UO

HeartLikeMine3

Whew I finally read all this and here's my cliff notes version:
Popt tarts are nasty
Peeps are nasty
Cantaloupe is nasty
MrsWilson31012 is nasty
The end !

JANCANDANCE

@Pitchslap manners are overrated )

JANCANDANCE

Carolyn, I mean complains like playing the victim. The whole whoa is me card. Of course complaining is great. I totally agree that this is a great place to vent but at some point put a plan in place to say enough of the same behavior. That doesn't mean leave him. That's all. And yes I'm pissed bc choosing to leave my marriage is weak according to her. Like it was an easy decision to make. Fuck her. I'm done with it.

tiffletons518

@daisyduck40 UO. I liked Frozen a lot. Of course Christoff and Sven were great. But, Olaf is my homeboy too. I liked that even though there was a love story, he didn't save her. It was different. I dug it. However, my girls sing Let it Go ALL DAY EVERY DAY, so I'm super tired of it.

llbta85

CL8badB said:

@jancandance I dont think its fair to say that she should stop complaining on here bc you chose to stop complaining on here. I get that you felt like an idiot so you took the proper steps to fix your situation but maybe she doesnt feel that way? Sometimes its easier to vent to us than it is to vent to non bump friends. Id hate to make someone feel that they have nobody to turn to. That goes for you as well. You can vent here or PM me. Sometimes having too much pride (worrying about looking like an idiot) can do more harm than good. I think that you are a strong woman for handling your stuff the way you did.

My take on the whole thing is this... say someone came on here and was all oh I'm overweight I hate that I am this way but I eat all the things... then starts off a UO thread and says people should have more willpower and workhard when it comes to their bodies. 

Bitch and moan all you want, I do.  I have cerainly bitched about my husband and marriage plenty, it helps to get it all out.  But I am the LAST person who should be getting all high and mighty about making a marriage work.  KWIM? 

BunnyLove416

It irks me when people use God/religion as an excuse not to make a hard choice, God wants us to figure our shit out and talk like that alienates non-religious people. I think everyone can agree that sometimes it's a better choice to try and work through whatever problems you're having with your spouse, particularly after a big change like having a baby, but the fact is sometimes you're not going to work through those problems. Sometimes  it's time to say this isn't working and I'm going to take care of myself and my kid/s and that has got to be hard as fuck to do. 

Also, sometimes there's no physical abuse, no emotional abuse, no cheating, and a couple still just realizes they aren't right for each other anymore. I have a hard time seeing what's wrong with that. 

numbersgirl08

PinkPuffyHeart2 said:

@pinkpuffyheart2 Have you asked him to go to marriage counseling with you?

No. We did premarital counseling and it brought up a ton of issues (not about our relationship but issues that would affect our relationship, if that makes sense) and talking it out made things worse in my opinion... And we fought real hard our first 3 months of marriage. So to be honest, I am the one who doesn't want it-- but-- I would totally do it... And I can see how we really may need to now.

@pinkpuffyheart2 - I think someone else said it, but if this is the case, then you need the counseling more than ever.  I understand you want to work it out with him, and I understand your desire to fight for your marriage, but fighting for it will be HARD.  It will definitely require talking it out and and working through things, and will require difficult conversations, and if you are a Christian and want a Christ-based marriage, it will require a lot of faith.  I believe it is possible if that is what you want and is truly right for you guys but you will need to be ready to put forth the effort.

BunnyLove416

MrsWilson31012 said:

@PinkPuffyHeart2 I agree with you completely!! And think that the divorce rate in our nation is just one more sign of how desperately all people need Christ in their lives. My UO: I think that if possible (I know it's not in all cases) Moms should stay home with their children. Now before you all flame me, like I said...I know in some cases Moms have to work to help provide for their families. I see NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT, however I believe that Moms should be the ones raising their own children, not day cares.

