@ashleypixie I know people like that. They're always posting some drama about how they don't have any friends and blah blah, when they clearly do. They're just fishing for attention.
@pineconey I'm sorry. I'll bake you a cake and send it to you!
These past couple of weeks have been more or less rough in our household. Not necessarily rough as in we are arguing or anything, it just feels like there is some distance between DH and I. It's making me really sad. I'm hoping it's just because we can't really do the fun things we did before I got pregnant and our day to day lives are pretty stale at the moment. Any ideas on how to spice things up? Mind you, my libido is basically nonexistent so while I know he would totally enjoy a beer and a beej, the thought of it makes me cringe.
Ugh got frustrated as hell trying to follow a tutorial video to make a beanie for Tommy. I got dangerously close to throwing the computer across the room in tears.
Anyone else have a suggestion for newborn beanies for dummies? Seriously the only thing I know how to do well is single crochets in a straight line and all the tutorials are double stitches or other cutesy things, and nothing I do comes close.
Can you follow a pattern instead of a video? And you can make a simple beanie hat for a baby using just single crochet stitches, just until you get the hang of working in the round. Big thing - do you have stitch markers? They are an absolute necessity when working in the round, as it allows you to keep track of where each row starts/ends, so you can be certain you have the correct number of stitches in each round when you increase/decrease. Maybe you and I should have a live chat session/lesson, or chat on the phone sometime. I'm happy to teach you!
These past couple of weeks have been more or less rough in our household. Not necessarily rough as in we are arguing or anything, it just feels like there is some distance between DH and I. It's making me really sad. I'm hoping it's just because we can't really do the fun things we did before I got pregnant and our day to day lives are pretty stale at the moment. Any ideas on how to spice things up? Mind you, my libido is basically nonexistent so while I know he would totally enjoy a beer and a beej, the thought of it makes me cringe.
((hugs)) we all have our phases where we feel distant. plan a fun night out or a night in doing something you both love. or, watch a movie that has some sort of significance for you?
BFP #1 May 20, 2013 MC June 27, 2013 BFP #2 August 2, 2013Baby Boy born 4/25/14 (3 weeks overdue!)
April 14 August Siggy Challenge- "This time last year.."
These past couple of weeks have been more or less rough in our household. Not necessarily rough as in we are arguing or anything, it just feels like there is some distance between DH and I. It's making me really sad. I'm hoping it's just because we can't really do the fun things we did before I got pregnant and our day to day lives are pretty stale at the moment. Any ideas on how to spice things up? Mind you, my libido is basically nonexistent so while I know he would totally enjoy a beer and a beej, the thought of it makes me cringe.
It was like that a few months ago. I've basically had no sex drive this whole pregnancy so spicing things up in that department wasn't really an option. DH and I are doing a lot better now. Some things that helped...We started watching a couple of series that we really got into (True Detective and House of Cards). We've gone out and done a bit more. Like going out to new restaurants and seeing some oscar-nominated movies that are back playing for a bit. We also have been to a few museums and explored some of the city. It seems like just having new stuff to talk about that didn't just involve baby or work, helped things out. I'm sorry you're going through a stale moment. But know that it's temporary
These past couple of weeks have been more or less rough in our household. Not necessarily rough as in we are arguing or anything, it just feels like there is some distance between DH and I. It's making me really sad. I'm hoping it's just because we can't really do the fun things we did before I got pregnant and our day to day lives are pretty stale at the moment. Any ideas on how to spice things up? Mind you, my libido is basically nonexistent so while I know he would totally enjoy a beer and a beej, the thought of it makes me cringe.
We're going through the same thing here. I think most couples feel closer when there is a good amount of freaky happening, and considerable distance when it's not. We have the same kind of dry spell going on because sex just HURTS. I think I'm resentful because he doesn't understand that and he's resentful because he's not getting any. And I feel like he's not attracted to me at all, it causes a lot of tension. I find the next best thing to create intimacy is laughter. Try doing things you have a lot of fun doing together, seeing a funny movie, going to a comedy club. Comedy is therapy for me, I mean it. I hope things get better soon for you, soon. The tension takes away from the excitement of the baby coming. Taking the hospital tour this morning put things into perspective for both of us because we remembered what this was all happening for.
