UO

Empireceo · February 2014

Get it, bitches.

Empireceo · February 2014

AWing your fake diamonds straight from Claire's is gross. As is cluttering your counters with 10+ pee sticks. As is rollin when you're actively TTGP. That is all.

Empireceo · February 2014

Okay here's one. I hate going to kid's first birthday parties. It's totally not about the kid. They have no clue what is happening and it just seems kind of gift grabby to me when you invite 100 people. We've had a bunch in the past 4 months for DS's little friends and it just sucks. I can't see having a party (besides grandparents really) before my kid is 3, when he has a clue what his birthday means and some opinion of what he wants to do. Even then, 20 person max.

awc1986 · February 2014

This will get me flamed, but that's the point of an UO right?

I don't like goatee beards on men. They make me cringe. Either go full beard or go home. A well manicured goatee just makes me think you have too much time on your hands.

bumpuser9353653 · February 2014

awc1986 said:

This will get me flamed, but that's the point of an UO right? I don't like goatee beards on men. They make me cringe. Either go full beard or go home. A well manicured goatee just makes me think you have too much time on your hands.

No! Well-trimmed goatees are my fave! Pretty much every guy in my family (dad, brother, hubs) has one. I do hate when they get scraggly but I love the look of a nice, trim goatee. It has to be a full one though. None of that "chin only" crap.

Also, I'm not opposed to well-kept full beards, but you better have the man-genes necessary to pull it off (my bro's face is patchy so that always looks bad when he gets lazy and doesn't shave).

Edit: words are hard

andoll8 · February 2014

RugbyMamma said:

awc1986 said:

This will get me flamed, but that's the point of an UO right? I don't like goatee beards on men. They make me cringe. Either go full beard or go home. A well manicured goatee just makes me think you have too much time on your hands.

No! Well-trimmed goatees are my fave! Pretty much every guy in my family (dad, brother, hubs) has one. I do hate when they get scraggly but I love the look of a nice, trim goatee. It has to be a full one though. None of that "chin only" crap.

Also, I'm not opposed to well-kept full beards, but you better have the man-genes necessary to pull it off (my bro's face is patchy so that always looks bad when he gets lazy and doesn't shave).

Edit: words are hard

and don't even get me started on the soul patch or pencil thins! my friend's boyfriend showed up on Valentine's day with a newly shaved Pencil Thin, and we were all thoroughly disgusted. Errol Flyn might have been able to get away with that, but not this guy!

kat8805 · February 2014

I can't with the newbs coming in and trying to start new "things" for each day of the week cause they haven't been around long enough to realize there is already shit for every day they could easily participate in. Sorry its your first week here and you think you're all cutesy to come up with a theme for the day, the rest of us hags sorted that out MONTHS ago. Join the club.

Also, I can't with the bitches who only bother to AW their bumps on HDBD but can't fucking pitch in with support on questions, vents, losses, and other important matters. I'm just gunna start flagging bitches who can't participate anywhere else. Mods, you have been warned of my bad behavior.

And FFS, stop being fucking one post wonders. And stop with the post and runs. If you feel your shit is important enough to require a whole new fucking post, stick around and participate in your own damn post. And don't get shitty cause the internet strangers don't tell you whatever it is you want to hear. Go make a RL BFFL if you want puppies and butterflies. We speak truths here, sorry your fragile ego can't handle honesty

Happy MFin Thursday, hoars.

Edit cause I woke up in a bad fuckin mood and my GD Droid is fuckin with me!

RachelCA29 · February 2014

awc1986 said:

This will get me flamed, but that's the point of an UO right? I don't like goatee beards on men. They make me cringe. Either go full beard or go home. A well manicured goatee just makes me think you have too much time on your hands.

I agree! But maybe because a guy I dated fairly seriously in high school had one, and then he broke my heart when we left for university. So now goatee = douchbag in my mind.

Also, my husband looks wicked hot and handsome with a full beard (he grows on every winter), so go full or go home!

Mimaloo · February 2014

I will probably get flamed here, but it's a biggie for me right now. I'm so tired of reading about the heroin epidemic in my area. And I'm tired of everyone still talking about Phillip Seymour Hoffman and I'm even more tired of addiction being blamed on mental illness. Is that the case sometimes? Absolutely. All the time? No.

