FFFC!

erniebufflo · June 2012

dixee.deluxe:

The ED thing is interesting to me -- I feel awful (awfulawfulawful) about my body but I don't have an ED. I don't think you need one or a past of one to feel horrible about your body post-kids. It's a HUGE transition you went through and it will take time to a) get to a place you feel comfortable (in a healthy way!!) and b) learn how to live in your new body. That's all. In the meantime, try not to hate too much. It's hard, I know. Celebrate the little things

But, post-baby bodies can be a real trigger for someone with a histroy of ED.

I do have a history of ED and though I hate my post baby bod, it's nothing like the way I felt when I was going through the ED stuff. BUT, at the same time, people with ED have to be very careful when trying to get healthy again because it's so easy to slip back into unhealthy habits just to be "skinny".

skinny =/= healthy

Amen on the skinny not equaling healthy. People keep telling me I look great because I am currently thinner than I was even before I get pregnant. But it's because I ALMOST DIED. Every time someone tells me how great I look, it makes me really uncomfortable, because it's like they're complimenting looking ill. I don't look jaundiced and gaunt like I did right when I left the hospital, but I'm still not "healthy thin" right now. I sort of want to tell folks who say "nice" things that heart failure is SO not hot right now, and that I'd take a few extra pounds if it didn't mean worrying about how many heartbeats I have left.

Tambcat · June 2012

dixee.deluxe:
btchesrcrazy:

dixee.deluxe:

oh is that you

LOL

ninjabridemom · June 2012

dixee.deluxe:

The ED thing is interesting to me -- I feel awful (awfulawfulawful) about my body but I don't have an ED. I don't think you need one or a past of one to feel horrible about your body post-kids. It's a HUGE transition you went through and it will take time to a) get to a place you feel comfortable (in a healthy way!!) and b) learn how to live in your new body. That's all. In the meantime, try not to hate too much. It's hard, I know. Celebrate the little things

But, post-baby bodies can be a real trigger for someone with a histroy of ED.

I understand that. I'm saying you don't need a history of an ED for it to be a shitastic time and for you to feel unnatural in your body. Unless I missed something, she didn't bring up the ED with her picture, so it was interesting to me that people jumped to that. I admit I did just skim the first few pages of this though.

Ateal, yes, I can totally see what you mean about the control thing. You are stronger than you think!!!

Sunshine+Luv · June 2012

jenwet:

I have nothing constructive to add to the texting while driving conversation that hasn't been said already. I'll throw my angry WTF?! in there and call it good.

On a lighter note, here's my FFFC: In yesterday's UO, I posted a semi-biitchy rant along the lines of "If I can see your tacky logo from 5ft away, you have no style", etc.etc.

Well, today I'm prancing around the house in a pair of VS sweats with a giant-ass LOVE PINK emblazoned across the butt. There's even a hot pink dog "logo" on my thigh. In my defense, they were a xmas gift from my 18 year old cousin, but I'm running out of elastic waistband items in my closet that fit my still-giant a**. So there you have it.

Forgive me April 2012 BMB, for today I AM the very definition of hypocrisy. Please flame away.

LOL!

gisa886 · June 2012

jenwet:
I have nothing constructive to add to the texting while driving conversation that hasn't been said already. I'll throw my angry WTF?! in there and call it good.
On a lighter note, here's my FFFC: In yesterday's UO, I posted a semi-biitchy rant along the lines of "If I can see your tacky logo from 5ft away, you have no style", etc.etc.
Well, today I'm prancing around the house in a pair of VS sweats with a giant-ass LOVE PINK emblazoned across the butt. There's even a hot pink dog "logo" on my thigh. In my defense, they were a xmas gift from my 18 year old cousin, but I'm running out of elastic waistband items in my closet that fit my still-giant a**. So there you have it.
Forgive me April 2012 BMB, for today I AM the very definition of hypocrisy. Please flame away.

How dare you!!

Monkeybabe · June 2012

ninjabridemom:
dixee.deluxe:

The ED thing is interesting to me -- I feel awful (awfulawfulawful) about my body but I don't have an ED. I don't think you need one or a past of one to feel horrible about your body post-kids. It's a HUGE transition you went through and it will take time to a) get to a place you feel comfortable (in a healthy way!!) and b) learn how to live in your new body. That's all. In the meantime, try not to hate too much. It's hard, I know. Celebrate the little things

But, post-baby bodies can be a real trigger for someone with a histroy of ED.

