My UO: I think people are wussy when they're like, "X-birth-related thing is gross! Ewww, I don't want to see that!" I grew up having to help slaughter deer and I've been around a lot if illness. Life isn't all a Pinterest board. And seeing, being familiar with, and understanding the hard, ugly, dirty, or just biological parts of it matters. I just feel like being extra squeamish is something I don't expect from adults.
Adjacently, I hate when women see a bug and flip out. Most don't have a legitimate phobia; it's just performing this vulnerable girl act.
@emotionlotion I saw your throatpunch Thursday after I wrote this actually. Like I said in an earlier post, I'm not all judgey on those who do more, to each their own! Just like it annoys you when people tell you to slow down, it works the other way too. In my work place I feel like the others who go above and beyond during pregnancy make it harder for me, while I am not neglecting my job duties I am not doing extra. This pregnancy is pretty rough on me and I am not putting my and my child's health at risk for a job.
I am also proud of myself for coming to work during all of the snowstorms this year.
If it weren't fro the bump I don't think I'd ever hear the word tacky.
Amen. Maybe I lack "class" but I generally don't think of things in those terms. Some things are for me, some things are not my style, but I can't recall thinking of something as tacky. Anything that makes other people happy (short of hurting others) is usually okay by me...
I hate when people say T&Ps. Can you really not take the extra 1.5 seconds to add in the 13 extra letters?
I would marry you over this. I always think, at least write a sentence. One sentence.
Especially if it is truly a heartfelt sentiment.
I'm guilty of this. I'm not always comfortable saying: "I'll pray for you, or you'll be in my prayers" especially if I don't know someone all that well. And likewise, some people aren't comfortable hearing it. I think saying T&P is a nice compromise. It allows you to express condolences and well wishes without making either party feel uncomfortable.
@KrystaJ, I totally agree with you. The super posed ones creep me out. I mean, since when do babies naturally sleep in a vase filled with candy corn? Yes I did see that...
My UO again is about my IL's. We were all working at the greenhouse last night and had supper out there too. MIL leaves just before supper is ready to go make tea. FOR CRYING OUT LOUD we could just drink water for once! There was plenty to do without leaving to make tea for pete's sake! Someone wondered where she went and SIL said she went to make tea, so I said 'Cuz heaven forbid we drink water...' and the other SIL's, that are married in like me, were like yea no joke. SIL (DH's sister) said 'Well mom probably knows her boys like their tea.' No kiddin??? I like tea too, but we were all waiting on it the way it was... Just, good grief!
I think people spend way too much time and money taking pictures. Live in the moment- the photograph is only there to remind you of the memory, and if you're truly enjoying the moment, the memory of it will ALWAYS be better than the picture!
(SUPER Unpopular, I know!)
I don't really want to pay $600 for newborn photos when I don't like a lot of the super posed ones anyway. But some family members are pressuring us to do it (but notice, they don't offer to pay for them).
@KrystaJ - I'm not opposed to a few posed ones (that aren't crazy expensive!) at a shoot, but I see people hiring photographers for birthday parties and taking time out to set up mini-photo shoots during the party! Or people who have photographers in the delivery rooms over relatives who really care to be there! And for what?! The "perfect" picture, which can ruin the moment!
I wouldn't encapsulate my placenta because it seems like a hassle, but it doesn't gross me out at all that other women ingest their placentas.
I'm doing it. Before I got pregnant, I thought it was hippie mumbo jumbo. But I'm high risk for PPD and my midwife said many of her patients have reported feeling like the capsules help. So hell yes, I'll try it. Anyone who is grossed out can go suck a lollipop. Depression is no joke. It would affect my health, my baby's health, and my ability to breastfeed. I would eat much worse than a placenta pill if I thought it would help. I'd do the menu from Survivor.
I wouldn't encapsulate my placenta because it seems like a hassle, but it doesn't gross me out at all that other women ingest their placentas.
Kay but do they need to post these intentions on fb?
I blocked a friend for this. Do what you wanna do but I do not need to know all about it.
I definitely wouldn't post it on fb, but I don't post much of anything other than the occasional picture of my daughter. Some people are too willing to share every aspect of their life.
Oooo I have finally thought of one that will actually be unpopular...
I don't really like wine... Especially red wine. GAG!
My drink of choice? Captain Morgan and Diet Coke!
