For the Team Blue mamas... circumcision poll

NicoleAnne416 · November 2013

We did once and if this one is a boy we will again. We both agreed for our own reasons. It was a choice, one of many, that we had to make for our children. to each their own!

deidremaria · November 2013

Rrrrrachel said:
And every other place mothers meet and talk on the internet.

WOW! This just reminded me that I. A few months I'm gonna be someone's mother! :-D

Bluebird2318 · November 2013

@KendraColeslaw

Just don't have your boys circ'd if there are any lit candles about. And don't circ until all of us have had our boys so that we can circ and not feel left out! When you do circ make sure not to tip though, because you know those imbeciles are just gonna mess it up and not include the ranch. On second thought, you know, just don't circ, because it's totally CircQueen18's thing and it would be really uncool of you to circ first. [-(

seannasmommy16 · November 2013

DH and I have talked about this and we will be circ our son.

Bluebird2318 · November 2013

@jellysparkles Right?! Three pages and nothing juicy yet. Cross-board lookie-loos might be getting disappointed. I'll throw in a GIF to try to get things started up.

I may or may not circ my kid! And...

Bluebird2318 · November 2013

ColleenSwerb said:

jellysparkles said:

For being the BSC board... we're boring as hell

That's cuz we already had this debate blow up ages ago at least 3 times, lol.

@ColleenSwerb But you just aren't doing Bump drama right unless it blows up every single time! Andplusalso, we are the modern, new and improved A14. All those old crazies? We don't know those people. They don't even go here. B-)

MndyJnn · November 2013

What does the special snowflake option mean?

Bluebird2318 · November 2013

@MndyJnn It means your situation/opinion isn't covered by any of the other poll options available. So you pick "special snowflake" and then explain why your situation is different.

Bluebird2318 · November 2013

jellysparkles said:

I'm gonna unassisted home circ, while exclusively pumping formula from my superboobs, bedsharing with the baby on my head, and banging my hubby two weeks pp because you don't know my lyfe! And, obvs tanning. Baby won't be able to STTN if I'm scary pale giving it nightmares. Most common sleep training problem is pasty moms. Duh. YOU'RE ALL MAKING THE WRONG CHOICES

nicole mackenzie · November 2013

I'm guessing we have a boy yet but we don't find out until December.

Initially we wanted to have our sons circumcised. DH is, and it's all I've ever known.

I don't think DH is less sexually satisfied than an uncircumcised man. He likes sex, and gets off just fine.

It does decrease chances of penile cancer, but that is already rare.

Cleanliness isn't really an issue in this day and age in America.

So... I don't think the pain control is adequate for little boys being curcumsized. I detest the practice of docking tails in puppies... Done at 1-3 days old, no anesthesia... You just cut their little tails off while the scream for their mommy. Do they remember it? No. But it is painful.

If i am against doing this to dogs, I cannot with good conscience do it to my baby.

mamacatTo2 · November 2013

We are Jewish, so we will be circumcising at a bris.

Bluebird2318 · November 2013

jellysparkles said:

jellysparkles said:

I'm gonna unassisted home circ, while exclusively pumping formula from my superboobs, bedsharing with the baby on my head, and banging my hubby two weeks pp because you don't know my lyfe! And, obvs tanning. Baby won't be able to STTN if I'm scary pale giving it nightmares. Most common sleep training problem is pasty moms. Duh. YOU'RE ALL MAKING THE WRONG CHOICES

Wait, just you tanning or also the baby? I need to know......
I think I'll just spray tan the baby - wouldn't want it to roll off the tanning bed

Get the good quality stuff. You don't need an Oompa Loompa.

mrscrcalli · November 2013

DH and I are 50/50 on it right now on mutilation. :ar!

abbeylanecb · November 2013

Mustardseed2007 said:
I am also pleasantly surprised that this thread is going so civilly. that's awesome

We did circ DS. But I'm glad we're having a girl this time so we don't have to think about it anymore.

This!! I told my DH I was pumped we didn't have to think about it this time.

Tferr02 · November 2013

We circumcised my son and I said yes we will this one too. With my son, our pediatrician came to the hospital to care for our son and he did the circumsion at the hospital. All the nurses and doctors talked about how good of a job he did. Unfortunately, we have moved across country so he can't do it again. Meeting a new pediatrician this week for our son and will be talking about circumsion for this one too. I really don't feel strongly either way, even after doing tons of research, but my husband does feel strongly so I go with him on this parenting choice

avidkeo · November 2013

wow very civilised!

we will not be circing for 2 reasons,

1: DH and I don't believe in it. Fair enough for religious reasons, but I don't think any of the other reasons are good enough to do what is basically cosmetic surgery.

