Secrets on Saturday

BlondieBia21 · January 2014

We've done this before and I think it was very relieving for people to do.. The board is slow and I'm bored so it's time to share some secrets! What's something no one knows about you?

LEMSA · January 2014

I'm pumping in a bar in the bathroom. Not a huge secret, but i thought y'all might get a laugh.

henderson1026 · January 2014

i just went to get the mail in my bathrobe

LokiLahve · January 2014

Not something that NO ONE knows, but very few people do. I didn't graduate high school. I dropped out my senior year with a 3.9 gpa, aced my GED, and now make more than anyone in my family.
Formal Education isn't always everything...sometimes intelligence can take you just as far.

BlondieBia21 · January 2014

I'm more self-confident and determined to better myself when I'm not in a relationship than when I'm in one. It worries me now that I'm married.

PB102012 · January 2014

I am afraid that most of my sex drive is based on the newness of a person/relationship. My sex drive has taken a dive in every relationship I have had the longer the relationship lasted. It kills me that I have no desire, and I feel like I neglect my husband. He's the most patient man I have ever met, and I try not to ever turn him down, but sometimes I am afraid that he's going to go elsewhere for it because I never initiate it.

kwrecks · January 2014

Every single day, I think about DHs ex wife. I think about how I feel bad that she is alone and I'm in the "marriage" that she thought she would be in for the rest of her life. I also think about how I want to make sure that I am the exact opposite of her and I don't do any of the things that she did that DH told me were reasons it didn't work. I'm terrified that eventually, DH will compare me to her and want to leave me. That might be more of a confession than a secret, but it's not something that I tell people.

Leosmom13 · January 2014

Dh's best friend forced himself on me about 8 years ago while dh and I were just dating. I kicked him in the nuts he backed off immediately and i ran out if there and caught a cab home. I've never told dh or anyone for that matter. Him and his friend are still good friends.

Revez · January 2014

christy32685 said:

I am afraid that most of my sex drive is based on the newness of a person/relationship. My sex drive has taken a dive in every relationship I have had the longer the relationship lasted. It kills me that I have no desire, and I feel like I neglect my husband. He's the most patient man I have ever met, and I try not to ever turn him down, but sometimes I am afraid that he's going to go elsewhere for it because I never initiate it.

I have the same fear.

I know how you feel.

Mine is I don't want my parents to baby sit, ever. I was abused under their care and no matter how much time passes I can not get over it. I don't want my daughter to be exposed to the same crap I was. They won't take it well when I tell them.

Ktbug613 · January 2014

we lost a pregnancy before lo and I feel loke its my fault that i deserved it because i had an abortion when i was a teen. dh knows but no one else and there isnt a day that goes by that im not haunted by it. 10x over now that I have lo

Leosmom13 · January 2014

Zever000 said:

christy32685 said:

I am afraid that most of my sex drive is based on the newness of a person/relationship. My sex drive has taken a dive in every relationship I have had the longer the relationship lasted. It kills me that I have no desire, and I feel like I neglect my husband. He's the most patient man I have ever met, and I try not to ever turn him down, but sometimes I am afraid that he's going to go elsewhere for it because I never initiate it.

I have the same fear.

I know how you feel.

Mine is I don't want my parents to baby sit, ever. I was abused under their care and no matter how much time passes I can not get over it. I don't want my daughter to be exposed to the same crap I was. They won't take it well when I tell them.

I get that! They have lost your trust!and I wouldn't feel bad about telling them.

LJUTCMommy · January 2014

@christy32685 and @zever000
Is it @Ktbug613 who is our resident sexpert? Maybe she has advice or tips?

I still have a hard time separating my Mom body from my sexual body. It's like a mental block for me and bfing certainly doesn't help.

Revez · January 2014

Ktbug613 said:

we lost a pregnancy before lo and I feel loke its my fault that i deserved it because i had an abortion when i was a teen. dh knows but no one else and there isnt a day that goes by that im not haunted by it. 10x over now that I have lo

I know you said you're over it, but please, PLEASE know that you did not deserve to lose a pregnancy. Just speaking from experience, beating yourself up does nothing, no one should have to experience that kind of pain. I'm so glad you have your rainbow baby

Ktbug613 · January 2014

Zever000 said:

christy32685 said:

I am afraid that most of my sex drive is based on the newness of a person/relationship. My sex drive has taken a dive in every relationship I have had the longer the relationship lasted. It kills me that I have no desire, and I feel like I neglect my husband. He's the most patient man I have ever met, and I try not to ever turn him down, but sometimes I am afraid that he's going to go elsewhere for it because I never initiate it.

I have the same fear.

I know how you feel.

