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  • RissNRussRissNRuss member
    Steamboat1679 said:
    The list of businesses I'm boycotting keeps getting longer. I am terrified that some terrible story will come out about Amazon. Where will I buy all the things?
    Sorry to tell you this, but there's a petition going around to get Amazon to remove "How to Raise Up a Child" (a child-rearing guidebook). I don't think they've responded yet. Not sure what your boycott criteria is though.
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    My son wears baby legs. They're cute and functional. It's nice to not have to take pants off to do a diaper change. I don't think they're girly, but even if they were who gives a shit? He's a baby. And the whole "boys can't like this and girls have to like that" thing is annoying and played out anyway.

    Did I miss something? My son wears them all the time. I think they're the cutest thing ever, on boys AND girls!


    Pretty sure @kelseypie is referring to my UO from last week about not liking baby legs on boys. I'm sorrrrrry! I love you both, don't hate me!!!!

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    ChelsRy1 said:
    I get irrationally annoyed when people without kids complain to me about being tired. I get that people without kids can be tired too but I don't want to hear about it.
    I get this sentiment.  After the last 4 months, I really do.  However, it reminds me of this time when I was with a few of my best friends, they were all staying at my house, and only one of them had a baby.  This was also after a week/weekend that was EXTREMELY hard on me emotionally and physically.  I made a comment about being tired and she went off about how no one knows what tired is until they have a baby.  I just stared at her and couldn't say anything.  She knew what I had just gone through.  Moms don't corner the market on tired.

    Ever since then I've vowed never to react like she did.  Even being exhausted as a mom, I look back and truly believe that what I felt then was just as truly tired as I have felt anytime since I had N.  I'd probably prefer to go through this kind of tired as a mom than that kind of tired, because every morning I wake up to a smiley baby that I love more than life.  I didn't have that energy boost back then.

    So, I totally get it, most people complaining about being tired is annoying.  But I try to be really careful about how I convey it.  I don't know what other people are going through.
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    @numbersgirl08 I totally get that, I was referring more to my friends that will stay up late drinking and then complain to me the next day. I also used to suffer from insomnia so I was super tired before having a baby but somehow it still annoys me.
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    numbersgirl08 said:
    My confession:  I like my baby more earlier in the day and I like her less and less as the day goes on and she gets fussier, culminating in nighttime when sometimes I feel like I'm tolerating her, and when things get really rough I sometimes find myself irrationally angry at her.  I have to remind myself constantly that she's just a baby.  And then I get angry at myself.

    Don't get me wrong, I love her ALL the time, and would do absolutely anything for her, but I just can't like her all the time.  Does that make me a bad mom?
    This happened last night and I cried because I felt like a bad mother because for a few minutes I was so angry and I hated being a mother. Glad I'm not alone. DD is a clinger and while after the first feed shes willing to play but after about 2 hrs it goes downhill. I just blame it on the sleep deprivation as it seems to get worse during the course of the week when I am about to blow up from being exhausted.
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    edited November 2013
    ChelsRy1 said:
    @numbersgirl08 I totally get that, I was referring more to my friends that will stay up late drinking and then complain to me the next day. I also used to suffer from insomnia so I was super tired before having a baby but somehow it still annoys me.
    @ChelsRy1 Yeah, I'll give you that.  It's like when hubby complains.  If you know what they're complaining about, just want to roll your eyes.
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    @Monkeybutt80 I have found several days where I don't change a diaper at all either!  Hubby often does the morning ones since I have to go to work and he watches her in the morning.  The nanny changes them during the day.  By the time I'm done working, the nanny changes her right before she leaves, and it's not long before bedtime.  Our bedtime routine includes hubby changing her diaper and putting her pjs on and handing her to me to feed and rock.  It's so weird when I realize I've had days like that!  I don't think hubby has noticed and I certainly haven't brought it to his attention.
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    @numbersgirl08  That's totally how it goes for us too!  By the time I pick him up from day care we got maybe an hour and half before our bedtime routine.  I mean, I am not going to bring it up until my husband complains!  and even when he does, I will play dumb... "really?  are you sure you've been doing most of the diapers?? I hadn't noticed...."


