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proudworkingmom82 · June 2013

What do you judge people on the bump for? I judge people for saying their method of Birth control is pull and pray. I wanna say UM did you miss sex ed because this is NOT a method of birth control. SMH. This is usually on Trying to Get pregnant or Babies on the brain that I see this.

LuckyDad · June 2013

proudworkingmom82:
What do you judge people on the bump for? I judge people for saying their method of Birth control is pull and pray. I wanna say UM did you miss sex ed because this is NOT a method of birth control. SMH. This is usually on Trying to Get pregnant or Babies on the brain that I see this.

I'll devil's advocate:

1) Why are TTGP people on BC? Are these people who have had child but are lingering?

2) If you have babies on the brain, it kinda makes sense to be in that "we're trying to delay, but y'know, if a pregnancy happened now, we'd manage". I view Pull Out and Pray somewhere between Not Trying, Not Preventing and actual reliable BC. It's fairly reliable for delaying pregnancy, especially if done right. Stupid for 17 year olds, ok for adults in a situation where they do want another child eventually.

MrsT0514 · June 2013

Scout2005:
Honestly, stick around long enough. You learn to be meh about most of it.I judge people who don't vaccinate and who use carseats improperly because those are actually endangering children. Beyond that, it's kind of white noise at this point.nbsp;

I agree with you that most of it is white noise. I can only read so many WM vs. SAHM internet battles. That crap gets old quick..plus its something that I could care less about arguing over.

I also judge people that do not vaccinate. Honestly, I think thats really the only think I judge hard for. Everything else..ehh..to each their own.

proudworkingmom82 · June 2013

LuckyDad:
proudworkingmom82:
What do you judge people on the bump for? I judge people for saying their method of Birth control is pull and pray. I wanna say UM did you miss sex ed because this is NOT a method of birth control. SMH. This is usually on Trying to Get pregnant or Babies on the brain that I see this.
I'll devil's advocate:
1) Why are TTGP people on BC? Are these people who have had child but are lingering?
2) If you have babies on the brain, it kinda makes sense to be in that "we're trying to delay, but y'know, if a pregnancy happened now, we'd manage". I view Pull Out and Pray somewhere between Not Trying, Not Preventing and actual reliable BC. It's fairly reliable for delaying pregnancy, especially if done right. Stupid for 17 year olds, ok for adults in a situation where they do want another child eventually.

1. I dont know I do lurk on that board and babies on the brain and will occasionally post, I am using birth control because FI and I dont plan to TTC until we are married next year.

2. I guess Pull and Pray could be reliable for some but nonetheless I don't actually see it as a "Birth control method"

proudworkingmom82 · June 2013

Spooko:
According to Planned Parenthood, it is a method and it's 96% effective if used correctly every time. 73% effective if it's used incorrectly.

OMG seriously? Planned Parenthood actually teaches this?

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Nechie122 · June 2013

People who complain about their DHs for being incompetent. They can't trust him to go food shopping; they can't leave him overnight by himself with the kids; he doesn't know how to control his spending so they have to micromanage his finances.

I just think: why did you marry someone who's so inept?

kellilea · June 2013

Nothing, yet. But I just started posting again. I'm sure I'll find something.

Runaway22 · June 2013

CTGirl30:
People or their spouses thinking CIO is an appropriate option for newborn babies. Thank you, BMB, for this one.
Because, you know, you don't want to spoil that manipulative little weeks old infant or anything.

That sh#t makes me crazy. When they're newborns, it's neglect, not just a parenting choice.

Runaway22 · June 2013

EllaHella:
Pirate hate and not returning carts.

LOL

proudworkingmom82 · June 2013

ameyer8009:
I judge when parents take pictures of their kids in potentially dangerous situations. For example, I was lurking a board; I don't remember which one, and there was a picture of a 6 month old hanging half way out of a doggy door with her head dangling over the outdoor stairs. Who the eff doesn't help their kid instead of taking a pic? Oh and when asked if someone was holding onto LO, she said no. I agree with vaccines. Also when someone says mh doesn't ALLOW me to do something. I find that to be strange.

