July 2013 Moms

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  • I judged a lady hard yesterday when she said she has only been in a bookstore three times in her life and once was recently. She also does not go to the library. She is a dc provider and has two children of her own. I feel bad for her kids.

     

    Quote box fail.  I hate reading and I don't have a library card.  However we have a ton of books at our house for the kids and I read them regularly.  None of which were purchased at a bookstore.  Maybe don't judge so hard. 

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  • I'm with everyone on the napping, it's now usually a daily nap total of about an hour, broken up into tiny pieces!!! And then when she does go down I feel like I have to sit quietly and not move or she will wake up....

    My fffc: we took the kids to see Santa last night and then got some yummy desserts.... I am currently eating leftover rum and egg nog cheesecake for breakfast.....I figure I will burn off the calories next week while the kids are off school and driving me bat shir crazy!!!!!

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  • casey78 said:

    My sorries, @maryannespier. You are a strong, strong woman.

    Yeah, that's the thing though, is I don't feel that? This is NOT me fishing for compliments, just saying that I got dealt a pretty easy hand compared to some folks I know, and some folks on this board, and I still feel like there are times when I really can't handle it. I feel like a schmoe when I complain because really? My kid just doesn't nap well and I'm up a lot at night. It could be worse.
    I feel the EXACT same way! Riley is sooooooo good and easy when meeting people or playing or once we get somewhere. She's just really chill and easy going, @etoille has seen this. But sleeping? Dear god it's bad! But no where near anything serious or health related!
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  • This reminded me that I need to shave.oops. I've also never been to Disney world/land but would really like to! And now I want cookies for breakfast :(
    My FFFC: I kinda wanted I to just be me, DH and Jae for Xmas. Doesn't look like that's happening!


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  • And, more after I put the kids down for a nap, esp for you maryannespier!
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  • I sympathize with the burnt out feelings also! This mom stuff isn't easy. H is having trouble putting LO to sleep (naps and bed) for whatever reason- and now I feel like I never get a break!

    My FFFC- I never put any Christmas decorations up at my house. We are on our way to my parents so I figured why bother getting it all out?
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  • ceechieceechie member
    edited December 2013
    FFFC: I have both twins sleeping in their cribs for naps.
    Eta: it's a miracle. This like never ever happens. And my 2 yo is sitting outside their door playing an Elmo guitar. Damn it.
  • elyse05elyse05 member
    edited December 2013
    I believe that having dogs did help prepare me for having kids. I know people saying that is pretty much everyone's pet peeve and they find it ridiculous. But for me it was true. Obvs having a kid is way different but with our [special needs, severe anxiety, health issues] rescue, my partner and I learned how to negotiate care taking, differences in opinion of how to approach something, navigating how one of us can be available at all times (in the beginning) while still doing the normal activities of daily living etc.
    This.  I laughed when ppl would tell DH and I about changing diapers. Ppl loved teasing DH about diapers for some reason, like "Just wait until you change your first poopy diaper!" Yeah, after scrubbing dog diarrhea and vomit out of carpet at 2AM, I think we can handle changing a diaper.

    But, my SIL saying her pup was more work than a baby- that's just cray-cray. You can put a dog in a crate and go to the bar if you need to.


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  • fabk said:

    I judged a lady hard yesterday when she said she has only been in a bookstore three times in her life and once was recently. She also does not go to the library. She is a dc provider and has two children of her own. I feel bad for her kids.

     

    Quote box fail.  I hate reading and I don't have a library card.  However we have a ton of books at our house for the kids and I read them regularly.  None of which were purchased at a bookstore.  Maybe don't judge so hard. 

    Ya this woman runs a day care and doesn't have any books in the house for her kids or the day care kids. That I am judging. Not the fact that she doesn't like reading.
  • Speaking of being burnt out - yeah. I feel that. Everyone said it got easier at three months, then four months, now everyone says six months. I'm so done with the nap drama and the no sleep, but I keep slogging through because I'm a mom and that's what moms do. @stina2012 said something a few days ago about wanting to take a melon baller to her brain every time she has to put Riley down for a nap and that's how I feel. I've tried getting him to sleep earlier and later. I've tried putting him down drowsy and asleep. Nothing keeps him from yelling like I'm torturing him. I love this kid but it has to fucking stop or I'm going to lose my shit. I'm more frustrated today because I thought we had turned a corner yesterday & the day before with some much easier nap times but today has just been more of the nap drama.
    This is the story of my life with my first kid. Everyone kept giving me these magical times when it would get better - colic/fussiness peaks at 6 weeks! 3 months was a real turn around! Getting through the 4MW made all the difference! My kid was a different baby after 6 mo! Once she went to two naps they finally started being longer naps instead of the 30 minute catnaps! 

