I knew that we were being presented to a birth mom and few weeks ago, and in my heart, I "just knew" it was not our baby and I was ok with that..... that is, until I embarked on my weekly stalking of the facilitator's website and saw another family was matched. I am happy for that family (they too have no children and live near us), but sad for us. Now the unavoidable questions are running through my head and I cannot stop thinking/wondering what made the BM choose that couple.
I know that this too shall pass.... one day. I just needed to get that off of my chest. Thanks for listening! Maybe now I can get back to work without being as distracted,
Re: Feeling a little sad... not chosen!
Thanks Ladies....
I know that this happens. And to be honest, we are in the middle of a major basement renovation and the thought of being matched probably would have put us over the edge! LOL.....
I am in better spirits. The first time you are faced with the reality of not being chosen stings.... A LOT!
Off to choose paint colors for the basement walls. And write IEPs for work.
I remember that feeling... knowing it wasn't for you but also being greatly disappointed to learn that you weren't chosen.
I know you don't want to hear this now... but try and believe that it will all make sense when you do meet your baby. The right baby will make it to you and you'll wonder how you could have ever earned for anyone other than the child that is yours.
Hugs to you.
Ugh, the rejections. So tough. It felt worse than dating, lol.
I'm sorry. I think it's very normal to feel sad, but you seem to have a really good outlook. I hope your baby finds you soon.
Hugs and hang in there. Look at it this way, you are one step closer to YOUR baby. S/he is coming . . . have faith.
As for writing IEP's . . . ah, have fun. I was a special ed teacher until this year. There's not a fiber of my being that misses writing IEP's, lol.