Yeah I find the whole "DH said NO or DH doesn't allow me to do that" thing strange too.

proudworkingmom82 · June 2013

GhostMonkey:
proudworkingmom82:
Spooko:
According to Planned Parenthood, it is a method and it's 96% effective if used correctly every time. 73% effective if it's used incorrectly.
OMG seriously? Planned Parenthood actually teaches this?
So I take it your extent of sex ed/reproductive knowledge came from school as well.
It's not the best method, but it isn't insanely unreliable.
Yeah I was always taught in school sex ed that pull and pray didn't even classify as birth control.

amykins1283 · June 2013

I judge the women who's DH'S do really shiitty stuff and they jusy kind of take it. A chick on my BMB wrote about her DH getting sloppy drunk, waking the baby by being loud, and shaking her awake to rant about stuff. Apparently this has happened more than once. Not abusive but just assshat kind of stuff. I would be beyond livid if my DH did anything like that once, let alone multiple times.

Nechie122 · June 2013

LuckyDad:
proudworkingmom82:
What do you judge people on the bump for?  I judge people for saying their method of Birth control is pull and pray.  I wanna say UM did you miss sex ed because this is NOT a method of birth control.  SMH.  This is usually on Trying to Get pregnant or Babies on the brain that I see this.  
I'll devil's advocate:
 1) Why are TTGP people on BC? Are these people who have had child but are lingering?
2) If you have babies on the brain, it kinda makes sense to be in that "we're trying to delay, but y'know, if a pregnancy happened now, we'd manage". I view Pull Out and Pray somewhere between Not Trying, Not Preventing and actual reliable BC. It's fairly reliable for delaying pregnancy, especially if done right. Stupid for 17 year olds, ok for adults in a situation where they do want another child eventually.

It's always a red flag to me when someone is half arsing their birth control.

I understand that sometimes couples in a committed relationship might choose to use less effective BC and take a calculated risk. As someone who can't take hormones, I get that.

But so often pull and pray just screams: one of us isn't sure if we should have a baby right now but instead of talking about it like adults, we're going to ignore the issue and hope for the best. "Delay" to me means "stall," and if it's not the right time, don't just cash it in in the BC department. That's a recipe for disaster.

Runaway22 · June 2013

amykins1283:
I judge the women who's DH'S do really shiitty stuff and they jusy kind of take it. A chick on my BMB wrote about her DH getting sloppy drunk, waking the baby by being loud, and shaking her awake to rant about stuff. Apparently this has happened more than once. Not abusive but just assshat kind of stuff. I would be beyond livid if my DH did anything like that once, let alone multiple times.

I saw that. I don't see how that kind of sh#t just gets a "vent" on TB. Really?!

nanabanana06 · June 2013

A lot, but nothing really comes to mind.

I kind of judge all solids pushers at 4 months. Your kid is freaking 4 months, calm your tits. They don't need food.

The women who blame not liking gays, not wanting them to marry, abortion, ect on being "Christian". When did hiding behind your religion become an appropriate method of bigotry?

Thats all I got.

Nita2603 · June 2013

Hm. I usually just roll my eyes a bit at the following, as it is all a 'meh, doesn't have impact on me so I DGAF'...
Pull and pray being called a method of BC makes me think those people are idiots.
Debates over pouches, soft pants, etc
Lactivists bug me

Really judging?
Non vaxers. Because that really is the dumbest thing ever and it totally has an impact on me.

thumper11 · June 2013

ameyer8009:
I judge when parents take pictures of their kids in potentially dangerous situations. For example, I was lurking a board; I don't remember which one, and there was a picture of a 6 month old hanging half way out of a doggy door with her head dangling over the outdoor stairs. Who the eff doesn't help their kid instead of taking a pic? Oh and when asked if someone was holding onto LO, she said no. I agree with vaccines. Also when someone says mh doesn't ALLOW me to do something. I find that to be strange.

I judge people who take pictures of their kids in tubs and post them. You know, because those pictures aren't safe online.