@aviola329 There's nothing to the beanies! As long as you can keep count in your head, you're fine. I had to count my stitches a lot when I started but now it's nothing and I can whip hats out in like an hour without counting. The hardest part is ending each round but that comes with practice. Double crochet stitches are pretty easy and is one of the most basic stitches you'll use in any project.
Ugh got frustrated as hell trying to follow a tutorial video to make a beanie for Tommy. I got dangerously close to throwing the computer across the room in tears.
Anyone else have a suggestion for newborn beanies for dummies? Seriously the only thing I know how to do well is single crochets in a straight line and all the tutorials are double stitches or other cutesy things, and nothing I do comes close.
Can you follow a pattern instead of a video? And you can make a simple beanie hat for a baby using just single crochet stitches, just until you get the hang of working in the round. Big thing - do you have stitch markers? They are an absolute necessity when working in the round, as it allows you to keep track of where each row starts/ends, so you can be certain you have the correct number of stitches in each round when you increase/decrease. Maybe you and I should have a live chat session/lesson, or chat on the phone sometime. I'm happy to teach you!
I honestly don't know....I learned to crochet by my mom showing me how to do single stitches and turn corners and that was it (hence my ability to make scarves and plain blankets only). I have no idea how to follow a pattern, especially with different types of stitches. Every one I've found has had extra cutesy stuff that confused the heck out of me.
I don't have stitch markers...the first video I saw didn't use one and one did, I was hoping I could make do without. Any suggestions for something I could use instead? I may need a chat session LOL
Stitch markers are really cheap, but you can use something like a strand of yarn in a contrasting color, that you just lay across your first stitch in each round so that it weaves up the rows (but doesn't actually gey incorporated into the work)... Then just pull it out when you're done.
I learned how to crochet in a very similar fashion when I was 8, then after buying a beginner book in order to learn more stitches when I got older, learned that what I was taught was completely wrong, and I had to relearn in my own from the book! Haha
Do you have Skype or some other chat app? Let's set something up!
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@ImnAtari and @SoulTermination Love, love, love you people! I've brought it up to DH once before because I've heard that in the past: you end up paying out the butt for assembly and a name brand (which Alienware is especially terrible about I hear) rather than getting actual value for your money. I wish so badly that I could talk him into it! I know he has some knowledge of assembly because he replaces his own parts on occasion, but the last time I brought it up he said he just prefers the laziness of opening up a box and having it already assembled. Still, I'll check out MMO-Champion and see if I can find a recent list like you're talking about @SoulTermination! Maybe I'll be able to wear him down over time!
Ugh, Alienware, yeah. x.x Before they became one of the mainstream sort-of DIY computer rig companies, they were a lot more reasonable. My DH and I ordered all of our new computer stuff from Newegg (mine was around $670-$700 a couple years ago, his around $850ish in the last 12 months) and then had one of his techy coworkers assist us with putting it together because, though we'd changed stuff like video cards, networking cards, and RAM, we weren't quite certain how to put an entire rig together ourselves. We both play World of Warcraft together, and haven't had any issues with poor performance outside of a wireless networking USB adapter that we didn't realize was borked. Replaced that and no lag, woo! Granted, WoW's graphics in most cases aren't like any of the recent FPS PC games, so I know jack about performance requirements on those, lol.
In case you haven't found one of those posts on MMO-Champion, I can either direct you to one or link you to the most recent one I found when I looked earlier.
