Friday Confessions.......

smiles21866 · December 2013

tondraluv said:
@smiles21866 hugs, I'm so sorry it's been rough for you especially with baby A starting to come into his own. I'm mad at your hubs too a little but I do understand about the money.

Thanks so much, I really appreciate it. Baby A wants mommy ALL the time now and even though I love it, it's so hard because I'm very sick. I will send you a PM tomorrow--thanks for the support.

KrisM86 · December 2013

smiles21866 said:

Kate_C said:

smiles21866 said:

farmerpinky said:

smiles21866 said:
My husband is going on OUR week cruise starting Sunday (which my medical doctor advised me not to go because I might need emergency surgery, long story) so I'm going to be with DS allllll week by myself.
Thankfully I got a great chunk of Christmas money and I plan on taking each day he's gone to go to my favorite store(s) and buy something little for myself. I need it more than anything. I'm surprised I'm still alive after everything that's been going on!
He's going without you?

Yes he's going without me and he's going with.....his dad. He said if I had surgery scheduled he wouldn't go. Well my surgeon is out of the office until January 9th so I cannot schedule until then. Knowing my luck, it will end up emergency and he will be out of the country when it happens. I've been crying all day (secretly) because I don't want him to leave and he knows this but he cannot fathom losing his money. So it's just the kiddo and I. I already feel like death so I am so nervous for him to leave! Not to mention, a ball of nerves and crying mess.
I'm sorry. Do you have any family that could stay with you while he's gone? Or your mil while FIL is on the cruise? I understand not wasting money, but couldn't he sell it at a discount or give it away or something? I'm kinda mad at your H about it right now.

Thanks @Kate_C my mom was going to fly down to help but she's in the process of helping my dad open up his new practice. I could fly up there but honestly, I'm too exhausted and don't have the energy to travel. My sister lives here and she's a saint--she works 40 hours a week but will help as much as possible. My MIL is all lovey dovey with A but gives him back to me in 5 minutes. However, our nanny is amazing and my H told me to utilize her as much as I need to. I had 6 major surgeries from 2009-2010 and I wasn't with my H then so he doesn't understand how big of a deal this is. My H works 60-70 hours a week a "needs a vacation" where I'm basically a single mom and he helps when he can. Thanks for asking, it means a lot to me

ETA: there are no excuses for him and I'm not making them. I would just feel better if I had my H here with me.

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I'm so sorry!! MH would NOT be going anywhere if it were likely I'd need emergency surgery, especially a fvcking cruise. WTF??? Just utilize the nanny? Are you kidding me? I'm pretty sure I'd kick MH's ass if he even wanted to run off on a cruise while I was in need of surgery.

Hugs to you. I hope you're okay while he is off enjoying himself.

Meggs2559 · December 2013

AAAHinkley said:
LO spit up all over my pillow, I didn't feel like getting up to change the pillowcase....so I gave SO my pillow and took his. It was dried up before he came to bed.....this is the second time I've done this.

This is hilarious!

MKC12/22/2006 · December 2013

JBDamonM said:

MKC12/22/2006 said:

I told DH not to get me a Christmas present, so he didn't. Not even a card. So, when I go to Target later, I feel pretty justified in picking up something for myself. Lame confession, but that's what I've got today!

I told DH that all I wanted was pajamas. I didn't trust him to get them (on,y because he leaves things to the last minute and then they don't get done or don't get done right). So I ordered myself a pair and told him in advance Santa had sent them. He was offended. I don't really see anything wrong with it. Hahah.

Are we married to the same person?!
:-h

smiles21866 · December 2013

KrisM86 said:

smiles21866 said:

Kate_C said:

smiles21866 said:

farmerpinky said:

smiles21866 said:
My husband is going on OUR week cruise starting Sunday (which my medical doctor advised me not to go because I might need emergency surgery, long story) so I'm going to be with DS allllll week by myself.
Thankfully I got a great chunk of Christmas money and I plan on taking each day he's gone to go to my favorite store(s) and buy something little for myself. I need it more than anything. I'm surprised I'm still alive after everything that's been going on!
He's going without you?

Yes he's going without me and he's going with.....his dad. He said if I had surgery scheduled he wouldn't go. Well my surgeon is out of the office until January 9th so I cannot schedule until then. Knowing my luck, it will end up emergency and he will be out of the country when it happens. I've been crying all day (secretly) because I don't want him to leave and he knows this but he cannot fathom losing his money. So it's just the kiddo and I. I already feel like death so I am so nervous for him to leave! Not to mention, a ball of nerves and crying mess.
I'm sorry. Do you have any family that could stay with you while he's gone? Or your mil while FIL is on the cruise? I understand not wasting money, but couldn't he sell it at a discount or give it away or something? I'm kinda mad at your H about it right now.

