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Unem · January 2013

auroraloo:
LoveLossHopeRepeat:
auroraloo:
LoveLossHopeRepeat:
Cause no one ever feels hurt or excluded from the compliment a bumpie type of threads? In what alternate universe?
So, we should never compliment or tell people we like them because someone might get hurt?
I didn't say those types of threads shouldn't happen. I'm saying the potential for hurt feelings exists on both sides of the coin but only one side is unacceptable.
I understand what you're saying, but I don't understand what you want to happen?
My favorite type of compliment a bumpie thread is where you compliment the person who commented above you.

and even then people get left out on accident.

so there's no winning answer.

misscheapandchic · January 2013

LoisLane23:
I don't like messy food baby pictures.

so you don't want me to post a picture of my belly after chipotle?

Unem · January 2013

LoveLossHopeRepeat:
Again, I'm struggling to make myself clear. Sorry. It's not that I want something to happen. I don't dislike the compliment threads. In fact, I think they're awesome. My point was that I don't see how it's all that different from my passing "there are people I dislike" comment that got me called out. I got challenged on that, so to illustrate how I think they're similar, I pointed out that there's a potential for hurt feelings in either case. In short: I don't give a shiit about the compliment threads. And I still don't think I did anything wrong by saying "there are people I dislike." There's nothing that I want to "happen". It was a discussion. That's all.

You got called out for not naming names. It had nothing to do with you liking or not liking someone. I've also been called out for not naming names. *shrugs* oh well.

The difference between the hurt feelings is that one is intentional and one isn't.

Megroons · January 2013

auroraloo:
LoveLossHopeRepeat:
Cause no one ever feels hurt or excluded from the compliment a bumpie type of threads? In what alternate universe?
So, we should never compliment or tell people we like them because someone might get hurt?

I'm going to jump in and say that it's always the same bumpies who get complimented and it gets really old IMO. Thread like this make me more and more ready to stop posting on TB all together. I've realized that after a year of posting I still don't feel like I fit in and I'm sorta over the, who do you like and don't like threads. Anyway, I'm sure this will get over looked per my usual posts but whatever. Or I'll get bashed but that wouldn't be surprising either. Maybe I'm just over sensitive today because I'm on my period but I'm totally over it all....

misscheapandchic · January 2013

origamipoppy:
LoisLane23:
I don't like messy food baby pictures.
 
I read this as: messy, food baby pictures. I have a burrito food baby sometimes.

get you! Get outta my head!! [jk please stay and fill it with kitten gifs and tasty Mexican recipes!]

sweetiebird726 · January 2013

Megroons:
auroraloo:
LoveLossHopeRepeat:
Cause no one ever feels hurt or excluded from the compliment a bumpie type of threads? In what alternate universe?
So, we should never compliment or tell people we like them because someone might get hurt?

I'm going to jump in and say that it's always the same bumpies who get complimented and it gets really old IMO. Thread like this make me more and more ready to stop posting on TB all together. I've realized that after a year of posting I still don't feel like I fit in and I'm sorta over the, who do you like and don't like threads. Anyway, I'm sure this will get over looked per my usual posts but whatever. Or I'll get bashed but that wouldn't be surprising either. Maybe I'm just over sensitive today because I'm on my period but I'm totally over it all....

As usual, I definitely agree with LLHR and Meg. It's difficult sometimes to feel heard as a semiregular when a post is overrun with the much more visible regulars.

bluecrab1020 · January 2013

I used to think destination weddings were the most selfish thing EVER. Until I got an invite to a destination bachelorette.

So, the wedding is in dom. Republic, bachelorette in atlantic city for 3 days, bachelor party in montreal for 4 days. Not to menton the INSANE registry. How much time and am I supposed to invest in your blessed event?!

MarisaKathleen · January 2013

Megroons:

auroraloo:
LoveLossHopeRepeat:
Cause no one ever feels hurt or excluded from the compliment a bumpie type of threads? In what alternate universe?
So, we should never compliment or tell people we like them because someone might get hurt?

