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Childless not by choice
A little late...
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Re: A little late...
Is this board for people who have exhausted ALL options and have given up trying to have children, even if they didn't want to give up???
Or is this board for people who haven't succeeded yet???
Because I see people who have tickers that they are TTC.
it's a public message board and people can do what they want and they will.
my suggestion for folks who "haven't succeeded yet" is to check out the multitude of board options to the left.
<---- plenty o' ttc boards.
however, the "you can't post here" mentality is sort of lost on me. granted, i don't think people should make this a home board if they are going through treatment, but to pop on and comment or "show support" as some have put it.....meh. no biggie. of course i'm also not a fan of the "omg you have a baby in your sig how could you post here" school of thought either.
Probably because the point wasn't all that valid in the grand scheme of things.
All she was saying, in her annoying ass way, is that the chick completely missed the point of the board.
"It's a child, not a cheeto" Thanks mmariluh!
"Ew. I've read all of two posts from you, and you stink like rotting garbage."
I have a feeling the definition has changed because I didn't see much jumping of shiit going on.
But then again I am miserable and self-loathing and that takes up a lot of my attention.
"It's a child, not a cheeto" Thanks mmariluh!
"Ew. I've read all of two posts from you, and you stink like rotting garbage."
Whatever... okay ladies, so sorry I posted on your board... I will crawl in my hole now. I will pretend like none of you exist as that is clearly what you want.
One more thing... so KDodge is that a doll in your siggy or a baby? I'm confused as to what side you truly are on?
Why on earth would I care if you pretended I exist or not?
Until an hour or so ago I didn't know or care of your existence. Outside of now knowing you exist, not much has changed.
Hole
"It's a child, not a cheeto" Thanks mmariluh!
"Ew. I've read all of two posts from you, and you stink like rotting garbage."
it's not my board. but feel free to crawl into a "whole" anyway. a whole what? i dunno.
are you trying to imply that by having a child, someone is immediately on a "side"? you really don't grasp the concepts of compassion or empathy. you're embarassing yourself at this point and it's absurd.
your efriend got a little talking to, or i'm sorry, "her sh jumped" and you came to her defense in a rather ridiculous manner. kudos. have fun in your "whole".
no, no. the common sense board is MY board and we're all full. lol.
are you implying that people with children are only supposed to agree with other people who have children? The people who don't have children, even if they have a valid point, to hell with them, they are childless and not like me??????? I don't even see how this is a take sides issue
Common sense tells me that no matter how you see it, this board is destined to cause drama.
Picking at my grammar errors doesn't phase me. I am a Sonographer, not an English Major.
Well if people continue to completely overreact when told they were wrong about the purpose of the board, then yes you are correct.
"It's a child, not a cheeto" Thanks mmariluh!
"Ew. I've read all of two posts from you, and you stink like rotting garbage."
What if she hopes to have common sense someday? Can she post there?
oooh good point. i'm thinking she doesn't have that high of an aspiration though.
Wow this board is brand new and its already caused so much drama!
I understand adoption is costly and lengthy and some people dont like the idea of donor sperm/eggs or surrogacy but I was just wondering if these women will just never have a bio child or never have a child period? Please dont freak, Im not being snarky just curious.
No child.
No rugrat.
No crotchfruit.
No snotrag.
No apple of anyone's eye.
No child.
Ever.
"It's a child, not a cheeto" Thanks mmariluh!
"Ew. I've read all of two posts from you, and you stink like rotting garbage."
I aspire to know more about your anatomy and physiology by an ultrasound stand point than you could ever possibly hope to imagine.
I was enjoying the drama for a while but seriously...the fact that so many people honestly don't understand what/who this board is for makes my head want to explode.
It's not that difficult a concept:
We've tried IF treatments, they didn't work
We can't (and won't be able to) afford IF treatments (or any more treatments)
Due to our religious and/or personal beliefs IF treatments aren't for us
Adoption is not for us
We cannot (and won't be able to) afford adoption
Our adoption attempts have all fallen through
Get caught up in the semantics of the word "choice" all you want, but at some point, people make a decision that they are no longer pursuing parenthood from an emotinal, physical or financial standpoint and they have to find a way to move on with their lives.
Me: 32 - Stage II Endo / DH: 36 - Low count and morphology (1%)
IUIs 1-3 BFN, lap Dec. 2010, IUIs 4-6 BFN
IVF w/ICSI #1 - ER 2/8: 24R 19M 9F ET 2/13 2-5 day blasts (no frosties) = BFP - b/g twins!
E & C Born 10/19/2012
Ok, I've been good for awhile, but I can't help it anymore.
How can you NOT get the point of this board? If it were spelled out any bigger and clearer, they could read it from the space station, ffs.
That being said, I still don't understand why this core group of people didn't start an off board. I mean, the # of people who will be popping on here in the midst of treatments or adoption processes----it's going to drive you nuts. It's like when we were ttc6+, we got people still ttc. When we were ttc12+, we got people who were ttc a month or two. The fact that this board is listed in the left hand side of thebump, you're going to get a lot of traffic from people who "aren't welcome here".
I conclude with the fact that I wish you all the best of luck in your life's journey!
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
i am only here to post support for the board. i have been defending it for days now thanks to clueless people who can't read and comprehend. should we add you to the list? there's plenty of room and you would be in great company.
Crotchfruit
did that not make anyone else laugh?
I see tons of boards that seem a bit redunent and that could/should be consolidated. Just saying.
!st-3rd tri - doesn't everyone pretty much just post on their month board? That will get you through your pregnancy and beyond.
Attachment Parenting - really? Has nothing to do with me so lets drop that one.
Baby names and showers? - indulge much in the same post over and over again? boring!
Birth stories - wouldn't this be mostly on month boards?
Cloth diapers - a whole board for this? wow.
My point.....there will ALWAYS be boards that do not apply to every.single.person. However it doesn't mean they don't deserve a spot on the boards and just because "you" don't get it doesn't make it any less bump worthy.
tee hee yes
I love it.
Please continue to toss your tickers in my face. I don't care if you've tried and tried for years before getting your little snotrag. Don't tell me "it happens". You know what else happens? Cancer. Which landed me in so much medical debt that my student loans now look low and let me tell ya, medical school isn't cheap.
So, unless you are willing to cough up the $$$ to clear my debt and then after wards help me to convince people that letting cancer stricken people adopt is A OKAY...please...don't tell me it happens or think for one second that you could ever possibly have felt what I have/am/will feel.
I am happy for you and your families. But, please, you have no words that could ever comfort or support.