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  • tttwalterstttwalters member
    tiffletons518 said:
    @tttwalters Did you get the frosted ones? That's very important

    yes, with strawberry. That was the only kind the grocery store sold. Maybe they were old, do these things expire? I should check the date.

     

     

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  • BC&LMBC&LM member
    MrsWilson31012 said:
    @PinkPuffyHeart2 I agree with you completely!! And think that the divorce rate in our nation is just one more sign of how desperately all people need Christ in their lives. My UO: I think that if possible (I know it's not in all cases) Moms should stay home with their children. Now before you all flame me, like I said...I know in some cases Moms have to work to help provide for their families. I see NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT, however I believe that Moms should be the ones raising their own children, not day cares.
    There is so much wrong with this that I don't even know where to start.  I personally would love to stay home with my son, but it's not feasible without a lot of sacrifices.  However, I would never judge someone else who would want to work if they want, even if they could afford to live on one income.  It's their choice, not yours or mine. Secondly, just because I work does not mean daycare is "raising my child" as you put it.  They are supervising his naps, play times, and feeding times like I would at home.  My husband and I are the ones making the decisions as to how he is raised. We are the ones already trying to expose him to as many cultural experiences as possible from a young age. We are the ones comforting him when he is sick, making his homemade baby food, providing for him emotionally and financially. Finally, what you said is extremely sexist. Why should the mom automatically be the one who stays home? Why not the dad?
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  • sweetbabypeasweetbabypea member
    tttwalters said:

    I don't like poptarts, tried them and they are a little chalky. Maybe I am eating them wrong?

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  • Stefanie6743Stefanie6743 member
    CL8badB said:
    As a SAHM im going to weigh in. Sometimes i feel that J would benefit MORE from daycare. I read a lot of posts on here that make me question whether or not me being home with him every day is the best for him (or myself). I feel that he'd probably benefit from interacting with other babies and that id benefit mentally by going to work even if its just for a few days a week. I think I will stop doubting my decision to stay home once we start doing some mommy & me stuff. Its very hard for me to adjust to not making my own money. I hate feeling bad if i want to buy something. My hubby tells me that im nuts and just buy what i want/need but im just not built that way. Its a very hard adjustment. I never thought that id doubt my decision to be a sahm but sometimes i do. Im sure that i will work (at least part time) again eventually. Hope that made sense im half asleep nursing J. Cant wait to see where this thread goes. 10? 15? 20? Pages?? Bat signals going up!?

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  • DaisyDuck40DaisyDuck40 member
    I did not care for "Froze" at all. The only things I liked was the song "Let it Go" and Kristoph and his moose elk thingy...they were funny. Other than that I hated it.

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  • JANCANDANCEJANCANDANCE member
    I agree with Blondie.
    BUT I also think this is something people say when they are searching for answers and the right way to do things.
    NikkiP15 said:

    It really upsets me when people say faith and God can fix everything and especially save marriages. Unfortunately, there are more things at work in this world than good and God.

    You might be on to something here!

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  • PinkPuffyHeart2PinkPuffyHeart2 member
    JANCANDANCE said:

    PinkPuffyHeart2 said:

    This may get me flamed but look... It's almost 3 am, and I literally woke up from a crappy cold infested sleep with this uo in my head...

    Marriage is the only relationship where we make a legally binding commitment, before God, to another person. While I definitely agree that there are valid reasons for divorce, I also believe that in some situations (like mine) it takes a stronger person to stay in the marriage and work things out, than it does to leave. When you get married you make vows... Mine said "for better or for worse".

    Well pin a rose on your god damn nose. I guess I'm not strong huh. I suggest you grow a pair and be a better example for your daughter. No one gets married to get divorced but at some point you have to ask yourself when is enough enough. No one is in my situation but all you do is complain and play the victim. Stick up for yourself or else stop complaining. Like I said yesterday people treat you how you want to be treated. I wouldn't advocate divorce because it fucking sucks. It is the worse thing I've had to do and IMO it takes a stronger person to leave because I owe myself more and my beautiful girls. And yes it takes a strong person to stay and work through it. The key word here is strong. I don't get any of that from you. I see a weak woman. I call a spade a spade. But I know tons of women who wished the only problem with their husband was oh he is going to go away and leave us and I'm sick. SERIOUSLY. What about women who are single mothers and take care of themselves and a family sick or not? Women who have spouses deployed or who are widows? They do it alone. To me those are the strongest women. It is hard but at least you have a husband who will come home to you. You make me sick.
    I'm not at your household but if it isn't that bad and you said vows before god then stop complaining and see if God can help you through it. I would also pray he finds a pair of cujones for you to grow.

    It's fine that you feel that way. I wasn't suggesting that you are not strong. I was using my own personal experience in my own marriage. And I get that I have been complaining a lot and sounding whiney. You don't have to agree that I am strong, I know who I am and don't need you to tell me.

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    GiggleJiggle said:

    PPH... I'm sorry I'm not sorry, but with all the complaining you have been doing about your marriage as of late, I think it's a little holier than thou to come on here and start talking about how it's unpopular to fight FOR your marriage. I doubt growing up in an unhappy household is what God wants for any child. I think that parents need to stick together and have a good relationship for their child, but that doesn't always mean as husband and wife.