I understand that. I'm saying you don't need a history of an ED for it to be a shitastic time and for you to feel unnatural in your body. Unless I missed something, she didn't bring up the ED with her picture, so it was interesting to me that people jumped to that. I admit I did just skim the first few pages of this though.

Ateal, yes, I can totally see what you mean about the control thing. You are stronger than you think!!!

They probably jumped to it because, despite it being an extremely sensitive subject, Ateal was open about her ED while we were all pregnant.

ChelseyB5186 · June 2012

jenwet:
I have nothing constructive to add to the texting while driving conversation that hasn't been said already. I'll throw my angry WTF?! in there and call it good.
On a lighter note, here's my FFFC: In yesterday's UO, I posted a semi-biitchy rant along the lines of "If I can see your tacky logo from 5ft away, you have no style", etc.etc.
Well, today I'm prancing around the house in a pair of VS sweats with a giant-ass LOVE PINK emblazoned across the butt. There's even a hot pink dog "logo" on my thigh. In my defense, they were a xmas gift from my 18 year old cousin, but I'm running out of elastic waistband items in my closet that fit my still-giant a**. So there you have it.
Forgive me April 2012 BMB, for today I AM the very definition of hypocrisy. Please flame away.

Guuuurl, you so tacky.

dixee.deluxe · June 2012

ninjabridemom:
dixee.deluxe:

The ED thing is interesting to me -- I feel awful (awfulawfulawful) about my body but I don't have an ED. I don't think you need one or a past of one to feel horrible about your body post-kids. It's a HUGE transition you went through and it will take time to a) get to a place you feel comfortable (in a healthy way!!) and b) learn how to live in your new body. That's all. In the meantime, try not to hate too much. It's hard, I know. Celebrate the little things

But, post-baby bodies can be a real trigger for someone with a histroy of ED.

I understand that. I'm saying you don't need a history of an ED for it to be a shitastic time and for you to feel unnatural in your body. Unless I missed something, she didn't bring up the ED with her picture, so it was interesting to me that people jumped to that. I admit I did just skim the first few pages of this though.

Ateal, yes, I can totally see what you mean about the control thing. You are stronger than you think!!!

The control thing is the whole point of it being Dx'd as an ED. That you are so obsessed with control that you CANNOT be strong enough to give it up.

She didn't mention it. But when she got attacked for her post, I kind of got defensive for her IN CASE she was suffering from ED. I did put a disclaimer, of sorts, at the bottom of my post saying to ignore it if she wasn't talking about ED. But, I'd hate to accidentally miss a "cry for help".

Another disclaimer: "cry for help" sounds extreme, but I'm sure you guys get what I'm saying.

jcsntms06 · June 2012

ImThisBabysMom:
Moneypenny424:
I do not understand the point of changing babies into pajamas at night. Unless she's wearing a big poufy dress, Josie just sleeps in whatever she was wearing that day.

Ditto. My sil changes her baby. I asked why, she said to build a routine. He gets put in soft pjs eats and then sleeps every night she said.

The only reason why we change into pj's is because my girl has a ton of freaking clothes. I feel she needs to get her wear out of them before she into the next size up.

Christina_Diane · June 2012

eav2c:
btchesrcrazy:
ateal2490:
Not long ago, I used to look like this. Despite the fact that my marriage was completely falling apart (and we probably very close to separating) this was still one of the happiest times of my life. The only point in time that could ever come close to defeating that year was the day DD arrived.

thats gross

Hey... STFU. Please don't fuel the fire. ED's are serious and unless you understand it just the fluck up.

Agreed. There is no explaining it. So I'll add mine. I used to be bulemic with anorexic tendencies.....according to my psychologist. It was bad. It lasted from my senior year of high school until my sophomore year of college, with relapses until the year after I graduated college.

creamsiclechica · June 2012

I just want to remind ateal how incredibly strong and courageous she is for a) being so open and honest about her ED during her time here, b)remaining healthy for her daughter throughout her pregnancy and after, despite how HARD it must be on her mentally, and c) standing up to the flucking insensitive and intentionally cruel trolls.

Girl, it's been said time and time again, you're gorge, but it's worth saying again. Then and now. It's the fight of your life.

Torani · June 2012

Here's my confessions:

I look forward to this thread all week for the entertainment. Thank you for not disappointing me ladies!

