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Re: FFFC
I took today off from work for FIL services even though the memorial will be Sunday. My office has a funeral benefit of 3 days so I could have taken more but I felt guilty that I didn't really need any days off.
Oct 2011 3 1/2 years old.
Robert Williams Birth date 5/16/2008
I had never heard of "redshirting" before this week's posts.
I'm kind of sad that James is moving from NB diapers to size 1. I'm glad it probably means he's gained more weight (still not back to birth weight, as of last week, so a gain would be good), but it's all going too quickly already!
Photo by J Shelton Photography
Married 10/5/08 | 2 yrs of TTC, tests, procedures & a m/c | IVF #2 =James!
I think that STTN is some sort of Holy Grail that many of us are so intent on reaching that we do all sorts of things to manipulate our childs sleep patterns to make it happen. I feel like there is too much pressure to have your child sleep through the night. Unless your LO has some sort of sleep disorder, sometimes they just wake up. No need to f with them to force no night wakings.*
*This is aimed at a fb book friend who is telling me that her LO's two nights of 1 wake up have no possibility of being related to new skills (walking) and 2 new teeth, but rather her nap schedule. So she is forcing her to stay awake, and then get one 30 minute nap later on. She is 10 months.
I ate nothing but salt yesterday. In the form of chips and ramen. By mid afternoon I was so bloated/swollen that I had to take my BRA off and hope that the shelf bra in my tank top didn't give out. I felt eligible for the "people of walmart" page. I was at work even. *sigh* (I did have a shirt on over my tank top...but still, I started with big ta-ta's and pregnancy has been generous to them, it was NOT comfortable but beat the idea of bra chafing)
Confession #2 - tomorrow is my DH's nephew's graduation - I'm going to have to sit near his mom, my SIL. If I make it through the day without causing a scene, I will consider it a success. If it weren't an important event, I would play the pregnancy card and skip it.
I have had a private practice for 6 years now. For the past 20 months or so I have done some work with a consulting group for a very specific group of clients (military families, who have access to ABA services through a very specific program, requiring supervisors to hire direct staff) . I began working with this group because the guy was a friend of a friend from Boston, and I sent him an email when he relocated with his family here just to say hi and network.
Its never been easy, he's a difficult person at best to communicate with. There have been multiple complaints from families (leaving the group), staff, and the insurance company, as well as folks on JBLM that he doest return calls, never responds etc etc. But he is a good guy, well intentioned, and smart. So he and I have been working to try and turn things around. But its a hamster wheel and nothing that he is supposed to do (as the owner) ever gets done. leading to frustration all around.
So I decided, that I would get off the pot, and start my own company (yikes!) and hire staff to service these kids and families. I got all the pieces in place, contracts established, interviewed some staff and hired , (one of my current staff is leaving to follow me as well)
I left him a message that I wanted to meet. He said call me. So 2 days of phone tag and him calling back during times I specifically said I was unavailable, I reached him to tell him yesterday. He said he wasnt surprised (i blew at him a couple months ago due to his generally douche-ness, and my ongoing frustrations, and said I was considering all my options). I said I would call my families and staff myself. He said we will talk next week about reassigning the cases to the other BCBA, who works about 10 hours a week and is salaried (he hasnt had a referral in months.) what he DOESNT KNOW yet is that 6 of the 11 or so clients are coming with me, continuing services with me and the new company. And that there is a staff member leaving too.
the *** is so going to hit the fan next week... duck and cover!
I was invited to do something really fun this weekend but with Maeve being so sick and me missing so much work, I just couldn't make it happen.
I'm bummed because it would have been such a good time and because I think I would have made some really good friendships (something I'm pretty starved for at the moment).
Stupid responsibilities.
We're heading tonight to Idaho for a wedding for DH's stepsister, whom we hardly know (but I love the rest of the family and his dad, so it's all good). It's up to me to get the house cleaned, laundry finished, the car cleaned out and loaded, and all of us packed by the time DH gets home from work around 5.
