UO

pistolpackinmomma · December 2013

ErBear1010 said:
I can't stand the huge headbands on little babies with flowers/bows the size of the poor child's head. Also, ain't NOBODY got time to coordinate bows with outfits every single day.

Bows for special occasions ok but please keep the child's head size in mind. I don't understand putting a headband on your kid every single day. Then again I don't even brush my hair every day....

JessElam · December 2013

ykristos said:

I let my pup sleep on my bed and I don't think it's gross. People seem to be really passionately against it, but he gets bathed often, I change the sheets frequently, and he's the best damn snuggler I've ever met.

So do we...both of them. We have a rat terrier and a blue heeler and they both sleep with us. (Except for the past three nights where they were banished to their kennels because this momma needed some uninterrupted sleep for a change! Love sleeping with my pups though. Since I've been pregnant our terrier has stayed snuggled up next to me under her blanket. We have a king size bed and DH and I sleep on separate sides of the bed with both dogs in the middle. Wouldn't have it any other way!

83edwards · December 2013

I hate that today seems like a repeat. I never thought anyone would make me miss CPS for stopping smoking lady....

sthomas1222 · December 2013

awc1986 said:

jane8188 said:

awc1986 said:

My UO this week:

I think doulas are completely and utterly pointless. Why the hell do you need to employ someone to act as a go-between during your birth? Put your big girl pants on and deal with it yourself. When it gets to the point that all you can do is yell at people, get your birth partner to talk to the doc. I think doulas are just a waste of time and are generally hired by the kind of people who like to act as though they're the only person on the planet to give birth.

Your doctor comes in the room to check on you like once. My husband is not trained is childbirth and pain management techniques, I know people give birth all the time, but I love my doula. If she weren't there I would have had a lot harder time. My son was sunny side up and back labor is ridiculous, my midwife just pushed me to get an epidural and had no plan to tell me he was ssu. My doula did and we did exercises to get him to flip and he did. I went from being stalled at a 2 for about 10 hours ( my labor started with my water breaking) to having the baby out with in a few hours. She was worth the small fee I had to pay. I switched midwives after that but I am still having my doula again. If someone would have said to me during labor to put my big girl pants on I would have slapped them. Labor fucking hurts.

I'm happy with DH and my dad being at the hospital when i give birth and they have given birth to a total of 0 children between them. We have been giving birth for thousands of years without paying people to help us with "exercises" and, forgive me for being optimistic but i'm going to trust the dr's and midwives to look after me on the big day. My birth plan is and will remain "get the fucker out of me". As long as it's safe, I don't mind how it's delivered. My body is not as important as my baby's at that point, so if the Dr needs to tear me open in some way for the benefit of my child, so be it. I have a feeling that if someone i was paying way trying to get me to do exercises and listen to whale song, i'd rip her fucking face off. I come from a family with a heck of a lot of women in it and they have all given birth to multiple healthy children without the help of a doula. I'll be fine.

While I would never turn down a client wanting an epidural they are not the ones usually trying to hire a doula. They're the ones wanting a low intervention birth. So, this person's experience is exactly why a doula is so important. Without that doula suggesting positions to flip baby she very well may have ended in a c/s which obviously wasn't necessary since position changes helped. And you're assuming your doctor is "tearing you open" for a legit reason not just b/c it's his "routine" to cut everyone regardless of real need. But by all means let him do whatever he thinks us necessary.

pistolpackinmomma · December 2013

83edwards said:
I hate that today seems like a repeat. I never thought anyone would make me miss CPS for stopping smoking lady....

I'm all for a good flaming when needed but I'm ready for this one to just end already.

JessElam · December 2013

ErBear1010 said:

I can't stand the huge headbands on little babies with flowers/bows the size of the poor child's head. Also, ain't NOBODY got time to coordinate bows with outfits every single day.