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  • RissNRussRissNRuss member
    kdc2007 said:
    I think some of your husbands need to be sent to a deserted island with your baby for a minimum of 24 hours. No parents, ILs or others to help. 

    After feeding G avocado last night (it was everywhere!), I handed her to my H, said it was bathtime & bedtime, and then I left for bookclub where I ate pizza and drank wine for 2 hours. 
    I agree. Sometimes my Hubs should be sent off there too! However, he has been working almost non-stop on the house and related items, plus cooking dinner most nights, so if that means I do feeding/diaper/play, ok. But on days he wants to just be lazy? Helz to the no!
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    A hasn't had a bath since Sunday. It's been a week of rushed mornings.... and her feet STINK. Wearing boots outside to keep her socks on has made some nasty baby foot stink.
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  • llbta85llbta85 member
    My ex was way better with DS as a baby then DH.  I hate to admit it, because my ex really drops the ball in other areas.  But he would come over virtually every day and spend at least an hour with DS hanging out or whatever, just the 2 of them, for the first few years of his life.  Now its all I can do to get DH to hold DD for 20 minutes so I can throw something together for dinner.  DH has made some really hurtful comments over the past year and I never have the heart to bring this one up but I have a feeling he is going to make one f-ed up comment too many and I am going to let loose.
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    llbta85 said:

    My ex was way better with DS as a baby then DH.  I hate to admit it, because my ex really drops the ball in other areas.  But he would come over virtually every day and spend at least an hour with DS hanging out or whatever, just the 2 of them, for the first few years of his life.  Now its all I can do to get DH to hold DD for 20 minutes so I can throw something together for dinner.  DH has made some really hurtful comments over the past year and I never have the heart to bring this one up but I have a feeling he is going to make one f-ed up comment too many and I am going to let loose.

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    kdc2007 said:
    I think some of your husbands need to be sent to a deserted island with your baby for a minimum of 24 hours. No parents, ILs or others to help. 

    After feeding G avocado last night (it was everywhere!), I handed her to my H, said it was bathtime & bedtime, and then I left for bookclub where I ate pizza and drank wine for 2 hours. 
    I feel like DH wants to be more involved with Lo but he is like the sole parent to G when he gets home from work so I can focus on Lo and I am having trouble keeping up supply wise so I rarely want to leave him with a bottle. Plus bedtime with the two kids is really challenging solo so I hate to leave until I know they are both down. But I agree if it were one kid, I'd totally be making him step up more.

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    measton8809 said:
    I think that for some husband, they are " useless with the baby" because they haven't been given the chance to learn. Didn't we all have to learn too?

    Not mine, this is number 4 in aggregate, he knows damn well how to care for a baby, but chooses not to and has admitted to not wanting to.  He does say that he loves her and he's more angry at me but its still heartbreaking.  I feel so bad for DD and pray that she never finds out how her father feels about the situation. 
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    @monkeybutt80 made me think of one. I rarely use the change stations in bathrooms. If we are at the mall I just put the change pad on a bench and go for it. I usually only use the ones in the nursing rooms if I just fed her. I guess it helps that I never need to worry about it being a poop diaper.

    Also I'm happy to do all the diaper changes. I only ask DH to do them when we are at his parents house because there's no good surface so we need to change her on the floor.

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    I'm spending the weekend with both my mom and my MIL, and I'm terrified about what will happen when my mom realizes that LO likes being held by MIL.  My mom cried the other day because LO wouldn't stop crying when she held her.  I felt like I had two crying babies.
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    edited November 2013
    zigspective said:
    I think some of your husbands need to be sent to a deserted island with your baby for a minimum of 24 hours. No parents, ILs or others to help.

    Sometimes I read the husband complaints and think to myself, "Why did you procreate with this person?"

    Because when we were TTC he was on board, but changed his mind and didn't tell me.  He is also a good father to the 3 other children so I had no reason to think that things would end up like this.  Honestly, if I knew then, that this is the way it would have all gone down I probably would not have married him. 

    ETA: my comment about not marrying him is more in reference to the sheer lack of communication and then holding it against me, not in reference to his parenting skills.

