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April 2013 Moms
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The word you're looking for is SEX. I promise. No, it's not gender. It's sex. You're welcome.
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Here's my confession: I'm getting really tired of people complaining about their pregnancies. I know there are parts of pregnancy that aren't much fun, but seriously...you can feel your LO moving inside of your body. You feel the kicks, know the way they move, they times they're most active...you get it all.
So frankly, shut up and enjoy it.
Waiting for our Miracle Baby, Carly Marie, Due April 24, 2013!
Everyone around me is elated that I'm "finally getting my boy", but truth is, I was hoping for a girl.
Funny thing is, when I got pregnant with DD1, I was REALLLLLLY hoping for a boy because I felt I could not relate to a girl. And now here I am. Little girls have become my comfort zone, and the unknown that is having a little boy is feeling pretty unsettling. (Just so we're clear, I do NOT think girls are better, it's just that they're what I'm used to now)
I hate that I feel that way. Especially since I know that once this little boy comes out, the thought of having a girl instead won't even cross my mind (as I did not once feel any type of regret when the Dr said "Congratulations, it's a girl" before). I just hope I don't have to wait until then to be able to wrap my head around the fact that this LO is a boy.
This is what I was going to say. I want the kicking to ramp up but so many people say, "Be thankful she isn't kicking hard. It hurts!" STFU. I for one, am most looking forward to that part of pregnancy.
I think there is a certain point where you realize and accept that people say stupid sh#t to pregnant(all) people all of the time. Most people are self-absorbed and do not think about other people's feelings. Or they mean well, they just don't have a constructive way of expressing this.
This lack of emotional intelligence/social skills is not about you therefore there's no need to take it personally, it's just a reflection of how stunted and disconnected the other person is. Therefore, there's no need to make it about you unless you just like drama and an excuse to complain and have people feel sorry for you.
I have 2 confessions:
1) My back has been hurting pretty badly, but I've been milking it to get MH to do things around the house. 2 nights ago he cleaned the entire kitchem, even swept the floor!
2) I'm like a 5 year old right now and I keep sneaking by the Christmas tree and shaking the gifts with my name to try and figure out with DH got me.
Ancillary to this, I confess that I want to punch people in the face for complaining about people asking how they're feeling. See the post below.
Along the same lines - We could choose between doing lunch with FIL either on Christmas or on Christmas Eve. I chose Christmas Eve because we are doing dinner with my parents that day and that means we'll have Christmas Day completely free.
I did swear my brother to secrecy and I'm pretty sure he wouldn't tell anyone.
I confess that I am a miserable pregnant woman. I know how much of a miracle it is, I know it's only 9 months, and honestly I have had a very easy breezy pregnancy so far, all things considered. I didn't have terrible m/s, I haven't gained a ton of weight, I have no hair/acne/bowel/bladder problems, so I don't know wtf my problem is.
Yeah the heart burn is picking up as is the back pain, and it's getting more uncomfortable to get around (in and out of the car, in and out of bed, up and down the stairs, etc.), more uncomfortable to sleep, but nothing is unbearable at all! I've been told by multiple people that I'm "glowing" and my FI is always saying how beautiful and sexy I am because I'm carrying his baby.
I know how lucky I am, and yet I still find stupid little things to complain about. It doesn't make me any less grateful for the little miracle inside of me, though.
Truth. CDing is like a sickness. I just tell people I CD to be green because at this point it sure isn't saving me any money. LOL
Ginny DX 21-Hydroxylase Deficiency Congenital Adrenal Hyperplasia
Charlie DX Specific Antibody Deficiency & ASD
Yes!!! I'm glad that I'm not the only one. I have a friend who is 2 weeks further along than I am and all she does is complain. Even goes as far as commenting that she can't wait to get that baby out. I love being pregnant! Yes, there are parts that are not the most enjoyable but knowing that my little girl is safe inside me and growing stronger every day is enough to bring happiness to the most crappy day.
DD has started calling DH's mother "the fat lady" instead of 'nana'... we both think it's funny and neither of us have corrected her.
(quick back story - she lost custody of DH when he was 3. then she was in jail until he was 18 or 19... she started coming around and trying to be a friend instead of a mother... talked dh into opening a phone line for her to have a cell phone and she fucked him on it FOR 2 DIFFERENT CELLPHONE COMPANIES, therefore hurting DH"s credit...now the family believes that she is back to doing drugs, she owes all of us money, and only comes around when she wants a free meal or to show off her new boyfriend... she moved and won't tell anyone where her new apartment is, and won't even answer the phone when DD wants to call her.)
:: writes this down, because I'm totally going to use it ::
I'm in agreement. When I was pregnant with DD, I freakin' LOVED being pregnant. You heard no complaints from me and I just couldn't understand why people could complain about such a miracle.
Fast forward to now and I find myself miserable. I am on multiple medications to stop preterm labor (all of which have debilitating side effects), have been battling contractions since 15 weeks, am still puking daily despite zofran, have had multiple kidney infections and had to have a stent placed just so I could pee without feeling like I was going to pass out, and have had three lengthy hospital stays and two surgeries. That's not including the "normal" pregnancy issues like constipation and heartburn.