Also, I hate smartphones. I think that everyone that has them is pretentious and wasting their money. But, the only real reason I will not get one is that I do not want to pay for the data package. It is not worth it to me to more than double my monthly bill, and O do not want to change providers. That said, DH and I are obsessed with our iPod Touches and I sometimes wish I had wifi when I am not at home. Yup, I'm a hypocrite.

Christina_Diane · June 2012

Andplusalso, I judge my neighbors who don't recycle. We pay a flat fee to the city for garbage, recycling, and yard waste. We were given a can on wheels for each of those. My shiityass neighbor that I can't stand never recycles and it makes me think even less of her.

PinkSapphires · June 2012

I just want to say Ateal, that you are gorgeous and you did everything perfectly while you were pregnant with your baby girl. She is beautiful and healthy because of you!

Dear Troll. F-u-c-k you.

I get trolls for drama, but it takes a real sick b!tch to attack someone when it comes to something like this.

ateal2490 · June 2012

dixee.deluxe:
ninjabridemom:
dixee.deluxe:

The ED thing is interesting to me -- I feel awful (awfulawfulawful) about my body but I don't have an ED. I don't think you need one or a past of one to feel horrible about your body post-kids. It's a HUGE transition you went through and it will take time to a) get to a place you feel comfortable (in a healthy way!!) and b) learn how to live in your new body. That's all. In the meantime, try not to hate too much. It's hard, I know. Celebrate the little things

But, post-baby bodies can be a real trigger for someone with a histroy of ED.

I understand that. I'm saying you don't need a history of an ED for it to be a shitastic time and for you to feel unnatural in your body. Unless I missed something, she didn't bring up the ED with her picture, so it was interesting to me that people jumped to that. I admit I did just skim the first few pages of this though.

Ateal, yes, I can totally see what you mean about the control thing. You are stronger than you think!!!

The control thing is the whole point of it being Dx'd as an ED. That you are so obsessed with control that you CANNOT be strong enough to give it up.

She didn't mention it. But when she got attacked for her post, I kind of got defensive for her IN CASE she was suffering from ED. I did put a disclaimer, of sorts, at the bottom of my post saying to ignore it if she wasn't talking about ED. But, I'd hate to accidentally miss a "cry for help".

Another disclaimer: "cry for help" sounds extreme, but I'm sure you guys get what I'm saying.

I did mention it a few times when I was pregnant, only because I had that midwife that called me fat. I didn't talk about it enough for it to be common knowledge, in any means. But you're right. Its sort of come to mind again lately so I was looking for someone to tell me that it was nuts. Thanks, AE, for doing the opposite.

ateal2490 · June 2012

PinkSapphires:
I just want to say Ateal, that you are gorgeous and you did everything perfectly while you were pregnant with your baby girl. She is beautiful and healthy because of you!
Dear Troll. F-u-c-k you.
I get trolls for drama, but it takes a real sick b!tch to attack someone when it comes to something like this.

That means so much to hear that...thank you so very much.

Is that b!tch gone or is she still talking? I blocked her, so I can't see if she's still posting. Probably for the best.

Moneypenny424 · June 2012

dixee.deluxe:

The ED thing is interesting to me -- I feel awful (awfulawfulawful) about my body but I don't have an ED. I don't think you need one or a past of one to feel horrible about your body post-kids. It's a HUGE transition you went through and it will take time to a) get to a place you feel comfortable (in a healthy way!!) and b) learn how to live in your new body. That's all. In the meantime, try not to hate too much. It's hard, I know. Celebrate the little things

But, post-baby bodies can be a real trigger for someone with a histroy of ED.

I do have a history of ED and though I hate my post baby bod, it's nothing like the way I felt when I was going through the ED stuff. BUT, at the same time, people with ED have to be very careful when trying to get healthy again because it's so easy to slip back into unhealthy habits just to be "skinny".

skinny =/= healthy

I totally agree with this. I am currently in the worst shape of my life. Yes, I'm still slim and lost most of my baby weight quickly, but I don't feel good about myself. Having said that, it is nothing compared to how I used to feel when I was anorexic. Thinking about the things I used to do to stay skinny now just make me tired--I don't have the energy to count my 500 calories a day or workout for 3 hours! There's still a little voice there that makes me wish I still had that discipline though.

ateal2490 · June 2012

Christina_Diane:
eav2c:
btchesrcrazy:
ateal2490:
Not long ago, I used to look like this. Despite the fact that my marriage was completely falling apart (and we probably very close to separating) this was still one of the happiest times of my life. The only point in time that could ever come close to defeating that year was the day DD arrived.

thats gross

Hey... STFU. Please don't fuel the fire. ED's are serious and unless you understand it just the fluck up.
Agreed. There is no explaining it. So I'll add mine. I used to be bulemic with anorexic tendencies.....according to my psychologist. It was bad. It lasted from my senior year of high school until my sophomore year of college, with relapses until the year after I graduated college.