I would have totally agreed with you before I had my son because I've never been "girly" at all. Now, I'm really hoping I have a girl because I have eyeballed so many adorable little dresses and outfits that I am just dying to be able to buy. I NEED to shop for a girl! I do totally agree with not having bows bigger than their heads. But I have seen so many adorable small bows that are perfect.

btcruiserlove · December 2013

I really can't stand it when people narrarate their entire day and corresponding feelings on Facebook. "At the grocery store...feeling annoyed" I also dispise when they check in at every location.

ykristos · December 2013

@JessElam -- My dog starts at the end of the bed each night and somehow winds up in between us each morning (which drives my partner just a bit crazy). He creeps up in stages, it's hilarious.

pistolpackinmomma · December 2013

JessElam said:

ErBear1010 said:

I can't stand the huge headbands on little babies with flowers/bows the size of the poor child's head. Also, ain't NOBODY got time to coordinate bows with outfits every single day.

I would have totally agreed with you before I had my son because I've never been "girly" at all. Now, I'm really hoping I have a girl because I have eyeballed so many adorable little dresses and outfits that I am just dying to be able to buy. I NEED to shop for a girl! I do totally agree with not having bows bigger than their heads. But I have seen so many adorable small bows that are perfect.

I've eyeballed lots of cute clothes but headbands will be (and I reserve the right to change my mind) saved for special occasions and pictures. Trips to Walmart when you are in sweats yourself do not warrant a headband.

buggywhips · December 2013

As soon as H leaves for work in the morning, one of the dogs is on the bed. She keeps my toes warm.

I love my chiro and am excited to see him this weekend. He's also worked on M before, the first time M was like 5 month. He (Miles) giggled the whole time. He also does my horses.

M was sunny side up as well and after 16 hours of back labor I got the epidural. My L&D nurse did what she could with me being essentially paralyzed from the waist down to get him to turn. You'd be surprised at how well a husband does....I fully expected mine to be a wreck (he doesn't like blood) but he pulled through like a champ. Held a leg, watched the entire birth (I don't think I could even do that), and cut the umbilical cord. No doula needed! But TETO!

I am currently incapable of thinking of any UO of my own. All I can think about is the vomit covered car seat in my foyer that needs to be washed.

:-& :-&

hfooter · December 2013

Well shit. Looks like I missed a ton yesterday!

RedInLove · December 2013

With the Siggy issue, we or someone on this board regularly needs to be able to make threads sticky at the top. I asked a while back to have a post I made with a good siggy tutorial made into a sticky, and it wasn't. I don't khow how to do it, I'm assuming a mod is needed. If we could sticky the siggy thread for the few days it was needed, and then unsticky it when we were done, that would help! I've missed some of them before as well.

spacepotatoes · December 2013

RedInLove said:

With the Siggy issue, we or someone on this board regularly needs to be able to make threads sticky at the top. I asked a while back to have a post I made with a good siggy tutorial made into a sticky, and it wasn't. I don't khow how to do it, I'm assuming a mod is needed. If we could sticky the siggy thread for the few days it was needed, and then unsticky it when we were done, that would help! I've missed some of them before as well.

I've been wondering about the mod situation, actually. Maybe it is time we got ourselves one of those. Especially since the crazies insist on hanging around.

buggywhips · December 2013

Oohh I love gambling, too! My problem is when I'm in a casino I HAVE to have a drink in my hand, and once I start drinking then I HAVE to have a cigarette. It's just something about a Vegas casino that brings out the worst in me...

I finally have an original UO: I hate the word "panties", especially when posted on FB about ones toddler. It just sounds so pedophile. I have 2 FB friends that are sisters who are potty training their little girls right now and all they post are pics of their girls in their underwear or sitting on the potty. Then they say things like "So and so didn't wet in her panties today!" It just sounds so gross to me. Gives me the heebie jeebies.

JessElam · December 2013

pistolpackinmomma said:

ErBear1010 said:

I can't stand the huge headbands on little babies with flowers/bows the size of the poor child's head. Also, ain't NOBODY got time to coordinate bows with outfits every single day.