Mine is I don't want my parents to baby sit, ever. I was abused under their care and no matter how much time passes I can not get over it. I don't want my daughter to be exposed to the same crap I was. They won't take it well when I tell them.

they should count their lucky stars you even speak to them if you were abused! hugs...I'msorry you had to have that happen to you

Coconuthead · January 2014

I will never let my mother babysit either. While as an adult I can appreciate my mom as a person she is not stable and I would never subject my LO to her issues.

My secret is that my deepest fear as a parent is that I will become some version of her and or my father.

LJUTCMommy · January 2014

@ktbug613 Please don't feel bad. There is nothing that would cause you to deserve a pregnancy loss.

I'm possibly in the minority, but I am extremely pro choice. You shouldn't feel guilty about terminating an unwanted pregnancy. I don't think anyone should.

Ktbug613 · January 2014

Zever000 said:

Ktbug613 said:

we lost a pregnancy before lo and I feel loke its my fault that i deserved it because i had an abortion when i was a teen. dh knows but no one else and there isnt a day that goes by that im not haunted by it. 10x over now that I have lo

I know you said you're over it, but please, PLEASE know that you did not deserve to lose a pregnancy. Just speaking from experience, beating yourself up does nothing, no one should have to experience that kind of pain. I'm so glad you have your rainbow baby

i meant 10x over as in it haunts me so much more now that i have a lo.

Revez · January 2014

Ktbug613 said:

Ktbug613 said:

we lost a pregnancy before lo and I feel loke its my fault that i deserved it because i had an abortion when i was a teen. dh knows but no one else and there isnt a day that goes by that im not haunted by it. 10x over now that I have lo

I know you said you're over it, but please, PLEASE know that you did not deserve to lose a pregnancy. Just speaking from experience, beating yourself up does nothing, no one should have to experience that kind of pain. I'm so glad you have your rainbow baby
i meant 10x over as in it haunts me so much more now that i have a lo.

My bad.

I'm so sorry. Again, you did nothing to deserve a loss. I'm always here to talk to if you need it.

Ktbug613 · January 2014

thank you @ zever000

sfeebs13 · January 2014

KatieS7 said:

I'm bitter...like really bitter. I battle it almost everyday.

I am too, and I don't understand why.

@ktbug613 sending you hugs.

My secret: I feel like a part of me died when I lost my dog, Sydney. She was the dog version of me, the best friend I ever had and she was with me through all of my hard times and battles through addiction. I love abbey, Furbaby 2, she is wonderfully insane, but she isn't Sydney and I don't expect her to be it just seems like half of abbey died along with Sydney. Not because she's sad but they are complete opposites and the half isn't the same without the whole. I hope this feeling passes.

nnikki10 · January 2014

When I was going through my divorce I did a large amount of binge drinking and sleeping around. I know now I had no self esteem and was seeking it through those men. I still regret it. I feel like it tarnished me.

bendicott7 · January 2014

I have zero self confidence.

Ktbug613 · January 2014

@nikki10 your not tarnished we all make mistakes

PB102012 · January 2014

LJUTCMommy said:
@christy32685 and @zever000
Is it @Ktbug613 who is our resident sexpert? Maybe she has advice or tips?

I still have a hard time separating my Mom body from my sexual body. It's like a mental block for me and bfing certainly doesn't help.

I would love some tips!!! My husband would be over the moon if I got my drive back! When I was pregnant I wished so bad that I would be one of the women that had a crazy sex drive, I wasn't.

nnikki10 · January 2014

Thanks @Ktbug614

Cosmic+Love · January 2014

@ktbug613 ::hugs::

My mom worked at night when my little sister and I were growing up-parents were divorced. I was the mom role and I blame myself for her hardships now. I should have done more for her. When I went to college in a different part of the country, she felt like I abandon her. The night I left she laid on the living room floor bawling.

Revez · January 2014

christy32685 said:

@christy32685 and @zever000 Is it @Ktbug613 who is our resident sexpert? Maybe she has advice or tips? I still have a hard time separating my Mom body from my sexual body. It's like a mental block for me and bfing certainly doesn't help.
I would love some tips!!! My husband would be over the moon if I got my drive back! When I was pregnant I wished so bad that I would be one of the women that had a crazy sex drive, I wasn't.

I admitted to a friend of mine that my sex drive was in the dirt, she recommended reading "Fifty Shades of Grey" because that's what fixed hers...

sftbllstr87 · January 2014

@ktbug613 I am so sorry you still feel awful. I went through a similar experience, abortion when I was 17 (secret IRL) suffered from depression for years, self medicated by becoming an alcoholic, tried to commit suicide(secret IRL) then I had DS not planned at all but it made me feel better, it was like god forgave me.. Then after DH and I got married and had the loss I was full of grief that I was being punished again. It's a terrible thing to go through, sending you ((hugs)) feel free to pm me if you ever want to talk/vent

Ktbug613 · January 2014

@christy32685 I dunno about sexpert but i certainly have no shame getting in on the sex topics !

what have you ladies tried to spice things up? maybe its not your drive so much as being bored? we like toys and sexy outfit. I get so excited when we get something new. we have even gone as far as to get dressed uo go out to a bar separately and "pick each other up".