I'm going to jump in and say that it's always the same bumpies who get complimented and it gets really old IMO. Thread like this make me more and more ready to stop posting on TB all together. I've realized that after a year of posting I still don't feel like I fit in and I'm sorta over the, who do you like and don't like threads. Anyway, I'm sure this will get over looked per my usual posts but whatever. Or I'll get bashed but that wouldn't be surprising either. Maybe I'm just over sensitive today because I'm on my period but I'm totally over it all....

Eh, I can see your point Meg. I think for the people that need this board, it's really helpful, and they've made some good friendships based off a commonality. For people like me who have a lot of friends IRL and have a lot of people around me with babies the same age, I don't really care about the popularity aspect of it. I think this is a good outlet for a lot of people, but can't understand why there's so many popularity posts ie: i like you/i don't like you/you're awesome/you suck posts. LLHR is right. It can cause hurt feelings no matter what.

MrsAB1316 · January 2013

Megroons:
auroraloo:
LoveLossHopeRepeat:
Cause no one ever feels hurt or excluded from the compliment a bumpie type of threads? In what alternate universe?
So, we should never compliment or tell people we like them because someone might get hurt?

I'm going to jump in and say that it's always the same bumpies who get complimented and it gets really old IMO. Thread like this make me more and more ready to stop posting on TB all together. I've realized that after a year of posting I still don't feel like I fit in and I'm sorta over the, who do you like and don't like threads. Anyway, I'm sure this will get over looked per my usual posts but whatever. Or I'll get bashed but that wouldn't be surprising either. Maybe I'm just over sensitive today because I'm on my period but I'm totally over it all....

I actually responded earlier in the thread to you. Apparently, it didn't post. I said that I actually would be friends with you IRL, but that I have a hard time remembering names. I don't think you're overlooked. I know it can feel like people ignore you... it wasn't until the Opinions thread last month that I realized people not only knew who I was but liked what I had to say. This board can simultaneously be uniting and alienating because at the end of the day...we're all sitting behind computer screens thinking we're one tiny speck in the great big cyber world.

But, you never know how inspiring you might be to someone...

Unem · January 2013

Megroons:
auroraloo:
LoveLossHopeRepeat:
Cause no one ever feels hurt or excluded from the compliment a bumpie type of threads? In what alternate universe?
So, we should never compliment or tell people we like them because someone might get hurt?

I'm going to jump in and say that it's always the same bumpies who get complimented and it gets really old IMO. Thread like this make me more and more ready to stop posting on TB all together. I've realized that after a year of posting I still don't feel like I fit in and I'm sorta over the, who do you like and don't like threads. Anyway, I'm sure this will get over looked per my usual posts but whatever. Or I'll get bashed but that wouldn't be surprising either. Maybe I'm just over sensitive today because I'm on my period but I'm totally over it all....

Sad This honestly made me sad.

I really didn't mean for the thread to turn into a popularity contest. I thought it'd be fun to see who people would identify themselves with enough to want to be actual friends and not just creepy internet lovers.

willy_gert · January 2013

Megroons:

auroraloo:
LoveLossHopeRepeat:
Cause no one ever feels hurt or excluded from the compliment a bumpie type of threads? In what alternate universe?
So, we should never compliment or tell people we like them because someone might get hurt?

I'm going to jump in and say that it's always the same bumpies who get complimented and it gets really old IMO. Thread like this make me more and more ready to stop posting on TB all together. I've realized that after a year of posting I still don't feel like I fit in and I'm sorta over the, who do you like and don't like threads. Anyway, I'm sure this will get over looked per my usual posts but whatever. Or I'll get bashed but that wouldn't be surprising either. Maybe I'm just over sensitive today because I'm on my period but I'm totally over it all....