I would have totally agreed with you before I had my son because I've never been "girly" at all. Now, I'm really hoping I have a girl because I have eyeballed so many adorable little dresses and outfits that I am just dying to be able to buy. I NEED to shop for a girl! I do totally agree with not having bows bigger than their heads. But I have seen so many adorable small bows that are perfect.
I've eyeballed lots of cute clothes but headbands will be (and I reserve the right to change my mind) saved for special occasions and pictures. Trips to Walmart when you are in sweats yourself do not warrant a headband.

HAHA!! Okay yes, I totally agree with that!

sparklingdiamond · December 2013

My UO is that I just find the Elf on the Shelf creepy and wouldn't want him in my house! But then again, dolls in general are scary to me! (Not like Barbie dolls though).

Christinaruth74 · December 2013

Oh another UO of mine: when people mercilessly post pictures of all things camouflage. Really? You really want that comforter and pillow cases with the smaller decorative pillows and window trim ALL IN THE SAME PATTERN. Oh, and that wedding dress idea is both unforgettable and totally regrettable. Oh- and you want that camo purse too to match your camo outfit? And maybe that camo diaper bag for your camo baby will look awesome too.

awc1986 · December 2013

Christinaruth74 said:

Oh another UO of mine: when people mercilessly post pictures of all things camouflage. Really? You really want that comforter and pillow cases with the smaller decorative pillows and window trim ALL IN THE SAME PATTERN. Oh, and that wedding dress idea is both unforgettable and totally regrettable. Oh- and you want that camo purse too to match your camo outfit? And maybe that camo diaper bag for your camo baby will look awesome too.

I always wonder how they'd ever find their things? I mean, if they're camouflage then how do they know where they are? :-?

yvanehtnioj · December 2013

busterbeagle said:

I'm pretty sure a man wearing a baby makes ovaries of all kinds swell with desire.

LOL for sure! It says "My dick works, and I care & provide for my offspring." YESSS please

Christinaruth74 · December 2013

Exxxxactly. When I see those freaking bedroom sets my eyes go batty trying to distinguish each piece.

And, NEWSFLASH: no one thinks you're a hunter now.

dollface777 · December 2013

I feel really bad that my innocent post about my beautiful daughter being a picky eater (she had a fever last night, that's why she wasn't eating. She was getting sick... poor thing) turned into something so big and ugly.

sorry, fellow bumpies. I might take a hiatus from the BMB until this mess kinda clears up.

DD is feeling much better this morning and ate her oatmeal. Thanks for those who posted constructive feedback and gave me some good ideas to try for the future.

83edwards · December 2013

dollface777 said:

I feel really bad that my innocent post about my beautiful daughter being a picky eater (she had a fever last night, that's why she wasn't eating. She was getting sick... poor thing) turned into something so big and ugly. sorry, fellow bumpies. I might take a hiatus from the BMB until this mess kinda clears up. DD is feeling much better this morning and ate her oatmeal. Thanks for those who posted constructive feedback and gave me some good ideas to try for the future.

Mess over....she was banned!

busterbeagle · December 2013

dollface777 said:

I feel really bad that my innocent post about my beautiful daughter being a picky eater (she had a fever last night, that's why she wasn't eating. She was getting sick... poor thing) turned into something so big and ugly. sorry, fellow bumpies. I might take a hiatus from the BMB until this mess kinda clears up. DD is feeling much better this morning and ate her oatmeal. Thanks for those who posted constructive feedback and gave me some good ideas to try for the future.

