So I just got back from vaginal repair surgery. This is the second repair I've had since giving birth 20 months ago. The reason I am sharing this is because about half way through my pregnancy, I started to notice odd things about my gyno. He never took any info about my family history or my husband's. He never ran tests that should have been done for a woman over 35 (I was 36). He blew me off anytime I discussed my fears about childbirth. I should have switched doctors right then and there but, like so many women, I was scared to change in the middle of my pregnancy. He said he was going to give me an episiotomy but never did. I had severe tearing which had to be repaired with a surgery. When he stitched me up, he stitched me ALL the way up. They are called "husband stitches" because apparently sex is more pleasurable for the man. I haven't been able to run, use a tampon or have sex for 15 months. Anyway the point to this rant is PLEASE learn from my mistake and thoroughly research your gynecologist. There are sights where you can pay a small fee to get a physicians entire history including lawsuits. I found out a month ago that this doctor was sued for misconduct (sexual) and moved out of town. On to prey on his next victim! Sorry for the rant. I just don't want any of you great ladies to go through this. Most of you have been through enough already.
That's awful! If you've got the time you may want to google his name and write a review wherever possible. Hopefully you can help other women stay away from this guy. Hope you heal quickly.
That's awful! If you've got the time you may want to google his name and write a review wherever possible. Hopefully you can help other women stay away from this guy. Hope you heal quickly.
I can believe I haven't done that yet. I will immediately! Thank you.
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I had a similar situation. Surgery was recommended but my scar tissue thankfully softened. As my doc was stitching me he said "I should've just cut you" when I asked how bad I tore. So sorry you're going through this. Having to go through that much physical pain again on top of the anguish can be depressing.
That's awful! If you've got the time you may want to google his name and write a review wherever possible. Hopefully you can help other women stay away from this guy. Hope you heal quickly.
I can believe I haven't done that yet. I will immediately! Thank you.
Did your MD specifically tell you he gave you "husband stiches"?
No he never said that specifically. That is just the term that is used when a woman is stitched that high.
I am truly sorry that you are going through this and I truly hope it was a fusion of a laceration and not that you were actually stitched that high. It is not uncommon to have lacerations on both of your labia that fuse together as they heal leaving you an extremely small opening...It is rare but it happens
I am sure that you have been through a long road of estrogen creams and I am glad that you have a vagina that came be used again.
ETA: I just saw your second comment. If he, in any way, shape, or form intentionally left you with such a small opening for you vagina I will hold him down so you can sew the tip of his penis to his ball sack. I think then you will be square.
I have a friend that this happened to as well. She had a bad tear and he stitched her so high that she was unable to have sex/use a tampon, etc. She was lucky to not have reconstructive surgery but had to go through dilatations for quite a while. She filed a complaint, found a new OBGYN and for her second had to have a c-sec because the scar tissue left over from the first delivery would not allow her to give birth vaginally. I'm so sorry you went through this and make sure to talk with your new doctor about whether you will be able to have a vaginal birth with the next one.
Please tell me you're filing a malpractice suit. If he did this on purpose he shouldn't be allowed to practice medicine.
We considered hopping onto the lawsuit I mentioned previously. However, it was too late. The case was closed. We also can't really afford a lawyer right now and we have no idea where he is. I'm hoping his license was revoked.
Oh my gosh, that is so sick and awful! I'm so sorry you're going through all of this! I pray he gets shut down and cannot harm anyone else. Best wishes to you.
Can't you look him up by name? He would need to register his license in a new state. You should looking into contacting whatever medical review board is over him. Lawsuit or not it needs to be done to prevent this from happening to others. So awful.
This. You should be able to Google him & locate him through his license or practice. I really hope you find the strength to pursue this legally. What happened to you is just awful.
Please tell me you're filing a malpractice suit. If he did this on purpose he shouldn't be allowed to practice medicine.
We considered hopping onto the lawsuit I mentioned previously. However, it was too late. The case was closed. We also can't really afford a lawyer right now and we have no idea where he is. I'm hoping his license was revoked.
I don't know if it's different in the States but I believe you have 2 years to take action. Also a lot of lawyers will take the case on a contingency fee, which means they get paid a percentage of whatever settlement you receive. Also they can hire people to find him and serve him. I would seriously look into it, this guy deserves to pay.
That man is a monster. He honestly sounds like a woman hater and he happens to be in the best field to do just that. I hope you are doing something to ensure this never happens again. Even something small like writing on line reviews and attaching his name and or practice to it. Lots of people like me Google the sh-t out of things before we do anything.
I'm so sorry this happened to you-that is a true nightmare.
Can't you look him up by name? He would need to register his license in a new state. You should looking into contacting whatever medical review board is over him. Lawsuit or not it needs to be done to prevent this from happening to others. So awful.
I am so sorry! A man who does that on purpose has absolutely no right to be working with animals, let alone on a human being who he is entrusted with. I have no words for that $&@$!!!
Please tell me you're filing a malpractice suit. If he did this on purpose he shouldn't be allowed to practice medicine.
