I am new to The Bump, and have already posted a question about TTC. As some of you may already know, this is my first time TTC.
So, my new question is:
Is it too soon for me to start gathering baby things (a crib, stroller, high chair, changing table, etc.)?
I just have this uncontrollable urge to go ahead and start gathering these things (non-gender specific, of course) right away. Has anyone else had this trouble, or "urge"? Or is it just me? And, is it unreasonable to go ahead and start on it? Or should I just wait, and stop being so impatient?
Thanks ladies!(: Any help is greatly appreciated!<3
Re: Am I Crazy For Wanting To Start Gathering Baby Stuff?
TTC #1 8/2012~Chronic Pelvic Pain Condition began 10/2012~Told I was crazy by many doctors until a good specialist DXed a labral tear and bone impingement in left hip 4/2013~Surgery on left hip: 5/31/13 SUCCESS!!! Pain flares to continue indefinitely (but mostly gone).
Resumed TTC 6/2013~Chronic stomach pain and distension: 8/2013~TTA 1/2014 Until Resolved ~7/2014: Trip to the Mayo Clinic--SUCCESS!! Finally on the road to getting better.
Resumed TTC 7/2014! Third time's the charm....8/2014 Visited the RE~DX: MFI/low morph~Straight to IVF with ICSI! 9/2014~Transferred 1 perfect beautiful 6AA blast with 10 to freeze!!!~10/8/2014: BFP!!!! EDD: 6/17/15 STICK LITTLE BEAN!!! IT'S A BOY!!!!!
Baby Boy due October 2017
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BFP#1: 1/6/2014 EDD: 9/17/2014 Natural MC: 1/17/2014 (5w3d)
BFP #2: 6/7/2014 EDD: 2/18/2015 Natural MC 6/19/2014 (5w)
BFP #3: 10/22/14 EDD: 7/1/2015
*Taking Progesterone supplements* Beta 1: 777, Beta 2: 2589 *GROW BABY!*
Another reason not to buy right away: safety guidelines change, especially on cribs. Car seats expire. If you plan on having more than 1 child, I'd buy the car seat as close as possible to the baby's birth, to get maximum use out of it.
For my first child I only bought a crib before my shower. I had a lot of fun making registries. I used the completion coupon from my registry to buy the rest of what I needed.
son#1 born 6/2010
son#2 born 4/2012
son#3 born 7/2014
In fact, the reason my best friend from HS and I are no longer friends is because her husband told me that all I want to do with my life is "pop out babies", cuz that's tooootally why I got my Master's Degree. To pop out 'dem babies!
Anyway, back to the original post...I think it's OK to drool over baby stuff but I would not start hoarding things just because you plan to have a baby. It could take years or it could never happen (hopefully it will though!). Make secret pinterest boards, bookmark things you like, but don't actually buy. Plus, once you do get that BFP, you're going to want to buy all the things anyway and what fun would it be if you've already done all that stuff?
Like previous posters, I have a secret pinterest board for baby stuff that I want to remember. Since you like to plan, that would give you an opportunity to do so without going crazy.
April 2013: Femara + Trigger + IUI = ???
jennalking2013 said:
I hope it's been made clear that this is absolutely not true for every woman.
The newbie blog has an acrynoym glossary: https://tbttgp.wordpress.com/tb-glossary/
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This is the second time you've said something to this effect and it's bugging me. Not every woman is longing for a husband to make enough so she can not work. I have a Ph,D, and career. I think I'm damn lucky to be working and would never want it any other way.
As you can see, we all have different perspectives around here. Just be mindful of that when you post.
I agree with the other ladies that starting to shop now might not be the best idea. Relax and enjoy the ride!
When did I ever say every woman was longing for a husband that made enough money that she didn't have to work? If you don't assume things, you don't get offended. You are choosing to take it as if I am trying to offend you, or rather, you are choosing to be offended by it, when you don't even have to be. I meant nothing by that. Other than, I'm simply happy that I am in that predicament, because that is what I WANT, even if it's not what other moms wants. I didn't step on your toes by saying any of that, and I'm not going to watch what I say about it just because it might bug you. I'm sorry if it does, but that's certainly not my intention. And you definitely shouldn't be offended by it at all, especially not enough to say something to me about it. I need positive advice, not negative complaints. Please, try to help me, instead of making my smile go away when I read your comments. I don't know how old you are or how many children you have or how long you've been TTC, but I'm young and new to all of this, the least you could do is try to help me, since you're on my thread. If you don't have anything nice to say, please don't comment. It actually bothers me and discourages me from even wanting to continue using the Bump. And that's just not cool...TTC#1 since May 2012. Low AMH, High FSH.
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I haven't done anything to anyone on here, I'm not being rude or hurtful to you. So stop being rude to me. It's as simple as that. I'm trying so hard to be nice to everyone, even people being rude. Please, give that same effort to be nice to me.
TTC since August 2011, Me = 40, DH = 38
Unexplained IF. Tried Clomid for 3 cycles. All BFNs. BFP 1/6/13. Chemical pregnancy.
Moving on to IVF#1. ER 11/26/13, 16 eggs retreived, 12 mature and all fertilized. 2 blasts transferred on 12/1. All other embies arrested so nothing left to freeze. Beta 12/10 = BFN. IVF #2 March 2014. BFP!!! TEAM BLUE!!!
My advice - read the newbie blog. Google shit you don't understand. Learn your body.
TTC#1 since May 2012. Low AMH, High FSH.
Factor II (Prothrombin) Mutation
TTGP Award Best PIP 2013 & 2014
My Chart
So it's none of our business BUT you want our advices?
You ask for advices, we give you answers. It's not because you don't LIKE the answers that we're not giving them.
The way you worded it made it sound like those who have to work are to be pitied. That is why people got upset about it. Own it. Apologize for the wording and move on.
No one is required to be nice to you on here just because you are young and new to TTC. If you expect the world to be nice to you because you are young and naive then you are going to get a serious wakeup call sooner rather than later. Truthfully, you've gotten good advice and rather than sulking about it, do the adult thing and think about what is being said.
I appreciate that you are young (you seem to be a teen to me by your writing style. I'm going to guess 18/19 and fresh out of school). Relax.
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TTC#1 since May 2012. Low AMH, High FSH.
Factor II (Prothrombin) Mutation
TTGP Award Best PIP 2013 & 2014
My Chart
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Pausing, thinking for a moment and saying "Yeah, I didn't mean it that way, but I totally see how it could've been interpreted that way. Sorry!" would go a long ways. That's all you have to do. This is normal human interaction....
I do apologize. I felt as if I was being attacked, which is totally not the response I was expecting on an advice board about conception. I didn't mean to offend you, as I already said. And I did already apologize to you if it did happen to offend you. But I guess I'll say it again. I'm sorry it offended you, I didn't mean it the way you interpreted it. That's what I just said it my previous response, but I believe you, once again, perceived it differently than I intended. Again, I apologize.
TTC#1 since May 2012. Low AMH, High FSH.
Factor II (Prothrombin) Mutation
TTGP Award Best PIP 2013 & 2014
My Chart