I'm so glad you broke free. You rock.

erniebufflo · June 2012

Christina_Diane:
Andplusalso, I judge my neighbors who don't recycle. We pay a flat fee to the city for garbage, recycling, and yard waste. We were given a can on wheels for each of those. My shiityass neighbor that I can't stand never recycles and it makes me think even less of her.

There's even less excuse for not recycling in my town: it's free, we have a GIANT bin, we don't have to separate, and you actually get rewards like discounts at restaurants based on how much you recycle because they weigh the bin as they pick it up.

gisa886 · June 2012

BostonKisses, I'm sorry. That is just insane.

Also, I dress my kids every day and do pjs every night. I love their clothes.

ateal2490 · June 2012

creamsiclechica:
I just want to remind ateal how incredibly strong and courageous she is for a) being so open and honest about her ED during her time here, b)remaining healthy for her daughter throughout her pregnancy and after, despite how HARD it must be on her mentally, and c) standing up to the flucking insensitive and intentionally cruel trolls.
Girl, it's been said time and time again, you're gorge, but it's worth saying again. Then and now. It's the fight of your life.

You are so wonderful.

Christina_Diane · June 2012

Torani:
Here's my confessions:
I look forward to this thread all week for the entertainment. Thank you for not disappointing me ladies!
Also, I hate smartphones. I think that everyone that has them is pretentious and wasting their money. But, the only real reason I will not get one is that I do not want to pay for the data package. It is not worth it to me to more than double my monthly bill, and O do not want to change providers. That said, DH and I are obsessed with our iPod Touches and I sometimes wish I had wifi when I am not at home. Yup, I'm a hypocrite.

This is us also. We don't have smart phones. I think the data packages are a waste. But, I want an iPhone so badly. Verizon just announced a family share data package plan and we are looking into it.

ateal2490 · June 2012

Moneypenny424:
dixee.deluxe:

The ED thing is interesting to me -- I feel awful (awfulawfulawful) about my body but I don't have an ED. I don't think you need one or a past of one to feel horrible about your body post-kids. It's a HUGE transition you went through and it will take time to a) get to a place you feel comfortable (in a healthy way!!) and b) learn how to live in your new body. That's all. In the meantime, try not to hate too much. It's hard, I know. Celebrate the little things

But, post-baby bodies can be a real trigger for someone with a histroy of ED.

I do have a history of ED and though I hate my post baby bod, it's nothing like the way I felt when I was going through the ED stuff. BUT, at the same time, people with ED have to be very careful when trying to get healthy again because it's so easy to slip back into unhealthy habits just to be "skinny".

skinny =/= healthy
I totally agree with this. I am currently in the worst shape of my life. Yes, I'm still slim and lost most of my baby weight quickly, but I don't feel good about myself. Having said that, it is nothing compared to how I used to feel when I was anorexic. Thinking about the things I used to do to stay skinny now just make me tired--I don't have the energy to count my 500 calories a day or workout for 3 hours! There's still a little voice there that makes me wish I still had that discipline though.

I never would have imagined that EDs would be so prevalent here. Those are some scary statistics if you think about it.

And I feel you on that. It has certainly chilled out since getting pregnant. Sometimes I'll think about how I used to run 10 miles a day and wonder where the f!ck I got that sort of energy from 300 calories a day.

SGC29 · June 2012

I am so late to this, but wanted to chime in as this thread was posted on another board and I felt the need to say something.

In regards to the woman who texts while driving. I know BK shared her story above, now I am sharing mine.

A very good childhood friend of mine was killed in a car accident a few years back. She was texting while driving and ran into the back of a semi. The hood of her car went through her windshield. From what I understand she died instantly. Her family is pretty much ruined at this point. Her mother and father cannot seem to move past this and their lives are just hell each and every day. I'm sharing a photo of the crash site. It is blurry, difficult to see, but you get the basic idea.