@MrsWilson31012 I think you're a bad person. An ignorant person actually. This is your opinion and you're welcome to it but it's an opinion that should have stayed in your head and didn't belong on a message board full of mothers. You know there are at least a few women here who have made the difficult choice to work because they have no alternative and wrestle with it, there are a few who haven't gone back yet and are dreading that the day is coming nearer and there are a few who are happy to work but still miss their kids. Why you feel the need to pass judgement on anyone else's family is completely beyond me. The fact that you think your opinion is ok because you're not counting ALL the working mothers as bad moms but just some of them is absurd. What's wrong with you?

People like you are the worst thing to happen to otherwise happy moms, imparting guilt where you have no place is disgusting and you should feel ashamed.

CocoMcGee

Where is @gavel?

ilovemarfa

I wear yoga and gap jogging pants every single day unless I'm going to a party, mass or out with friends (which is next to never now). I don't think there is a need to get dressed up if I'm just running errands caring for the kids.

Junemom2013

jans peeps comment brought me to my uo:

Holiday candy should not be for every holiday!

Peeps are for easter (now you can get them every season in different shapes)

candy corn is for halloween (now you can get them in various holiday colors)...also candy corn is nasty

tiffletons518

@kdc2007 It's really cute. DD2 has been walking around in gloves for the past 3 weeks because she doesn't want to freeze our hearts. But, then if she touches us without, she gives us a big hug and kiss. Because you know, love can unfreeze a frozen heart.

numbersgirl08

Regarding the whole marriage thing, I think it takes a strong woman to make the right choices for her family and act on them - whether that is leaving a bad marriage or trying to work it out with her husband.  It's a weak woman who stays miserable in the status quo without making a change.  Every marriage is different and I don't all women should stay and fight for their marriage or all women should leave their marriage - but I do think women should not just accept mediocrity or accept abuse or accept being miserable.  If that is where you are, do something to change it, whether it's working through things with your husband or leaving him.

DaisyDuck40

@tiffletston518 oh that too! I liked how it wasn't just a typical love story...I think the reason I hated it was because of the music...minus Let it Go and I guess Do You Wanna Build a Snowmman...I hated all the songs....they were catchy but in my opinion they stunk and it's kind of hard to get into a musical if you hate all but one or two songs lol.

KEK1025

MrsWilson31012 said:

@PinkPuffyHeart2 I agree with you completely!! And think that the divorce rate in our nation is just one more sign of how desperately all people need Christ in their lives. My UO: I think that if possible (I know it's not in all cases) Moms should stay home with their children. Now before you all flame me, like I said...I know in some cases Moms have to work to help provide for their families. I see NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT, however I believe that Moms should be the ones raising their own children, not day cares.

MrsWilson31012 .  Why should only Mom being "raising" the kid if they can financially make it work.  As a kickass working mom by CHOICE I would love to here why my decision to send my kids to daycare is so horrible.

numbersgirl08

@MrsWilson31012

My mom was a working mom and was the strongest woman and strongest Christian and best mom I know.  She showed me that you can be an incredible woman, an amazing mom, and a great employee.  She also showed me that on top of that she can volunteer her time and make a difference in other people's lives as well.  She won awards for her job and won awards for her volunteer activities.  Never once in my life did I feel as if someone else raised me or do I remember thinking she wasn't there for me and wasn't raising me.

I've taken that on in my own life.  I don't know if I can be as amazing as her, but I want to be a similar example to N.  I'm a Christian who has chosen to do my best to follow God's will for my life and I believe that the best right now is for me to work.  Do I need to work?  No.  Do I think it's best for my family.  Absolutely yes.  Do I think that's the right choice for everyone? No.  And, as a Christian, it's kind of infuriating feeling as if you are judging my relationship with God by my choice to work.  I get the feeling that you think all women should stay at home, and especially Christian women who should know better than risk someone else raising their child.  Bah.

tiffletons518

@daisyduck40 I totally agree that it was not your typical DIsney musical. The songs were way more classical and orchestral. Which my husband being the band geek he is, he loved it. So much so that he bought the soundtrack, you know.. for the girls

JANCANDANCE

CL8badB said:

JANCANDANCE said:

Carolyn, I mean complains like playing the victim. The whole whoa is me card. Of course complaining is great. I totally agree that this is a great place to vent but at some point put a plan in place to say enough of the same behavior. That doesn't mean leave him. That's all. And yes I'm pissed bc choosing to leave my marriage is weak according to her. Like it was an easy decision to make. Fuck her. I'm done with it.