Please don't feel bad. I feel horrible for you that your innocent and genuine question got highjacked by an evil troll (who is now banned, BTW). I'm glad your DD is feeling better! Having a sick baby and feeling like you can't do anything to fix it is so hard.

ykristos · December 2013

dollface777 said:

I feel really bad that my innocent post about my beautiful daughter being a picky eater (she had a fever last night, that's why she wasn't eating. She was getting sick... poor thing) turned into something so big and ugly. sorry, fellow bumpies. I might take a hiatus from the BMB until this mess kinda clears up. DD is feeling much better this morning and ate her oatmeal. Thanks for those who posted constructive feedback and gave me some good ideas to try for the future.

@dollface777 -- I'm sure you're getting constant notifications and that post is circulating everywhere-- must be crazy and it sucks that your thread got so unbelievably derailed. Hope your DD continues feeling better.

sisterjanet · December 2013

awc1986 said:

I'm happy with DH and my dad being at the hospital when i give birth and they have given birth to a total of 0 children between them. We have been giving birth for thousands of years without paying people to help us with "exercises" and, forgive me for being optimistic but i'm going to trust the dr's and midwives to look after me on the big day. My birth plan is and will remain "get the fucker out of me". As long as it's safe, I don't mind how it's delivered. My body is not as important as my baby's at that point, so if the Dr needs to tear me open in some way for the benefit of my child, so be it. I have a feeling that if someone i was paying way trying to get me to do exercises and listen to whale song, i'd rip her fucking face off. I come from a family with a heck of a lot of women in it and they have all given birth to multiple healthy children without the help of a doula. I'll be fine.

Oh, oh my goodness. Ew. I was like "ok, different point of view from mine, reading along to see where this is going" (I don't plan to have a doula but do have a birth plan) and then "tear me open in some way." I have a really visual imagination, and that is some seriously squicky imagery.

That said, I very much hope you don't need to be opened like a candy wrapper to deliver your baby. Good luck.

Empireceo · December 2013

Who banned her? Was there a particular comment that put it over the edge? You know, besides the obvious.

busterbeagle · December 2013

Empireceo said:

Who banned her? Was there a particular comment that put it over the edge? You know, besides the obvious.

I suspect it was an act of God.

spacepotatoes · December 2013

yvanehtnioj said:

busterbeagle said:

I'm pretty sure a man wearing a baby makes ovaries of all kinds swell with desire.

LOL for sure! It says "My dick works, and I care & provide for my offspring." YESSS please

That just made LOL for real.

momthatlifts · December 2013

My UO is that I feel like I have completely fallen behind after seeing a lot of posts about cribs, bedding, and nurseries... All I have gotten for my LO is a onesie

dp1320 · December 2013

ykristos said:

I let my pup sleep on my bed and I don't think it's gross. People seem to be really passionately against it, but he gets bathed often, I change the sheets frequently, and he's the best damn snuggler I've ever met.

Same - I couldn't sleep without my (2) 60 lb boxers in bed every night. Admittedly, before becoming a dog owner I thought it was disgusting - but now they're my baaaabies

ETA: we actually bought a bigger bed when we got the second one to make room for her...

ajsweeton · December 2013

TheBeeCharmer said:

JessElam said:

I'm shocked that no one has started this already...I'll go first.

I promise I'm not a totally insensitive bitch, but it really bothers me when people become so consumed with a celebrity death. We have heard so much about the Paul Walker death - people hanging out at the accident scene, countless reports on what exactly happened, cause of death (which seems pretty obvious to me). It's not just with this death either - when that guy from Glee died from a drug overdose people were crying, etc. I understand that they are fans of said actors, but I don't understand becoming so consumed with an actor that you become emotionally invested in them and what happens to them. There are so many people in our communities who should be looked up to - many of these actors who have fans who idolize them are pretty f'd up people (not necessarily speaking of Paul Walker, just in general).

And then to piggy back off of that, the media just glorifies these events. Any type of tragedy that happens, the media exploits it so damn much. I know we are coming up on the Sandy Hook killings and I am really dreading how the media is going to exploit the families of those poor babies. Believe me, I cried like a baby when it happened and in the days after because I couldn't help but imagine my own child in that situation. It's a parent's worst nightmare. I just hate how the media really just turns everything tragic into a circus. Let the people mourn without a microphone and camera in their face.