Megroons, this makes me sad! I really like you and find that I enjoy reading your posts! I understand what you are saying, I feel like my posts are often overlooked as well, but I think you fit in and I enjoy seeing your name pop up in threads. I think what happens is that unless you post ALL THE TIME, i.e. almost PW, people don't "notice" you! I have been posting a lot lately because I am struggling and needed to clear my mind and focus on others, so I have been a PW lately. It seems to have gotten me "noticed" to some extent, but I still don't feel like I completely "fit in" either. Anyway, I just wanted you to know, that I like you, and I enjoy reading your posts! I hope you don't leave!

MrsAB1316 · January 2013

auroraloo:
I would also like to add, that I RARELY get complimented in those threads, AND in the compliment-a-person-above-you thread, I got skipped. Did I notice? Yes. Was I butthurt? Nope.

Word for word, this.

MrsAB1316 · January 2013

sweetiebird726:

As usual, I definitely agree with LLHR and Meg. It's difficult sometimes to feel heard as a semiregular when a post is overrun with the much more visible regulars.

See, and I feel like you're a visible reg. When I saw that you lived somewhat close to me, I got super excited because I think you're really sweet and your DS is amazingly cute.

ETA: because I know the difference between your and you're. geeesh.

misscheapandchic · January 2013

origamipoppy:
misscheapandchic:
origamipoppy:
LoisLane23:
I don't like messy food baby pictures.
 
I read this as: messy, food baby pictures. I have a burrito food baby sometimes.
get you! Get outta my head!! [jk please stay and fill it with kitten gifs and tasty Mexican recipes!]
 
you got it dude

I totally read this in a Michelle Tanner voice!

sweetiebird726 · January 2013

MrsAB1316:
sweetiebird726:

As usual, I definitely agree with LLHR and Meg. It's difficult sometimes to feel heard as a semiregular when a post is overrun with the much more visible regulars.
See, and I feel like you're a visible reg.  When I saw that you lived somewhat close to me, I got super excited because I think you're really sweet and your DS is amazingly cute. 
ETA: because I know the difference between your and you're.  geeesh.

Seriously? How close? I think I saw you talking about a gtg before, I'd totally be down for that Yes

I just got the warm and fuzzies.

Megroons · January 2013

Unem:
Megroons:

auroraloo:
LoveLossHopeRepeat:
Cause no one ever feels hurt or excluded from the compliment a bumpie type of threads? In what alternate universe?
So, we should never compliment or tell people we like them because someone might get hurt?

I'm going to jump in and say that it's always the same bumpies who get complimented and it gets really old IMO. Thread like this make me more and more ready to stop posting on TB all together. I've realized that after a year of posting I still don't feel like I fit in and I'm sorta over the, who do you like and don't like threads. Anyway, I'm sure this will get over looked per my usual posts but whatever. Or I'll get bashed but that wouldn't be surprising either. Maybe I'm just over sensitive today because I'm on my period but I'm totally over it all....

This honestly made me sad.

I really didn't mean for the thread to turn into a popularity contest. I thought it'd be fun to see who people would identify themselves with enough to want to be actual friends and not just creepy internet lovers.

I totally know you didn't. At the same time, without opening the thread I could automatically list the top 5-10 people that would instantly be picked and that's what gets annoying. It's hard for people like me, who don't get called out to feel like we fit in. Know what I mean? Like I said, I just feel super sensitive today due to AF and the thread just set me off.

Cheenomae · January 2013

jlk6:
Same here. I'm attempting some sleep training on Connor. Started yesterday. Inspired by Jreidknox's post about what her pedi told her. Except I have a hard time with the crying so I'm doing 3 min now and so far just for naps. It's awful and I hate it but for my sanity I need him to start falling asleep on his own and learning to self soothe.