We considered hopping onto the lawsuit I mentioned previously. However, it was too late. The case was closed. We also can't really afford a lawyer right now and we have no idea where he is. I'm hoping his license was revoked.
Did you file a complaint with the medical board of the state you're in? Filing of malpractice suits are separate from filing a complaint with a licensing board.
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Oh wow...I am horrified that this happened to you, and truly sorry! Thank you for making us aware of this, because I will be looking more carefully into OBs when/if I do get pregnant.
Do what other PPs said. At least have an initial consult with an attourney to weigh your options. Keep us updated if you do!
Please tell me you're filing a malpractice suit. If he did this on purpose he shouldn't be allowed to practice medicine.
We considered hopping onto the lawsuit I mentioned previously. However, it was too late. The case was closed. We also can't really afford a lawyer right now and we have no idea where he is. I'm hoping his license was revoked.
Did you file a complaint with the medical board of the state you're in? Filing of malpractice suits are separate from filing a complaint with a licensing board.
I don't think he's in the state anymore but I'm determined to track him down and file a complaint. My sick day project!
Please tell me you're filing a malpractice suit. If he did this on purpose he shouldn't be allowed to practice medicine.
We considered hopping onto the lawsuit I mentioned previously. However, it was too late. The case was closed. We also can't really afford a lawyer right now and we have no idea where he is. I'm hoping his license was revoked.
Did you file a complaint with the medical board of the state you're in? Filing of malpractice suits are separate from filing a complaint with a licensing board.
I don't think he's in the state anymore but I'm determined to track him down and file a complaint. My sick day project!
You should still file the complaint with the medical board in your state. If he moved out of state the medical board in the other state most likely will not have the resources to investigate a complaint of actions in another state. It's also questionable whether the other board would have jurisdiction considering he wouldn't have been practicing under the license granted by the other state, he was practicing under the license granted by your state. So file a complaint with the medical board in your state. If that board takes action then the other state can take reciprocal action. If you want to though you could still file a complaint with the out of state board so they know what a dickhead this guy is but it most likely won't result in disciplinary action.
And I should have said it in my first post, I'm so sorry this happened to you.
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Moving on to IVF#1. ER 11/26/13, 16 eggs retreived, 12 mature and all fertilized. 2 blasts transferred on 12/1. All other embies arrested so nothing left to freeze. Beta 12/10 = BFN. IVF #2 March 2014. BFP!!! TEAM BLUE!!!
I am so sorry this happened to to! That man has no right to practice on animals, let alone a human who is trusting him to take care of their body! You definitely should leave reviews everywhere you can find, and take as much action you can afford. He is a $&@*%#&(@!!!
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My understanding is that Dr. Hernandez has had an affair with a Nurse who works in the Birthing Center at Transylvania Regional Hospital. That Nurse was also one of his patients. (He is a married man and she is married as well) - There is an arrest record on the Nurse he had an affair with because she got into an altercation with her husband after he found out about the affair. I have lost all respect and trust that I had in Dr. Hernandez.
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Having fun reading others reviews about him. Here's a good one... Currently 2 of 4 stars | show details Feb 18th, 2012 My understanding is that Dr. Hernandez has had an affair with a Nurse who works in the Birthing Center at Transylvania Regional Hospital. That Nurse was also one of his patients. (He is a married man and she is married as well) - There is an arrest record on the Nurse he had an affair with because she got into an altercation with her husband after he found out about the affair. I have lost all respect and trust that I had in Dr. Hernandez. Mark as Helpful | 3 people found this helpful Report Abuse https://www.vitals.com/doctors/Dr_Carmelo_Hernandez/reviews#ixzz2kd4ZOJ9PIf
If the doctor intentionally stitched you that way he should lose his license but what does him having an affair have anything to do with his ability to be a doctor?
If the nurse was also a patient then that is a boundary violation and an offense for which he can be disciplined (assuming that state has laws and regs similar to mine).
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Moving on to IVF#1. ER 11/26/13, 16 eggs retreived, 12 mature and all fertilized. 2 blasts transferred on 12/1. All other embies arrested so nothing left to freeze. Beta 12/10 = BFN. IVF #2 March 2014. BFP!!! TEAM BLUE!!!
Having fun reading others reviews about him. Here's a good one...
Currently 2 of 4 stars | show details
Feb 18th, 2012
My understanding is that Dr. Hernandez has had an affair with a Nurse who works in the Birthing Center at Transylvania Regional Hospital. That Nurse was also one of his patients. (He is a married man and she is married as well) - There is an arrest record on the Nurse he had an affair with because she got into an altercation with her husband after he found out about the affair. I have lost all respect and trust that I had in Dr. Hernandez.
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If the doctor intentionally stitched you that way he should lose his license but what does him having an affair have anything to do with his ability to be a doctor?
This isn't my complaint. I just thought it as interesting. BTW, I know his wife. She is a sweetheart. He also has six kids. What a pig!