I completely forgot that one of my students has a musical/play today that I told him I'd try to attend. I totally love this kid! Yesterday his mom emailed me and said that the performance is 2 1/2 hours long and babes-in-arms aren't allowed as a safety issue (hello - all the kids in the performance are between 1st and 6th grade - I'm sure some of them have little siblings - what are their parents doing with their babies?). I called this morning and told her I couldn't find any childcare, when honestly I didn't try. I have too much to get done and I hate the particular musical he's in. I feel completely terrible for my student and like I'm being selfish.
I have two FFFC-worthy confessions about my attire at our small group meeting (sort of like PEPS, but through our church) earlier this week.
1. I wore a sweatsuit (jacket/pants) so I am most definitely contributing to the "pajamification of America".
2. Even worse, it was a maternity set.
The only thing that worked to keep W entertained while I was packing up the bathroom was to let him play with an empty condom box.
I dislike the acronym LOL. I usually write Ha, because I didn't really laugh out loud.
Me too! My Grandma uses it now!! Ugh.
I'm furious at my SIL. She's a controlling, self-centered wench who is trying to use my Grandmother's memorial as a way to get what she wants and push people around. I am having none of it and having a very difficult time not ripping her to shreds.
I never get angry like this, but I'm just fuming at her and my wimp of a brother who lets his wife walk all over him. He's turned into a giant wuss.
Me three! I really dislike "LOL" and have never used it.
I've confessed this before, but I also dislike "LO." Saying "little one" is fine, but "LO" bugs me, for some reason. Not sure how I'll get around it except to use "DS" and his name.
Photo by J Shelton Photography
Married 10/5/08 | 2 yrs of TTC, tests, procedures & a m/c | IVF #2 =James!
Good for you for not letting her push people around. I would be infuriated too. Stay strong!
Amen! I find the phrase "This is NOT about you right now" is very strong and powerful message, and needs to be said more often. I hope things work out.
1. I have an appt at the end of the month to get a couple moles checked and I am so freaked out about it. I saw my Dr. in April and she didn't think I needed an immediate appt but when I called this was the first one I could get. It's been driving me crazy to have to wait so long.
2. A just started sleeping through the night again and as happy as I am about that it also makes me sad that I don't get that extra little snuggle time with him.
3. I get irritated with bicyclists. I try to be nice "sharing the road" but get so frustrated when they are holding up traffic.
W is going to spend 10 days with his grandparents and cousins and I am just starting to get that "they'll do it all wrong" worry. I know I need to let go and let them be in charge since I won't be there to help but I know a few things are going to bug me. I really want to tell my dad that I prefer they do things differenlty but I know he won't listen. He says "that's what grand parents do". But we have to deal with him when he comes home spoiled.
The TV is on there ALL.THE.TIME
THey let him eat what ever he wants regardless of the nutritional value (or lack there of)
They treat him like a baby and talk baby talk to him.
There are so many other things. Why did I agree to this?
1. I do not understand smocked dress fashion for babies. They seem to be the rage right now but I can't get over how Little House on the Prairie/Amish they look.
2. I am tired of people telling me that I need a night out. Go out, have multiples, and tell me again how you think it is plausible to leave our two kids, a refluxer to boot, with a babysitter for the night.
3. I am going to throat punch the next person who tells me that DD should grow out of her reflux in a few weeks. She isn't going to. She is overseen by the Head doctor at Children's and he has already told us that we are in it for the long road. My child does not just spit up, she takes more PPI's than my mother. She isn't like your child/grandchild/niece/friend/etc. Ugh
4. I am tired of smelling like vomit.
L keeps hitting me and thinking it's hilarious. I'm not sure what to do about it... I've done the stern No, the "Mommy is sad when you hit her", "Let's do nice touches", etc. But she hits me again and laughs like it's the funniest thing in the world. I'm sure that the look on my face is (to her) hilarious after she hits me, but it's sooooo frustrating.
Sigh.
Ds used to do this and I would try to have minimal reaction, say "no" , put him down and walk/ turn away. Just ignore her for a min or two. She'll get the message after a few times
You totally have given me new hope for J!!
I feel the same way about bicyclists...especially the ones that want you to share the road but do not stop at stop signs or act like pedestrians! If your going to act like a car than go play by the rules!