That's the same training we did. It really worked miracles so good luck!! You'll get more used to the crying... it gets easier once you see it working!!

sweetiebird726 · January 2013

anitalynn:
My UOs:
I don't like Taylor Swift at all. When I say this people are all like "But she writes her own music, and plays her guitar!!!" Well, props to her. It means nothing to me if her music is all about crappy 14 year old heartbreak. TSwift, quit being a clinger. Maybe you'd have something worthy of writing about. Yes, I find her songs are always stuck in my head, but they annoy me so much.
I prefer boyshorts to thongs and in every day situations I don't think panty lines are a big deal. Dress up occasions, like a wedding or a special evening out, I will avoid the panty lines. But day to day life? I don't think it's a big deal and I don't judge people who have them.
I think thick, chunky striped highlights look cheap. Stripes are no bueno, frands. A well placed block of color is totally different, though, and I'm a fan of this as long as it's well done. But bold stripes of bleached blonde, red and dark brown? Eeew. So 2001 people and it didn't evennbsp;look good then.
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to all three.

Megroons · January 2013

Steph+J:

I think it's really stupid that no one can compliment someone else on here or want to be friends with them, because someone will get all sensitive butthurt.

Meg. If you think people don't notice you (I do, FWIW), then post more. Or get over it.

I feel like this is easy for you to say because you seem to always get recognized. No?

EDIT: I guess my point is that it's always the same names that get tossed around then it's always the same names that say, get over it and that you're just buttheart. Easy for you to say when you get complimented or someone wants to be your IRL friend.

Unem · January 2013

anitalynn:
My UOs:

I don't like Taylor Swift at all. When I say this people are all like "But she writes her own music, and plays her guitar!!!" - Well, props to her. It means nothing to me if her music is all about crappy 14 year old heartbreak. TSwift, quit being a clinger. Maybe you'd have something worthy of writing about. Yes, I find her songs are always stuck in my head, but they annoy me so much.

I prefer boyshorts to thongs and in every day situations I don't think panty lines are a big deal. Dress up occasions, like a wedding or a special evening out, I will avoid the panty lines. But day to day life? I don't think it's a big deal and I don't judge people who have them.

I think thick, chunky striped highlights look cheap. Stripes are no bueno, frands. A well placed block of color is totally different, though, and I'm a fan of this as long as it's well done. But bold stripes of bleached blonde, red and dark brown? Eeew. So 2001 people and it didn't even look good then.

my heart just fluttered a bit.

Hyaline · January 2013

TheAnne:
I would much rather listen to music made when my grandparents were my age than most stuff on the radio now.

Except the "dome of exception" around 90's music from my HS days. Offspring, Cake, 311, etc..

Yes! Exactly! Only the oldest grandparents, though...I have thirties music on almost constant play in my house.

Hyaline · January 2013

jaimenamie:
I have no desire to go on a cruise. I just don't understand it.

Same. Plus I have an irrational fear of getting food poisoning on a cruise because of all those news stories about horrible outbreaks on ships in the past couple years. DH is all about it, though.

thebanich · January 2013

jlk6:
Jreidknox:
I've got another...in my house, I am the manager of all things financial and calendar related. My H is an amazing human being, but I truly don't think him able to manage all that stuff. I don't mind, though.nbsp;Is that more of an FFFC?who cares, WHOARSSSS
Same here. A couple weeks ago MH had to write a check for the babysitter and he texted me to ask me how to do it. It was so funny but I refrained from making fun of him because I didn't want to hurt his feelings. Silly husband!

MH is the same... he has no idea how much crap I have to keep up with every month. He doesn't even know how to access our online banking stuff.

Megroons · January 2013

Steph+J:
I just reread that thread, and megroons- YOU didn't participate either.

You're right, I didn't participate. By the time I had read it the same names were going around in a circle and I figured, what's the point?