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    I have so much work to do, but I'm sitting here looking up old cheerleading videos online.  And bumping, I suppose.  I'm about to leave to go get lunch and then come back and pump.  Reeeeal productive.

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    GiggleJiggle said:
    I think some of your husbands need to be sent to a deserted island with your baby for a minimum of 24 hours. No parents, ILs or others to help.

    Sometimes I read the husband complaints and think to myself, "Why did you procreate with this person?" Not everyone's marriage or procreate partner situation is perfect. And I'm not one to judge those. In my case, what attracted me the most to my husband is how amazing of a father he was to his 3 year old son. Which is why I chose to "procreate with him"; along with the plethora of other amazing qualities he has. I know he's going to be a great father, but you can never know how someone will be with your first baby together though. My flame free came out as a bratty complaint, but I really am trying to make the situation better. If it doesn't ever get there, I'm okay knowing that DS won't be a baby forever.

     

    Thanks, you're totally articulating this better than I am!

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    GraceInCA said:

    After yesterday's gay marriage discussions I have no respect for a few people on this board.

    Hmm. I harbor no ill feelings towards either side of the discussion. I respect their stance on the subject, even if I disagree.

    It amazes me how people who claim to be so tolerant of other groups of people are so biased and judgmental against another group expressing an opinion opposing theirs.

    ETA: My FFFC, I probably should have just stayed MIA from TB.

    I am 100% okay with being intolerant of bigotry.  If people weren't intolerant of bigotry, interracial marriage would still be illegal in the US.


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  • nikel13nikel13 member
    @Cricket81 That's why I do all night nursing in bed and the baby is still in the room with us.  H says he constantly comes in and Lily is on the boob passed out and I'm completely unconscious.
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    I have two.

    1. I called for jury duty.  I'm going to opt out on the grounds of being the primary caregiver to a child under 6, even though H will be home that day and could take care of her.  I don't feel like doing jury duty and Lily is a great excuse not to.

    2. My boss talked to me yesterday about how they might be having some difficulties finding me work to do after some potential changes take place.  She wants to keep me on, but can't if it's not justified (I'm contract labor.).  I secretly hoped that when I told H, it would light a fire under his ass and get him to start changing his job situation.  He hates his job and I really want to be SAH.

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    nikel13 said:

    @Cricket81 That's why I do all night nursing in bed and the baby is still in the room with us.  H says he constantly comes in and Lily is on the boob passed out and I'm completely unconscious.

    I wish DH was on board for cosleeping, but he's a really big guy (6'7") and there's barely enough room in our bed for the two of us. We don't have a guest bedroom so there isn't another bed one of us could sleep in. Oh, and I love the phone timer idea @megaroo64.
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    baby Gs mommy said:

    My confession is that I save up my cash and pay for a housekeeper to come once a month and do a good cleaning, while dh is at work. He thinks I had time to clean.

    My other one is that I left LO in his pajamas all day yesterday because it was cold and rainy. Who wants to lounge in jeans?

    How much is it for your house if you don't mind my asking? I asked for a cleaning service as my Christmas gift and husband told me lol no, it's too expensive.
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    CL8badB said:

    @achae im not baby g but my girl charges $55 for 5 hours. $10 an hour after that. I have 3 floors and shes always finished in 5 hours. I dont think thats bad at all.

    That is very reasonable! I will definitely be pressing more for it to save my sanity :)
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  • llbta85llbta85 member
    CL8badB said:
    @achae im not baby g but my girl charges $55 for 5 hours. $10 an hour after that. I have 3 floors and shes always finished in 5 hours. I dont think thats bad at all.
    Wow that's super cheap, mine charges $140, it takes around 4 hours and I only have one floor.
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    llbta85 said:
    CL8badB said:
    @achae im not baby g but my girl charges $55 for 5 hours. $10 an hour after that. I have 3 floors and shes always finished in 5 hours. I dont think thats bad at all.
    Wow that's super cheap, mine charges $140, it takes around 4 hours and I only have one floor.
    crazy how different each region charges.  Mine are two ladies, no idea how long it takes as they come while I am at work, every other week and charges $150 and about 5400sq ft (but only like 2/3 of it needs cleaning).  Way cheaper than mollymaids.
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