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Pearl1982 · July 2013

thekikimonster said:

Pearl1982 said:

EmeJay said:

jnic0319 said:

Diordra said:

lilysylvis said:

EmeJay said:

I sit on public toilets
Me too.

Me three
That's really gross.
If everyone would just sit on the damn toilet, it wouldn't be gross. People squatting and peeing on the seats ARE the problem.

I don't see why touching a seat with my thighs is more disgusting than opening a door with my hand or holding the pole in the subway.
Presumably the subway pole doesn't have pee, pubes, shit, or, in the case of my work bathroom, menstrual blood on them.
What the heck kind of subway do you ride on? Do you think they clean those poles on a regular basis? I saw enough masturbating men on the EL to know better than to think anything on a train is clean.

Not saying subways are clean at all. That's why I just said in my other post: I realize that subways are gross places.

EmeJay · July 2013

Banker&BSN said:

Yes, subway poles are gross, but falling face first on the subway floor is grosser. :::grabs on to pole:::

Would you rather: Lick the pole or lick the floor of the subway?

Pearl1982 · July 2013

EmeJay said:

Banker&BSN said:

Yes, subway poles are gross, but falling face first on the subway floor is grosser. :::grabs on to pole:::
Would you rather: Lick the pole or lick the floor of the subway?

We bet my friend $200 that she wouldn't lick the pole. And, she totally did it. Like 4 inches of it. ::gag::

jjgrl55 · July 2013

My FFFC: I very, very seldom write congratulations on a BFP post. I read almost all of them, but unless I have something specific to say to the poster, it just feels like it doesn't mean anything if I am the 500th "Congratulations! H&H 9 months!" post.

FTR, I don't judge other people for posting at all, but I definitely judge myself.

I feel the same way about writing Happy Birthday on someone's Facebook wall. I think it just shows how paranoid and overly analytical I am about my own behavior.

BankerBSN · July 2013

EmeJay said:

Banker&BSN said:

Yes, subway poles are gross, but falling face first on the subway floor is grosser. :::grabs on to pole:::

Would you rather: Lick the pole or lick the floor of the subway?

Pole, fo shizzle

sueann911 · July 2013

Pearl1982 said:

EmeJay said:

Banker&BSN said:

Yes, subway poles are gross, but falling face first on the subway floor is grosser. :::grabs on to pole:::
Would you rather: Lick the pole or lick the floor of the subway?

We bet my friend $200 that she wouldn't lick the pole. And, she totally did it. Like 4 inches of it. ::gag::

I would take that bet and your money.

Eta: hate mobile quotes

ksuRN09 · July 2013

krdesi said:

Sarah52Beth said:

krdesi said:

Sarah52Beth said:
I think elective c-sections are ridiculous. I think it is a selfish decision and see no point in having one unless it is deemed medically necessary for the safety of the mom and baby. It is major surgery. Most of the time, I feel it is done for vain reasons.

Recently had a friend on FB posting about doing one. I kept my opinion to myself.

ETA: After reading this again it might be more of a UO. Oh well
Giving yourself a nice big scar is vain? Lol definitely more of a UO though.
True about the scar, but I'm more thinking of the "too posh too push" mindset, or not wanting your vaginal to be mangled, which from all reports I've heard from other women, it goes back to normal, but some think it will just be completely ruined after a vaginal delivery.

Lol I must admit...I'm a little afraid for my vag too but my mom had a c-section with me and vaginal delivery with my sister and said my sister's was so much easier and so much less of a recovery.

Yeah I'm a little worried for mine, too. My mom did both and said the csection recovery was much easier. But she tore really bad with the natural delivery so yeah, that would probably hurt. To be honest, the whole thought of childbirth scares the hell out of me.

BankerBSN · July 2013

sueann911 said:

EmeJay said:

Banker&BSN said:

Yes, subway poles are gross, but falling face first on the subway floor is grosser. :::grabs on to pole:::
Would you rather: Lick the pole or lick the floor of the subway?
We bet my friend $200 that she wouldn't lick the pole. And, she totally did it. Like 4 inches of it. ::gag::
I would take that bet and your money.

Same here

Pearl1982 · July 2013

Banker&BSN said:

sueann911 said:

EmeJay said:

Banker&BSN said:

Yes, subway poles are gross, but falling face first on the subway floor is grosser. :::grabs on to pole:::
Would you rather: Lick the pole or lick the floor of the subway?
We bet my friend $200 that she wouldn't lick the pole. And, she totally did it. Like 4 inches of it. ::gag::
I would take that bet and your money.