Next week will mark the one year anniversary of the death of one of my oldest and closest friends...from a heroin overdose. I spent the year before that with him in rehabs, hospitals, outpatient treatment facilities, etc. I was the one legally in charge of making decisions regarding his care (he had signed off to give me that power). It was draining in every sense of the word but I loved him and really wanted him to get better. Like PSH, he had unlimited means and could afford the best rehab facilities.

Well, he had relapsed in rehab and was buying pills at outpatient. He was kicked out of the fancy facility and transferred to a state one (which kicked him out after a month because his insurance wouldn't pay for any longer than that. When I requested to pay cash for his treatment I was told no).

The truth is that even though he had been clean (heroin wise) for almost a year, he didn't really want to be clean. He didn't start taking heroin because he was mentally ill. He made a conscious decision to try it after being given a sample for free. He had too much money and too little responsibility. Pot, coke, ecstasy and God only knows what else were fun for him because he enjoyed, as he used to put it, partying like a rock star.

So to constantly read that every addict isn't really at fault infuriates me because some of them are. And I'm going to stop before this gets any longer.

oscarwao · February 2014

hhegyesi said:

RugbyMamma said:

awc1986 said:

This will get me flamed, but that's the point of an UO right? I don't like goatee beards on men. They make me cringe. Either go full beard or go home. A well manicured goatee just makes me think you have too much time on your hands.

No! Well-trimmed goatees are my fave! Pretty much every guy in my family (dad, brother, hubs) has one. I do hate when they get scraggly but I love the look of a nice, trim goatee. It has to be a full one though. None of that "chin only" crap.

Also, I'm not opposed to well-kept full beards, but you better have the man-genes necessary to pull it off (my bro's face is patchy so that always looks bad when he gets lazy and doesn't shave).

Edit: words are hard

and don't even get me started on the soul patch or pencil thins! my friend's boyfriend showed up on Valentine's day with a newly shaved Pencil Thin, and we were all thoroughly disgusted. Errol Flyn might have been able to get away with that, but not this guy!

Eh, I think that the success of facial hair is based on 1.) If the guy has full thick facial hair (not patchy), and 2.) shape of the face. I've seen men I thought looked good with Chin Straps, goatees, full beards, etc and men that I thought would look much better shaved. My husband looks great with a goatee but could never grow a full beard. If I were a man I think I would be hesitant to wear Pencil Thins/Chin Straps as I think they can have a bit of a stigma attached to them and are discouraged in professional settings.

lv2011 · February 2014

I hate pink, and hate the stereotype that all little girls must love and wear pink. I'm not buying my baby one. single. damned. pink. thing.

Pink is only for adult women, to wear on Wednesdays. Duh.

oscarwao · February 2014

Empireceo said:

Okay here's one. I hate going to kid's first birthday parties. It's totally not about the kid. They have no clue what is happening and it just seems kind of gift grabby to me when you invite 100 people. We've had a bunch in the past 4 months for DS's little friends and it just sucks. I can't see having a party (besides grandparents really) before my kid is 3, when he has a clue what his birthday means and some opinion of what he wants to do. Even then, 20 person max.

Yah, I get wanting to celebrate your LOs first birthday, but having a big party for a one year old seems silly to me as well. For my kid's first birthday I plan on having close family over and letting said kid get messy with a piece of cake.

mileswithmyles · February 2014

Empireceo said:
Okay here's one. I hate going to kid's first birthday parties. It's totally not about the kid. They have no clue what is happening and it just seems kind of gift grabby to me when you invite 100 people. We've had a bunch in the past 4 months for DS's little friends and it just sucks. I can't see having a party (besides grandparents really) before my kid is 3, when he has a clue what his birthday means and some opinion of what he wants to do. Even then, 20 person max.

I agree! I think it's important to celebrate, but not at a large party. DH and I have already talked about this. We plan to do a small party with out family and very close friends.

getitdone · February 2014

lv2011 said:

I hate pink, and hate the stereotype that all little girls must love and wear pink. I'm not buying my baby one. single. damned. pink. thing.