    It actually made things so much harder for me because NONE of that was true for us, so I felt like such a failure, because I was fast becoming the only person I knew with a high needs shitty sleeper. I kept wanting things to be different and holding out for some special time when this shit would end and I could feel like a reasonable facsimile of a normal person again. The no sleep was HARD. The crap naps were HARD. The constant fussy clinginess was hard. You have all my sympathies because I know how wretched it was for me. I had the added bonus of extreme guilt because here I was with the baby I'd worked SO hard for, for YEARS, and I wasn't enjoying every second of motherhood like I thought I should, or like I thought everyone else was.

    The good news for you is that EVERYONE told me that things got better for them around 6/7 months and/or when their kid went to 2 naps. We were just special in that 6/7 months happened to be the peak of it all for us, and catnapping continued well past the 2 nap transition, until almost a year. BUT from all accounts, this is basically freakishly abnormal, so there's a lot of hope for you that it will improve faster! For us, things got better when we sleep trained at 7 months, then better again when he was independently mobile (crawling) at 8 months, then everything shifted MAJORLY when his naps lengthened around 11.5 months (on their own). 

    (((hugs!!)))
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  • edited December 2013
    elyse05 said:
    But, my SIL saying her pup was more work than a baby- that's just cray-cray. You can put a dog in a crate and go to the bar if you need to.

    Normally I'd agree with this but that was not the case for us for the first 6 months that we had our dog. He had been kicked down several flights of stairs in a crate, repeatedly, so we did not crate him at all. And he couldn't be left a lone at all. We had to carry him into the bathroom when we peed.

    I would definitely say that our first dog was more work than our second baby, without question. Our second dog was a lot easier, our first kid was a lot harder, but yeah, I think it's totally possible for a dog to be more work than a baby, at least for a period of time.
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  • Rmnam1 said:
    FFFC: I cried watching the end of Turbo with my son yesterday. I blame post-pregnancy hormones and the fact that I need to get out more! DH ended up having to go back to Ohio for 4 days for a funeral and a part of me is wishing I had given him the 12 lays of Christmas because it would've become only 8 days! I ate cookies for breakfast...I justify it by telling myself I'm just trying to keep a pace so that they're all gone the day after Christmas. I sympathize with you ladies, I'm feeling very burnt out too. I feel like I'm not bringing my A game to the parenting thing recently. Just trying to survive the day. I'm hoping the holidays will get me out of my funk.

    Nothing wrong with the tears. I cry at the price is right. Truth. Second price is right mention today. Winning.
  • elyse05 said:
    But, my SIL saying her pup was more work than a baby- that's just cray-cray. You can put a dog in a crate and go to the bar if you need to.

    Normally I'd agree with this but that was not the case for us for the first 6 months that we had our dog. He had been kicked down several flights of stairs in a crate, repeatedly, so we did not crate him at all. And he couldn't be left a lone at all. We had to carry him into the bathroom when we peed.

    I would definitely say that our first dog was more work than our second baby, without question. Our second dog was a lot easier, our first kid was a lot harder, but yeah, I think it's totally possible for a dog to be more work than a baby, at least for a period of time.
    Yup. My kid is hard right now. But no where near as hard as my dog those first six months. 
    Also when people say "oh you can just stick your dog in a crate" that is crap. 
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  • P.S. Thank you for the concern. That came out a lot bitchier than I had planned!
  • Shaving takes so much time! I've opted lately to do 1/2 my legs at a time. I'm a mess & I know it :)

    my fffc: It's the end of the semester today & this is the only time my seniors care about their grades. It kills me.I tell them at the beginning of the semester that effort & respect go a long way. So the kid that ended with a 64 that was respectful & a good kid, I passed. The kid that was a total douche canoe that ended with a 64, failed.

    Also, I have only eaten chocolate today. All. day.

    Me too.. Or I'll do one leg and then the other in a different shower.. It's funny because I really only shave my legs like once every couple weeks to a month.  :)  Sometimes I even have to do the bits in sections. It's sad.  ;)
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