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July 2014 Moms
FTM Know-It-Alls
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Re: FTM Know-It-Alls
I judge my friend who basically lets her 7 year old pick his bedtime.
That annoys the hell out of me. If the kid is sick or of theirs a reason for it to be up later then 8? Then that's fine. But I will know the difference between being this kids mom and being its friend.
Oh and my kid won't be running around Walmart like a wild animal, that's what grandmas house is for
My guy has severe allergies, we make 3-4 things for him to eat just to avoid food fights, there was a time when we fought, it's so hard to see a failure to thrive child not eat. It works well. there is a good book out there, unless your child has medical food issues, called "how to get your kid to eat but not too much".
I'm personally tired of hearing, just wait until # two shows up. it's a whole new game and how extremely hard it is. It's from one family member in particular. She and husband (the one who wanted a bigger family over just one), have nice quiet office jobs. they have a child that has special needs and is developmentally delayed, still very dependent on them. Apparently with the second, they forgot all the not-fun an infant can be.
I teach...I've been in the inner city, suburbs, teaching infants through high school, in day care, public and private school, plus private classes. My son is 4 and pretty independent, he's a great helper, a little mommy, due to his medical issues, is kind of more responsible then I'd expect a 4 year old to be. I think going to 2 is going to be far easier then going from 0 to 1- that was a shell shock. I'm so excited to have a second chance now with all my son has taught me- I hate winging the first and while I read a ton of books, didn't exactly expect things to be like they were when I actually got there. Kids are my thing- they aren't necessarily HER thing, I wish she'd drop all the doom and gloom around having two!
Also my SIL cannot say no to her kids and lets them back talk and argue with her. It drives me crazy! When I say no, I'll mean it and end the conversation!
Yup! I get parents wanting to be hygienic with their kids and such but it's hard to fight a 2-3 year old from doing what they want. They WILL get dirty and they WILL do what they want. Plus they're some small and quick little devils. They can sneak away from you faster than anything lol you just have to be quick enough to catch em before they do run away and get dirty. But sometimes, you're just like hey....at least they're sitting quietly. So you're grateful lol.
Btw, my daughter liked to moon me and DW when she was 3 -_- toddlers like to do that too. Thank bob she's over that.
My parents did a great job with parenting, but DH's family, however, has showed me exactly how I DON'T want to raise my child. For his parents house, and for his siblings house, life completely and 100% centers around the children and making them happy constantly to the extreme. Heaven forbid they aren't happy, or they actually get punished for doing wrong....instead they tell them "if you do this one more time "x" will happen" about 10 times until they give up and let them do what they want. I love my nieces & nephews, but I hate that I don't really like hanging out with them as much as I probably should just because there is NO discipline what-so-ever. They often yell "no" in their parents faces, hit their parents, etc, when they aren't happy with no punishment. And in the rare case that they do get punished, they immediately start crying and then they get coddled because they are "sad and scared that they get in trouble." The other week we actually had to turn around when we were a few streets away on our way somewhere and go back to their house b/c my nephew wasn't wearing the pair of tennis shoes that he wanted to wear.....so my SIL turned the car around, and he ran inside to change shoes, and THEN we started driving again.
Sorry for the rant, following through with "No" and having children who respect their parents once they definitely are of the age to know better and not in the terrible two's is a HUGE pet peeve of both mine AND DH's! Sadly we live near his family and not mine, so I expect to have numerous issues with his family and them thinking we are too strict, when really we just want to have a little bit of respect from our kids.
Giving a choice of x or y when both are things the parent is ok with is a pretty highly suggested parenting method. Listening to your kids and giving them choices helps them to grow and feel respected and in return respect you. Our preschool teacher even uses this. If the kid says no, you say that's not a choice. If they don't want one of your choices, there is a consequence.
No pacifier past 5 months! We only gave DD one because it reduces risk of SIDS. at 5 months we took it away and she never even noticed. I feel it was the right thing to do for her. HOPING it works for this one.