Pink is only for adult women, to wear on Wednesdays. Duh.

I completely agree!! I love red but hate pink!

ebox322 · February 2014

I think long engagements are lame. Anything longer than like 8-9 months just seems ridiculous (without a good reason). I don't really understand waiting to be done with school or until someone gets a decent job to be a reason for waiting to get married. My cousin has been with her fiancé for 12 years (started dating when they were 14) and got engaged a year ago valentines day, their wedding isn't until Sept 2015...really? 2 1/2 year engagement? Why?

oscarwao · February 2014

getitdone said:

lv2011 said:

I hate pink, and hate the stereotype that all little girls must love and wear pink. I'm not buying my baby one. single. damned. pink. thing.

Pink is only for adult women, to wear on Wednesdays. Duh.

I completely agree!! I love red but hate pink!

And I think pastel pink is the WORST. Ugh, such a gross color. I'm having a girl - pastel pink is BANNED from her wardrobe, bleh.

lv2011 · February 2014

Mimaloo said:

I will probably get flamed here, but it's a biggie for me right now. I'm so tired of reading about the heroin epidemic in my area. And I'm tired of everyone still talking about Phillip Seymour Hoffman and I'm even more tired of addiction being blamed on mental illness. Is that the case sometimes? Absolutely. All the time? No.

Next week will mark the one year anniversary of the death of one of my oldest and closest friends...from a heroin overdose. I spent the year before that with him in rehabs, hospitals, outpatient treatment facilities, etc. I was the one legally in charge of making decisions regarding his care (he had signed off to give me that power). It was draining in every sense of the word but I loved him and really wanted him to get better. Like PSH, he had unlimited means and could afford the best rehab facilities.

Well, he had relapsed in rehab and was buying pills at outpatient. He was kicked out of the fancy facility and transferred to a state one (which kicked him out after a month because his insurance wouldn't pay for any longer than that. When I requested to pay cash for his treatment I was told no).

The truth is that even though he had been clean (heroin wise) for almost a year, he didn't really want to be clean. He didn't start taking heroin because he was mentally ill. He made a conscious decision to try it after being given a sample for free. He had too much money and too little responsibility. Pot, coke, ecstasy and God only knows what else were fun for him because he enjoyed, as he used to put it, partying like a rock star.

So to constantly read that every addict isn't really at fault infuriates me because some of them are. And I'm going to stop before this gets any longer.

I'm so sorry you had to go through that and see it first hand. That must have been incredibly painful and difficult for you.

oscarwao · February 2014

ebox322 said:

I think long engagements are lame. Anything longer than like 8-9 months just seems ridiculous (without a good reason). I don't really understand waiting to be done with school or until someone gets a decent job to be a reason for waiting to get married. My cousin has been with her fiancé for 12 years (started dating when they were 14) and got engaged a year ago valentines day, their wedding isn't until Sept 2015...really? 2 1/2 year engagement? Why?

Yah, I don't get it either. I have a friend whose boyfriend keeps "waiting" to pop the question. They have been together for six years. First he wanted to finish grad school before getting engaged. Next he wanted to pay for their cars in cash before getting engaged. Now he wants to buy a house before getting engaged. If you don't want to get married then that is your prerogative, but it seems weird to me if you do want to get married but have to finish a long checklist of items first.

Empireceo · February 2014

ebox322 said:

I think long engagements are lame. Anything longer than like 8-9 months just seems ridiculous (without a good reason). I don't really understand waiting to be done with school or until someone gets a decent job to be a reason for waiting to get married. My cousin has been with her fiancé for 12 years (started dating when they were 14) and got engaged a year ago valentines day, their wedding isn't until Sept 2015...really? 2 1/2 year engagement? Why?

My brother had a year and a half engagement but that was because 18 months down the road was the first Saturday both the church and reception hall they wanted was available. I don't side eye that as much as people who get engaged and then don't even begin think about making plans for 6+ months. Just say you wanted some jewelry to wear At this time FFS, not a wedding/marriage.

reddroses · February 2014

My UO is that although I have been very pushy with DS (3) with learning/mastering basic academic skills, I think I will be less likely in the future to push for him to attend college and choose a traditional career because I think it stifles creativity. I would love for him to be an innovative thinker and risk taker.