Wow...that became much longer than I expected. Sorry!

Me too. When Paul Walker died (not that it wasn't sad) I was thinking about all the other losses of life that occur that no one even mentions.

There was a post on the loss board that really brought home to me how ridiculous the obsession with celebrity deaths are. There were pictures on fb (that I'm sure weren't Paul Walker, but were very disturbing) and the OP made reference to how she couldn't post about her baby on fb because it wasn't socially acceptable and yet he was all over fb. It is sad that I worry about offending people by posting pictures of my beautiful boys, while others are putting crap about some actor who was most likely in a vehicle not obeying traffic laws and died.

awc1986 · December 2013

awc1986 said:

I'm happy with DH and my dad being at the hospital when i give birth and they have given birth to a total of 0 children between them. We have been giving birth for thousands of years without paying people to help us with "exercises" and, forgive me for being optimistic but i'm going to trust the dr's and midwives to look after me on the big day. My birth plan is and will remain "get the fucker out of me". As long as it's safe, I don't mind how it's delivered. My body is not as important as my baby's at that point, so if the Dr needs to tear me open in some way for the benefit of my child, so be it. I have a feeling that if someone i was paying way trying to get me to do exercises and listen to whale song, i'd rip her fucking face off. I come from a family with a heck of a lot of women in it and they have all given birth to multiple healthy children without the help of a doula. I'll be fine.

Oh, oh my goodness. Ew. I was like "ok, different point of view from mine, reading along to see where this is going" (I don't plan to have a doula but do have a birth plan) and then "tear me open in some way." I have a really visual imagination, and that is some seriously squicky imagery.

That said, I very much hope you don't need to be opened like a candy wrapper to deliver your baby. Good luck.

Lol, i agree the imagery isn't the best. I just wanted to purvey that in a state of emergency, it really doesn't matter to me how they get bebeh out and I don't want to waste time with a doula's suggestions if my LO's life or my life are at risk. To me it seems like a waste of money, an extra body who will get in the way and the potential for a crazy amount of crossed wires. I'd like the communication between myself and the person who is about to catch my baby to be a little more direct.

Christinaruth74 · December 2013

busterbeagle said:

Empireceo said:

Who banned her? Was there a particular comment that put it over the edge? You know, besides the obvious.

I suspect it was an act of God.
I'm dead. =D>

Ok I'll say it. @busterbeagle you are my TB crush. And if today was Wednesday, you would totes be my #WCW.

busterbeagle · December 2013

Christinaruth74 said:

Empireceo said:

Who banned her? Was there a particular comment that put it over the edge? You know, besides the obvious.

I suspect it was an act of God.
I'm dead. =D> Ok I'll say it. @busterbeagle you are my TB crush. And if today was Wednesday, you would totes be my #WCW.

Do you still love me even though I have no idea what WCW is?

pistolpackinmomma · December 2013

83edwards said:

dollface777 said:

I feel really bad that my innocent post about my beautiful daughter being a picky eater (she had a fever last night, that's why she wasn't eating. She was getting sick... poor thing) turned into something so big and ugly. sorry, fellow bumpies. I might take a hiatus from the BMB until this mess kinda clears up.

DD is feeling much better this morning and ate her oatmeal. Thanks for those who posted constructive feedback and gave me some good ideas to try for the future.

Mess over....she was banned!

Really??? Seriously??? Yippee!! Merry Christmas Y'all!

Ziegeficker · December 2013

awc1986 said:

My UO this week:

I think doulas are completely and utterly pointless. Why the hell do you need to employ someone to act as a go-between during your birth? Put your big girl pants on and deal with it yourself. When it gets to the point that all you can do is yell at people, get your birth partner to talk to the doc. I think doulas are just a waste of time and are generally hired by the kind of people who like to act as though they're the only person on the planet to give birth.