2: Its not really done here, I think less than 10% of boys are circed here, and that't for religious reasons.

After the last discussion I actually asked DH his opinion, because it was something we had never even talked about, he kinda looked at me and just said "what? why would we?" so that pretty much summed it up!

spano41 · November 2013

SPS430 said:

My husband is naturally circumcised. I was hoping ds1 would be as well so we wouldn't have to deal with it. We ended up doing it and had our ob do the procedure. The ped said it was the best looking one ages seen. He left more skin there than normal

So this might be a stupid question....but how is someone naturally circumcised? Are some people just born without foreskin? I obviously don't know much about this kind of stuff!!

kegs10210 · November 2013

We agreed to circ without much conversation... I've taken enough health and sexuality classes over the years, and it just seems logical. I also have two girlfriends whose husbands had to have circs done as adults, and boy was it messy (and painful), bc they both had foreskin issues. I'm not going to tell anyone they have to do it; it's just something we believe in.

amhah09 · November 2013

I just have to wonder that if it is painful for a grown man who more than likely has better pain management then why do we think it's not painful to a 1-2 day old baby?

sayysayy13 · November 2013

We're having a boy and I'm just not so sure what to do. I've heard and seen so many circumcision go wrong and the poor baby is seeing urology at such a young age! I'm not sure what to do

kegs10210 · November 2013

@amhah09 I'm not saying it's pain-free for a baby, but for the adult men I know, a large part of their recovery issue was getting erections frequently. I know that babies can get them too, but not at the rate a grown man does

manda10884 · November 2013

We don't know the sex yet so we haven't really had that talk yet. I'm hoping to have a girl so we don't have to decide that but we will make a decision if LO is a boy. My DH is uncirc'd so I don't know what he would want. I have always thought I would want to circ but I don't know for sure. Possible TMI warning: I have been with circ'd before hubby and uncirc'd hubby and I personally believe that to me uncirc'd feels way better! But on the other hand I do know that hubby seems to be super duper extra sensitive during sexy time and sometimes it's annoying because I would love for it to last much much longer- I think that since he isn't circ'd he just can't go that long but I don't know! He would kill me if he read this lol! He also seems to spend a lot of extra time cleaning and such and when he goes to public restroom he uses the stall no matter what ( not sure if it's insecurity about being uncirc'd or not- he won't tell me!). It kind of seems like the benefits of being circ'd would be better than not doing it. Again, we haven't had the talk yet- I'm also really wondering how I would explain it to my side of the family if we didn't (don't want to tell them DH isn't circ'd and that's one of the reasons) Praying for a girl!!!!

Calla123 · November 2013

Not for us - Here it is considered to be cosmetic and for us we just don't see it as necessary.

pannk · November 2013

manda10884 said:

Possible TMI warning: I have been with circ'd before hubby and uncirc'd hubby and I personally believe that to me uncirc'd feels way better!

Agreed!!!!

Linnea503 · November 2013

Nope. Didn't with DS and won't with this boy either. I really dont know anyone personally who has except for one family that circ'd their first boy but did not circ their second.

Sisimama10 · November 2013

We will be with our son.

Rrrrrachel · November 2013

Speaking for myself I see no real reason to do it. Since it's a painful procedure I would need a good reason to put a new born through it.

amhah09 · November 2013

Vinny424 said:
If we have a son he will be circ. thanks to his mom he will most likely has urinary reflux. Any uti he might get could quickly turn into a kidney infection and do damage to his kidneys so anything I could do to help prevent I would.

I don't know that I've read a lot of factual information about how circumcision can help with UTI/kidney infections. I would like to read that if you have any links. I'm curious as to how the state of the external foreskin looks affects the internal structures.

ETA: never mind I think I understand what you're saying. Circumcision = decreased risk of UTI (again though I don't think there's a ton of factual info) = not refluxing to the kidneys.

Rrrrrachel · November 2013

I think it's well demonstrated that circumcision reduces uti in huge first year of life, after that the benefit is gone. Even in an uncircumcised male the rate of uti is lower than in females. I'm not sure how pp medical issue would impact that.

amhah09 · November 2013

Rrrrrachel said:
I think it's well demonstrated that circumcision reduces uti in huge first year of life, after that the benefit is gone. Even in an uncircumcised male the rate of uti is lower than in females. I'm not sure how pp medical issue would impact that.

Oh okay, interesting. I didn't realize it was actually evidenced, though I did know it was speculated. I knew rates of uncircumcised males are lower than females so maybe I was only thinking of that.