MamaLlama14 · February 2014

Can I have an UO even though I haven't been here in a week? It's been a SHIT-TASTIC week, btw. No time for bumping when everyone is sick, construction is a nightmare, mother nature decides to send the heavens down upon us over and over and over again, and family feuds make me long for the day I can drink again.

Anyway, UO: I am SO SICK of the people on my FB feed who constantly post the SAME THINGS over and over and over and over and over and... you get the point. I mean, 5-10 times a day, everyday. Is your life REALLY only filled with photographing your meals? Do you have nothing more to say other than to post pictures of quotes by other people? How many Buzzfeed quizzes about which TV character you are can you possibly fit into one day? In particular, I have reached the "block from my newsfeed" point with one acquaintance who is a doula and goes out of her way to post anti-vax and anti-cs articles from sun up to sun down. Some of us are very likely getting a c/s in just a few short weeks (eek!)- I'm trying to wrap my head around that and NOT make myself sick with fear every night, I don't need to see your scary, judgy shit on FB everyday.

That is all.

ebox322 · February 2014

Empireceo said:

ebox322 said:

I think long engagements are lame. Anything longer than like 8-9 months just seems ridiculous (without a good reason). I don't really understand waiting to be done with school or until someone gets a decent job to be a reason for waiting to get married. My cousin has been with her fiancé for 12 years (started dating when they were 14) and got engaged a year ago valentines day, their wedding isn't until Sept 2015...really? 2 1/2 year engagement? Why?

My brother had a year and a half engagement but that was because 18 months down the road was the first Saturday both the church and reception hall they wanted was available. I don't side eye that as much as people who get engaged and then don't even begin think about making plans for 6+ months. Just say you wanted some jewelry to wear At this time FFS, not a wedding/marriage.

Exactly, and I see that as a good reason to have a long engagement. I had a friend that got engaged and waited about a year and half so that her brother would be back from his deployment to be there for her wedding.

Bootsie327 · February 2014

ebox322 said:

Empireceo said:

ebox322 said:

I think long engagements are lame. Anything longer than like 8-9 months just seems ridiculous (without a good reason). I don't really understand waiting to be done with school or until someone gets a decent job to be a reason for waiting to get married. My cousin has been with her fiancé for 12 years (started dating when they were 14) and got engaged a year ago valentines day, their wedding isn't until Sept 2015...really? 2 1/2 year engagement? Why?

My brother had a year and a half engagement but that was because 18 months down the road was the first Saturday both the church and reception hall they wanted was available. I don't side eye that as much as people who get engaged and then don't even begin think about making plans for 6+ months. Just say you wanted some jewelry to wear At this time FFS, not a wedding/marriage.

Exactly, and I see that as a good reason to have a long engagement. I had a friend that got engaged and waited about a year and half so that her brother would be back from his deployment to be there for her wedding.

I agree! I will also say though that 8-9 months max can be way too short depending on what type of wedding you want. A lot of halls, DJs, and photographers book up a year out from the date. My engagement was 1 year and a few days, and I can't imagine having had it be any shorter, because we wouldn't have gotten the vendors we wanted nevermind being able to accurately plan the budget. But yeah, having long engagements for no good reason is silly.

MamaLlama14 · February 2014

ebox322 said:

I think long engagements are lame. Anything longer than like 8-9 months just seems ridiculous (without a good reason). I don't really understand waiting to be done with school or until someone gets a decent job to be a reason for waiting to get married. My cousin has been with her fiancé for 12 years (started dating when they were 14) and got engaged a year ago valentines day, their wedding isn't until Sept 2015...really? 2 1/2 year engagement? Why?

I think having no good reason except "we want to enjoy engagement" or "we don't even want to think about planning it all right now" is a crappy reason, but outside of that kind of stuff there are probably a lot of individual reasons that people choose to wait. I had a 2.5 year engagement. I was untenured at the time, and just after we got engaged my district's contract negotiations fell through and they were talking about major layoffs. I had to wait 6 months to be sure I was going to have a job to pay for a wedding. By then, the church and venue we wanted was over a year out on availability, and BILs fiance could not get her paperwork to get into the country for another 6 months on top of that.

