Regarding working moms vs SAHM's I think it can be a very subjective conversation: How difficult is your job? How difficult is your baby? How much do you put into your child's learning and development each day? At the end of it I think it's disheartening that we are trying to compete and say one is harder than the other. We are all important and play important roles to our family whatever we are doing! I had a high stress job before staying at home. Outside sales for what could be considered a "luxury service". If I didn't perform I didn't make any money. I honestly feel, for me, staying at home is more difficult bc I have a high need baby and stress about whether I'm giving him enough each day. I also care FAR more about my current boss than my old. I could get a new job, but if I eff my kid up, that is permanent. Him being the best little version of himself is what's most important. In my case, I'm not sure I can offer him everything he needs at home, so I'm choosing to work abd for him to go to daycare. Again, it is different for everyone and as women we should recognize and support all the difficulties instead of play the "I have it harder than you" game.
Oh and national chain pizza sucks. Domino's, Papa John's, Little Cezar's, etc. all crap!
Little ceasers is just gross but papa johns garlic Parmesan bread sticks are awesome!!
Also my keeping it light UO... I think going to the aquarium is better then going to zoo
@Steamboat1679 - Yes! I actually just got my first iphone recently, and I LOVE it! While I still need access to a pc, my iphone is the best phone I ever had, and makes me want to convert my PCs to apples in the future!
Once you go Mac you never go back. I had a Mac before my iPhone and now I can't go back. I got an android tablet and had a hell of a time learning it.
Wow, as if working moms don't have enough guilt.
I guess I'm a terrible mom because I could easily stay at home but I'm going back after my maternity leave.
Why should I give up all my goals and everything I worked so hard for just because I had a baby? This little girl is the centre of our world and will continue to be when I go back to work. The most important thing is that everyone is happy. @Mrswilson you are very ignorant and obviously live a very sheltered life
Late to the party. I had to make a choice. I chose to work now. We have a WONDERFUL daycare/school. I am raising my child and when she is 13 I will quit work and I will continue to raise my child. I will be involved in every part of her life. These are my earning years and I can work now to provide for her later. This was a hard decision but it was the right decision for my family.
I was about to ask @tiffletons518 to be my girlfriend but then she posted that ratchetness about BK chicken sandwiches and it's over. Before it even began. Oh what could have been.....
Regarding working moms vs SAHM's I think it can be a very subjective conversation: How difficult is your job? How difficult is your baby? How much do you put into your child's learning and development each day? At the end of it I think it's disheartening that we are trying to compete and say one is harder than the other. We are all important and play important roles to our family whatever we are doing! I had a high stress job before staying at home. Outside sales for what could be considered a "luxury service". If I didn't perform I didn't make any money. I honestly feel, for me, staying at home is more difficult bc I have a high need baby and stress about whether I'm giving him enough each day. I also care FAR more about my current boss than my old. I could get a new job, but if I eff my kid up, that is permanent. Him being the best little version of himself is what's most important. In my case, I'm not sure I can offer him everything he needs at home, so I'm choosing to work abd for him to go to daycare. Again, it is different for everyone and as women we should recognize and support all the difficulties instead of play the "I have it harder than you" game.
I just want to point out that moms who work feel that same exact pressure to make their kids the best possible versions of themselves on top of having a real boss. I don't think you actually meant otherwise but reading that rubbed me the wrong way a little.
That being said I do agree with your sentiment, I think both gigs are freaking hard and I'm pretty sure I'd end many days in tears if I was a sahm.
I was about to ask @tiffletons518 to be my girlfriend but then she posted that ratchetness about BK chicken sandwiches and it's over. Before it even began. Oh what could have been.....
Dangit! Maybe we can fix this. Who has your favorite French fries?
@tiffletons518 Braum's. But I'm not sure if that's just a Texas thing? They are crispy and crinkly and delicious. But my second favorite are McDonald's, WHEN THEY ARE DONE CORRECTLY. If they are soggy, my day is ruined.
@PinkPuffyHeart2 it sometimes takes awhile to find a counselor that works for you. Growing up I saw a ton of counselors and there were some that were great and others that were horrible. It may take a few before one works for you. Like other people have said, communication is key. And also making sure you both are comfortable in the sessions, this coming from someone who used to get grounded by her mother for what she did or didn't say in the sessions.
Sorry you had to go through that.. My only counseling experience was premarital and she was great but we didn't really get into the deeper issues because that wasn't part of the program. I'm calling around today to find someplace we can go. He said he is willing. so I will be too.
@GingerBabytx No Braum's here. Do you have Rallys or Checkers? I have a serious love for crunchy seasoned fries. McDonald's is my second too. But, I agree. Cannot be soggy.
@GingerBabytx No Braum's here. Do you have Rallys or Checkers? I have a serious love for crunchy seasoned fries. McDonald's is my second too. But, I agree. Cannot be soggy.
Rally's is delicious. Their fries are seriously the best. I really wish we hadn't given up fast food
Here's my silly UO: I am not a fan of the acronym RIP. The meaning of it is fine and sincere, but I think my issue with it is that really the only time I ever saw it used while growing up was on cartoons, where, you know, it was probably used in a joking way, so for some reason, it comes off as childish or insincere in my brain when I see people post things on Facebook like "RIP Nelson Mandela." They have good intentions and that's not my issue; the association in my brain is what is off. I'd rather they just type it out "rest in peace."
