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June 2013 Moms
JANCANDANCE
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Hard Day- UPDATE
JANCANDANCE
member
Ladies, if you could just send some good vibes my way today I would appreciate it. I woke up to some strange events this morning. I'm not ready to talk about them nor do I really have anyone to vent to about it. Just TIA.
Edited....I have to talk about it or I will explode.
Okay so before my DH and I got together he had a "thing" with a co-worker. They broke up but remained in contact professionally. When he and I started dating he told me all about her and such.
Well she has since had a VERY hard time keeping it strictly professional. It has come up many times and my DH has insisted it is just professional. But she can't let go and eventually whenever they talk she somehow brings the convo back to "them".
My DH and I have been living apart for about 4 weeks bc we are doing a remodel on a home that is closer to his school. He is at that home during the week. So he usually comes home on the weekends. So we've been dealing with that, new baby, and a middle schooler who isn't happy about switching schools. So things have been a bit shaky with us lately.
This morning he left his work phone at home. It was buzzing like crazy. So I call his iPhone and it is dead. He isn't at school yet so he isn't answering his office phone. I pick up his work phone to text his secretary to tell her to let him know I will drop it by once I get up and settled. As I start to text the first name in his messages feed is from the ex gf/ co-worker.
This is the text:
Dafuq!?! Are you kidding me? I'm hysterical. Yes I'm bigger than I normally am. I'm an 8 mind you.....but she's never even seen me. So he obviously has said something to her. Needless to say I'm a crying, sobbing mess this morning. I don't know what to do.
I'm sorry this is so long and dramatic. But I can't tell my sisters or friends about this. I don't know what to do.....
Jan~
Edited....I have to talk about it or I will explode.
Okay so before my DH and I got together he had a "thing" with a co-worker. They broke up but remained in contact professionally. When he and I started dating he told me all about her and such.
Well she has since had a VERY hard time keeping it strictly professional. It has come up many times and my DH has insisted it is just professional. But she can't let go and eventually whenever they talk she somehow brings the convo back to "them".
My DH and I have been living apart for about 4 weeks bc we are doing a remodel on a home that is closer to his school. He is at that home during the week. So he usually comes home on the weekends. So we've been dealing with that, new baby, and a middle schooler who isn't happy about switching schools. So things have been a bit shaky with us lately.
This morning he left his work phone at home. It was buzzing like crazy. So I call his iPhone and it is dead. He isn't at school yet so he isn't answering his office phone. I pick up his work phone to text his secretary to tell her to let him know I will drop it by once I get up and settled. As I start to text the first name in his messages feed is from the ex gf/ co-worker.
This is the text:
Dafuq!?! Are you kidding me? I'm hysterical. Yes I'm bigger than I normally am. I'm an 8 mind you.....but she's never even seen me. So he obviously has said something to her. Needless to say I'm a crying, sobbing mess this morning. I don't know what to do.
I'm sorry this is so long and dramatic. But I can't tell my sisters or friends about this. I don't know what to do.....
Jan~
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Re: Hard Day- UPDATE
Hugs Jan!
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Bradley 05-04-11 & Tyler 06-18-13
Oh my gosh!!! Hell no! I'm so sorry. Fuck that hoe!!
WTAF? Who does this whore think she is? You are MARRIED. I don't care what their personal or professional relationships are or have been, that exchange is completely inappropriate. Her comment should have been met with a quick "don't say that about my wife" and then end. of. conversation.
I'm probably not the right person to vent to if you are looking to calm down...
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Bradley 05-04-11 & Tyler 06-18-13
PS... What a dumb cu$t for calling you chubby. She's obviously immature.
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Bradley 05-04-11 & Tyler 06-18-13
Was this a convo about work stuff?? If so I'd let him know how unprofessionalthis was. Totally UN called for.
If not...I'd put my foot down on that!! No more texting his ex girl friend in a personal way.
And a size 8 isn't chubby at all!! I almost feel l8r if this was me....I'd say something to her...just so she knows that i know!
P.s. If I was there I'd help u kick her ass!
Eta- Honestly I think your husband is the one you should address it with not her. If she is the kind of lady im picturing, having you say something to her will only bring her satisfaction that she is a topic of conversation. If anyone says anything to her it should be ur DH telling her that text was out of line/unprofessional. Otherwise leave her out of it and talk to your DH.
You said she has a professional relationship with DH, will you confronting her effect this?
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Bradley 05-04-11 & Tyler 06-18-13
He claims they still do but she isn't at his school anymore. He transferred her. So to me, I don't see any reason to have contact professional or otherwise.
I agree with willman that your husband should have swiftly corrected her and ended the conversation.
Don't feel bad addressing the situation as you've done nothing wrong. He needs to explain himself and decide your relationship together is more important than one with that biatch.
I kinda went through something like this with DH, and it almost broke us up til I told him it was wrecking us and he needed to cut off all contact with her to save us. Maybe talk to him about the message and let him know that ending contact with her is the best for your family.
Did you read more texts from her?
I suppose the "chubby" comment would bother me, but honestly, the tone of the conversation is what would bother me. Too flirtatious, too personal. Does your husband know your concerns about this chick? Because that's reason enough for him to never talk to her again. He should respect you enough to understand that.
Not saying your husband is up to anything. Men can be stupid. But I would not trust this woman within an inch of him.
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GL. You have more patience than me. I probably would have driven to his work.
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