Same here

She didn't get sick at all, which probably means I should re-think my germaphobe-ness.

von1976 · July 2013

EmeJay said:

Meh - Since I will be out of town next week, here's my UO: I don't give a fuck about germs. I'm healthy as a horse and it takes a lot for me to feel disgusted.

I once licked an elevator call button just to freak out a germaphobe friend. A picture of this exists.

Pearl1982 said:
EmeJay said:
Banker&BSN said:

Yes, subway poles are gross, but falling face first on the subway floor is grosser. :::grabs on to pole:::
Would you rather: Lick the pole or lick the floor of the subway?
We bet my friend $200 that she wouldn't lick the pole. And, she totally did it. Like 4 inches of it. ::gag::

Also, I did not get $200 for this. So now I feel cheated.

CrawltheWarriorKing · July 2013

jjgrl55 said:

My FFFC: I very, very seldom write congratulations on a BFP post. I read almost all of them, but unless I have something specific to say to the poster, it just feels like it doesn't mean anything if I am the 500th "Congratulations! H&H 9 months!" post.

FTR, I don't judge other people for posting at all, but I definitely judge myself.

I feel the same way about writing Happy Birthday on someone's Facebook wall. I think it just shows how paranoid and overly analytical I am about my own behavior.

I'm that way about liking a picture that is posted. If I see 100+ likes on a photo I won't like it cause I don't think it would mean anything and doubt they go back to see each individual that liked it.

EmeJay · July 2013

jjgrl55 said:

My FFFC: I very, very seldom write congratulations on a BFP post. I read almost all of them, but unless I have something specific to say to the poster, it just feels like it doesn't mean anything if I am the 500th "Congratulations! H&H 9 months!" post.

FTR, I don't judge other people for posting at all, but I definitely judge myself.

I feel the same way about writing Happy Birthday on someone's Facebook wall. I think it just shows how paranoid and overly analytical I am about my own behavior.

I only congratulate people I know and with whom I've interacted.

(Did I use WHOM correctly? With all the teachers drinking margaritas on the beach, I might snag a free grammar lesson)

ksuRN09 · July 2013

Banker&BSN said:

GhostMonkey said:

cruelsound said:

I think some of you care way too much about what a woman does with her own body, especially considering it doesn't effect you at all.

In a way it does because often times the hospital charges are much more for a c/s (including a longer stay), and that affects insurance claims and that affects premiums.

I would support forcing truly elective (meaning I don't want to stretch my vag) c-sections to pay OOP the difference between the charges of a vaginal delivery and a c-section. Though that wouldn't matter much because no doctor in their right mind if going to code it as elective if they want to keep that woman as a patient.

I also think we should charge the Providers the difference when they perform a C/S for "failure to dilate" cause they have tickets to a play in 3 hours or a party to go to. Yup. It happens.

Oh it definitely happens. I know where I work, the drs will let you labor until 5pm then its off to have a c section bc they don't want to be called back in that night.

von1976 · July 2013

EmeJay said:

jjgrl55 said:

My FFFC: I very, very seldom write congratulations on a BFP post. I read almost all of them, but unless I have something specific to say to the poster, it just feels like it doesn't mean anything if I am the 500th "Congratulations! H&H 9 months!" post.

FTR, I don't judge other people for posting at all, but I definitely judge myself.

I feel the same way about writing Happy Birthday on someone's Facebook wall. I think it just shows how paranoid and overly analytical I am about my own behavior.

I only congratulate people I know and with whom I've interacted.

(Did I use WHOM correctly? With all the teachers drinking margaritas on the beach, I might snag a free grammar lesson)

Yes. Who is a subject, whom is an object.

https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/education/grammar/who-versus-whom?page=all

Regufsevolem · July 2013

kspark9311 said:

I think elective c-sections are ridiculous. I think it is a selfish decision and see no point in having one unless it is deemed medically necessary for the safety of the mom and baby. It is major surgery. Most of the time, I feel it is done for vain reasons. Recently had a friend on FB posting about doing one. I kept my opinion to myself. ETA: After reading this again it might be more of a UO. Oh well
Giving yourself a nice big scar is vain? Lol definitely more of a UO though.
True about the scar, but I'm more thinking of the "too posh too push" mindset, or not wanting your vaginal to be mangled, which from all reports I've heard from other women, it goes back to normal, but some think it will just be completely ruined after a vaginal delivery.
Lol I must admit...I'm a little afraid for my vag too but my mom had a c-section with me and vaginal delivery with my sister and said my sister's was so much easier and so much less of a recovery.
Yeah I'm a little worried for mine, too. My mom did both and said the csection recovery was much easier. But she tore really bad with the natural delivery so yeah, that would probably hurt. To be honest, the whole thought of childbirth scares the hell out of me.