P.S. The kid (who is almost 12 months) wasn't dangling 5 feet off the ground with one foot stuck in a dog door. GTFO.

Maebb · July 2013

proudworkingmom82:
What do you judge people on the bump for? nbsp;I judge people for saying their method of Birth control is pull and pray. nbsp;I wanna say UM did you miss sex ed because this is NOT a method of birth control. nbsp;SMH. nbsp;This is usually on Trying to Get pregnant or Babies on the brain that I see this. nbsp;

This is maybe flameful, but I judge SAHMs who complain about how busy their day was.

Speaking of pull and pray...when DS was conceived, my OBGYN asked if we were trying, and I said, "Well, we weren't really trying, but we weren't NOT trying." The previous month I was doing all this stuff to check if I was ovulating, and we were DTD every other day because I really wanted to get pregnant, but we had some setbacks, so that month we just relaxed and didn't think about it. He said, "Were you having sex? Were you using protection? You do know how babies are made, yes? So you were trying, right?" Ha. Anyway, we were actually elated and happy 7 months later to meet our healthy baby boy.

MrsCodeMonkey · July 2013

I beg to differ on the pull and pray method. It's perfect sometimes. I want another baby and DH is on the fence. I would love to start TTC this month, but obviously he needs to be on board with it.

We usually use condoms except for a few occasions. If DH wants to go and take the risk, I'm all for it. We discussed keeping the baby and we're cool with it if it happens. But it hasn't happened. Damn it! This method works too well for my liking. LOL

RondackHiker · July 2013

mbenit4:
Nechie122:
People who complain about their DHs for being incompetent. They can't trust him to go food shopping; they can't leave him overnight by himself with the kids; he doesn't know how to control his spending so they have to micromanage his finances.

I just think: why did you marry someone who's so inept?
I wonder this too. Makes me look at the bumpie like hhmmm.

I agree. I don't care if the dh isn't great in an area but can muddle along, but I don't get why'd you want to be married to someone when you have to do it all.

KarmB · July 2013

I judge people who have no humor. Who hate twinkies. Who hate maple syrup

robinsokj · July 2013

Maebb:
proudworkingmom82:
What do you judge people on the bump for? nbsp;I judge people for saying their method of Birth control is pull and pray. nbsp;I wanna say UM did you miss sex ed because this is NOT a method of birth control. nbsp;SMH. nbsp;This is usually on Trying to Get pregnant or Babies on the brain that I see this. nbsp;
This is maybe flameful, but I judge SAHMs who complain about how busy their day was. Speaking of pull and pray...when DS was conceived, my OBGYN asked if we were trying, and I said, "Well, we weren't really trying, but we weren't NOT trying." The previous month I was doing all this stuff to check if I was ovulating, and we were DTD every other day because I really wanted to get pregnant, but we had some setbacks, so that month we just relaxed and didn't think about it. He said, "Were you having sex? Were you using protection? You do know how babies are made, yes? So you were trying, right?" Ha. Anyway, we were actually elated and happy 7 months later to meet our healthy baby boy.

I now judge you for being a flaming idiot

Nechie122 · July 2013

Pfft:
I judge giving soda to 2yearolds. Sorry.

In three plus years, I have never seen a Bumpie admit to this. Usually it's the opposite, like someone with her panties in a knot because her MIL gave her three year old a single Hershey's Kiss or something. Sugar, evil sugar!!!!

GrayGhost13 · July 2013

SOFT PANTS!......

J/K, y'all!

No, actually, I think I'm usually more annoyed by the dumb stuff people get up into other people's business about than I am about the actual matters in question. I DGAF about most of the stuff people clutch pearls about around here these days.

robinsokj · July 2013

Pull and pray causes ejaculation problems? WTF mbenit?

MrsT0514 · July 2013

Maebb:
proudworkingmom82:
What do you judge people on the bump for? nbsp;I judge people for saying their method of Birth control is pull and pray. nbsp;I wanna say UM did you miss sex ed because this is NOT a method of birth control. nbsp;SMH. nbsp;This is usually on Trying to Get pregnant or Babies on the brain that I see this. nbsp;

This is maybe flameful, but I judge SAHMs who complain about how busy their day was.

