take them to say 'I'm a better drive than you are'. So now my MIL is miffed I haven't put the one she got me on my car. I'm miffed she thinks I can't drive. Flame away if you have and use

I use them but only cause DH made me. I tried explaining that someone isn't going to be crashing into me and then magically stop because I have a window cling announcing I have a baby.

mskatiep · February 2014

Sing2phins said:
Ok, here's one:

I feel like I must be doing something wrong because BFing doesn't really make me feel bonded to my baby. Don't get me wrong: I'm glad I can do this for her (and biologically, it's amazing to me that my body can provide everything she needs to stay alive right now), I'm happy to continue doing it (though I'm starting to dread pumping at work), and I'd rather nurse her than have someone give her a bottle. BUT.

I keep reading people here and on the BF board say they just fucking love nursing and their babies are so snuggly and make noises like they're enjoying themselves when they nurse and their babies stare at them and hold their fingers while they nurse and the MOTN feedings are such a special time and I just don't get it. That's not my experience and so I feel like I'm "doing it wrong."

@Sing2phins

I could have wrote this myself! I want to love breastfeeding, but we have struggled so much that I just don't. I cried the first time I gave Layla formula, but now that we are on a breastfeeding schedule of just morning and nighttime I feel like we have the best of both worlds. The pressure is off, and we are still very much in love with each other. Do what is best for both of you, you are still a wonderful momma even if you don't "love" breastfeeding. *hugs*

As for being scared off..... nope:)

And I can't even remember the last time I had my brows done, and it shows. They are beasts right now!

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