Also I'm not allowing this one to walk before a year. DD walked at 8 months. It was just terrible. Constantly on the go still a baby so the listening about running away just never took place. Haha I told my husband if you see this kid going for it before a year push it down! ( obviously joking, a little)
My realistic expectation is just to enjoy. You never truly understand how fast it goes by until you have your own child. I feel like even though I'm a SAHM I missed a lot or didn't stop and just enjoy little moments. I try my best to do it now. My number one saying is " the house will be clean later, for now Lucy is awake and ready to play"
I want me and the LO to be so in tune that I can communicate with 'the look'.
My mother never did the screaming and begging in the restaraunt. I got the look and a little pinch on the thigh and I remembered who I had to go home with.
Some of the ones I broke.....the leash, after carrying dd at sea world because it was that or carry/push a screaming toddler, the whole day or have her run from us, doesn't make a vacation very fun. We got her a backpack with a leash and only grabbed the leash when she went to run.
We use Elmo as a last resort at a restaurant, most the time she is good but if it takes to long a melt down is a given, you can't teach them to behave without meltdowns. I must say we watch Elmo everyday and dd is the smartest 1 year old I know, she knows all her colors, animals, shapes, body parts and can count to 10. I don't think it has damaged her brain but again I teach her and she doesn't watch it all day long.
You learn to adapt with what works for your child and what your willing to put up a fight for.
Is there ANY chance I will be able to keep pooping private? Or should I just let DH in the room now to get used to it? Lol
DH has done it thus far, but that's because I'm usually home when he needs to go. Like I said earlier, TV, iPad, etc can distract them for a while, but sometimes if they see mommy is gone, they flip out. And obviously when they're too young for TV/iPad and too big for swing or bouncy (i.e mobile) you just have to pick your poison as biglewzer said. </blockquote
TBH there have been times I have to literally hold my DD while I'm on the toilet. She can be a brat sometimes. TV, iPad, Phone , all the toys ... She doesn't care. She just wants me to hold her.
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Yeah, I'm not saying it has to be used. I just find this to be one thing people judge unnecessarily. We haven't used one yet, but I could see it being practical once we have more than one walking/running child.
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BFP 10/15/13 EDD 06/24/2014 Natural MC 10/23/13
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Yes, I understand this is a popular theory but I think it's BS and leads to self entitled brats. She'll get choices when she can handle them, not when all it does is end in endless bickering and tantrums. I recently spent a week at the beach with a 2 1/2 year old so maybe I'm a little shell shocked.. I believe kids need structure, and to know what to expect.
No. If consumed frequently soda destroys teeth.
Baby teeth have larger pulp chambers where the nerves are. It takes less for a child to experience dental pain than an adult.
I'm a dental hygienist and I see the damage first hand and it is heartbreaking and angers me greatly because it is so preventable.
No. If consumed frequently soda destroys teeth.
Baby teeth have larger pulp chambers where the nerves are. It takes less for a child to experience dental pain than an adult.
I'm a dental hygienist and I see the damage first hand and it is heartbreaking and angers me greatly because it is so preventable.
Really? Fascinating.
Baby teeth have larger pulp chambers where the nerves are. It takes less for a child to experience dental pain than an adult.
I'm a dental hygienist and I see the damage first hand and it is heartbreaking and angers me greatly because it is so preventable.
Really? Fascinating.
Also, see previous comment about feeding then nothing but things heaped with sugar.
I know my DH can't cook and my kid will probably end up eating some frozen waffles but not ones with more powdered sugar and syrup then waffle.
My big one as a FTM was having kids that sat in their chairs and were good at restaurants. Overall they are good. Sometimes our cellphones are lifesavers though. I swore I'd never do it but it may give you the 3 minutes you need to shove your food down while they are occupied.
I also want to make sure they grow up feeling confident and happy and cheerful and polite. I was overweight as a kid but my mom helped me build such a positive self image, and even with kids teasing me I could keep my head up. I want that for my kids.
I also want them to be generally positive. SIL is such a negative person, she is so rarely happy! Most of the time she is a grouch and when she's not, she's just "okay." No thank you.
I would also love to be the mom who feeds her kids super healthy food without them whining about vegetables and the like. FX!