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My Brand New Vagina! Long rant and PSA.

So I just got back from vaginal repair surgery. This is the second repair I've had since giving birth 20 months ago. The reason I am sharing this is because about half way through my pregnancy, I started to notice odd things about my gyno. He never took any info about my family history or my husband's. He never ran tests that should have been done for a woman over 35 (I was 36). He blew me off anytime I discussed my fears about childbirth. I should have switched doctors right then and there but, like so many women, I was scared to change in the middle of my pregnancy. He said he was going to give me an episiotomy but never did. I had severe tearing which had to be repaired with a surgery. When he stitched me up, he stitched me ALL the way up. They are called "husband stitches" because apparently sex is more pleasurable for the man. I haven't been able to run, use a tampon or have sex for 15 months. Anyway the point to this rant is PLEASE learn from my mistake and thoroughly research your gynecologist. There are sights where you can pay a small fee to get a physicians entire history including lawsuits. I found out a month ago that this doctor was sued for misconduct (sexual) and moved out of town. On to prey on his next victim! Sorry for the rant. I just don't want any of you great ladies to go through this. Most of you have been through enough already.
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  • Oh my gosh!  
    KatzKiss
  • You poor thing! That is crazy. I am sorry you had to go through that.
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  • That's awful! If you've got the time you may want to google his name and write a review wherever possible. Hopefully you can help other women stay away from this guy. Hope you heal quickly.
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  • That's awful! If you've got the time you may want to google his name and write a review wherever possible. Hopefully you can help other women stay away from this guy. Hope you heal quickly.
    I can believe I haven't done that yet. I will immediately! Thank you.
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  • Holy crap I second Maui. That's disgusting. I'm so sorry you had to go through that.
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  • I had a similar situation. Surgery was recommended but my scar tissue thankfully softened. As my doc was stitching me he said "I should've just cut you" when I asked how bad I tore. So sorry you're going through this. Having to go through that much physical pain again on top of the anguish can be depressing.
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  • Wow! So sorry you had to go through that. I was not pleased with my OB practice after DS and for any more LOs I will be switching practices!
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  • Omg!!! That's so unbelievably horrid! I hope that you recover quickly.

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  • That's horrible! It's so scary how people like that are given a medical degree and put in a position of power. So sorry that happened to you :(
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  • That is horrible. I don't have words for that kind of asshole. I ditto what the others have said. Review him everywhere and consult an attorney.

    Also, husband stitches? Fucking bullshit.
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  • Wow, talk about abusing the privilege to practice. I hope his nuts get nailed to the wall. I am so sorry you went through that :-( What a nightmare! 
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  • O M G I am so sorry you had to go through this! I honestly have no other words I'm speechless. 
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  • Did your MD specifically tell you he gave you "husband stiches"?

     

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  • Wow...just wow.  So sorry you've had to go through all that. 
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  • BankerBSN said:

    Did your MD specifically tell you he gave you "husband stiches"?

     


    No he never said that specifically. That is just the term that is used when a woman is stitched that high.
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  • @BankerBSN I wouldn't put it past him though. On top of it all, he was a total masogonist.
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  • I have a friend that this happened to as well. She had a bad tear and he stitched her so high that she was unable to have sex/use a tampon, etc. She was lucky to not have reconstructive surgery but had to go through dilatations for quite a while. She filed a complaint, found a new OBGYN and for her second had to have a c-sec because the scar tissue left over from the first delivery would not allow her to give birth vaginally. I'm so sorry you went through this and make sure to talk with your new doctor about whether you will be able to have a vaginal birth with the next one.


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  • Please tell me you're filing a malpractice suit. If he did this on purpose he shouldn't be allowed to practice medicine.
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  •  If he did this on purpose he shouldn't be allowed to practice medicine.
    This!

    OP - I'm so sorry this happened to you! I'm glad you were able to have this treated so that you can get back to living normally.
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  • Please tell me you're filing a malpractice suit. If he did this on purpose he shouldn't be allowed to practice medicine.

    We considered hopping onto the lawsuit I mentioned previously. However, it was too late. The case was closed. We also can't really afford a lawyer right now and we have no idea where he is. I'm hoping his license was revoked.
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  • Oh my gosh, that is so sick and awful! I'm so sorry you're going through all of this! I pray he gets shut down and cannot harm anyone else.  Best wishes to you.
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  • Elbug said:
    Can't you look him up by name? He would need to register his license in a new state. You should looking into contacting whatever medical review board is over him. Lawsuit or not it needs to be done to prevent this from happening to others. So awful.
    This. You should be able to Google him & locate him through his license or practice. I really hope you find the strength to pursue this legally. What happened to you is just awful. 

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  • I would seriously be afraid of what SO would do to him! No wonder he is running!

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  • That man is a monster. He honestly sounds like a woman hater and he happens to be in the best field to do just that. I hope you are doing something to ensure this never happens again. Even something small like writing on line reviews and attaching his name and or practice to it. Lots of people like me Google the sh-t out of things before we do anything.

    I'm so sorry this happened to you-that is a true nightmare.
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  • Elbug said:
    Can't you look him up by name? He would need to register his license in a new state. You should looking into contacting whatever medical review board is over him. Lawsuit or not it needs to be done to prevent this from happening to others. So awful.