This happened with me. A friend had a C-section 3 months before me and was out in about 2 days later. I was on the couch and could barely walk after for 2 weeks because of how bad I tore.

Sarah52Beth · July 2013

thekikimonster said:

Regufsevolem said:

thekikimonster said:

Sarah52Beth said:

I think elective c-sections are ridiculous. I think it is a selfish decision and see no point in having one unless it is deemed medically necessary for the safety of the mom and baby. It is major surgery. Most of the time, I feel it is done for vain reasons. Recently had a friend on FB posting about doing one. I kept my opinion to myself. ETA: After reading this again it might be more of a UO. Oh well
Not all elective c-sections are done because a mom doesn't feel like giving birth vaginally. Do you have a back bad? Have you had back surgery? Do you have any idea the kind of stress birth puts on a woman's spine?

Pretty sure she is talking about the non-medical kind. I think she means by choice just to pick the day.

That's not what she said.

I wasn't specifically talking about being able to pick a day, but I was excluding for medical reasons. I said that more than once.

Rocknroll64 · July 2013

jjgrl55 said:

My FFFC: I very, very seldom write congratulations on a BFP post. I read almost all of them, but unless I have something specific to say to the poster, it just feels like it doesn't mean anything if I am the 500th "Congratulations! H&H 9 months!" post.

FTR, I don't judge other people for posting at all, but I definitely judge myself.

I feel the same way about writing Happy Birthday on someone's Facebook wall. I think it just shows how paranoid and overly analytical I am about my own behavior.

I read all the happy birthdays posted on my facebook wall and I look at everyone who has liked a photo/post of mine. I like recognition, I mean if I didn't, why would I even post anything? That's why I always comment on posts that I genuinely care for or like, because I think that person feels the same way and I want to let them know that I care.

I think in some way, most of us want to be cared about or matter.

melissa721 · July 2013

Now that school is out, I wash my hair MAYBE three times a week. Buns are my new go to.

melissa721 · July 2013

Also, some might consider my delivery to be an elective c/s. Dr. HotPants basically told me we could try for a vaginal birth if I really wanted to, but it was likely going to end in a c section and his only concern was that it might turn into an emergency c section since there were already signs of decreased fetal movement. I opted for the c section immediately. I didn't want to take the chance and I didn't want what sounded like an inevitable c section to turn into an emergency situation.

Pearl1982 · July 2013

macylynn27 said:

EmeJay said:

Pearl1982 said:

EmeJay said:

If everyone would just sit on the damn toilet, it wouldn't be gross. People squatting and peeing on the seats ARE the problem.

I don't see why touching a seat with my thighs is more disgusting than opening a door with my hand or holding the pole in the subway.
Presumably the subway pole doesn't have pee, pubes, shit, or, in the case of my work bathroom, menstrual blood on them.
People touch themselves all over all the time and don't always wash their hands. So yes, the pole would have pee, pubes, feces, blood, snot, semen, etc on them.
It really comes down to people are just disgusting. :-&

Totally in agreement that subways are disgusting places. Fortunately, I don't have to rely on public transportation at this point in my life. It was a struggle for me, anxiety-wise, when I did.

Sarah52Beth · July 2013

CLECyclist said:

Sarah52Beth said:

CLECyclist said:
I highly doubt that "most" elective c-sections are done for vanity reasons. Besides, it's not really any of your damn business and doesn't affect your life.
I can only speak for the ones I know about. I'm not going off of some statistic.

Still none of your business.

I'm not diagreeing with you on that point either, but we all have opinions about things that aren't our business. I hope you didn't skip over the part in my original post where I mentioned that my FB friend made her elective c-section and reason why very public and I didn't voice my opinion because it is none of my business, but I still have my thoughts about it.

Rocknroll64 · July 2013

zgurl49 said:

I met a friend for dinner last night but didn't really want to go. Forced myself and had a lot of fun but felt a bit guilty for not being in the mood to start.

Your siggy is fantastic, I'm going to miss that show.

Also your confession is pretty tame. lol

melissa721 · July 2013

jnic0319 said:

melissa721 said:

Now that school is out, I wash my hair MAYBE three times a week. Buns are my new go to.

This is actually healthy. You shouldn't wash your hair more than 3-4 times a week.

