Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: preparing for child birth
Aww, you don't get it. Bless your heart.
Always Sunny's back b-tches!
RR,
I just spoke to your vag. She wanted me to tell you thank you for making her flapptastic with stretches and not fist punches to the cervix.
I don't know... you tell me. Is there anything up there?
Why do you edit every.single.post 5 seconds after you post it? Maybe you need to institute a 60-second waiting period before you hit that hot little button.
Always Sunny's back b-tches!
Really?
She didn't create it for this. Welcome back SV!
I'd like to thank the universe for putting this thread into my life. I haven't laughed so hard in quite awhile.
Fist pump away, OP!
Oh.. I get credit.
I'm just your friendly neighborhood vagina, trying to stop the injustice of vagina abuse everywhere.
Wow...I saw it before it DDed....pretty clear that there was a 'DS' she said she had to go 'tend to'.
this is going down in Bump history along with such infamous dumb posts as "fingernail full of feta", "CatPiss" and "Irish Twins".
Yay!
TTC#1 Chart
TTC#2 Chart
IUI #1 - #4 (repronex trigger) = BFN
IUI#5 on 10/28/2008 ** BFP 11/10/08 ** EDD 07/21/09 *** It's a GIRL (07/14/09)
med/treatment free BFP 06/28/10. EDD 03/05/11 *** GIRL #2 (02/23/11)
beta#1 @ 17dpo = 1296 .... beta#2 @ 19dpo = 3034
it's the Bug and Baby Belle!
Aww boo. I mean, this is obviously an AE, but at least it's hilariously entertaining.
Almost every time I quote one of her posts, by the time my reply has gone through, there is additional info in the post. It has been annoying the shiit out of me because she does it every.time.
Yeah, seriously....
I would WAY rather tear & have stiches (which DID happen with DS) & heal to a normal size than stretch my va-jay-jay out & NEVER get it back to a normal size again. Do you want to have great sex ever again??? I feel sorry for your H!
BFP #1:10/31/10 DS born 6/22/11BFP #3:4/24/12 DD born 12/31/12
Who's making the badge that says I was here for fistpumping anti tearing?
After having DS, I'll tell you this - you can make all the plans and preparations you want, but things are going to go the way they're going to go. I don't think a single thing went as planned when having DS, other than having a healthy baby of course.
I don't think fisting is going to do any good...
In the event you are serious, where did you read about being fisted being good for childbirth? And how on board with this is your DH? I think my H's eyes would pop out of his head if I asked him to do that to me.
Like PPs said, do your kegels and perineum massage while KU. Lots of people have babies, survive, and sex is back to normal. No fisting required.
YESSS!! Oh, the memories!
serious question to OP - what if you do succeed in fisting to stretch out your vag, and then end up with an emergency c-section?
What a waste of a perfectly good (I'm assuming) vag.
TTC#1 Chart
TTC#2 Chart
IUI #1 - #4 (repronex trigger) = BFN
IUI#5 on 10/28/2008 ** BFP 11/10/08 ** EDD 07/21/09 *** It's a GIRL (07/14/09)
med/treatment free BFP 06/28/10. EDD 03/05/11 *** GIRL #2 (02/23/11)
beta#1 @ 17dpo = 1296 .... beta#2 @ 19dpo = 3034
it's the Bug and Baby Belle!
I hereby institute a new weekly TTGP ritual:
My Blog - Taking You Home
I don't know how to make badges but here are my suggestions:
I (heart) fisting
DH punches my cervix
I survived fisting - 2011
TTC#1 Chart
TTC#2 Chart
IUI #1 - #4 (repronex trigger) = BFN
IUI#5 on 10/28/2008 ** BFP 11/10/08 ** EDD 07/21/09 *** It's a GIRL (07/14/09)
med/treatment free BFP 06/28/10. EDD 03/05/11 *** GIRL #2 (02/23/11)
beta#1 @ 17dpo = 1296 .... beta#2 @ 19dpo = 3034
it's the Bug and Baby Belle!
I survived fisting is my favorite
Oh man, the crying at work starts again. And my favorite is 'I survived fisting 2011'
Ah yes, that was a gem.
My Blog - Taking You Home
Seriously, fisting?? Yikes. That's commitment.
You really don't need to go that far. Like others have said, do kegels religiously and it will help a lot. FWIW, I gave birth to an 8 lb 5oz baby boy after 4 hours of pushing and got a second degree tear and what was happening to my vagina was the absolute last thing on my mind. I got sewn up and and I'm all back to normal now. If you tear, you tear, and the doc can fix you up just fine.
I've never heard of this, but my advice would be to keep things down there tight as long as possible, no need to loosen up before needed! Good luck though.
But but but they were drinking her wine!!!
I don't remember this one, but ewwwww
TTC since 2010
lots of IUIs and 1 IVF all BFNs
FET currently on hold
I don't remember this one, but ewwwww
TTC since 2010
lots of IUIs and 1 IVF all BFNs
FET currently on hold
::dead::
BEST. LINE. EVER.
BHAHAHAHAHA
I'm dying from laughter, there was an actual tear shed
I adore you MT. Just sayin'
TTC since 2010
lots of IUIs and 1 IVF all BFNs
FET currently on hold