Ktbug613 · January 2014

thank you for all the support ladies

Revez · January 2014

Ktbug613 said:

@christy32685 I dunno about sexpert but i certainly have no shame getting in on the sex topics ! what have you ladies tried to spice things up? maybe its not your drive so much as being bored? we like toys and sexy outfit. I get so excited when we get something new. we have even gone as far as to get dressed uo go out to a bar separately and "pick each other up".

Does lube count?

Caz1221 · January 2014

sfeebs13 said:

KatieS7 said:

I'm bitter...like really bitter. I battle it almost everyday.

I am too, and I don't understand why.

@ktbug613 sending you hugs.

My secret: I feel like a part of me died when I lost my dog, Sydney. She was the dog version of me, the best friend I ever had and she was with me through all of my hard times and battles through addiction. I love abbey, Furbaby 2, she is wonderfully insane, but she isn't Sydney and I don't expect her to be it just seems like half of abbey died along with Sydney. Not because she's sad but they are complete opposites and the half isn't the same without the whole. I hope this feeling passes.

(((Hugs))) I'm so sorry about Sydney. The unconditional love of a pet is such an indescribable blessing and comfort, and losing them is so painful. It takes time to adjust to the new normal - you'll get there eventually.

We lost one of our pups (S) in August when LO was 12 days old. It was totally unexpected and devastating. I still miss him every day and often cry when I think about him, but (and this is my secret) if one of them had to pass when LO was a baby, I'm glad it happened this way. Our remaining pup (T) is fine as an only dog and might actually prefer it (we had him for 3 years before adopting S), but I don't think S would have been ok without a canine buddy, and there is no way we could handle adopting a new dog while LO is so young. I feel so guilty for even thinking that because I would give anything to have S here with us.

JaymeMac · January 2014

I lost my virginity drunk. I barley remember what happened. It makes me feel so horrible...I wish it wouldn't have happened like that. I believe loosing it is something special, I feel robbed of that. Only a couple people know how it happened.

Ktbug613 · January 2014

Zever000 said:

Ktbug613 said:

@christy32685 I dunno about sexpert but i certainly have no shame getting in on the sex topics !

what have you ladies tried to spice things up? maybe its not your drive so much as being bored? we like toys and sexy outfit. I get so excited when we get something new. we have even gone as far as to get dressed uo go out to a bar separately and "pick each other up".

Does lube count?

haha! no! get adventurous

Katie6202 · January 2014

I am sending those who have had losses after an abortion lots of creepy internet hugs.
I also choose an abortion at 21 years old. While I have not personally had a loss, I think about my choice all the time- it was the hardest thing I've ever done in my life. My heart aches for those of you feelin punished. You all (we all) made the right choice for ourselves at that time. There is no punishment in that.

JaymeMac · January 2014

Zever000 said:

christy32685 said:

LJUTCMommy said:
@christy32685 and @zever000
Is it @Ktbug613 who is our resident sexpert? Maybe she has advice or tips?

I still have a hard time separating my Mom body from my sexual body. It's like a mental block for me and bfing certainly doesn't help.
I would love some tips!!! My husband would be over the moon if I got my drive back! When I was pregnant I wished so bad that I would be one of the women that had a crazy sex drive, I wasn't.

I admitted to a friend of mine that my sex drive was in the dirt, she recommended reading "Fifty Shades of Grey" because that's what fixed hers...

I got pregnant after reading those books....so yeah...I can agree with that.

Ktbug613 · January 2014

KatieS7 said:
@Cosmic+Love you can't blame yourself for your mother's hardships. She was the mom, you were the kid. You don't deserve to have that kind of responsibility lumped onto your shoulders, especially not as a kid.

this

Revez · January 2014

@JaymeMac Maybe I should read them then. Hmm. :-?

Marvel1013 · January 2014

I'm not comfortable in my own skin sometimes. I wear makeup RVERYDAY, and it seems to make me feel better about myself.. But I constantly point out the bad things about.. Then, when I'm upset I eat. I'm definitely an emotional eater. It doesn't help that a lot of my past relationships I've been cheated on.. Which then makes me feel like shit, thinking I wasn't good enough. I also had one of my boyfriends constantly tell me I was getting fat, or I wasn't looking to his standards (he didn't think me wearing sweatpants was attractive). I've always felt like I'm not pretty or attractive without makeup now. MH is great though and he does make me feel good. I find myself apologizing for not looking "good", but he tells me I'm beautiful no matter what.

PB102012 · January 2014

@JaymeMac I haven't finished that book! I use to read it at the pool last summer, but never got through it all. DH bought me the second one and I haven't even touched it!

Ktbug613 · January 2014

never read fifty shades

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