It doesn't actually stand for rest in peace though. It stands for requiescat in pace. It amounts to the same thing but I can see preferring one to the other.
i, i, i just, i think, oh fuck it, i'm not riding today's crazy train.
I will say this tho- pop tarts need to be toasted, then you eat all the edges (toasted pop tart edges are their own food group) and then you eat the rest.
Oh and national chain pizza sucks. Domino's, Papa John's, Little Cezar's, etc. all crap!
Little ceasers is just gross but papa johns garlic Parmesan bread sticks are awesome!!
Also my keeping it light UO... I think going to the aquarium is better then going to zoo
Depends on the aquarium or zoo to me. I've been to awesome zoos and aquariums and really rinky-dink ones, so it would depend on the quality of the two being compared.
I never linked my believe in Christ to my beliefs on SAHM/working moms. If you retread what I said...I said that I believe that God is needed in our Nation, and in marriages.
PCOS Dx 12.08 / BFP! 4.22.10 DS1 born 1.4.11 DS2 born 6.19.13
Speaking of zoos, I have a whole new perspective on animals in captivity after watching "Blackfish". Some animals are fine in captivity, but not all.
I saw that documentary too. It was heartbreaking. I wish I knew more about seaworld before. We went there on our honeymoon (romantic eh?) and I really enjoyed it... But not anymore! Poor whales.
As a SAHM im going to weigh in.
Sometimes i feel that J would benefit MORE from daycare. I read a lot of posts on here that make me question whether or not me being home with him every day is the best for him (or myself).
I feel that he'd probably benefit from interacting with other babies and that id benefit mentally by going to work even if its just for a few days a week.
I think I will stop doubting my decision to stay home once we start doing some mommy & me stuff.
Its very hard for me to adjust to not making my own money. I hate feeling bad if i want to buy something.
My hubby tells me that im nuts and just buy what i want/need but im just not built that way. Its a very hard adjustment. I never thought that id doubt my decision to be a sahm but sometimes i do. Im sure that i will work (at least part time) again eventually.
Hope that made sense im half asleep nursing J. Cant wait to see where this thread goes. 10? 15? 20? Pages??
Bat signals going up!?
@cl8badb I've only gotten this far in the thread (which looks like it's going to be a doozy, and I'm way late to the party), but I wanted to drop in and say that I'm having the same concerns although I'm in a slightly different situation.
I work, but my husband is currently a SAHD. Just last night I was thinking how nice it would be if LO could go to DC even just a few days a week because of the interaction he'd get with other kids as well as other adults who work with/entertain/teach kids day in and day out. I keep thinking about the art projects, different toys, different books, etc., that LO is missing out on by being at home.
Obviously there are a lot of positives to LO being at home with his dad all day, but I do wish we could have the best of both worlds because neither way - SAH or DC - is perfect.
@TheTamedShrew I feel bad for all animals in captivity, though (hangs head) I love going to the zoo and the aquarium. BUT Blackfish rocked my world when I saw it. I just felt for that whale so much. Great documentary! Totally worth watching I'd say!!!
@JANCANDANCE I totally expect to find these from H one day. He *gasps* stays home with Lily 3 days a week while I work. He has an odd sense of humor and I imagine that this would happen if he saw this thread.
If I eat a pop tart, it's got to have crispy edges. I eat the edges first, then make my way to the middle.
I eat my Reeses the same, eat all the chocolate off, then save the peanut butter for last.
Same with Snickers, chocolate comes off first...I've got to sort my m&ms by color, I eat the ugly colored ones first, or if I sort them and I have UN even numbered M&ms I eat all the UN evened ones first.
@gavel I agree about the Skittles. I wasn't paying attention when I bought the first green apple bag of Skittles. I'm still angry. Haven't bought any since. Wonder who had that brilliant idea? Jerks.
Re: UO
I'm not new. I just hate The Bump.
I'm not new. I just hate The Bump.
Also my keeping it light UO... I think going to the aquarium is better then going to zoo
CJ 05/29/2013
:: kicked back with my morning coffee watching shit unfold!! I was gonna do my hair and makeup..and go shopping,but this UO takes priority!::
I'm not new. I just hate The Bump.
I work, but my husband is currently a SAHD. Just last night I was thinking how nice it would be if LO could go to DC even just a few days a week because of the interaction he'd get with other kids as well as other adults who work with/entertain/teach kids day in and day out. I keep thinking about the art projects, different toys, different books, etc., that LO is missing out on by being at home.
Obviously there are a lot of positives to LO being at home with his dad all day, but I do wish we could have the best of both worlds because neither way - SAH or DC - is perfect.
I wish @deliahquinn would come out to play.
I eat my Reeses the same, eat all the chocolate off, then save the peanut butter for last.
Same with Snickers, chocolate comes off first...I've got to sort my m&ms by color, I eat the ugly colored ones first, or if I sort them and I have UN even numbered M&ms I eat all the UN evened ones first.
I don't have a UO today... Maybe that's my uo.