JFC. Really???

LOL. I knew this thread wouldn't be complete without someone bringing up this ridiculous and already exhausted debate.

robinsokj · July 2013

Brandi Bee:
I judge the people who are labeling themselves Christians, judge gays, etc....then in the sex threads they confess to some of the nastiest behavior I've ever heard of and think it's funny.

And how many people around these parts have you seen judgge gays?

robinsokj · July 2013

Brandi Bee:
krptcmschfmkr128:
Brandi Bee:
I judge the people who are labeling themselves Christians, judge gays, etc....then in the sex threads they confess to some of the nastiest behavior I've ever heard of and think it's funny.
With the exception of one or two posters (who don't seem to be regulars, but trolls), I've never seen anyone judge gays.
And you can't be Christian and have kinky sex?

I hate when people get their panties in a bunch about people who choose to FF instead of BF, whether they tried to or not. It's a personal choice.
I don't keep Bump Post Its so I don't remember particularly who said they don't support gay marriage or when it was, but I'm pretty positive there are people who admitted to that. And yes, that falls into the category of "judging gays" imo.
You can have kinky sex and be Christian. Kinky, MARRIED sex with your husband. I honestly find those Christians who admit to premarital sex, one night stands, etc really funny and kinda sad.

This is simply hilarious coming from you

missyishere · July 2013

I judge parents who smoke in the presence of their children. I especially judge them if they smoke in a car with their children.

MrsGoodkat · July 2013

mbenit4:
LoisLayn23:

We did PnP for 7 years because the Baptist church says you can't have premarital sex so I couldn't go get myself on BC or get condoms.

We then had 2 planned children.

It can work. I just wouldn't recommend it for everyone.

You couldn't get BC because premarital sex is a sin but you were having premartial sex anyway so why not get some kind of BC?

Yeah, I'm confused. Unless you started having sex at like age 10, why couldn't one of you go get condoms or ask the doctor for birth control?

ETA I can understand the insurance, but what about condoms?

robinsokj · July 2013

mbenit4:
krptcmschfmkr128:
mbenit4:
robinsokj:

Pull and pray causes ejaculation problems? WTF mbenit?

I always thought that. Like creates minute men or something. I don't believe I got that from anywhere reliable. I just always thought it.

Actually it can help with ejaculation issues because it teaches men to control their ejaculation until they pull out.

But you don't know if they actually held or not? You are not in there. Could have been some leakage? Then there is pre-***....

Go home, you're drunk

Nechie122 · July 2013

mbenit4:
Pfft:
Nechie122:
Pfft:
I judge giving soda to 2yearolds. Sorry.
In three plus years, I have never seen a Bumpie admit to this. Usually it's the opposite, like someone with her panties in a knot because her MIL gave her three year old a single Hershey's Kiss or something. Sugar, evil sugar!!!!
A few bumpies admitted to giving their kids Sprite and few weeks ago.

My DS has had Sprite and Coke before.

Consider this the Bumpie admitting to this. Does he get it all the time? No

Well, I stand corrected then. I actually find this refreshing!

MrsGoodkat · July 2013

Maebb:
This is maybe flameful, but I judge SAHMs who complain about how busy their day was.

Aww, you're special.

GrayGhost13 · July 2013

kiraliz2:
These threads are always so fun.

This went downhill fast. People usually aren't this ragey until Thursday. Must be the short week because of the holiday. Stick out tongue

Nechie122 · July 2013

LoisLayn23:
MrsGoodkat:
mbenit4:
LoisLayn23:

We did PnP for 7 years because the Baptist church says you can't have premarital sex so I couldn't go get myself on BC or get condoms.

We then had 2 planned children.

It can work. I just wouldn't recommend it for everyone.

You couldn't get BC because premarital sex is a sin but you were having premartial sex anyway so why not get some kind of BC?