Edit for formatting going down the shitter... >.>
A14 Siggy Challenge (November): Favorite Fall Smell
I have so many "I told you so"s and "welcome to my world"s for my hubby right now. I know it's totally childish and he feels terrible and doesn't want to hear it so I'm refraining, but damn if it isn't nice to keep hearing him say, "you went through feeling this bad with the flu AND you're pregnant? Man I feel like a dick now, I didn't have any sympathy for you!" He is currently taking zofran for the norovirus crap he came down with, and I warned him it might stop him up... He just texted me about the joys of glycerin suppositories and how he'd rather just not poop. Poor fella. Now he knows.
I went to dinner tonight with my Mom and she ran into someone she worked with... She introduced my belly as her grand baby..... I just thought that was kinda adorable.
Took a bath then a shower. It's just like sex- the bath part is kind of a PITA to go through and I don't really get what I went in for, but it feels good for the most part. However, the bath must be immediately be followed by a shower (manual). Otherwise, the job's only half done and I'm not completely satisfied. Especially once that tub drains. Overall- the shower wins, despite the perks of the bath. The best combo is a bath then a shower right after, assuming there's time and motivation. Though often the bath puts me in the mood for the shower even if I think "yeah I could just do the bath."
Regardless of the method, sometimes I wish I would have just stayed out of the bathroom completely, because both require drying my hair and one more step before bed. Sometimes it's just better to go to bed dirty.
You're welcome.
BFP #1 May 20, 2013 MC June 27, 2013 BFP #2 August 2, 2013Baby Boy born 4/25/14 (3 weeks overdue!)
April 14 August Siggy Challenge- "This time last year.."
@colleenswerb I'm playing catch up from a couple pages back. I noticed you called 2.0 him. Is it a feeling you're having, or just natural since you already have a boy so him and he just come out when talking about 2.0?
Took a bath then a shower.
It's just like sex- the bath part is kind of a PITA to go through and I don't really get what I went in for, but it feels good for the most part. However, the bath must be immediately be followed by a shower (manual). Otherwise, the job's only half done and I'm not completely satisfied. Especially once that tub drains.
Overall- the shower wins, despite the perks of the bath. The best combo is a bath then a shower right after, assuming there's time and motivation. Though often the bath puts me in the mood for the shower even if I think "yeah I could just do the bath."
Regardless of the method, sometimes I wish I would have just stayed out of the bathroom completely, because both require drying my hair and one more step before bed. Sometimes it's just better to go to bed dirty.
You're welcome.
question: is the shower alone or with DH holding the shower head?
Angel baby June 2013, DD born 22 April 2014, BFP 10 Sept 2015 - Due 22 May 2016
@avidkeo DH is always a part of the shower. Sometimes he holds the head, sometimes he shampoos my hair, sometimes he just happens to be in the shower with me.
ETA: we have a pact that no one showers alone. Metaphorically speaking.
BFP #1 May 20, 2013 MC June 27, 2013 BFP #2 August 2, 2013Baby Boy born 4/25/14 (3 weeks overdue!)
April 14 August Siggy Challenge- "This time last year.."
I seriously can't shower with DH. We've been married for 10 years and have done it like 3 times. I like the water scald your skin hot and he likes it kind of luke warm. I'm also a very faster shower taker, so I'm all like "I'm trying to wash my hair, stop touching me!".
@avidkeo
DH is always a part of the shower. Sometimes he holds the head, sometimes he shampoos my hair, sometimes he just happens to be in the shower with me.
ETA: we have a pact that no one showers alone.
Metaphorically speaking.
Love it!
Angel baby June 2013, DD born 22 April 2014, BFP 10 Sept 2015 - Due 22 May 2016
I seriously can't shower with DH. We've been married for 10 years and have done it like 3 times. I like the water scald your skin hot and he likes it kind of luke warm. I'm also a very faster shower taker, so I'm all like "I'm trying to wash my hair, stop touching me!".
I, ah, think you need to re-read her post......
Edit: unless of course I need to re-read yours....
Angel baby June 2013, DD born 22 April 2014, BFP 10 Sept 2015 - Due 22 May 2016
I seriously can't shower with DH. We've been married for 10 years and have done it like 3 times. I like the water scald your skin hot and he likes it kind of luke warm. I'm also a very faster shower taker, so I'm all like "I'm trying to wash my hair, stop touching me!".