    I can understand that. I'm not trying to be holier than though, just was thinking how right now the relationship sucks but that doesn't mean it's worth throwing in the trash. It just means we have hit that "worse" part. I never said I was staying with him for our child. I'm staying with him for him... Because despite a rough patch, I know we can work it out and will be better in the end.

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    BC&LM said:


    PinkPuffyHeart2 said:

    This may get me flamed but look... It's almost 3 am, and I literally woke up from a crappy cold infested sleep with this uo in my head...

    Marriage is the only relationship where we make a legally binding commitment, before God, to another person. While I definitely agree that there are valid reasons for divorce, I also believe that in some situations (like mine) it takes a stronger person to stay in the marriage and work things out, than it does to leave. When you get married you make vows... Mine said "for better or for worse".

    I agree to a certain extent, but if one person is cheating, I find it completely acceptable for the other person to seek a divorce.  It's not just an issue of trust at that point; it's endangering that person's health too (STDs, etc.)

    ETA: Oh, and how did I forget this.  Physical abuse is unacceptable.  That equals automatic divorce for me too.  

    ET also add: Emotional abuse is a no go too.  I guess basically what I meant by saying I agree to a certain extent is that I think it's bullshit when someone is like, "I need to find myself" or wants to get out of a marriage because they feel trapped or because times get a little tough after having a baby.  Get some counseling, reassess, and then go through with it if it still makes sense down the road. But if there's cheating, emotional, or physical abuse, proceed to the nearest exit.


    I completely agree!

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    kdc2007 said:


    PinkPuffyHeart2 said:

    This may get me flamed but look... It's almost 3 am, and I literally woke up from a crappy cold infested sleep with this uo in my head...

    Marriage is the only relationship where we make a legally binding commitment, before God, to another person. While I definitely agree that there are valid reasons for divorce, I also believe that in some situations (like mine) it takes a stronger person to stay in the marriage and work things out, than it does to leave. When you get married you make vows... Mine said "for better or for worse".

    @pinkpuffyheart2 - then I suggest you contact your religious leader to get some marital counseling for yourself and your husband instead of constantly complaining about it on an internet forum.


    You have a good point. And we have sort of done that. Sorry to drag you all into my mess... I won't talk about it anymore.

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    WasNotWas said:

    And @PPH2 I think it's far more damaging for a child to have parents in an unhappy, unhealthy relationship than have parents who get divorced. As JAN said, you are the example for your daughter. Be strong for the both of you.

    I agree, and we are generally happy but obviously not lately. If it is happening all the time it's completely unhealthy for all involved, and the relationship should be reevaluated/counseling sought, etc...

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    34blondie said:

    @pinkpuffyheart2 I want this to come out right because I really like you. Please think about this: If you want to talk about a traditional Christ-centered marriage, there is a fundamental problem. I don't see anything in your posts that shows that your husband is living in a Christ-centered marriage. He does not honor and respect you like he said he would in his vows. He is not making your happiness a priority like he should. The marriage can only truly be a marriage if the work is being done on both sides. Staying in a marriage like this (which my mom did because it was the Christian thing to do) only teaches daughters (my mom has 4) to be doormats who may later find themselves in dangerous relationships. Two of my sisters did.

    I hope you can take all of the feedback here and do what it truly best for you and your beautiful daughter. PM or FB message me anytime.

    Thank you. You have a really good point and I have taken it to heart. I would never stay if I felt like it was unhealthy for my child or for me. I appreciate the inbox offer :)

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    nykkolaughs said:

    Since you brought it up...

    I am a Christian, I've been divorced. Yes, I know what the bible says about divorce, but more importantly than what I believe about the bible, I believe in a forgiving God. I was in an emotionally abusive relationship, I was belittled and talked down to on a daily basis. I was made to feel less than, even as I was supporting him through law school. He lied to me about his fertility and allowed me to think for two years that I was the reason we couldn't have children (yes, I so desperately wanted to have a child to fix our marriage). I stayed because it was what I had been taught was the right thing to do. And then one day, I had a break through and it became so clear to me, God valued me as a person and my health and happiness and would forgive me for breaking my covenant with him. This is more pointed at @pinkpuffyheart than any other woman. I am all for religious freedom and I clearly see the separation of church and state in marriage (I'm pro gay marriage).

    Take some of the advice from the women on this board and seek counseling. Because, sharing what you have about your marriage and trying to crusade for Christ is making a mockery of what I believe. There are reasons why people hate Christians...

    I'm so sorry for what you went through. I wasn't trying to make this about religion, although yes I believe in God, I have been far ((Insert the universe)) from what I would consider a Christian lately. I fail every day.
    I agree about the counseling. And I don't believe divorce is wrong in all circumstances- I think you did the right thing and it really doesn't matter what anyone thinks about it being right or wrong.

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  • peachnectarinepeachnectarine member
    @pinkpuffyheart2 Have you asked him to go to marriage counseling with you?
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    kdc2007 said:
    @phishgirl29 - I love you. 
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    Seashell002 said:

    @pinkpuffyheart2 Have you asked him to go to marriage counseling with you?

    No. We did premarital counseling and it brought up a ton of issues (not about our relationship but issues that would affect our relationship, if that makes sense) and talking it out made things worse in my opinion... And we fought real hard our first 3 months of marriage. So to be honest, I am the one who doesn't want it-- but-- I would totally do it... And I can see how we really may need to now.

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    @kdc2007 how would people know I was 14 months pregnant if I had kept my awesome wedding photo?
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