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Vent: The dreaded "too small" comparison/comment

Saltina11Saltina11 member
in July 2011 Moms
I happen to work with one other girl who is pregnant. We are both due in July. She is due three weeks earlier than me and this is her second child. Naturally, her bump is much bigger than mine based on those two significant differences. It seems many of our coworkers think it is fine to comment that "wow your bump is so much smaller than X's." One even asked if I was worried that mine was so much smaller?! Why would you say something like that in the first place? I'm so tired of being polite and explaining to each individual who says something along these lines that "guess what... people tend to show earlier with their 2nd+ pregnancies!"
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Re: Vent: The dreaded "too small" comparison/comment

  • MrsIMrsI member
    There are/were 4 other girls pregnant here the same time as me.  I am the smallest of all 5 but don't let the comments get to me.  When my doctor is worried then I will worry.
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  • chelle_annchelle_ann
    My boss is pregnant as well...a month behind me. She started showing sooner than I did, and the comparisons were awful. She has a very short torso, mine is very long. We have very different bodies to start with, we are also going to look very different in pregnant form. It's just the way it goes. I don't understand why people feel this is an appropriate thing to comment on.
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  • MFAinNYCMFAinNYC member
    People are morons.
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  • staticgirl77staticgirl77 member
    It seems like it's either the "Are you having twins" or the "are you sure you are 7 months pregnant" argument all over the place...you just can't win!
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  • WoodwifeWoodwife

    I can't win either. With my first pregnancy, a random jogger actually asked me if my baby was okay because I looked so small for seven months. 

    With this pregnancy, a random dad at the playground said, "Wow, July? That long to go?" while eyeing my belly critically as though it were the Chrysler Building.

    The world is full of princes. 

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  • squeakbethsqueakbeth member

    imagestaticgirl77:
    It seems like it's either the "Are you having twins" or the "are you sure you are 7 months pregnant" argument all over the place...you just can't win!

    This is so true!  I think I would faint if a woman actually had an encounter where someone told them "You look like you are right on track with your size!  That is great!" 

     

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  • cgrah1aicgrah1ai
    imageWoodwife:

    I can't win either. With my first pregnancy, a random jogger actually asked me if my baby was okay because I looked so small for seven months. 

    With this pregnancy, a random dad at the playground said, "Wow, July? That long to go?" while eyeing my belly critically as though it were the Chrysler Building.

    The world is full of princes. 

    HA that made me laugh. Lately I've been telling people the # of weeks I am, rather than the due date, because I think people don't realize how close the beginning of July actually is. And it irritates me to see the deer in headlights look when I tell them and they think it's centuries away.

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  • hcdekarskehcdekarske
    I was just complaining about this today.  One of my co-workers is due June 22 and I am July 2, so not too far apart.  People keep commenting to me how large she has gotten.  We are both FTM, so no reason for one of us to show sooner or larger, etc.  I keep telling people that it is rude, I realize that I am on the "good" side (if there is one) for this debate, but for the love of pete, do people not realize how that has to make the other girl feel??  So rude. 
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