Edit: spelling

ThereBeDragons · February 2014

Eh, we had a 1yr+1day engagement. It took us 2 months just to decide when and where we wanted to get married and settle dates out with the church- and at that point we wanted a summer wedding and some time to scrape up cash to pay for the basics (not lavish at all- married in a church, dessert and dancing reception in the church's fellowship hall) because we weren't willing to go into debt for a party and neither of our parents were offering. It was hard to cobble together the 10k that even that basic wedding wound up costing us at 23.

I think the younger you are, the more easily understandable long engagements can be. My SIL got married with about 7 months of planning and had a very nice wedding- much nicer than ours. But she was also 30, in an established career and had some money socked away to work with. My sister had a 2 year engagement but she was 17 when she got engaged and, frankly, no one was particularly eager to rush the wedding date.

I do think 2+ year engagements are a little ridiculous. It kinda makes me wonder if the couple is really interested in getting married- or if having the perfect party is more important.

oscarwao · February 2014

MamaLlama14 said:

Can I have an UO even though I haven't been here in a week? It's been a SHIT-TASTIC week, btw. No time for bumping when everyone is sick, construction is a nightmare, mother nature decides to send the heavens down upon us over and over and over again, and family feuds make me long for the day I can drink again.

Anyway, UO: I am SO SICK of the people on my FB feed who constantly post the SAME THINGS over and over and over and over and over and... you get the point. I mean, 5-10 times a day, everyday. Is your life REALLY only filled with photographing your meals? Do you have nothing more to say other than to post pictures of quotes by other people? How many Buzzfeed quizzes about which TV character you are can you possibly fit into one day? In particular, I have reached the "block from my newsfeed" point with one acquaintance who is a doula and goes out of her way to post anti-vax and anti-cs articles from sun up to sun down. Some of us are very likely getting a c/s in just a few short weeks (eek!)- I'm trying to wrap my head around that and NOT make myself sick with fear every night, I don't need to see your scary, judgy shit on FB everyday.

That is all.

Can I add to that facebook annoyance list? I hate the self-congratulatory gym posts. You DO NOT need to post/check in EVERY TIME you go to the gym.... I would be willing to bet that fat-shaming crossfit chick from a few weeks ago is one of those people.

danabsd · February 2014

Not using a name due to popularity is dumb. If you love a name use it and don't feel the need to constantly defend your name choice. I understand the "I don't want there to be five others in her class" argument, but I also feel like there's a wider spread of names now than when we were kids.

kat8805 · February 2014

I think to sum it up, no one likes the "open ended" engagement that has no set wedding date, but seems more like the next thing to do in the relationship, so they did it.

How long an engagement actually is can depend on way too many factors. Like we got engaged in the fall, wanted a spring/summer wedding, and I was not about to plan a wedding while taking more than a full course load in college, AND working a full 40 hours a week. So we planned for the next spring.

awc1986 · February 2014

danabsd said:
Not using a name due to popularity is dumb. If you love a name use it and don't feel the need to constantly defend your name choice.
I understand the "I don't want there to be five others in her class" argument, but I also feel like there's a wider spread of names now than when we were kids.

I disagree. When there's 5 Graces, 5 Emily's and 5 Emily-Graces in my daughter's class, you're darn right I'm giving her a different name.