I really, really disagree. Also, that is NOT why women hire doulas. Not trying to sound snarky, but wait until you give birth to talk about how women need to put their "big girl panties" on. And maybe your husband is knowledgeable about natural pain management and is cool under pressure, but many are not. Also, many husbands need to eat, pee, and rest...having someone to step in while he is away or get him food is amazing. Seriously, though, my labor was 37 hours long...I was scared...I was frustrated...I was in pain...I didn't hire a doula because I wanted someone to wait on me hand and foot. I hired her for the support I knew I needed to get through it all despite having read every book out there on the subject. And I am hiring her again.

Christinaruth74 · December 2013

busterbeagle said:

Christinaruth74 said:

busterbeagle said:

Empireceo said:

Who banned her? Was there a particular comment that put it over the edge? You know, besides the obvious.

I suspect it was an act of God.
I'm dead. =D>

Ok I'll say it. @busterbeagle you are my TB crush. And if today was Wednesday, you would totes be my #WCW.

Do you still love me even though I have no idea what WCW is?

Even more so.
Your naivety is endearing. Woman Crush Wednesday.

Empireceo · December 2013

Ziegeficker said:

awc1986 said:

My UO this week:

I think doulas are completely and utterly pointless. Why the hell do you need to employ someone to act as a go-between during your birth? Put your big girl pants on and deal with it yourself. When it gets to the point that all you can do is yell at people, get your birth partner to talk to the doc. I think doulas are just a waste of time and are generally hired by the kind of people who like to act as though they're the only person on the planet to give birth.

I really, really disagree. Also, that is NOT why women hire doulas. Not trying to sound snarky, but wait until you give birth to talk about how women need to put their "big girl panties" on. And maybe your husband is knowledgeable about natural pain management and is cool under pressure, but many are not. Also, many husbands need to eat, pee, and rest...having someone to step in while he is away or get him food is amazing. Seriously, though, my labor was 37 hours long...I was scared...I was frustrated...I was in pain...I didn't hire a doula because I wanted someone to wait on me hand and foot. I hired her for the support I know I needed to get through it all despite having read every book out there on the subject. And I am hiring her again.

All of this. Also, my husband doesn't have a uterus or vagina. No matter how supportive he is (and he is!) it is just nice to be there with someone who is both knowledgeable about the medical/technical aspect as well as from a personal standpoint, and is not there for any other reason than to be your advocate. Also, my doula will be coming for a few weeks postpartum to help around the house and help with my son until I get the hang of having 2 kids. I don't have family close by so this will be a lifesaver for me.

awc1986 · December 2013

May I add another UO?

Professional maternity and labour photo shoots make me cringe. I get that people like to keep the photos to show their baby in the future, but the set ups of some of the maternity shoots i've seen are just so cheesy. I much prefer natural, candid snapshots of your growing bump to staged, awkward-looking photoshoots. Esp when people have them done at like, 8 weeks. What's the point? Oh and nude ones! No thanks! And labour photoshoots? Sorry, but that is at the bottom of my priority list when i'm pushing this kid out. My wedding shoot was exhausting enough, so i don't know why anyone would want to do that, legs akimbo and sweating like a hog.

pistolpackinmomma · December 2013

awc1986 said:
May I add another UO?

Professional maternity and labour photo shoots make me cringe. I get that people like to keep the photos to show their baby in the future, but the set ups of some of the maternity shoots i've seen are just so cheesy. I much prefer natural, candid snapshots of your growing bump to staged, awkward-looking photoshoots. Esp when people have them done at like, 8 weeks. What's the point? Oh and nude ones! No thanks! And labour photoshoots? Sorry, but that is at the bottom of my priority list when i'm pushing this kid out. My wedding shoot was exhausting enough, so i don't know why anyone would want to do that, legs akimbo and sweating like a hog.

I enjoyed my maternity pictures. It was so much fun.

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