Thanks @Kate_C my mom was going to fly down to help but she's in the process of helping my dad open up his new practice. I could fly up there but honestly, I'm too exhausted and don't have the energy to travel. My sister lives here and she's a saint--she works 40 hours a week but will help as much as possible. My MIL is all lovey dovey with A but gives him back to me in 5 minutes. However, our nanny is amazing and my H told me to utilize her as much as I need to. I had 6 major surgeries from 2009-2010 and I wasn't with my H then so he doesn't understand how big of a deal this is. My H works 60-70 hours a week a "needs a vacation" where I'm basically a single mom and he helps when he can. Thanks for asking, it means a lot to me

ETA: there are no excuses for him and I'm not making them. I would just feel better if I had my H here with me.
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I'm so sorry!! MH would NOT be going anywhere if it were likely I'd need emergency surgery, especially a fvcking cruise. WTF??? Just utilize the nanny? Are you kidding me? I'm pretty sure I'd kick MH's ass if he even wanted to run off on a cruise while I was in need of surgery.

Hugs to you. I hope you're okay while he is off enjoying himself.

I know, it's just SO CRAZY that he is still going. Part of me just wants to have surgery while he's gone to get it over with (my mom would fly down). The other half of me cannot wait until tomorrow just so he can go and get it over with. He should know better but apparently he does not. The type of surgery I need is very complicated and serious and even after showing him my CT scans and other radiology scans..he doesn't get it. AND he is a physician himself!

Thanks so much, I appreciate it.. I need hugs now

camdensmom32 · December 2013

smiles21866 said:

KrisM86 said:

smiles21866 said:

Kate_C said:

smiles21866 said:

farmerpinky said:

smiles21866 said:
My husband is going on OUR week cruise starting Sunday (which my medical doctor advised me not to go because I might need emergency surgery, long story) so I'm going to be with DS allllll week by myself.
Thankfully I got a great chunk of Christmas money and I plan on taking each day he's gone to go to my favorite store(s) and buy something little for myself. I need it more than anything. I'm surprised I'm still alive after everything that's been going on!
He's going without you?

Yes he's going without me and he's going with.....his dad. He said if I had surgery scheduled he wouldn't go. Well my surgeon is out of the office until January 9th so I cannot schedule until then. Knowing my luck, it will end up emergency and he will be out of the country when it happens. I've been crying all day (secretly) because I don't want him to leave and he knows this but he cannot fathom losing his money. So it's just the kiddo and I. I already feel like death so I am so nervous for him to leave! Not to mention, a ball of nerves and crying mess.
I'm sorry. Do you have any family that could stay with you while he's gone? Or your mil while FIL is on the cruise? I understand not wasting money, but couldn't he sell it at a discount or give it away or something? I'm kinda mad at your H about it right now.

Thanks @Kate_C my mom was going to fly down to help but she's in the process of helping my dad open up his new practice. I could fly up there but honestly, I'm too exhausted and don't have the energy to travel. My sister lives here and she's a saint--she works 40 hours a week but will help as much as possible. My MIL is all lovey dovey with A but gives him back to me in 5 minutes. However, our nanny is amazing and my H told me to utilize her as much as I need to. I had 6 major surgeries from 2009-2010 and I wasn't with my H then so he doesn't understand how big of a deal this is. My H works 60-70 hours a week a "needs a vacation" where I'm basically a single mom and he helps when he can. Thanks for asking, it means a lot to me

ETA: there are no excuses for him and I'm not making them. I would just feel better if I had my H here with me.
---------

I'm so sorry!! MH would NOT be going anywhere if it were likely I'd need emergency surgery, especially a fvcking cruise. WTF??? Just utilize the nanny? Are you kidding me? I'm pretty sure I'd kick MH's ass if he even wanted to run off on a cruise while I was in need of surgery.

Hugs to you. I hope you're okay while he is off enjoying himself.
I know, it's just SO CRAZY that he is still going. Part of me just wants to have surgery while he's gone to get it over with (my mom would fly down). The other half of me cannot wait until tomorrow just so he can go and get it over with. He should know better but apparently he does not. The type of surgery I need is very complicated and serious and even after showing him my CT scans and other radiology scans..he doesn't get it. AND he is a physician himself!

Thanks so much, I appreciate it.. I need hugs now

Thinking of you! Hope you feel better soon!! Can I ask what you need surgery for??

smiles21866 · December 2013

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I'm so sorry!! MH would NOT be going anywhere if it were likely I'd need emergency surgery, especially a fvcking cruise. WTF??? Just utilize the nanny? Are you kidding me? I'm pretty sure I'd kick MH's ass if he even wanted to run off on a cruise while I was in need of surgery.