Rogue237 · November 2013

We don't know the sex yet, so we haven't decided. If it's a boy, I know DH wants to not circumcise (even though he is circumcised). He thinks circumcision is unnatural and unnecessary, but he also hasn't done all of the research. I'm totally on the fence about it, honestly, and I can see pros and cons on both sides. If LO is a boy, we'll be doing a lot more research before deciding. It'll be a group effort decision, but ultimately I'll give DH more sway since he knows what it is to have a penis and I don't. He'd do the same if there were any girl decisions to make.

Bluebird2318 · November 2013

amhah09 said:

I think it's well demonstrated that circumcision reduces uti in huge first year of life, after that the benefit is gone. Even in an uncircumcised male the rate of uti is lower than in females. I'm not sure how pp medical issue would impact that.
Oh okay, interesting. I didn't realize it was actually evidenced, though I did know it was speculated. I knew rates of uncircumcised males are lower than females so maybe I was only thinking of that.

It can also reduce the risk of certain STDs, penile cancer, and supposedly cervical cancer in sexual partners as well. Though obviously both circ'd and uncirc'd males should be using protection during sex anyway, and penile cancer and UTIs in males are both rare already. The health benefits are proven to exist, but aren't so profound that circ is universally recommended. It's a personal decision and there are good enough reasons to go either route. IMO anyway.

Rrrrrachel · November 2013

The STD benefits are still highly disputed and the research on them isn't very sound, IMO.

steph1977 · November 2013

Bluebird2318 said:
I feel like The Bump really values its drama and flame wars compared to other baby boards for some reason. It's sort of like fried food and BBQ. It exists in the North, and people love it. But take a trip down South, and suddenly it's everywhere, and it's an art form. There's no drama quite like Bump drama.

ETA: Oh great. Now I'm really craving some Jim 'N Nick's. Why can't you have nice things, Michigan?

I recently discovered Jim 'N Nicks here in Alabama -- so yummy and ridiculously messy!

Brandon&Jordan · November 2013

With our son I left the decision mostly up to my husband. I honestly didn't know much about it either way. My husband wanted our son circumsized because he is. Which I think was a valid point. When your son is showering with dad or going pee outside with dad etc do you want it to look different than daddy's?!?! Our son has definitely checked out what his privates look like compared to ours, and he was just shy of two. So I say go with what dad is.
Also when we were decidingy brothers caught wind of the debate and decided to pull me aside. A very uncomfortable conversation about how they weren't circumsized and wish they were happened. I am scarred for life!!!!
Anyways do what is best for you and your family.

Bluebird2318 · November 2013

@steph1977 Alabama is where I had it as well. That's some good BBQ!

MissWhis · November 2013

pannk said:

manda10884 said:

Possible TMI warning: I have been with circ'd before hubby and uncirc'd hubby and I personally believe that to me uncirc'd feels way better!

Agreed!!!!

THIS.

AA1987 · May 2014

manda10884 said:
We don't know the sex yet so we haven't really had that talk yet. I'm hoping to have a girl so we don't have to decide that but we will make a decision if LO is a boy. My DH is uncirc'd so I don't know what he would want. I have always thought I would want to circ but I don't know for sure. Possible TMI warning: I have been with circ'd before hubby and uncirc'd hubby and I personally believe that to me uncirc'd feels way better! But on the other hand I do know that hubby seems to be super duper extra sensitive during sexy time and sometimes it's annoying because I would love for it to last much much longer- I think that since he isn't circ'd he just can't go that long but I don't know! He would kill me if he read this lol! He also seems to spend a lot of extra time cleaning and such and when he goes to public restroom he uses the stall no matter what ( not sure if it's insecurity about being uncirc'd or not- he won't tell me!). It kind of seems like the benefits of being circ'd would be better than not doing it. Again, we haven't had the talk yet- I'm also really wondering how I would explain it to my side of the family if we didn't (don't want to tell them DH isn't circ'd and that's one of the reasons) Praying for a girl!!!!

Wow! Plus one on everything here!! I'm in the exact same boat!

Jodash24 · May 2014

Circumsition isn't a common thing here ( from uk) I don't understand why it's needed unless for religion?

kmhoff · May 2014

ok, This is my first post ever

I am dead against circ'ing our son and DH is for, but his only argument is "tradition". I don't think that is a very strong argument. My best friend has two boys who are not and she never has issues... I believe as long as you are educated on it and know how to take care of it and teach your son to take care of it you shouldn't have issues... Just the way you would teach a little girl to clean herself. I am mainly looking for a good way to talk to DH about this without making him shut down. My biggest cons are: I don't want to hurt my son, (even though he will never remember it) and it is medically unnecessary and we are not religious. And the men that I have met/been with before marriage that weren't didn't ever even mention it. And I usually couldn't tell! I am looking for a good argument that will make my husband see it my way. Please help!

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