Am I thanking God every.single.day that I'm still pregnant and have a healthy baby? You betcha! Am I wishing that this pregnancy was over already? No freaking way! Does that make me any less physically miserable? Not a chance. FTR, I try to keep it to just my DH and mom and I'm not going to complain to everyone who will listen, but that doesn't mean I can't feel bad about what I'm dealing with.
LOL me neither.
Baby on Board - My Blog
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Thank you... i'm completely in love with and grateful for my baby girl and i would do it all again in a heartbeat but in all honesty I hate being pregnant i'm sick the entire nine months i'm exhausted all the time you name it i'm feeling it and it sucks.
This makes me sad.
I definitely think that you're in a different boat. I'm sorry that you're having to deal with so much. I'm on here daily and I've seen you commenting and never have I seen you complain about anything mentioned above and I will say that you have every right to and yet you're not. I also think there is a big difference between expressing your discomforts with loved ones so they can help you and also expressing them here because we are all going through a lot of the same discomforts and its nice to know we're "normal" and our symptom is common. In those moments, I don't see them as complaints, but symptom checking. IMO complaining is "Oh I can't take it any" or " I can't wait for this to be over" or the constant "I'm so miserable". I hope that the remainder of your pregnancy is uneventful and sending thoughts and prayers for a healthy, full term baby and a healthy mama.
I can definitely understand. I had a very recent change of heart to desire a daughter, but for a long time my imagined complete family included 3 boys, no girls. EVERYONE and their brother has assumed I'm elated to finally have a girl and while I absolutely am happy [and to be confirmed next week
], there has still been a large part of me dealing with the end of that dream of 3 boys.
Is it just so hard to imagine that our lives can't be complete without a child of the opposite sex?
That said, I am thrilled for you, as a mother two boys, you're going to love it.
LOVE.
I'm conflicted. Something about having guns around a mentally unstable son rubs me the wrong way. However, I really don't know the whole story so I'm trying not to judge too much and trying not to turn this into a gun control debate. (For what it's worth, there are guns in my home (my husband is in law enforcement) but I am 100% behind an assault rifle ban, etc.)
You just brought tears to me eyes. Nancy Lanza has absolutely no idea what has taken place. I agree that she is also a victim as well as her other son. My heart breaks for him. I can't imagine having to go back to work and face scoiety after such a horrible tragedy committed by a loved one.
Thanks, lady! I totally agree that it's different when women are constantly complaining to anyone and everyone about every tiny symptom. My bff is 32 weeks along and having a perfectly healthy pregnancy, yet she's already started begging for an induction and posts multiple facebook statuses every week complaining about everything. That annoys the heck out of me. I just get annoyed by the blanket statements along the lines of 'just because you're pregnant you should suck it up and love every minute and never complain.'
Ugh. Don't even get me started! This girl called me from L&D last week in a panic. My heart immediately sank and was sick with worry. Nope, she was ticked because it was *just* BH contractions and they made her go home. And this is her second. Needless to say, I'm taking a bit of a break from her.
Yes, this absolutely. I am so excited to have this little guy, but that doesn't mean I'm never going to complain!
I enjoy lurking on other BMBs - especially on FFFC and UO Thursdays. I usually find some post that I really want to comment on, but don't because I think it'd be weird to just jump into another board on the "fun" days.
Thank you - Another confession is that I was anxious to see if you'd comment on my FFFC. ::blushing smiley::
I have another one:
Grammatical errors bother me. Especially your vs you're, their/there/they're, and accepting/excepting. It REALLY annoys me when I see misuse in professional documents such as invoices, brochures, websites, etc.
However, I have a really hard time remembering when to use "it's" vs "its" - its with no apostrophe is possessive, right?
Awww, of course girl. Now which one of us is Yin and the other Yang?
I agree with this and I just wanted to add, because I know how special this time is and I know this is my last pregnancy I feel terribly guilty for being anything less than over joyed by everything about it. Sometimes you just need to vent about the less than comfortable aspects of pregnacy.
I just received my nursery furniture and its the wrong color. I call JCP and am told that my color is on back order until March 9 and thats not even a guarantee. I am on the computer simultaneously placing the order and it is telling me it is in stock. (I did this because I had a problem with this back order nonsense last month when I originally ordered it) She tells me that it is in stock at another warehouse but not at her warehouse. I cant have it shipped from another warehouse either. WTF? I say "how do you sell baby furniture and then tell people they cant have it for 4 months?" She then proceeds to tell me that this is what happens when you order last minute. My confession; I have never cursed someone out so terribly bad before in my life. I believe very nasty curse words and insults came out of my mouth. I think I may have gotten personal and I dont feel bad,not even a little bit.
I can take a lot of error, especially in reader submissions (I work at my local newspaper), but there are a few things that REALLY bother me: Capitalizing words that don't need to be capitalized in the middle of sentences. Starting a word with a capital letter may seem to make the statement more "important," but really, it's just not right.
I see this very often, in service notices (the church service after an obituary is printed), the funeral directors spell altar as alter. Alter means to change something. The thing in a church is an altar. Also, I know it's correct to spell it pallbearer, but I always separate the words because it looks better, and no one has complained about it so I'm going to continue doing it.