A week or so ago I finally had a good opportunity to let SIL know that her and MIL were not going to be invited to come to the hospital until after LO is born and after we've had time to bond and all that (up until that point they both had just assumed they could come the minute we let them know I'm in labor) So when this opportunity came up I made sure to tell her that they were to wait until we gave the go ahead to come down here (they live about an hour away). SIL seemed perfectly content with this and specifically said that they would do whatever I wanted.
So today after Thanksgiving dinner I come out of the bathroom and walk up during a conversation SIL is having with my DH...
She is basically at the end of trying to push him around and get her way and get him to say it's ok for her to come down once I'm in labor. DH is a huge pushover, and his family knows that. Once I walked up she basically summed up her point rather quickly and finished it up with some bull about it depending on the time of day anyway, and all that.
So, SIL specifically went to my DH while he was alone and tried to manipulate him to get her way, even though I had already talked to her and made my point clear. Wayyyyy over the line IMO.
Also, although this may not have been the smartest thing I could have done...but I didn't want her to bring her toddler to the hospital when we were going to give them the ok to come visit, so I told her there was a no kids under 12 policy at the hospital....well apparently she went as far as to look up my hospital's policy for herself to disprove my point...also kind of a crappy thing to do IMO.
I mainly just wanted to vent. DH and I already have a plan of how we are going to attempt to fix this situation...
And yes, I know it's always an option just to not tell them anything at all until we are ready for visitors, but DH won't get on board with that idea so it kind of is what it is as far as them knowing...
Seriously though, did she way overstep the line or am I overreacting? Again, I really just needed to vent. DH already got an earful on the ride home and I needed someone else to tell. I honestly feel like SIL disrespected me A LOT by going to DH behind my back like that...
Re: SIL went way over the line...
Why do people think others child births are about them??
I would strongly suggest you talk to DH about not telling anyone until you have the baby if this is what you want.