May 2014 Moms
JessElam
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JessElam
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I'm shocked that no one has started this already...I'll go first.
I promise I'm not a totally insensitive bitch, but it really bothers me when people become so consumed with a celebrity death. We have heard so much about the Paul Walker death - people hanging out at the accident scene, countless reports on what exactly happened, cause of death (which seems pretty obvious to me). It's not just with this death either - when that guy from Glee died from a drug overdose people were crying, etc. I understand that they are fans of said actors, but I don't understand becoming so consumed with an actor that you become emotionally invested in them and what happens to them. There are so many people in our communities who should be looked up to - many of these actors who have fans who idolize them are pretty f'd up people (not necessarily speaking of Paul Walker, just in general).
And then to piggy back off of that, the media just glorifies these events. Any type of tragedy that happens, the media exploits it so damn much. I know we are coming up on the Sandy Hook killings and I am really dreading how the media is going to exploit the families of those poor babies. Believe me, I cried like a baby when it happened and in the days after because I couldn't help but imagine my own child in that situation. It's a parent's worst nightmare. I just hate how the media really just turns everything tragic into a circus. Let the people mourn without a microphone and camera in their face.
Wow...that became much longer than I expected. Sorry!
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Re: UO
My UO is that I wish instead of flaming the "spanking/swatting/hitting" lady yesterday/today on the thread about picky eating, that more people would have tried to actually reason with her and educate her as to how what she was doing was bad for her children. (Some did in a very eloquent manner.) And I freely admit that I was one of the ones initially guilty of responding to her with snark, but after I thought about it I realized the severity of what she was doing and the consequences it has on young, helpless children, I wish I had initially responded differently...I don't think anyone is going to change someone's mind/behavior with snark. But, then again, I also realize that trying to reason with her is probably a moot point anyway because she seems pretty committed to her behavior and wrong beliefs.
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
As someone who grew up with a physically and emotionally abusive alcoholic, I just can't with the spankers. To me? Spanking is hitting. And I can't go there against a religious zealot on an Internet forum. Snark on.
Edited because the broken quotes are driving me bananas.
My other UO is that I don't think you should force kids to eat certain foods. Now if they just flat aren't eating, that is one thing...but if it is just one food or a few foods--well, we all have foods/consistencies that we don't like! I would not want to be forced to eat something that I don't like even as an adult.
Part of my thought process comes from my Mother always talking about her child rearing experiences. My brothers were super tiny (twins) and underweight. By today's standards, they would have likely been Failure to Thrive. She could not get them to eat fruits or vegis so would put them in an infa-feeder and basically force feed them. To this day, in their mid-40's, they still remember this and will NOT TOUCH a fruit or vegi. And one is overweight and diabetic. On the other hand, she learned her lesson with me (I was 12 years later) and I was never made to eat something I did not want to eat. Not that this was great parenting, but I remember even being allowed to eat ice cream for breakfast. There is hardly any food that I will not eat and, compared to my brothers, I have a pretty health diet/lifestyle... and I really don't even like ice cream that much anymore. I really think there is something about "forcing" something on a child that makes them have a negative association with that item.
Edit: typo
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
BFP#3 9-4-13 Benjamin Lee born 4-28-14
If you've noticed (which you probably haven't paid terribly much attention to me up until the recent "discussion") I don't generally post questions to internet strangers... most of my posts are general comments or announcements or something like that. The opinion of total strangers doesn't really matter much to me, and (not sure if this is an UO or not, but...) that discussion obviously got out of hand by people coming just to flame me.
Another UO of mine is that I don't believe in child-proofing. If you somehow missed the flaming/drama on the "Being a mom is hard" discussion, we use hand swatting or spanking to keep them away from dangerous things (electric sockets and cords and whatnot), as well as dicipline for disobedience. The theory behind this is that when we go to someone's home that is not child-proofed, my children still know what they cannot touch. Also, even at home, they learn boundaries that just because they can reach something does not mean they have the right to grab it.
All the lulz right now.
The whole thing made me very sad and defensive not only for my faith, but also for the well being of the children being raised in that home and many others that subscribe to the same philosophies.
DH was brought up in a home where the Bible was basis for beatings and he and his siblings can tell you some terrible stories. We have vowed to not raise our child(ren) on a foundation of fear.
This isn't much of an UO, but my heart was heavy in the wake of that dreadfully long thread and I felt the need to proclaim that she doesn't not represent the majority... I would never want to be clumped in the same stereotype as her.
ETA: Since I've seen multiple people post the same sentiment, almost no one thinks she is representative of anything except her own crazy. No need to tell us that not all Christians are like that. We know.
And I don't really like the attention, which is why I had hoped you all could get on with your lives as I get on with mine, but alas... more of the same today. Now you don't think I should post/comment on anythig anymore?
09/23/11 - Married DH
04/01/13 - BFP at 4wks
05/30/13 - MMC - BO @ 12wks 5d
08/29/13 - BFP @ 4wks 4d
09/17/13 - 7wks 2d - Normal HB Detected! Baby measuring perfect for dates and positioning!
10/23/13 - 12wks 3d - Perfect NT scan! HB 167 & baby wriggling, waving & yawning!
12/17/13 - 20wks 2 d - We're having a beautiful baby girl! Go Team Pink!
05/03/14 - Bobbie Gloria was born at 39+6 weighing 6lb 14oz!
Not gonna happen, but I am enjoying all these GIFs y'all find. I'm not a GIF-er myself, but it is fun to see. And I can understand the lure of "Hey, everyone! Go check out the crazy drama on the May 14 board!" (or wherever more crazy drama may occur), so I don't harbor resentment for anyone who was well meaning in their comment, however unnecessary the comment was.
BFP#1 - 11/27/09 EDD 8/5/10, DS1 arrived 7/24/10 via emergency c-section.
BFP#2 - 6/18/12 EDD 2/23/13, sweet baby girl born sleeping on 10/4/12 at 19 weeks, 3 days.
BFP #3 - 1/18/13 EDD 10/1/13, natural mc on 2/2/13 at 5 weeks, 4 days.
BFP #4 - 8/29/13 EDD 5/12/14, our sweet rainbow, DS2 born 4/29/14 via c-section
BFP#1 - 11/27/09 EDD 8/5/10, DS1 arrived 7/24/10 via emergency c-section.
BFP#2 - 6/18/12 EDD 2/23/13, sweet baby girl born sleeping on 10/4/12 at 19 weeks, 3 days.
BFP #3 - 1/18/13 EDD 10/1/13, natural mc on 2/2/13 at 5 weeks, 4 days.
BFP #4 - 8/29/13 EDD 5/12/14, our sweet rainbow, DS2 born 4/29/14 via c-section
One of my best friends is marrying a chiropractor and he's part of the Maximized Living...movement, for lack of a better word. They're very strongly antivax and the BS and misinformation he spews is infuriating. He and his colleagues really don't help make a good argument for the credibility of chiropractors. My friend has a health science degree and she's still bought into his crap, and spreads the same BS "studies."
Actually, someone did comment (not in the UO thread) that they were surprised I was back on here posting in other threads this morning.
I'm okay with droppig thw subject, but isn't this the place where we can just dump stuff we want to say. Every day has a thread that's labeled according to the day, but basically the same type of thing. (FFFC, UO, WTF Wednesday, 10 Things Tuesday, Minday Bishfest... how are these threads different other than the day they're posted on?)