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Baby Nurse

Anyone thinking of getting a baby nurse for the first week or two? 
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  • Yes definitely going to be interviewing this week.
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  • Never heard of this, what is it?
  • Some folks hire a night nurse, but since I'm BF I'd be up anyway. I would save my money. I could possibly see it if I were FF & my husband were a night shift or away.


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  • Its just like people who have cleaning services. Usually they know how to clean their home. I didn't realize hiring a baby nurse was so controversial.

  • And, yes, I'm extremely lazy to tell you the truth. If I can pay a professional to assist me so I can get caught up on my sleep, why wouldnt I?
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  • And, yes, I'm extremely lazy to tell you the truth. If I can pay a professional to assist me so I can get caught up on my sleep, why wouldnt I?
    I just don't understand this at all but to each is own I guess.
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  • Total lurker here so please forgive the intrusion.  Question for you - and I don't mean this in a judgey way - but what would the baby nurse be doing and when would she/he be working?  Is it just for overnights? To help during the day?

    Here's my thought on this concept in general - yes, you lose a lot of sleep, but that doesn't go away in 2 weeks.  My son didn't sleep through the night until he was 8 weeks old (and I know that makes us one of the lucky ones).  I was a new mom and I was scared to death thinking about those first days/weeks home but you know what, as soon as you bring that baby home, you have no choice but to get it done - the mommy (and daddy, for that matter) genes - that I was afraid I wasn't going to have - kick right in.  I guess I wouldn't want someone else, like a baby nurse, possibly interfering with that experience for me.  That's just my two cents.

    Now, if you have medical issues following birth, I agree that you have to what you have to do to make sure your baby is getting the care he/she needs, be that hiring a nurse or having your mom or MIL or someone else come and help.

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  • NYMama1 said:

    Honestly, if I had the money to spend and wasn't planning on BF'ing, I would consider a night nurse.  A baby that doesn't sleep, has colic, sleep deprivation and PPD can be a very tough combination for anyone to handle.  Having help doesn't make you any less of a mother and being a martyr doesn't make you any more of a mother.  If someone wants to hire a night nurse, so be it.  Lots of sanctimommies up in this post.

    Thank God! Someone else who is thinking with sense. My eyes were rolling very very hard at all the Mommy Martyrdom in this ribbon.


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  • Seriously?? How lazy are you?
    While its not what I would do, it doesn't mean someone who hires help like this is lazy. In the case of multiples or special needs it can help with care giving in the beginning. If someone has the means to afford the help they need then more power to them. I hired a Mother's Helper to help me with my toddler twice a week. Does that make me lazy? I think it's douchey to judge how other people choose to make arrangements to look after their children. If they feel they need a night nurse then that is their business.
    Lazy or not, it says something about someone when they hire a stranger to do their job. I have more than enough money to hire help, I choose not to. If you want your arrangements to be your business, don't post it on a public forum. We are entitled to our opinion whether you like it or not. Also, I am not being a martyr. I don't view the challenges of parenting as a burden, I view it as parenting! Shocker!
    What does that say about me? Have you ever hired a babysitter?


  • jnsmith85 said:

    Seriously?? How lazy are you?

    While its not what I would do, it doesn't mean someone who hires help like this is lazy. In the case of multiples or special needs it can help with care giving in the beginning.

    If someone has the means to afford the help they need then more power to them. I hired a Mother's Helper to help me with my toddler twice a week. Does that make me lazy?

    I think it's douchey to judge how other people choose to make arrangements to look after their children. If they feel they need a night nurse then that is their business.
    Lazy or not, it says something about someone when they hire a stranger to do their job. I have more than enough money to hire help, I choose not to. If you want your arrangements to be your business, don't post it on a public forum. We are entitled to our opinion whether you like it or not. Also, I am not being a martyr. I don't view the challenges of parenting as a burden, I view it as parenting! Shocker!

    What does that say about me? Have you ever hired a babysitter?


    Yeah, cause that's the same thing! I think there's a slight difference between a couple of hours to see a movie/grab a bite over someone caring for your child on a nightly basis to ensure you get your beauty sleep. Oh and no, I wouldn't be looking for a babysitter in my babies first weeks. It took us long enough to make her, we'll care for her.
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  • Also, the OP was not about daycare. If you need to work to support your family then so be it! I have no issues with that but I fundamentally disagree with hiring someone to look after your LO at night just so you can stay in bed. What exactly was it you thought you were signing up for?
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  • As I said in a previous post, I had severe ppd/ppa in my last pregnancy fueled mainly by sleep deprivation. My son was up every 2 hours to eat. My husband works crazy hours and didn't help, plus I have no close relatives. I couldn't bond with my son because I was so sleep deprived. I almost fell asleep at the wheel. So, I would like to to hire someone in the beginning to assist me so I can function during the day to take care of my son.  So what does that say about me? That I shouldn't have kids? That I'm a bad mom? Wow, I guess I shou7ld get my tubes tied asap.

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  • Thanks, ladies. I appreciate your feedback, both positive and negative. That's why I posted.
  • I'm rich? Didn't know that.  And why am I a bitch?
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  • You also made the point of stating several times in this thread that you are lazy. You were inviting negativity. It says exactly what you stated yourself, you're lazy. Whether that is true or not, some people (myself included) are going to consider a noght nurse as lazy, particularly given the manner in which you chose to post! Also, I did not say you were a bad mother, I do not know you. However, I do believe that just because you can reproduce, it doesn't always mean you should.
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  • I think she was just describing the types of people that would usually have a night nurse. It conjures up images of pretentious middle class snobs I'm afraid.
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  • I'm rich? Didn't know that.  And why am I a bitch?

    When did I say you were?? You didn't ask me to be your personal nurse, so I was not referencing you.

    You are just pissy that hardly anyone agrees with you. Especially because you admitted several times how lazy you are.
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  • Oh Lord, I was being sarcastic. And yes, I'm very pissy.

  • I think I hear the waaaaaaaaaaaaaaambulance coming...
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  • We had planned on getting a night nurse, but so far DH's travel schedule is looking clear. But if he starts to have to travel every week after the new year, I'll probably hire one. I have a list of names ready to call if so. 
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  • Arielle27Arielle27 member
    edited September 2013
    I'm not reading any of the previous posts as it looks like things have gotten ugly... But to answer the OPs original question: I didn't have any help with my first two, but this time (as we are expecting 3u3 in the next few weeks and have no helpful family or even friends in the area, and DH is about to open a new business) we've hired someone to help out, mostly driving the older two to/from their two different daycares and to help me out a little in the house. We'll hopefully be able to keep her for 3weeks or so part-time.

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