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kramja01 · February 2014

I think this may be a UO based on some of this week's threads, but here's mine: I do not plan on cloth diapering and I think I'm ok with it. I've tried to do some research and I have nothing but respect and admiration for the ladies who chose this route, but I don't think it's for me. My (shameful? flameful?) reason is I think it will take too much time to wash. I was reading up on some of the different wash routines, and it seems like it takes forever! I have new HE washer/dryer, and even the "quick wash" cycle I usually do takes at least 40 minutes (it says 27 on the digital counter, but it lies!) I calculated that with a rinse cycle, heavy duty wash, and extra rinse, the diapers would be in my machine at least two hours. DH and I work a lot of hours, and I'm not willing to give up two hours every other day (even though I know most of the time is unattended) plus drying/folding/sorting.

aweathers13 · February 2014

Empireceo said:

Okay here's one. I hate going to kid's first birthday parties. It's totally not about the kid. They have no clue what is happening and it just seems kind of gift grabby to me when you invite 100 people. We've had a bunch in the past 4 months for DS's little friends and it just sucks. I can't see having a party (besides grandparents really) before my kid is 3, when he has a clue what his birthday means and some opinion of what he wants to do. Even then, 20 person max.

I agree...I JUST got into a little argument with my friend about how it's NOT about the kid. The reason why we were arguing was because we had a friend that had her kid's 1st bday at the Trump Tower Penthouse in Vegas...she spent $5k on the party. I think that little backyard BBQ's are just as good with a couple of family members, but I guess if you have the money to spend on a party you can do what you want right?

sparklingdiamond · February 2014

I don't like when people use typically feminine names for a boy or masculine names for a girl. I know it doesn't bother some people, but it really bothers me.

w028jrb · February 2014

UO: I really HATE duck dynasty. I just do not understand the fascination or ridiculous popularity of the show. I mean I live in Ohio and I feel like I cannot go to a store without seeing their faces on SOMETHING! And to make matters worse, my MIL is soooo obsessed with them. She got their CD for Christmas from my BIL and we had to listen to it the rest of the night. I literally wanted to cry and punch someone.

Secondly, I also hate those stupid pictures/e-cards that people constantly share on FB. You know the ones, "I love my sister - share if you agree!" - Also, my MIL has to be one of the worst culprits of this... except they are all of duck dynasty! which just makes everything worse.

end rant

Mimaloo · February 2014

Empireceo said:

Okay here's one. I hate going to kid's first birthday parties. It's totally not about the kid. They have no clue what is happening and it just seems kind of gift grabby to me when you invite 100 people. We've had a bunch in the past 4 months for DS's little friends and it just sucks. I can't see having a party (besides grandparents really) before my kid is 3, when he has a clue what his birthday means and some opinion of what he wants to do. Even then, 20 person max.

We were invited to a first birthday a few months ago and they had a registry. Or, as Toys R Us calls it, a Wish List. It was also noted on the invitation that if you chose not to buy off of the wish list, the kid wears clothing from this store and needs these sizes.

That's not about the kid (who slept throughout most of the party). That's "oh we need some new shit so let's make a registry, throw ourselves a party and get it!"

ETA: spelling is hard.

ErikaLynn75 · February 2014

These fruit tickers annoy me. I didn't know what a rutabaga was, so I did a google image search, and I'm not convinced that a rutabaga is actually larger than a head of lettuce. Most of the pictures looked like they were about softball-sized. I'm annoyed that I have to be in rutabaga-stage for a whole week now. I want to go back to lettuce.

I tried so hard to come up with a good UO because I'm only 23 love-its away from 1K. But that's the best I could do... I suck.

IBackBevo · February 2014

Short of abuse/neglect or doing something that affects others (i.e. vaccinations), I personally don't care how you choose to parent your child or how you choose to give birth. I don't care if you want to bed share or forward face before 4 years or use crib bumpers. I don't care if you want to give birth in a pile of leaves while hugging a tree. I am going to assume that you have done the research, consulted your doctor (if applicable) and are making the best decision for you and your child given all of the circumstances you are dealing with.

However, with that said, I have seen a scary amount of misinformation being put out there by what I will call the "anti-intervention crowd." By way of example, I was reading a natural child birth book and the author was actually encouraging the readers to forgo gestational diabetes testing during pregnancy. The author claimed that it was way over-diagnosed and even if you got GD, it didn't hurt you or the baby. Now I admittedly am not an expert on GD, but that just didn't sound right to me.

