Since tacky shower ideas seem to be the theme of the week, I wanted to hear your shower horror stories. What is the tackiest thing you have ever seen done at a shower (wedding or baby)?
I actually don't have too many outside of the norm...moms throwing their own showers, gift preferences on invites....that type of thing. But I did go to a bday party for a 1 year old where the mom created a registry and sent that out to everyone for gift selection. That was very special.
Mom to one beautiful July '14 little girl
Re: Shower etiquette SNAFUs
We made our baby registry the other day and I felt like I had too many things on there! I felt like an AW because I registered for 85 things at Target (20 of them were books, but still...)
Mom to one beautiful July '14 little girl
It probably isn't the tackiest thing I've ever seen, but I still can't get over the shower my MIL threw for us for the wedding. There were over 40 people and I only knew about 4 of them. Many of the people invited were not invited to the wedding and MIL knew that, yikes! None of the cups or plates matched and there wasn't enough food for everyone. The door prizes for the games were all dollar store type finds, including Christmas towels (the shower was in February) and toothpick holders. I love my MIL dearly and nothing like this has ever occured again, so I have to wonder, was she mad at me or what? Or maybe I am just terribly ungrateful and uneducated about shower etiquette?
All of this stuff is *horrifying* to me. The only time I've gone against the old school etiquette rules was for an invite to a wedding from a girl DH used to get high with in high school (this happened about 11 years post HS). He hadn't spoken to her basically at all, she found him on FB, and 2 weeks later we had a wedding invite. Even though we were engaged (and together for a long time before that), she included me on the invite as "guest"? I had no idea who she was, or how she fit into his life... and I don't think he RSVP'd, we sent no card and no present. I'm pretty sure the only reason you'd invite an (almost) stranger to your wedding is to get more gifts??
As a stm, I'm not expecting a shower or even a sprinkle...especially since this one is also a boy. Is it tacky to throw your own bbq/diaper party?
BFP 11/18/13. EDD 7/25/14. It's a BOY!
Surprise BFP 7/30/13. EDD 4/7/14. Natural MC 8/24/13
takcy! 1. you don't throw yourself a shower 2. don't you already have most of what you need as a STM? I sure do. And I sure don't expect my friends & family to buy the diapers we will need..............
This one might take the cake. I read that one out loud to my fiancé while he was playing video games and he paused the game and made me repeat it. That is just terrible.
Mom to one beautiful July '14 little girl
Awful. If you don't need gifts, then why would you have a shower? Basically I was invited to pay for my own seat at the wedding.
And I'm with @dlsexton, I hate filling out my own envelope for thank you cards. I took the time to buy you a gift (or in the case of this latest event, write you a check) select & fill out a card, but it's just too much work to address my envelope? You're soooo busy?
BFP#1: 08/30/12 EDD 04/30/12 m/c 09/04/12 6wks
BFP#2: 01/27/13 EDD 10/06/13 missed m/c 02/25/13 9wks
BFP#3: 10/30/13 EDD 07/05/14 Our little dude was born on 07/10/14 @ 2:19p
3 gifts (shower, Bach, wedding) tons of money, a HORRIBLE barf green dress later....
I never got a thank you note for anything, and she was divorced 6 months later. SO MUCH for addressing your own TY note. Her lazy ass never got them out. We don't talk much anymore.