    Good idea! I will do that today.
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  • I am so sorry! A man who does that on purpose has absolutely no right to be working with animals, let alone on a human being who he is entrusted with. I have no words for that $&@$!!!
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  • KatzKiss said:
    Please tell me you're filing a malpractice suit. If he did this on purpose he shouldn't be allowed to practice medicine.

    We considered hopping onto the lawsuit I mentioned previously. However, it was too late. The case was closed. We also can't really afford a lawyer right now and we have no idea where he is. I'm hoping his license was revoked.
    Did you file a complaint with the medical board of the state you're in? Filing of malpractice suits are separate from filing a complaint with a licensing board.

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  • Oh wow...I am horrified that this happened to you, and truly sorry! Thank you for making us aware of this, because I will be looking more carefully into OBs when/if I do get pregnant.

    Do what other PPs said. At least have an initial consult with an attourney to weigh your options. Keep us updated if you do!

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  • KatzKiss said:
    Please tell me you're filing a malpractice suit. If he did this on purpose he shouldn't be allowed to practice medicine.

    We considered hopping onto the lawsuit I mentioned previously. However, it was too late. The case was closed. We also can't really afford a lawyer right now and we have no idea where he is. I'm hoping his license was revoked.
    Did you file a complaint with the medical board of the state you're in? Filing of malpractice suits are separate from filing a complaint with a licensing board.

    I don't think he's in the state anymore but I'm determined to track him down and file a complaint. My sick day project!
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  • Just found him. The bastard moved to Colorado and is already practicing again!
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  • KatzKiss said:
    KatzKiss said:
    Please tell me you're filing a malpractice suit. If he did this on purpose he shouldn't be allowed to practice medicine.

    We considered hopping onto the lawsuit I mentioned previously. However, it was too late. The case was closed. We also can't really afford a lawyer right now and we have no idea where he is. I'm hoping his license was revoked.
    Did you file a complaint with the medical board of the state you're in? Filing of malpractice suits are separate from filing a complaint with a licensing board.

    I don't think he's in the state anymore but I'm determined to track him down and file a complaint. My sick day project!

    You should still file the complaint with the medical board in your state. If he moved out of state the medical board in the other state most likely will not have the resources to investigate a complaint of actions in another state. It's also questionable whether the other board would have jurisdiction considering he wouldn't have been practicing under the license granted by the other state, he was practicing under the license granted by your state. So file a complaint with the medical board in your state. If that board takes action then the other state can take reciprocal action. If you want to though you could still file a complaint with the out of state board so they know what a dickhead this guy is but it most likely won't result in disciplinary action.

    And I should have said it in my first post, I'm so sorry this happened to you.

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  • I am so sorry this happened to to! That man has no right to practice on animals, let alone a human who is trusting him to take care of their body! You definitely should leave reviews everywhere you can find, and take as much action you can afford. He is a $&@*%#&amp;(@!!!
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  • Having fun reading others reviews about him. Here's a good one... Currently 2 of 4 stars | show details Feb 18th, 2012 My understanding is that Dr. Hernandez has had an affair with a Nurse who works in the Birthing Center at Transylvania Regional Hospital. That Nurse was also one of his patients. (He is a married man and she is married as well) - There is an arrest record on the Nurse he had an affair with because she got into an altercation with her husband after he found out about the affair. I have lost all respect and trust that I had in Dr. Hernandez. Mark as Helpful | 3 people found this helpful Report Abuse https://www.vitals.com/doctors/Dr_Carmelo_Hernandez/reviews#ixzz2kd4ZOJ9P
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  • KatzKiss said:
    Having fun reading others reviews about him. Here's a good one... Currently 2 of 4 stars | show details Feb 18th, 2012 My understanding is that Dr. Hernandez has had an affair with a Nurse who works in the Birthing Center at Transylvania Regional Hospital. That Nurse was also one of his patients. (He is a married man and she is married as well) - There is an arrest record on the Nurse he had an affair with because she got into an altercation with her husband after he found out about the affair. I have lost all respect and trust that I had in Dr. Hernandez. Mark as Helpful | 3 people found this helpful Report Abuse https://www.vitals.com/doctors/Dr_Carmelo_Hernandez/reviews#ixzz2kd4ZOJ9PIf
    If the doctor intentionally stitched you that way he should lose his license but what does him having an affair have anything to do with his ability to be a doctor?
    If the nurse was also a patient then that is a boundary violation and an offense for which he can be disciplined (assuming that state has laws and regs similar to mine).

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  • KatzKiss said:
    Having fun reading others reviews about him. Here's a good one... Currently 2 of 4 stars | show details Feb 18th, 2012 My understanding is that Dr. Hernandez has had an affair with a Nurse who works in the Birthing Center at Transylvania Regional Hospital. That Nurse was also one of his patients. (He is a married man and she is married as well) - There is an arrest record on the Nurse he had an affair with because she got into an altercation with her husband after he found out about the affair. I have lost all respect and trust that I had in Dr. Hernandez. Mark as Helpful | 3 people found this helpful Report Abuse https://www.vitals.com/doctors/Dr_Carmelo_Hernandez/reviews#ixzz2kd4ZOJ9PIf
    If the doctor intentionally stitched you that way he should lose his license but what does him having an affair have anything to do with his ability to be a doctor?

    This isn't my complaint. I just thought it as interesting. BTW, I know his wife. She is a sweetheart. He also has six kids. What a pig!
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  • Holy fucking shit I am speechless. So sorry you went through that! What area are you in? I want to avoid that guy!!!
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