Even worse, a couple of weeks ago I was on a board where the scenario was posted that a woman was being induced for pre-e and was not progressing. Posters were telling her to leave AMA so as to avoid a c-section. Without even knowing the severity of the pre-e, one was even comparing pre-e to having a baby over 35. Not only is this bad advice, but if the pre-e was severe or developed into eclampsia (which can happen really quickly), this advice could have been deadly for both mom and baby. I'm really hoping for a vbac, using a doula and on board with trying to limit unnecessary interventions, but advising a woman whose pre-e is severe enough that her doctor is inducing to leave AMA is taking things too far. These are just two examples, but I have seen more and it scares me a little.

bumpuser9353653 · February 2014

lv2011 said:

I hate pink, and hate the stereotype that all little girls must love and wear pink. I'm not buying my baby one. single. damned. pink. thing.

Pink is only for adult women, to wear on Wednesdays. Duh.

Yes! When we had DD1, we got a ton of hand-me-downs from SIL/niece. She had pretty much ONLY pink. ugh - it was miserable. I couldn't NOT take the clothes, but I did my own shopping too for DD - purple, gray, green, yellow, orange. No frilly tutus, no glittery flowers, no "princess in training" stuff. FYI - if you want yellow duckies, you have to go to the boy section to find them. I wish I was lying.

christieep · February 2014

My UO: It annoys me to no end when people feel the need to defend their parenting choices. BFing or formula feeding is the one that is bugging me now, but CD vs disposable could be another. Can't we just assume that we are making the best choices for our baby and family and not defend it? I think it bugs me because when someone defends their choice, it almost always comes off in a way that demeans or belittles other people for what they chose.

kat8805 · February 2014

@Empireceo 1st, 2nd, and 3rd bdays all went something like the below. Kid knows she's loved, we haven't felt the need for the whole "party" thing. She knows it's her day, and that tickles her enough.

MamaLlama14 · February 2014

kimberlykl2009 said:

MamaLlama14 said:

Can I have an UO even though I haven't been here in a week? It's been a SHIT-TASTIC week, btw. No time for bumping when everyone is sick, construction is a nightmare, mother nature decides to send the heavens down upon us over and over and over again, and family feuds make me long for the day I can drink again.

Anyway, UO: I am SO SICK of the people on my FB feed who constantly post the SAME THINGS over and over and over and over and over and... you get the point. I mean, 5-10 times a day, everyday. Is your life REALLY only filled with photographing your meals? Do you have nothing more to say other than to post pictures of quotes by other people? How many Buzzfeed quizzes about which TV character you are can you possibly fit into one day? In particular, I have reached the "block from my newsfeed" point with one acquaintance who is a doula and goes out of her way to post anti-vax and anti-cs articles from sun up to sun down. Some of us are very likely getting a c/s in just a few short weeks (eek!)- I'm trying to wrap my head around that and NOT make myself sick with fear every night, I don't need to see your scary, judgy shit on FB everyday.

That is all.

Can I add to that facebook annoyance list? I hate the self-congratulatory gym posts. You DO NOT need to post/check in EVERY TIME you go to the gym.... I would be willing to bet that fat-shaming crossfit chick from a few weeks ago is one of those people.

YES... and can I add to the add? On the gym-whoring note, this one might get me flamed but I swear it's not really about weight: There is an acquaintance on my FB page who has a new pyramid scheme every month. She's always trying to hock something and uses FB to advertise her new endeavor. This month, she's posting daily pics of her exercise and weight loss journey and trying to get people to buy the supplements that she's apparently now a reseller of. It's annoying enough to begin with since she changes her mind on her career path as often as I change my underwear, so it's hard to buy into any perceived passion she expresses about it. BUT, as much so, it's annoying because she's still pretty overweight. It's like asking someone who got their license suspended to give driving lessons, or to pay a tutor who can't read. I mean, use the product first and then sell it. I don't know how she thinks she's the poster child for the supplement that' she's been using for 20 days and hasn't lost any weight yet. Isn't that part of the buy-in on something like that? Seeing how successful someone else was at it?

To be clear it's really NOT about her weight to me- she could be 600 lbs and I wouldn't think any differently of her. It's the act of trying to sell a lifestyle that she's been living for less than 3 weeks and trying to be a model of good health when she's not yet there. I feel like you need to do the work first and then get people on board with it once it works for you.

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