Yeah, I'm confused. Unless you started having sex at like age 10, why couldn't one of you go get condoms or ask the doctor for birth control?

 ETA I can understand the insurance, but what about condoms?

Because my parents didn't know I was having sex. Nor would they have paid for it, they would've seen it on insurance EOB's.

I get that you were a teenager and therefore dumb, but if you couldn't afford to buy your own condoms from your babysitting or birthday money or whatever, what made you think you'd be able to afford a baby if pull and pray resulted in an oops?

My parents would have flipped over me having sex too, but that's what summer jobs are for. I went to PP, told them I was broke and they let me pay a nominal fee for the exam and BCPs. And condoms were like 8 bucks a pack.

SunnyMeg1 · July 2013

Are NT Christians allowed to have oral sex? Someone on Facebook told me gay sex is unnatural because it doesn't result in beautiful babies and I responded that a lot of straight people partake in forms of sex that don't result in beautiful babies and she never responded. So I'm still left wondering.

MrsCodeMonkey · July 2013

GrayGhost13:
kiraliz2:
These threads are always so fun.
This went downhill fast. People usually aren't this ragey until Thursday. Must be the short week because of the holiday. 

Haha! I was thinking the same thing. Why so much hate so early in the day? I bring cupcakes, people! Make nice!

cedenton · July 2013

HilarityEnsued:
Brandi Bee:
HilarityEnsued:
What is the basis for judging people who start solids before 6 months? My pediatrician (who went to actual medical school and has an actual medical degree) said to go ahead at 4 months....
I do judge people who push BLW as a somehow superior baby-feeding method. To each their own, and I don't actually judge people that do BLW, just those that do BLW and then somehow scoff at feeding purees as inferior...
Lots of things, food allergies is one of them,.
And your pedi must be old or need to keep up with the times because there was an actual health alert on the news about it, released by the APA.
WTF? First, no, my pedi is not old. Second, everything that I've learned from the current research suggests that delaying introductions to food can lead to increased incidence of food allergies, not the other way around.

What H.E. said. Also my son was in the 5th percentile for weight so they wanted him to start solids early (cereals, pureed veggies) so that he would catch on faster and gain weight.

The problem with judging is that you rarely know the whole story and can often end up with "foot in mouth" syndrome.

RondackHiker · July 2013

I'm confused. Can I talk about dirty sex?

I'm a Christian and don't judge gays or lecture people about their sins. I did have premarital sex, so clearly I'm a SINNER FOR LIIIIIIIIIIIFE! Does that mean I can talk about kinky sex stuff?

MintBerryCrunch · July 2013

HilarityEnsued:
mbenit4:
I wouldn't call it judging but more like WTH? Grown people and the pull and pray thing. Doesn't that usually lead to ejaculation problems or other sexual issues down the line? Anyway you either want to pull the trigger or not.
Ok I just have to finally address the myriad comments in here on using pull & pray. People are so literal and ridiculous on this.
We aren't using hormonal birth control because, PP, it just is not working out for me at all. We have never, in the history of ever, used condoms, and we surely aren't going to use them now.
I am keeping track of my cycles and they are regular like military clockwork. I know the days I am theoretically fertile. We don't bone around this time. When we do bone (outside of my fertile window), he pulls out.
With all that said, if my half-a$s measures result in me getting KTFU, then hooray! We'll start preparation for another baby. I take prenatal vitamins everyday just in case.
Now, come the fall, we will actively start trying. When the fertile window comes, we'll be boning every other day. We did this last time and I got pregnant the first cycle we paid attention. Maybe that will happen again, maybe it won't.
I will absolutely agree that if you are dead set against getting pregnant, the pull and pray isn't your reliable method. However, if you would be ok getting pregnant but aren't actively trying, it's fine to call it birth control.

This. We used P&P/FAM effectively for a total of almost 3 years all together. Is it ridiculous for 16 year olds to do? Of course. Is it ok for adults who want a baby but are kind of trying to delay it a bit for a reason or another? Sure, why not? And when you add in FAM tracking it actually does become very effective BC if done correctly.

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