I, ah, think you need to re-read her post......
Edit: unless of course I need to re-read yours....
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BFP #1 May 20, 2013 MC June 27, 2013 BFP #2 August 2, 2013Baby Boy born 4/25/14 (3 weeks overdue!)
April 14 August Siggy Challenge- "This time last year.."
A little late to the party on this, but WOOOOOHOO @PINECONEY! WTG Mr Piney on the promotion! *highfive!!* that's awesome news, Piney. So happy for you guys!
I seriously can't shower with DH. We've been married for 10 years and have done it like 3 times. I like the water scald your skin hot and he likes it kind of luke warm. I'm also a very faster shower taker, so I'm all like "I'm trying to wash my hair, stop touching me!".
I, ah, think you need to re-read her post......
Edit: unless of course I need to re-read yours....
I seriously can't shower with DH. We've been married for 10 years and have done it like 3 times. I like the water scald your skin hot and he likes it kind of luke warm. I'm also a very faster shower taker, so I'm all like "I'm trying to wash my hair, stop touching me!".
I, ah, think you need to re-read her post......
Edit: unless of course I need to re-read yours....
Either way, I shower solo.
I prefer to shower solo though don't very often baths were always my preference. but since being pregnant its nicer to have DH hold the shower head since baths are too painful. Its the only way I enjoy it ATM.
So there was this dip I had at my friend's shower today, that was made with sour cream, cream cheese, sharp cheddar, bacon, and sliced green onions (bake until all melty and bubbly hot)... Basically heaven in a baking dish. Holy God it was divine. I'm currently craving it.
So I had a dream that all the ladies from the RTT thread were hanging out together.....and there were giant margaritas involved (we were all not pg anymore).... It was awesome!
DH and I have are all day birthing class today at the hospital. Shit's getting real now!!!
I always worry about my baby having handicaps or birth defects (what mom doesn't?). We've ruled out nearly everything but there's always that possibility that she might be deaf or blind. But now she startles when I fart and I find great relief in that. In more ways than one! TMI, I know, but it's the little things!
Re: Longest Thread EVER! (aka Random Thoughts Thread )
@ashleypixie I know people like that. They're always posting some drama about how they don't have any friends and blah blah, when they clearly do. They're just fishing for attention.
@pineconey I'm sorry. I'll bake you a cake and send it to you!
we all have our phases where we feel distant. plan a fun night out or a night in doing something you both love. or, watch a movie that has some sort of significance for you?
BFP #1 May 20, 2013 MC June 27, 2013 BFP #2 August 2, 2013 Baby Boy born 4/25/14 (3 weeks overdue!)
April 14 August Siggy Challenge- "This time last year.."
Baby Girl Born: April 2014
If you ask me what I came to do in this world, I, an artist, I will answer you:
DH and I are doing a lot better now. Some things that helped...We started watching a couple of series that we really got into (True Detective and House of Cards). We've gone out and done a bit more. Like going out to new restaurants and seeing some oscar-nominated movies that are back playing for a bit. We also have been to a few museums and explored some of the city. It seems like just having new stuff to talk about that didn't just involve baby or work, helped things out. I'm sorry you're going through a stale moment. But know that it's temporary
We're going through the same thing here. I think most couples feel closer when there is a good amount of freaky happening, and considerable distance when it's not. We have the same kind of dry spell going on because sex just HURTS. I think I'm resentful because he doesn't understand that and he's resentful because he's not getting any. And I feel like he's not attracted to me at all, it causes a lot of tension. I find the next best thing to create intimacy is laughter. Try doing things you have a lot of fun doing together, seeing a funny movie, going to a comedy club. Comedy is therapy for me, I mean it. I hope things get better soon for you, soon. The tension takes away from the excitement of the baby coming. Taking the hospital tour this morning put things into perspective for both of us because we remembered what this was all happening for.