The ON Groupon that I bought last week was intented for Abby; so I could get her some summer stuff since we don't have a ton of those clothes in her sizes. Well... I just used it to buy myself a new tankini. Oh well, Mama needed some new clothes!
This drives me crazy, too. Someone needs to remind them they have to share the road with cars, too! It's a 2-way street... literally!
Photo by J Shelton Photography
Married 10/5/08 | 2 yrs of TTC, tests, procedures & a m/c | IVF #2 =James!
I gotta represent on this one.
DH is a bicyclist. He rides to and from the Park and Ride on the days he works. Oftentimes he'll bike in the middle of the lane (usually going really close to the speed limit) to prevent people from not seeing him, or "not seeing him" and either pulling out from side streets or making a right turn right in front of him. I saw a driver do this just the other day to a bike who was in the bike lane by my house. There was no way the driver could have missed seeing the bike. She sped up around him, slammed on her brakes and made a right turn right infront of him. He had to slam on his breaks and swerve into the brush by the side of the road to avoid hitting her as she drove past.
I admit there are militant bicylists and whatnot, but the majority of bicylists aren't out there to make drivers lives hell. They're just trying to get from point A to point B or trying to get in a little exercise.
Unable to even.
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You don't understand the appeal of Benedict Cumberbatch / think he's fug / don't know who he is? WATCH SHERLOCK. Until you do, your negative opinion of him will not be taken seriously.
I think mine is more vent than confession. I'm with MOHJen. I was invited to two awesome things this week and can't make either. I do need to save money right now [I'll blame it on the remodel, but it really might have something to do with new clothes and a fancy dinner with a friend].
I feel all sorry for myself not building friendships, but then don't take advantage of opportunities sometimes due to work, money, scheduling. And part of me is seriously pissed that DH balked at me going away for an overnight adventure. Dude, it's not like I say you can't go out with your friends, you just never plan anything. So don't pull the "but I don't get to go out" card on me when it's your fault.
I use to say that I would never spend more than $300 on a handbag and this week I got my DH to buy me a gorgeous Marc Jacobs bag that cost $550 for my birthday! In my defense it is normally $1,000 and we got it on sale but serioulsy WTH was I thinking???
I let DS have chocolate for breakfast this morning. DH left it out from last night & I didnt have the patience to fight it out with DS so I just gave in
Yes I am turning into one of those Mom's!
I really hate DS, DD, DH... "dear" whatever? come on. Who says that? I just say "my kid". Almost as fast as "my LO". Maybe faster because there's no shift key involved.
ANd I only write LOL if I actually did LOL
I'm fine if they want to ride in the lane like that. What I am not fine with is bikes who think they don't need to stop at stop lights or stop signs, or think they can just blow by a car on the right if the car is waiting to turn. Obey the rules of the road if you want to "drive" on the road.
edit to add: ALSO, I get mad when bikes ride 2 or 3 across in a bike lane so they're weaving over the line a lot and I'm scared I'll hit them. Or, on East Lake Samm there's gotta be a 5 foot wide bike lane and I'll see one jackass riding RIGHT ON THE LINE. Why not drive IN the bike lane instead of tempting fate? I'll be the one who has to live with killing you for the rest of my life. You'll be dead, yo won't care.
Try not to react and see if ignoring it fixes it?
I tried to be this person by calling my police chief about the Burke Gilman cyclists who don't stop at the stop sign near my house. The tail crosses a street at the bottom of a short and very steep hill; it's dangerous for cars to stop, so the trail has the stop sign. Most cyclists never stop because they think they're better than drivers.
And the police chief actaully called me back to discuss the situation and what they're trying to do. I love my city.
That is awesome! I know the exact spot you are talking about since I used to work right near it. The bikers almost never stop, even though they do have a stop sign on the trail and the cars do not have a stop sign. I yelled out my window several times, telling bikers they stop and I don't. I'd still always try to stop there, but it's harder on cars because of the incline and the stop light.
Many times I had thought about crafting some kind neon arrow pointing to the stop sign, to make sure bikers actually see it and stop.
Photo by J Shelton Photography
Married 10/5/08 | 2 yrs of TTC, tests, procedures & a m/c | IVF #2 =James!