I do like wine but I love Captain Morgan!!!! It's almost always my drink of choice whether I'm out or at home! I've got an open bottle of Captain Morgan Private Stock and I can't wait to drink it again!!
This is more of a confession, but I won't remember it by tomorrow....
We are taking DS to Disney next month. I fully intend to buy a kid leash to have while we are there. He is at a stage where he doesn't love riding in a stroller and fights holding your hand. I don't want to fight with my 2 year old about holding my hand all day long.
I am so ashamed.
I wish more families visiting NYC would use kid leashes. And stop taking pictures with the Naked Cowboy. Also, Olive Garden may be magical but you have one at home, why are you waiting an hour and paying double for the same entrée when authentic Italian is blocks away? What is wrong with you? I will still give you directions though. I know that shit gets confusing.
Just like it annoys you when people tell you to slow down, it works the other way too. In my work place I feel like the others who go above and beyond during pregnancy make it harder for me, while I am not neglecting my job duties I am not doing extra. This pregnancy is pretty rough on me and I am not putting my and my child's health at risk for a job.
I am also proud of myself for coming to work during all of the snowstorms this year.
Oh, I hear you girl. I'll admit I was feeling self-conscious about my own judginess so I read a lot into your post. Tootally goes both ways. I don't have a problem with people cutting back on work or not doing extra and making sure they are keeping themselves and their little one's healthy. I specifically have a problem with my coworker, which is an ongoing and unique case. Hope I didn't come off argumentative!
Nooo not at all! I get what you are saying. And I read what's going on with your coworker, these are two totally different things. I'm a nurse. I can still do my job and still do it well, but there is just some common courtesy that I feel should be given to pregnant women, like not assigning them the heavy lifting or infectious diseases (where I work there is not a lot of this so assigning it to someone else is really no big deal). For the most part people are good about this but there are a few women who Are older and have kids who will not make these minor accommodations under the pretense that they did it and were fine. I feel it is unnecessary. These same women judge me on my pregnancy.
@bebemac How dare you??!? Posting that gif of the smore bar with Reese's Peanut Butter cups. I was fine! Didn't have any major cravings, I saw that and was done for. It is impossible to find any here in Singapore. I have found them once on the island but it would take me an hour to get there and then pay $5.99 a bar. But darnnit it would be bleeping worth it. Thankfully, I was complaining to my friend and out of no where a kind angel brought me a handful of the mini ones they were hoarding from Halloween. I looked like gollum eating a fish, the side eye I got eating them is priceless.
I will give you that, but I really don't want a picture of me pushing baby girl out of me....and I don't want one of her covered in blood with all the nasty on her. I will wait a few minutes until she is semi clean and I'm sure someone will take a picture for us.
I agree with you in terms of a pushing picture but I disagree about the second part. One of my favorite pictures from my daughter's birth is right after she was born. I look awful, she's covered in gunk but it's the first time we saw each other. I won't hang it on the living room wall but I would have in a small frame next to my bed.
I know I'm laying posting...been going to bed without bumping lately. Anyway...I had a glass of wine with dinner last weekend for valentines day and it was sooooooooooooooo good. It was even the cheap house wine. I also highlighted my hair. Oh and to really add to the thread, my sister in law told me she is planning a baby shower since this is a boy. I had a baby shower with my daughter in 2010. So far, I have set any rules about it and frankly I don't feel it's worth the fight if she wants to do it.
I do park in the expecting/parents with small children spots at Wegmans. I have a 3 year old and am pregnant and the convenience is my saving grace some days.
Re: UO Thursday
Adjacently, I hate when women see a bug and flip out. Most don't have a legitimate phobia; it's just performing this vulnerable girl act.
I am also proud of myself for coming to work during all of the snowstorms this year.
DD 3/15/12
DD 6/3/14
#4 Due 10/26/18!
Nooo not at all!
I get what you are saying. And I read what's going on with your coworker, these are two totally different things.
I'm a nurse. I can still do my job and still do it well, but there is just some common courtesy that I feel should be given to pregnant women, like not assigning them the heavy lifting or infectious diseases (where I work there is not a lot of this so assigning it to someone else is really no big deal). For the most part people are good about this but there are a few women who Are older and have kids who will not make these minor accommodations under the pretense that they did it and were fine. I feel it is unnecessary. These same women judge me on my pregnancy.
I do park in the expecting/parents with small children spots at Wegmans. I have a 3 year old and am pregnant and the convenience is my saving grace some days.