In a split second your life could be over because you sent a simple "k" text to someone. Or worse, you could take the life of someone else.

I don't know if you will read this or even let it sink in but please please please try to let it. Please realize that life is precious and can be over so quickly. Please.

ateal2490 · June 2012

The control thing is the whole point of it being Dx'd as an ED. That you are so obsessed with control that you CANNOT be strong enough to give it up.

She didn't mention it. But when she got attacked for her post, I kind of got defensive for her IN CASE she was suffering from ED. I did put a disclaimer, of sorts, at the bottom of my post saying to ignore it if she wasn't talking about ED. But, I'd hate to accidentally miss a "cry for help".

Another disclaimer: "cry for help" sounds extreme, but I'm sure you guys get what I'm saying.

You're right on the money, Dixee. It is completely different. There is no end. The average person would get to an "ideal weight" and maintain. Even when I reached that, I still couldn't let it go. And it makes you willing to do just about anything to lose weight. Low self esteem v. an ED is feeling bad about yourself but still remembering to take care of yourself v. feeling bad enough about yourself to risk a heart attack to reach your impossible goal. That said, my heart breaks for anyone who has self esteem issues. Its suffocating, I know.

Musiclover2012 · June 2012

wow, this thread brought so many people out of lurkdome today. We must be well known around the bump huh?

Agreed- Texting and Driving is shiity. I use to think that Mrs.Greene was actually pretty awesome.

Ateal- You are beautiful and it might not hurt to talk to someone about your body image issues. I don't have an ED but I was still hard on myself to bounce back to my size 6 self (still not there but am working on my eating and exercise). It is not easy, it takes time and you need to love yourself no matter what.

Moneypenny424 · June 2012

ateal2490:

The control thing is the whole point of it being Dx'd as an ED. That you are so obsessed with control that you CANNOT be strong enough to give it up.

She didn't mention it. But when she got attacked for her post, I kind of got defensive for her IN CASE she was suffering from ED. I did put a disclaimer, of sorts, at the bottom of my post saying to ignore it if she wasn't talking about ED. But, I'd hate to accidentally miss a "cry for help".

Another disclaimer: "cry for help" sounds extreme, but I'm sure you guys get what I'm saying.
You're right on the money, Dixee. It is completely different. There is no end. The average person would get to an "ideal weight" and maintain. Even when I reached that, I still couldn't let it go. And it makes you willing to do just about anything to lose weight. Low self esteem v. an ED is feeling bad about yourself but still remembering to take care of yourself v. feeling bad enough about yourself to risk a heart attack to reach your impossible goal. That said, my heart breaks for anyone who has self esteem issues. Its suffocating, I know.

Yep, it is totally different. I left college for a semester because I no longer had the mental ability to focus to study--I ate once every three days and worked out 6hrs a day (at that point I was abusing diet pills too). I remember that my friends made me eat a bowl of cereal one day and I felt so bad that I went to the gym immediately after for another 2 hours.

Stay strong, Ateal and the others fighting this. Even when you're over it, I think there is always something in your head that can flip the switch again.

mrs+harlow · June 2012

ateal2490:
Moneypenny424:
dixee.deluxe:

The ED thing is interesting to me -- I feel awful (awfulawfulawful) about my body but I don't have an ED. I don't think you need one or a past of one to feel horrible about your body post-kids. It's a HUGE transition you went through and it will take time to a) get to a place you feel comfortable (in a healthy way!!) and b) learn how to live in your new body. That's all. In the meantime, try not to hate too much. It's hard, I know. Celebrate the little things

But, post-baby bodies can be a real trigger for someone with a histroy of ED.

I do have a history of ED and though I hate my post baby bod, it's nothing like the way I felt when I was going through the ED stuff. BUT, at the same time, people with ED have to be very careful when trying to get healthy again because it's so easy to slip back into unhealthy habits just to be "skinny".

skinny =/= healthy
I totally agree with this. I am currently in the worst shape of my life. Yes, I'm still slim and lost most of my baby weight quickly, but I don't feel good about myself. Having said that, it is nothing compared to how I used to feel when I was anorexic. Thinking about the things I used to do to stay skinny now just make me tired--I don't have the energy to count my 500 calories a day or workout for 3 hours! There's still a little voice there that makes me wish I still had that discipline though.
I never would have imagined that EDs would be so prevalent here. Those are some scary statistics if you think about it.
And I feel you on that. It has certainly chilled out since getting pregnant. Sometimes I'll think about how I used to run 10 miles a day and wonder where the f!ck I got that sort of energy from 300 calories a day.