I know but there's something about it that feels so dirty! During the school year I wash my hair pretty much everyday. I teach HS and they comment on everything, my outfit, my hair. They're like the fashion police.

jjgrl55 · July 2013

Rocknroll64 said:

jjgrl55 said:

My FFFC: I very, very seldom write congratulations on a BFP post. I read almost all of them, but unless I have something specific to say to the poster, it just feels like it doesn't mean anything if I am the 500th "Congratulations! H&H 9 months!" post.

FTR, I don't judge other people for posting at all, but I definitely judge myself.

I feel the same way about writing Happy Birthday on someone's Facebook wall. I think it just shows how paranoid and overly analytical I am about my own behavior.

I read all the happy birthdays posted on my facebook wall and I look at everyone who has liked a photo/post of mine. I like recognition, I mean if I didn't, why would I even post anything? That's why I always comment on posts that I genuinely care for or like, because I think that person feels the same way and I want to let them know that I care.

I think in some way, most of us want to be cared about or matter.

I actually totally agree with this. But my socially paranoid brain is always like, "No, it will be weird if you comment. They will just be confused by your post. Don't do it."

Trust me, it took me a really long time to get to the point where I "Like" stuff on Facebook without overthinking it. Perhaps I can work myself up to BFP congratulations and happy birthdays on Facebook.

Sarah52Beth · July 2013

BBnut said:
I think people should mind their own business about c-sections. I had one out of necessity yet I can't count the number of times I've had to justify to someone why it was medically necessary before they will shut up.

I'm not against c-sections. They serve a medical purpose. I personally think it is not a wise decision to have one if there are no medical reasons to. Yes, vaginal birth can be risky, but rarely as big of a deal as a c-section.

That's my opinion. I am not judging people who have c-sections. If someone tells me they have one, I automatically assume there was a reason for it.

What I do side-eye is a "too posh to push", I don't want my vagina ruined, and I want my baby to be born on Labor Day because it is soooo ironic mentality. None of my beeswax, so I am tres horrible.

jjgrl55 · July 2013

jnic0319 said:

melissa721 said:

jnic0319 said:

melissa721 said:

Now that school is out, I wash my hair MAYBE three times a week. Buns are my new go to.

This is actually healthy. You shouldn't wash your hair more than 3-4 times a week.

I know but there's something about it that feels so dirty! During the school year I wash my hair pretty much everyday. I teach HS and they comment on everything, my outfit, my hair. They're like the fashion police.

If you can tough it out through the summer you may find it starts getting oily less often and you can actually go a few days between washes after the school year starts year. GL!

I know a few people who don't wash their hair at all and say that their hair is softer, shinier and overall healthier after they get over the initial super greasy phase in the first weeks. And their hair looks totally normal to me.

I could never do it because one night of sleeping on unwashed hair makes me breakout, but apparently it is possible.

nicole mackenzie · July 2013

Sarah52Beth said:
I think elective c-sections are ridiculous. I think it is a selfish decision and see no point in having one unless it is deemed medically necessary for the safety of the mom and baby. It is major surgery. Most of the time, I feel it is done for vain reasons.

Recently had a friend on FB posting about doing one. I kept my opinion to myself.

ETA: After reading this again it might be more of a UO. Oh well

I kinda want a c-section so I won't tear my lady bits... Hehe.

Pearl1982 · July 2013

fuzzylogic said:

Pearl1982 said:

EmeJay said:

jnic0319 said:

Diordra said:

lilysylvis said:

EmeJay said:

I sit on public toilets
Me too.

Me three
That's really gross.
If everyone would just sit on the damn toilet, it wouldn't be gross. People squatting and peeing on the seats ARE the problem.

I don't see why touching a seat with my thighs is more disgusting than opening a door with my hand or holding the pole in the subway.
Presumably the subway pole doesn't have pee, pubes, shit, or, in the case of my work bathroom, menstrual blood on them.
Okay, I've never ridden in a subway, as we don't have those in my city, but how often do you think those subway poles are cleaned? What's the statistic about how many people don't wash their hands after using the restroom? How do you think stomach viruses are spread? By people's shit-hands touching things.

I think we're all in agreement that subways are gross places.

Valie18 · July 2013

zgurl49 said:

I met a friend for dinner last night but didn't really want to go. Forced myself and had a lot of fun but felt a bit guilty for not being in the mood to start.

