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Toddlers: 24 Months+
Naughty, sassy, rude little girl...
I'm afraid to admit this because I feel its DH and I fault somehow but I have a naughty, sassy, rude little girl on my hands. She is extremely independent. Which means, she does what she wants when she wants. I am a SAHM so I'm the one doing most of the discipline. Time outs and no, no no - all day long. I try to distract her with stuff or give her the 'you pick from these two options'. Yes, I have done the 'if you are a good girl you will get blank' but that is coming to a halt because she is expecting it. And I don't l like that. Some examples...Me: DD say good bye to your friends. Her: "No!", she makes this really irritating screamish/whine then stomps her foot, folds her arms up and turns away. She does this with her music teacher, some random people at the halloween event today, the neighbors, family, anyone... She's rude to these people and I don't know how it got to this point. She use to be so sweet and loving child. I've been trying to get her socialized a bit more; thinking it will help but it almost seems to be worse. We try to take her to fun family events but she never seems happy. She always is saying "I no like it", "I can't", "I'm scared". I have to say...it's progressively gotten worse since being 18 mths - 2 years old.
Am I over-reacting? Is this a normal 3 year old? If not, what are some things you have done to fix it? Any books on discipline? Help...
Whether it's the best of times or the worst of times, it's the only time we've got.- Art Buchwald
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Re: Naughty, sassy, rude little girl...
Sounds *exactly* like dd. This must be what people are talking about when they say 3 is worse then 2....
It's esp hurtful when she says she doesn't love daddy : ( We know she doesn't mean it but it's no fun to deal with.
I go with normal, too. My DD#1 had also been sweet, eager to please, polite. But from 3-3.5 she was a wild child. Suddenly, right around 3.5 my little one was back. The independence is developmentally appropriate and important. I agree with KathrynMD's advice, calmly provide her with the proper way to express herself. That's how I have always handled yelling, screaming, tantrums, rude behavior. My kids now correct eachother- "No, John, say "May I have..." Good luck.
We are going through the same thing. It seems to be worse if she doesn't have her nap.
My DD is almost four and we had a bad streak of spoiled behavior about 4 months ago. It came-on slowly so it was a bit of a shock when I realized she was in a full-on phase. So, I started to address "spoiled" girl behavoir and correcting for it just like hitting or anything else. Once I idetified it and corrected it (TO, ignoring, redirecting, teaching) it took bit of work but resolved.
Basically, it really helped ME to isolate it as behavior that needed to stop.
They wouldn't care. They don't have much empathy or fully understand social norms at 3 (especially early 3 years old).
It's completely normal and not a sign of bad manners. Just calmly remind her that we say goodbye and move on with the day.
i agree, esp with the "move on with your day" part. by fighting her, you are making it a battle that she will always try to win. and is that really the biggest battle worth fighting? the best way to teach is by example, and you can explain to her why you do it (say bye to friends when leaving, etc), but don't *force* her to do it. even if she did do it, she would just be repeating you and not saying it on her own accord, so it's not really the best way of teaching.