1 in 100 baby. You aren't alone.

jessandandy09 · June 2012

erniebufflo:
dixee.deluxe:

The ED thing is interesting to me -- I feel awful (awfulawfulawful) about my body but I don't have an ED. I don't think you need one or a past of one to feel horrible about your body post-kids. It's a HUGE transition you went through and it will take time to a) get to a place you feel comfortable (in a healthy way!!) and b) learn how to live in your new body. That's all. In the meantime, try not to hate too much. It's hard, I know. Celebrate the little things

But, post-baby bodies can be a real trigger for someone with a histroy of ED.

I do have a history of ED and though I hate my post baby bod, it's nothing like the way I felt when I was going through the ED stuff. BUT, at the same time, people with ED have to be very careful when trying to get healthy again because it's so easy to slip back into unhealthy habits just to be "skinny".

skinny =/= healthy

Amen on the skinny not equaling healthy. People keep telling me I look great because I am currently thinner than I was even before I get pregnant. But it's because I ALMOST DIED. Every time someone tells me how great I look, it makes me really uncomfortable, because it's like they're complimenting looking ill. I don't look jaundiced and gaunt like I did right when I left the hospital, but I'm still not "healthy thin" right now. I sort of want to tell folks who say "nice" things that heart failure is SO not hot right now, and that I'd take a few extra pounds if it didn't mean worrying about how many heartbeats I have left.

oh my goodness ernie this gave me goose bumps. I hope you are doing well.

Christina_Diane · June 2012

ateal2490:

I'm so glad you broke free. You rock.

Thanks. To say it was difficult would be an understatement. Also, I would be lying if I said that the occasional thought doesn't cross my mind from time to time. Just keep at it one hour at a time, then one day at a time.

jessandandy09 · June 2012

creamsiclechica:

I just want to remind ateal how incredibly strong and courageous she is for a) being so open and honest about her ED during her time here, b)remaining healthy for her daughter throughout her pregnancy and after, despite how HARD it must be on her mentally, and c) standing up to the flucking insensitive and intentionally cruel trolls.

Girl, it's been said time and time again, you're gorge, but it's worth saying again. Then and now. It's the fight of your life.

well said and seconded :-)

stephlas8 · June 2012

CPhillz:
TKx2:
btchesrcrazy:
CPhillz:
I just want to say, I love you TK. And what you said was 100% spot on. This is "flame-free" confessions, but when someone confesses to something dangerous, that goes out the window. If someone asked you to keep a secret, but then they told you they were going to kill someone, would you REALLY keep it a secret? I hope not. I hope you'd tell someone. This is no different. When someone is admitting to something dangerous, I should hope someone would say something. I am happy to see these responses and I hope Mrs.Green listens.
im sure if gisa asked you lapdogs to keep the secret you would
CPhillz is no one's lapdog
Just yours. *bats eyelashes*

I'm CPhillz's lapdog.

DragonflyBelle · June 2012

My confession:

I was anorexic my entire senior year of high school. I looked AMAZING as a size 3, (at least I thought I did) but I developed vasovagal syncope as a result and bashed my head into a door frame a few times passing out. My mom figured it out and threatened to put me in the hospital and hook me up to a feeding tube to force-feed my skinny butt. Moral of the story is, I could easily go down that road again to get this multiple-pregnancy weight off, but I remember how sick I got then and am resolved to just bask in my curves because my husband likes them.

dixee.deluxe · June 2012

I know people have had it a lot worse than me. But when I first met DH, I was just beginning the "skinny" part of my anorexic phase. DH didn't know that I wasn't a naturally skinny person. I wasn't even THAT skinny. I was 145lbs at 5'6".

Anyway, DH (who was my boyfriend then) used to joke about it and tell people "my girlfriend eats gum for dinner. He didn't know any better.

I also never got my period. I think that was my wakeup call after we got married because we were TTC. It took us 15 cycles.

lcwed · June 2012

CPhillz:
Tambcat:
llizzyb:
CPhillz:
My confession: I just put Camden in front of the TV in his bouncy so I could clean. He loves the TV so much and I really needed some time away to clean this filthy house. He was so content, too. I just feel bad that I subjected him to the TV this early... :-X
And a pic because he just looked SO cute watching cartoons while snuggling his blankie.