Are you trying to say that your "be strong" speech in the TOAT wasnt aimed at her? It certainly felt like it was. If Im wrong i apologize.

It was aimed at all the douchecanoe DH as of late and the wives who are dealing with it.

JANCANDANCE

I love that I have a "How to be Strong Speech" )

numbersgirl08

Also, I kind of hate how God and being a Christian is thrown around.  It is an important part of my life and I hate when other people give it a bad name.  It saddens me when someone makes an ignorant statement, claiming Christ, and makes other people automatically defensive.  That's not how all Christians believe or act and I want everyone to know that.

MrsWilson31012

numbersgirl08 said:

@MrsWilson31012

My mom was a working mom and was the strongest woman and strongest Christian and best mom I know.  She showed me that you can be an incredible woman, an amazing mom, and a great employee.  She also showed me that on top of that she can volunteer her time and make a difference in other people's lives as well.  She won awards for her job and won awards for her volunteer activities.  Never once in my life did I feel as if someone else raised me or do I remember thinking she wasn't there for me and wasn't raising me.

I've taken that on in my own life.  I don't know if I can be as amazing as her, but I want to be a similar example to N.  I'm a Christian who has chosen to do my best to follow God's will for my life and I believe that the best right now is for me to work.  Do I need to work?  No.  Do I think it's best for my family.  Absolutely yes.  Do I think that's the right choice for everyone? No.  And, as a Christian, it's kind of infuriating feeling as if you are judging my relationship with God by my choice to work.  I get the feeling that you think all women should stay at home, and especially Christian women who should know better than risk someone else raising their child.  Bah.

I never linked my believe in Christ to my beliefs on SAHM/working moms. If you retread what I said...I said that I believe that God is needed in our Nation, and in marriages.

tiffletons518

Steamboat1679 said:

Oh and men should not wear ear muffs. They look dumb.

My H used to wear the 180s. Those aren't so bad since they lay pretty flat.

BLT20051

Are we really talking about outsourcing child care again? Really?

And fuck the "staying in a marriage takes a strong woman" bullshit. For real. 

numbersgirl08

And on other important topics - 

I HATE peeps with a passion.

I ONLY like smores poptarts but any of the fruity ones are terrible.

I dislike canteloupe.

I don't like Valentines Day - but we do use it as an excuse to go out to a nice dinner (not ON valentines day because that would be miserable).

And men wearing ear muffs - when it is sub-zero then I think it is really ok for them to look dumb and wear them. 

LBeez13

Wow that was a lot! I need a nap now but I'm at work

My UO thoughts:

• I worked hard for my career and want to keep that part of my life by choice.

• I love Cherry poptarts.

• I think marriages are all different just like babies and there is no one right way or wrong way to go about with your marriage. At the end of the day it is YOUR marriage so only you and your husband/wife know the dynamics of your relationship.
• 
  
• I hate peeps BUT I LOOOOVEEE Caramel Cadbury Eggs. 

Lastly....What happened to Mrs. Wilson???? I have been waiting for her to respond to everyone!

LBeez13

Aw man! I just posted and saw that she responded !!! Forget the last part of my post!

numbersgirl08

Steamboat1679 said:

But when it is sub-zero they should wear a hat! Edit Apparently I am very passionate about this.

Haha.  Maybe it's because we're southerners and just moved to a cold climate and a hat isn't warm enough for my hubby so he got some of those special super-warm ear muffs and sometimes looks really dumb and wears both .  We just can't handle the cold!