Holy fucking shit I am speechless. So sorry you went through that! What area are you in? I want to avoid that guy!!!
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ETA - And "husband" stitches?? That just pisses me off more.
Just reviewed him on Healthgrades and Ratemds.
Also, husband stitches? Fucking bullshit.
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Did your MD specifically tell you he gave you "husband stiches"?
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No he never said that specifically. That is just the term that is used when a woman is stitched that high.
I am truly sorry that you are going through this and I truly hope it was a fusion of a laceration and not that you were actually stitched that high. It is not uncommon to have lacerations on both of your labia that fuse together as they heal leaving you an extremely small opening...It is rare but it happens
I am sure that you have been through a long road of estrogen creams and I am glad that you have a vagina that came be used again.
ETA: I just saw your second comment. If he, in any way, shape, or form intentionally left you with such a small opening for you vagina I will hold him down so you can sew the tip of his penis to his ball sack. I think then you will be square.
OP - I'm so sorry this happened to you! I'm glad you were able to have this treated so that you can get back to living normally.
We considered hopping onto the lawsuit I mentioned previously. However, it was too late. The case was closed. We also can't really afford a lawyer right now and we have no idea where he is. I'm hoping his license was revoked.
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We considered hopping onto the lawsuit I mentioned previously. However, it was too late. The case was closed. We also can't really afford a lawyer right now and we have no idea where he is. I'm hoping his license was revoked.
I don't know if it's different in the States but I believe you have 2 years to take action. Also a lot of lawyers will take the case on a contingency fee, which means they get paid a percentage of whatever settlement you receive. Also they can hire people to find him and serve him. I would seriously look into it, this guy deserves to pay.
I'm so sorry this happened to you-that is a true nightmare.
Good idea! I will do that today.
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Unexplained IF. Tried Clomid for 3 cycles. All BFNs. BFP 1/6/13. Chemical pregnancy.
Moving on to IVF#1. ER 11/26/13, 16 eggs retreived, 12 mature and all fertilized. 2 blasts transferred on 12/1. All other embies arrested so nothing left to freeze. Beta 12/10 = BFN. IVF #2 March 2014. BFP!!! TEAM BLUE!!!
Oh wow...I am horrified that this happened to you, and truly sorry! Thank you for making us aware of this, because I will be looking more carefully into OBs when/if I do get pregnant.
Do what other PPs said. At least have an initial consult with an attourney to weigh your options. Keep us updated if you do!
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I don't think he's in the state anymore but I'm determined to track him down and file a complaint. My sick day project!
You should still file the complaint with the medical board in your state. If he moved out of state the medical board in the other state most likely will not have the resources to investigate a complaint of actions in another state. It's also questionable whether the other board would have jurisdiction considering he wouldn't have been practicing under the license granted by the other state, he was practicing under the license granted by your state. So file a complaint with the medical board in your state. If that board takes action then the other state can take reciprocal action. If you want to though you could still file a complaint with the out of state board so they know what a dickhead this guy is but it most likely won't result in disciplinary action.
And I should have said it in my first post, I'm so sorry this happened to you.
TTC since August 2011, Me = 40, DH = 38
Unexplained IF. Tried Clomid for 3 cycles. All BFNs. BFP 1/6/13. Chemical pregnancy.
Moving on to IVF#1. ER 11/26/13, 16 eggs retreived, 12 mature and all fertilized. 2 blasts transferred on 12/1. All other embies arrested so nothing left to freeze. Beta 12/10 = BFN. IVF #2 March 2014. BFP!!! TEAM BLUE!!!
TTC since August 2011, Me = 40, DH = 38
Unexplained IF. Tried Clomid for 3 cycles. All BFNs. BFP 1/6/13. Chemical pregnancy.
Moving on to IVF#1. ER 11/26/13, 16 eggs retreived, 12 mature and all fertilized. 2 blasts transferred on 12/1. All other embies arrested so nothing left to freeze. Beta 12/10 = BFN. IVF #2 March 2014. BFP!!! TEAM BLUE!!!
This isn't my complaint. I just thought it as interesting. BTW, I know his wife. She is a sweetheart. He also has six kids. What a pig!
TTC #1 8/2012~Chronic Pelvic Pain Condition began 10/2012~Told I was crazy by many doctors until a good specialist DXed a labral tear and bone impingement in left hip 4/2013~Surgery on left hip: 5/31/13 SUCCESS!!! Pain flares to continue indefinitely (but mostly gone).
Resumed TTC 6/2013~Chronic stomach pain and distension: 8/2013~TTA 1/2014 Until Resolved ~7/2014: Trip to the Mayo Clinic--SUCCESS!! Finally on the road to getting better.
Resumed TTC 7/2014! Third time's the charm....8/2014 Visited the RE~DX: MFI/low morph~Straight to IVF with ICSI! 9/2014~Transferred 1 perfect beautiful 6AA blast with 10 to freeze!!!~10/8/2014: BFP!!!! EDD: 6/17/15 STICK LITTLE BEAN!!! IT'S A BOY!!!!!