So I just got back from vaginal repair surgery. This is the second repair I've had since giving birth 20 months ago. The reason I am sharing this is because about half way through my pregnancy, I started to notice odd things about my gyno. He never took any info about my family history or my husband's. He never ran tests that should have been done for a woman over 35 (I was 36). He blew me off anytime I discussed my fears about childbirth. I should have switched doctors right then and there but, like so many women, I was scared to change in the middle of my pregnancy. He said he was going to give me an episiotomy but never did. I had severe tearing which had to be repaired with a surgery. When he stitched me up, he stitched me ALL the way up. They are called "husband stitches" because apparently sex is more pleasurable for the man. I haven't been able to run, use a tampon or have sex for 15 months. Anyway the point to this rant is PLEASE learn from my mistake and thoroughly research your gynecologist. There are sights where you can pay a small fee to get a physicians entire history including lawsuits. I found out a month ago that this doctor was sued for misconduct (sexual) and moved out of town. On to prey on his next victim! Sorry for the rant. I just don't want any of you great ladies to go through this. Most of you have been through enough already.
Little O- 2/25/12
BFP 2/28/14 MMC 14W2D D&C 5/07/14
Re: My Brand New Vagina! Long rant and PSA.
Baby Boy due October 2017
ETA - And "husband" stitches?? That just pisses me off more.
Just reviewed him on Healthgrades and Ratemds.
Also, husband stitches? Fucking bullshit.
April 2013: Femara + Trigger + IUI = ???
EDD- 06/13/2017
**Stinkerbelle-8-27-10 * Mr.P's 2nd Mama 7-27-07**
Did your MD specifically tell you he gave you "husband stiches"?
DS: 10-9-14
MC: 9-4-16
No he never said that specifically. That is just the term that is used when a woman is stitched that high.
I am truly sorry that you are going through this and I truly hope it was a fusion of a laceration and not that you were actually stitched that high. It is not uncommon to have lacerations on both of your labia that fuse together as they heal leaving you an extremely small opening...It is rare but it happens
I am sure that you have been through a long road of estrogen creams and I am glad that you have a vagina that came be used again.
ETA: I just saw your second comment. If he, in any way, shape, or form intentionally left you with such a small opening for you vagina I will hold him down so you can sew the tip of his penis to his ball sack. I think then you will be square.
OP - I'm so sorry this happened to you! I'm glad you were able to have this treated so that you can get back to living normally.
We considered hopping onto the lawsuit I mentioned previously. However, it was too late. The case was closed. We also can't really afford a lawyer right now and we have no idea where he is. I'm hoping his license was revoked.
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We considered hopping onto the lawsuit I mentioned previously. However, it was too late. The case was closed. We also can't really afford a lawyer right now and we have no idea where he is. I'm hoping his license was revoked.
I don't know if it's different in the States but I believe you have 2 years to take action. Also a lot of lawyers will take the case on a contingency fee, which means they get paid a percentage of whatever settlement you receive. Also they can hire people to find him and serve him. I would seriously look into it, this guy deserves to pay.
I'm so sorry this happened to you-that is a true nightmare.
Good idea! I will do that today.
TTC since August 2011, Me = 40, DH = 38
Unexplained IF. Tried Clomid for 3 cycles. All BFNs. BFP 1/6/13. Chemical pregnancy.
Moving on to IVF#1. ER 11/26/13, 16 eggs retreived, 12 mature and all fertilized. 2 blasts transferred on 12/1. All other embies arrested so nothing left to freeze. Beta 12/10 = BFN. IVF #2 March 2014. BFP!!! TEAM BLUE!!!
Oh wow...I am horrified that this happened to you, and truly sorry! Thank you for making us aware of this, because I will be looking more carefully into OBs when/if I do get pregnant.
Do what other PPs said. At least have an initial consult with an attourney to weigh your options. Keep us updated if you do!
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Off bcp and ttc 9/1/13
bfp 7/20/14, m/c 7/23
will ttc again 8/14
I don't think he's in the state anymore but I'm determined to track him down and file a complaint. My sick day project!
You should still file the complaint with the medical board in your state. If he moved out of state the medical board in the other state most likely will not have the resources to investigate a complaint of actions in another state. It's also questionable whether the other board would have jurisdiction considering he wouldn't have been practicing under the license granted by the other state, he was practicing under the license granted by your state. So file a complaint with the medical board in your state. If that board takes action then the other state can take reciprocal action. If you want to though you could still file a complaint with the out of state board so they know what a dickhead this guy is but it most likely won't result in disciplinary action.
And I should have said it in my first post, I'm so sorry this happened to you.
TTC since August 2011, Me = 40, DH = 38
Unexplained IF. Tried Clomid for 3 cycles. All BFNs. BFP 1/6/13. Chemical pregnancy.
Moving on to IVF#1. ER 11/26/13, 16 eggs retreived, 12 mature and all fertilized. 2 blasts transferred on 12/1. All other embies arrested so nothing left to freeze. Beta 12/10 = BFN. IVF #2 March 2014. BFP!!! TEAM BLUE!!!
TTC since August 2011, Me = 40, DH = 38
Unexplained IF. Tried Clomid for 3 cycles. All BFNs. BFP 1/6/13. Chemical pregnancy.
Moving on to IVF#1. ER 11/26/13, 16 eggs retreived, 12 mature and all fertilized. 2 blasts transferred on 12/1. All other embies arrested so nothing left to freeze. Beta 12/10 = BFN. IVF #2 March 2014. BFP!!! TEAM BLUE!!!
This isn't my complaint. I just thought it as interesting. BTW, I know his wife. She is a sweetheart. He also has six kids. What a pig!
TTC #1 8/2012~Chronic Pelvic Pain Condition began 10/2012~Told I was crazy by many doctors until a good specialist DXed a labral tear and bone impingement in left hip 4/2013~Surgery on left hip: 5/31/13 SUCCESS!!! Pain flares to continue indefinitely (but mostly gone).
Resumed TTC 6/2013~Chronic stomach pain and distension: 8/2013~TTA 1/2014 Until Resolved ~7/2014: Trip to the Mayo Clinic--SUCCESS!! Finally on the road to getting better.
Resumed TTC 7/2014! Third time's the charm....8/2014 Visited the RE~DX: MFI/low morph~Straight to IVF with ICSI! 9/2014~Transferred 1 perfect beautiful 6AA blast with 10 to freeze!!!~10/8/2014: BFP!!!! EDD: 6/17/15 STICK LITTLE BEAN!!! IT'S A BOY!!!!!