Stitch markers are really cheap, but you can use something like a strand of yarn in a contrasting color, that you just lay across your first stitch in each round so that it weaves up the rows (but doesn't actually gey incorporated into the work)... Then just pull it out when you're done.
I learned how to crochet in a very similar fashion when I was 8, then after buying a beginner book in order to learn more stitches when I got older, learned that what I was taught was completely wrong, and I had to relearn in my own from the book! Haha
Do you have Skype or some other chat app? Let's set something up!
Can't tell if it's Braxton hicks....Or a fart.
It was a fart.
Then I peed on a stick...
Love, love, love you people! I've brought it up to DH once before because I've heard that in the past: you end up paying out the butt for assembly and a name brand (which Alienware is especially terrible about I hear) rather than getting actual value for your money. I wish so badly that I could talk him into it! I know he has some knowledge of assembly because he replaces his own parts on occasion, but the last time I brought it up he said he just prefers the laziness of opening up a box and having it already assembled. Still, I'll check out MMO-Champion and see if I can find a recent list like you're talking about @SoulTermination! Maybe I'll be able to wear him down over time!
Ugh, Alienware, yeah. x.x Before they became one of the mainstream sort-of DIY computer rig companies, they were a lot more reasonable. My DH and I ordered all of our new computer stuff from Newegg (mine was around $670-$700 a couple years ago, his around $850ish in the last 12 months) and then had one of his techy coworkers assist us with putting it together because, though we'd changed stuff like video cards, networking cards, and RAM, we weren't quite certain how to put an entire rig together ourselves. We both play World of Warcraft together, and haven't had any issues with poor performance outside of a wireless networking USB adapter that we didn't realize was borked. Replaced that and no lag, woo! Granted, WoW's graphics in most cases aren't like any of the recent FPS PC games, so I know jack about performance requirements on those, lol.
A14 Siggy Challenge (November): Favorite Fall Smell
My little Princess
BFP#2 7/28/13 EDD 4/9/14 Birthday : 4/10/14 Adalyn Nanette
It's just like sex- the bath part is kind of a PITA to go through and I don't really get what I went in for, but it feels good for the most part. However, the bath must be immediately be followed by a shower (manual). Otherwise, the job's only half done and I'm not completely satisfied. Especially once that tub drains.
Overall- the shower wins, despite the perks of the bath. The best combo is a bath then a shower right after, assuming there's time and motivation. Though often the bath puts me in the mood for the shower even if I think "yeah I could just do the bath."
Regardless of the method, sometimes I wish I would have just stayed out of the bathroom completely, because both require drying my hair and one more step before bed. Sometimes it's just better to go to bed dirty.
You're welcome.
BFP #1 May 20, 2013 MC June 27, 2013 BFP #2 August 2, 2013 Baby Boy born 4/25/14 (3 weeks overdue!)
April 14 August Siggy Challenge- "This time last year.."
DH is always a part of the shower. Sometimes he holds the head, sometimes he shampoos my hair, sometimes he just happens to be in the shower with me.
ETA: we have a pact that no one showers alone.
Metaphorically speaking.
BFP #1 May 20, 2013 MC June 27, 2013 BFP #2 August 2, 2013 Baby Boy born 4/25/14 (3 weeks overdue!)
April 14 August Siggy Challenge- "This time last year.."
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BFP #1 May 20, 2013 MC June 27, 2013 BFP #2 August 2, 2013 Baby Boy born 4/25/14 (3 weeks overdue!)
April 14 August Siggy Challenge- "This time last year.."
BFP #1 May 20, 2013 MC June 27, 2013 BFP #2 August 2, 2013 Baby Boy born 4/25/14 (3 weeks overdue!)
April 14 August Siggy Challenge- "This time last year.."
I prefer to shower solo though don't very often baths were always my preference. but since being pregnant its nicer to have DH hold the shower head since baths are too painful. Its the only way I enjoy it ATM.
@pineconey you are a bad influence....
DH and I have are all day birthing class today at the hospital. Shit's getting real now!!!