Hyaline · January 2013

anitalynn:
My UOs:

I don't like Taylor Swift at all. When I say this people are all like "But she writes her own music, and plays her guitar!!!" - Well, props to her. It means nothing to me if her music is all about crappy 14 year old heartbreak. TSwift, quit being a clinger. Maybe you'd have something worthy of writing about. Yes, I find her songs are always stuck in my head, but they annoy me so much.

I prefer boyshorts to thongs and in every day situations I don't think panty lines are a big deal. Dress up occasions, like a wedding or a special evening out, I will avoid the panty lines. But day to day life? I don't think it's a big deal and I don't judge people who have them.

I think thick, chunky striped highlights look cheap. Stripes are no bueno, frands. A well placed block of color is totally different, though, and I'm a fan of this as long as it's well done. But bold stripes of bleached blonde, red and dark brown? Eeew. So 2001 people and it didn't even look good then.

Yes!...you are a UO genius. Taylor Swift: I don't care if you write it yourself, it's still not great. Sorry. Boy shorts: Much cuter than thongs, and I don't think you usually get lines in much of anything except giant cotton granny panties anyway. Highlights: Exactly. It should look either deliberate "statement" block or natural--the weird chunks look like a mistake.

hmp1 · January 2013

Random: Every time I hear Of Monsters and Men's, Little Talks on the radio all I can think of is Renee Zellweger singing Sugar High at the end of Empire Records.

MarisaKathleen · January 2013

Hyaline:

jaimenamie:
I have no desire to go on a cruise. I just don't understand it.

Same. Plus I have an irrational fear of getting food poisoning on a cruise because of all those news stories about horrible outbreaks on ships in the past couple years. DH is all about it, though.

This. I also have an irrational fear of being marooned on an island somewhere or lost at sea and drowning. Drowning is my biggest fear because I'm such a strong swimmer.

Hyaline · January 2013

Now that I've been a total joiner on everyone else's UOs...

Mine: If you want to post baby pics to FB, Instagram, whatever, cool. But it seems pointless if it's the same dang shot of your baby in his bouncer, same badly focused, neutral expression, different outfit, different day picture. I know he's cute to you. But to the rest of us...it's the same baby in the same spot doing the same thing as yesterday.

And keep the potty training shots to yourself, please.

Can you tell I checked FB before TB this morning?

Unem · January 2013

I know I don't have to Steph, but I do feel bad. I used to think that I went unnoticed and that the people who did notice me didn't like me. So I get it.

But like Steph said, the girls who get the most compliments also get a lot of negative attention, too. Unless you're Toni. She is magically able to know everything about everyone and actually care enough to remember and ask follow up questions 10 days after the original thread was posted.

I've been flamed by some of the same girls who listed me in the IRL thread. I've also been called an aszhole, an idiot, and have been mocked about my religious beliefs on more than one occassion. *shrugs*

hmp1 · January 2013

linzeek44:
I'm going crazy reading posts recently about hoo has and pee pees. I'd rather people just say vag, penis, etc. my kid will totally be that toddler who is talking about penises instead of wee wees, and I'm cool with that. I thought this was not an UO, but judging from the recent posts, maybe it is?

DH taught James weiner. I am unteaching that now.

Hyaline · January 2013

TheAnne:
Hyaline:
TheAnne:
I would much rather listen to music made when my grandparents were my age than most stuff on the radio now.

Except the "dome of exception" around 90's music from my HS days. Offspring, Cake, 311, etc..

Yes! Exactly! Only the oldest grandparents, though...I have thirties music on almost constant play in my house.
WHAT! I missed this! Oh no! I'll have to play my Andrews Sisters CD in tribute today.

!!!
I shed a small tear when I heard Patty Andrews died this week

hmp1 · January 2013

LoisLane23:
mrsh0606:

UO:I don't like most Girl Scout Cookies. The only ones I like are Thin Mints.

I agree, and the thin mints you can buy as Keebler Grasshoppers all year round. My H loves those Samoas though. I know they have a more PC name now, but they'll always be Samoas in my heart.