Lizzybizzy80

libberluru said:

I just can't today... And PS don't we usually start with "I don't think you should wear black tights in the summer" and work up to this bullshit.

I just woke up after three screaming wake ups bc of gas and teething, to get ready to go represent poverty stricken people who don't even respect me, drop my kid off with some strangers to raise him, and this is what I have to read?!

@libberluru you are an amazing mom and the work you do is so important. I could not do it, seriously, and I admire the hell out of you. Your son is very lucky.

I need to remember not to open the UO thread at a red light at the beginning of my commute....to my job, where I work, because I don't care enough to stay home.

Sarcasm.

flerlgirl

I haven't even gotten through page 2 but... I am a Christian. I believe in fighting for your marriage as much as you can. However, the Bible talks about divorce and times when you SHOULD be divorced. I don't think anyone takes ending their marriage lightly, and for most of the cases where I know people who have been/are getting divorced, they have fought long and hard and it just isn't working. 

For the SAHM mom vs WOHM thing... lol. Some days I would cut off my left arm to go to work again. 

Beaslejl

I've read all six pages of this and the only thing I feel like commenting on is....

To make a pop tart not chalky you must toast it. 

I hate the fruit ones, but love the Cinnamon, S'mores, Chocolate, Cookies and Cream, and the new Peanut Butter ones are amazeballs! But I've been adamantly tracking some weight watcher points and they aren't a part of my repertoire as of late.

tiffletons518

kames12 said:

My UO thoughts:

I also hate the whole Christian thing. You do not have to be a Christian to be a good person. My mom wouldn't (and probably still wouldn't) do any due diligence on the guys that she brought home from her Christian singles group. A few we met were okay, but there was some shady characters that we met and that she dated for awhile. My siblings and I still don't really like the guy she has been with for the past 10 years. But at least now all of us are adults and for the most part limit time with her. 

Nobody said you had to be a "christian" to be a good person. Point is, not everyone who says they are a christian are good people. And, not all christians are judgemental jerks either. I choose to life my life and make choices a certain way because I'm a christian. Doesn't make me better than anyone else. Just like I don't judge people who don't believe what I do.

flerlgirl

@KEK1025! What up, girl? I haven't seen you in ages. 

JANCANDANCE

Ya know because I care.

Junemom2013

I only eat chocolate pop tarts. my only complaint about them is that a package of pop tarts comes with 2 tarts. the serving size is for 1. 

DONT PACKAGE THINGS IN 2 AND TELL ME THE INFO IS FOR 1!

tiffletons518

Junemom2013 said:

I only eat chocolate pop tarts. my only complaint about them is that a package of pop tarts comes with 2 tarts. the serving size is for 1. 

DONT PACKAGE THINGS IN 2 AND TELL ME THE INFO IS FOR 1!

Preach

Beaslejl

Junemom2013 said:

I only eat chocolate pop tarts. my only complaint about them is that a package of pop tarts comes with 2 tarts. the serving size is for 1. 

DONT PACKAGE THINGS IN 2 AND TELL ME THE INFO IS FOR 1!

Hence the tracking of weight watcher points.

FunkyPhoenix

I'm going to come here and vent about DH any ol' time I want. Hope that's okay with y'all! I kind of thought that's what this board was for... Of course, I'm not talking about it everyday nor am I talking about huge relationship altering issues. Just the usual pain in the ass crap he does.

tiffletons518

@kames12 The term "christian" does get thrown around pretty willy nilly sometimes. And, it's those folks who give the genuine sweet ones a bad name.

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KEK1025

flerlgirl said:

@KEK1025! What up, girl? I haven't seen you in ages. 

I don't mean to be self-deprecating but are you sure you meant to page me.  I have always kind of been a lurker so didn't think anyone would know/remember me.

MrsWilson31012 for coming on here to post shit and then not explain herself but otherwise no complaints.