Cute pic.
Graham watches the Today Show with me every morning while I eat breakfast and drink my coffee.
Yesterday we watched a rerun of Grey's Anatomy.
At least Camden is watching cartoons...
J doesn't seem interested in TV yet, and I wish she were. It would make life so much easier. I have no problem with it. Right now, she just spaces out at the fan. At least TV offers more varied stimuli. lol
lol, and another confession. I might do it more often. I actually felt better putting him in front of that then letting him swing aimlessly in his swing with nothing but the SAME birds to look at.

DD is absolutely fascinated by the spinning birds on the swing. we have caught her eyeing the TV a few times though. I'm glad she's not the only one fascinated by the TV this early.

PooDanga · June 2012

ateal2490:

It is pretty...intense. They say that eating disorders feed off a need for control; control over your body, your mind, your decisions, your life entirely-just about every sort of control you could ever imagine wanting fuels the disorder. But the second you become pregnant, its ripped away from you in the blink of an eye. Maybe if I ever learn to accept the fact that I gained weight because its normal to do so during pregnancy instead of just telling myself I ate too much for 10 months I'll be able to enjoy the little things more often. But right now, there aren't many little things to enjoy. FFFC #2- I tell people that the reason I never learve my house is because I'm exhausted or overwhelmed, but the truth is, I'd love to get out of this house...but trying to get dressed is worse than being stuck here in my home.

I could have written this myself!

erniebufflo · June 2012

jessandandy09:
erniebufflo:
dixee.deluxe:

The ED thing is interesting to me -- I feel awful (awfulawfulawful) about my body but I don't have an ED. I don't think you need one or a past of one to feel horrible about your body post-kids. It's a HUGE transition you went through and it will take time to a) get to a place you feel comfortable (in a healthy way!!) and b) learn how to live in your new body. That's all. In the meantime, try not to hate too much. It's hard, I know. Celebrate the little things

But, post-baby bodies can be a real trigger for someone with a histroy of ED.

I do have a history of ED and though I hate my post baby bod, it's nothing like the way I felt when I was going through the ED stuff. BUT, at the same time, people with ED have to be very careful when trying to get healthy again because it's so easy to slip back into unhealthy habits just to be "skinny".

skinny =/= healthy

Amen on the skinny not equaling healthy. People keep telling me I look great because I am currently thinner than I was even before I get pregnant. But it's because I ALMOST DIED. Every time someone tells me how great I look, it makes me really uncomfortable, because it's like they're complimenting looking ill. I don't look jaundiced and gaunt like I did right when I left the hospital, but I'm still not "healthy thin" right now. I sort of want to tell folks who say "nice" things that heart failure is SO not hot right now, and that I'd take a few extra pounds if it didn't mean worrying about how many heartbeats I have left.

oh my goodness ernie this gave me goose bumps. I hope you are doing well.

Feeling OK these days now that my meds are working and I'm past the side-effects of up-titration. Still hoping that my heart will get stronger and eventually I won't need them.

alisonmsmith · June 2012

My FFFC is that I'm dreading starting student teaching in August and leaving LO with DH for his FMLA leave. He either discounts, ignores, or suggests MILs take whenever I mention how I'm doing things (ie routine, naps, burping, etc). I feel like he should've had a kid with his mom since he doesn't seem to care how I choose to parent.

rxbeth · June 2012

We are going out of town overnight and my brother is going to stay at the house to take care of my high maintenance cats. He'll be staying in our bed (no guest bed) and I'm not going to wash the sheets for him.

TooCuteAkane · June 2012

softskate31:
I haven't "trimmed the hedges" since before LO was born. We haven't had sex yet either. I am a bad wife. The constant spotting has finally stopped, so I don't have any more excuses. DH hasn't pressed the issue...maybe he just isn't interested...or maybe he doesn't like my new 80s bush.

I have gained 100 pounds since DH and I met 9 years ago, my BMI is now over 50. I am researching bariatric surgery. I feel guilty going to the surgical option, but WW, "eat less move more", phentermine, and MFP haven't helped me. I am HUNGRY all the time and no matter what I do, I lose 10 pounds, gain 20 back. I am an ideal candidate for the surgery and it can really help me - I just feel like a failure.

Don't feel like a failure. I know a BUNCH of women who had the surgery with great success!

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