I have some in my freezer right now. Yum.

Megroons · January 2013

LoisLane23:

Another UO:

People saying they get butthurt by being skipped are just fishing for compliments.

I could care less if one person on this board compliments me. I just don't get why we need threads like this once a day, once a week or whatever to announce the same people that are liked, not liked, would be friends, wouldn't be, etc.

Unem · January 2013

Steph+J:
I guess my UO is that it's unsmart (because I'm sure people would get pissed if I said stupid) for one person to have control of allllll the moneys to the point where the other is clueless.
yes. I manage most of our bill payments and financial ish. But H certainly knows how to do it too.

Can I piggyback in a different direction?(and this isn't directed at you or your comment, Steph)

Accusing couples of having trust issues because one person handles the finances is ridic.

Same with the shared FB page thing.

I'm not saying it never happens, but jumping to that conclusion leads me to think that you have trust issues of your own.

MrsAB1316 · January 2013

Unem:
. Unless you're Toni. She is magically able to know everything about everyone and actually care enough to remember and ask follow up questions 10 days after the original thread was posted.

.For real...I think she's a brain sucker. I'm fairly certain that my brain now belongs to Toni.

This is Toni...except instead of children...brains.

hmp1 · January 2013

TheAnne:
I would much rather listen to music made when my grandparents were my age than most stuff on the radio now.

Except the "dome of exception" around 90's music from my HS days. Offspring, Cake, 311, etc..

I played Chattanooga Choo Choo for James last weekend and he LOVED it. Asked to hear it again and again. Guess he digs the big band music too.

Megroons · January 2013

LoisLane23:
Megroons:
LoisLane23:

Another UO:

People saying they get butthurt by being skipped are just fishing for compliments.

I could care less if one person on this board compliments me. I just don't get why we need threads like this once a day, once a week or whatever to announce the same people that are liked, not liked, would be friends, wouldn't be, etc.

Clearly you do care if you threatened to GBCB over it.

Am I taking this shiit to serious?

Unem · January 2013

mnkate:
MrsAB1316:
auroraloo:
I would also like to add, that I RARELY get complimented in those threads, AND in the compliment-a-person-above-you thread, I got skipped. Did I notice? Yes. Was I butthurt? Nope.
Word for word, this.
yep, me too. I get skipped a LOT in those things (compliment someone, ask me anything, blah blah). I definitely notice, and then everyone asks one person like 50 questions.
It often makes me roll my eyes, but I don't take it personally. I'm not in chat, I'm rarely on here anymore, don't start many posts.....it is what it is. In my mind, to get hurt about it means that I think people are intentionally doing it. Which I know isn't the case.

FTR - I like you but have always felt that you're too cool for me.

thebanich · January 2013

Steph+J:
I guess my UO is that it's unsmart (because I'm sure people would get pissed if I said stupid) for one person to have control of allllll the moneys to the point where the other is clueless.
yes. I manage most of our bill payments and financial ish. But H certainly knows how to do it too.

I agree. I just can't seem to communicate to H that he needs to help out/learn. I don't exclude him from the process on purpose. He just has zero interest in knowing what is going on. It is super frustrating.

jocymama · January 2013

Unem:
Steph+J:

I guess my UO is that it's unsmart (because I'm sure people would get pissed if I said stupid) for one person to have control of allllll the moneys to the point where the other is clueless.

yes. I manage most of our bill payments and financial ish. But H certainly knows how to do it too.

Can I piggyback in a different direction?(and this isn't directed at you or your comment, Steph)

Accusing couples of having trust issues because one person handles the finances is ridic.

Same with the shared FB page thing.

I'm not saying it never happens, but jumping to that conclusion leads me to think that you have trust issues of your own.

Sorry Steph but the load just got heavier I am piggybacking this too Wink

I side eye any person who takes no interest in their finances. I mean your SO takes care of the bills? Great but don't you want to know what is happening with your money?

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