Good on you for making the effort even though you didn't feel like it at first. I'm glad you had a good time.

divinemsbee · July 2013

I'm team If-Everyone-Just-Sat-On-The-Seat-Less-Pee-On-The-Seat. And when I worked at Starbucks that bathroom was cleaned pretty well, or at least half-assedly, twice a day. That's more often than mine gets done at home. I actually can see how private office bathrooms are dirtier because you only have custodial staff in at night and really no one to go to during the day if it's a mess. If it's a mess at a retail edtablishment or restaurant you can just tell staff. My H is one of the guys who likes to know what's up with my cycle and what my fertile days are. I'll email him during the day to let him know what OPKs say, and try to inject some humor. So this week I've been saying things like " Code blinking smiley. We are at Code Blinking smiley." To which he responds " Received Code blinking smiley. Commence Operation lightening wood at 1700." We are ridiculous.

jaytee16 · July 2013

divinemsbee said:

So this week I've been saying things like " Code blinking smiley. We are at Code Blinking smiley." To which he responds " Received Code blinking smiley. Commence Operation lightening wood at 1700." We are ridiculous.

This is awesome, it made me laugh! Sounds similar to H & I

sueann911 · July 2013

I shave my legs for my RE more often than I do for my own benefit or my husband's liking.

nicole mackenzie · July 2013

sueann911 said:
I shave my legs for my RE more often than I do for my own benefit or my husband's liking.

Haha. I must admit I always shave before going to my obgyn, but not always for hubby anymore.

EmeJay · July 2013

fuzzylogic said:

fuzzylogic said:

Blah

Okay, I read it, and basically, I'm a sanctimonious Atheist who looks down her nose at everyone. What the fuck, woman? She does this to me anytime I participate in a politics thread. It's so fucking stupid.

I love that we can say fuck now.

Ah! I get what you're saying since I live in a Bilingual town where a lot of people are very stuck up on the language used.

There's a bill to protect the French language, which I'm all for. I love our beautiful language and wouldn't want to see it disapear.

A couple of months ago, a government employee, working for that specific bill, sent a warning notice to an italian restaurant because they used the word "PASTA, ANTIPASTI', .." in the menu.

WTF!

ETA - It's even on Wikipedia now .. wow

EmilyA724 · July 2013

fuzzylogic said:

fuzzylogic said:

Blah

Okay, I read it, and basically, I'm a sanctimonious Atheist who looks down her nose at everyone. What the fuck, woman? She does this to me anytime I participate in a politics thread. It's so fucking stupid.

I love that we can say fuck now.

People frighten me sometimes. I work for a refugee resettlement agency and our finance director is one of the most ignorant racist people I've ever met. I have heard her say some of the worst things about the populations we work with. I have no idea why she applied to work at our agency in the first place. I don't understand why people take simple things like cultural awareness and sensitivity and blow them up to be this huge issue that they're not.

pinkflipflops44 · July 2013

I've missed this place.

KNemo · July 2013

No always true. It depends on your scar. I have the same incision for both babies, and my healing time with Lucy was WAY shorter and easier than with Max. It all just depends on your circs.

TeeJ526 · July 2013

sueann911 said:

I shave my legs for my RE more often than I do for my own benefit or my husband's liking.

Guilty! I've gone so far to even make sure my pedi looks ok too. And considering my gyn could probably care less, I keep doing it.

Rocknroll64 · July 2013

BBnut said:

I'm tempted to add a picture to the bottom of my siggy of a bunch of thumbnails of various celebs with little hearts Photoshopped in the bottom corner so it looks like all my posts are loved.

Bahaha love this confession! You should do it!

Valie18 · July 2013

Milagros315 said:

Valie18 said:
Kind of. I'm confused about it myself. I think the first part is that I want to get this awesome education and I feel like these is an obligation to do something with it and I'm feeling selfish wanting to get out of that part. The second thing is that TTGP or to wanting to be a SAHM is taboo around here and I feel like by protecting myself by not saying anything I'm doing a disservice to future want-to-be-Moms and SAHMs. So mostly I'm just a selfish liar and I'm unclear how bad I feel about it.

I think I can relate to how you feel. I just dropped out of PhD program and I have no idea what I want to do. I think I'd like to be a SAHM, but I really have no idea. People give me a hard time about it though. They can't believe I spent all of this time in school and I don't plan to "use" my degrees. So what - only people who didn't go to college are allowed to be SAHMs? It's really obnoxious, but I admit that sometimes I let it get to me and feel a little bit disappointed in myself. I'm sure I'll feel differently once/if I actually have kids though.

It does seem like we have some commonalities. I'm really sorry people are giving you a hard time, it sounds like you are being more than hard enough on yourself. I want you to know I'm rooting for you.

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