Hugs to you. I hope you're okay while he is off enjoying himself.

I know, it's just SO CRAZY that he is still going. Part of me just wants to have surgery while he's gone to get it over with (my mom would fly down). The other half of me cannot wait until tomorrow just so he can go and get it over with. He should know better but apparently he does not. The type of surgery I need is very complicated and serious and even after showing him my CT scans and other radiology scans..he doesn't get it. AND he is a physician himself!

Thanks so much, I appreciate it.. I need hugs now

Thinking of you! Hope you feel better soon!! Can I ask what you need surgery for??

Warning: could be graphic. TL;DR

Thank you! Okay to give you a little background story (I'll try to keep it short).

I had gastric bypass surgery in 2005 when I was 19 years old and when I lived in Illinois. I moved to Florida in 2008 and in 2009 I started experiencing problems with it (constant nausea, throwing up, etc.) and found a bariatric surgeon down here who found out the problem-basically my surgeon from 2005 botched the whole surgery. In 09' I went in a had a revision on my pouch (my stomach is the size of an egg) and I went on my Merry way.
Fast forward to July of 2010 and I was hospitalized for the same issues I had in 09'. I couldn't keep any solid food down and that's when it was decided that I would have a feeding tube put in. I developed something called a fistula (a tunnel or connection betwen two things) and my fistula was between my little stomach and old stomach because they do not remove your old stomach when you have the surgery in case you need it someday. So when I was eating my food would go into my old stomach and just sit there until I would physically get sick. It was very painful. I had surgery in November of 2010 and ended up in the ICU with several blood transfusions and they weren't sure I was going to make it. I spent 20 days in the hospital. In December of 2010 I was rushed into surgery at 2am bc I developed a bowel obstruction and was losing blood supply to my bowels causing them to die. After 10 days I was released home.
My H and I met in May of 11' --5 months after all of that so he never saw me on deaths door.
My fistula has come back and I need surgery to fix it again as I'm in extreme pain and cannot eat without getting sick. They are worried that another obstruction could occur at anytime bc of the amount of scar tissue I have could wrap itself and strangulate the bowel. It's just a ticking time bomb and he doesn't understand.

smiles21866 · December 2013

@cece2862 I completely agree with what you're saying. I don't have the energy left in me anymore to argue with him. I think of my son and THAT is my motivation at the moment. I want to get better for him because he is my world. Yes we will sit down and have a talk as he already does know how I feel. I don't think it will hit him until he's see me in the hospital with tubes, drains, and wires coming out of me. That's probably when reality will set in for him that wow--I needed to be there.

camdensmom32 · December 2013

Wow!! So sorry you have had to go through all of that and continue to have problems!!

camdensmom32 · December 2013

I had a friend who had gastric bypass and within a year or two she was hospitalized because her stomach burst!

smiles21866 · December 2013

christineeberle said:
I had a friend who had gastric bypass and within a year or two she was hospitalized because her stomach burst!

christineeberle said:
Wow!! So sorry you have had to go through all of that and continue to have problems!!

Thanks, it's been quite the journey!
Luckily now a days they are much better at this surgery. 10-30 years ago, not so much. Hope your friend made it out okay! So scary

Aprilbaby49 · December 2013

@smiles21866 I am so sorry to hear about what you've been thru and about all of the complications from your previous surgeries.

I can't believe your husband is a physician and "doesn't get it" - that is just unbelievable! After hearing your story, it is very clear how serious this surgery will be. Any type of abdominal surgery is serious and painful and you need your loved ones there for support. I admire you for being so strong and glad that your LO can be your motivation to get through these tough times. Many T&Ps for a successful surgery and smooth/speedy recovery.

smiles21866 · December 2013

Aprilbaby49 said:
@smiles21866 I am so sorry to hear about what you've been thru and about all of the complications from your previous surgeries.

I can't believe your husband is a physician and "doesn't get it" - that is just unbelievable! After hearing your story, it is very clear how serious this surgery will be. Any type of abdominal surgery is serious and painful and you need your loved ones there for support. I admire you for being so strong and glad that your LO can be your motivation to get through these tough times. Many T&Ps for a successful surgery and smooth/speedy recovery.

Thank you so much, it really means a lot to me. My intention was never to take over the "FFFC" thread. I'm just so hurt and upset. I don't know how I'm going to make it though this week but as always, looking at Alex, I know I can get though it. Thanks for the kind words! They are very much appreciated

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