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July 2011 Moms
FFFC this early? Yes please.
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Re: FFFC this early? Yes please.
I don't like the weight posts either and I typically never respond to them. However, I hate the fact that those of us who haven't gained any weight (or under 5 pounds) are automatically judged as being "braggers." I am going to get flamed for saying this, but I am underweight to begin with and I haven't gained any weight so far. I am FREAKING OUT that my baby is going to be born premature or underweight. I cannot control my genes any more than you can.
THIS IS ME! I don't look or feel pregnant. I haven't had any symptoms and, besides bloat, no bump is in sight. I look at the HDBD pics in envy. I am hopeful I will feel more attached to the LO once I know the gender or feel the first kicks.
I decided I will tell my boss, when he is able to get through one day without getting on my nerves..lol. That day hasn't happened yet. Oh well there is always next week.
I don't mind the how are you feeling or how is baby questions, but I have one friend that is always asking if I am excited or saying you don't seem excited. Excuse me for being tired or just having come out of an annoying meeting. I find myself over talking things about baby with her just so she can know that I am excited. I didn't know I had to show the emotion of excitement every second of the day.
I haven't opened one it's a... post. I am truly happy for all of those that are finding out, but I pretty much know you are either having a boy or a girl. I do open the twin ones or if it is someone I recognize from TTGP. Congrats in advance to all those that will find out they are Team Pink or Blue!!
~Declare it..Claim it..It will be!!~
5/9/09
Here We Go Again!!
ITA - especially the bold part. To some degree the comparisons will always take place, with everything in life. It's how we gauge our development in many facets of life. But weight is something that conjures up very different feelings of self-worth.
I guess I was also bothered by the earlier posts which seemed very snarky towards people who posted smaller gains but if you gained more that's totally cool/encouraged? It's hard to explain (and not just experienced here) but to some degree I feel it seems acceptable to bash 'skinny' people but if I made some comment like "Oh I can't wait until we hit 8 months when I make a snarky remark to those who've gained 80lbs" I'd get flamed to next week.
IMO it's just not cool either way.
But the posts won't go away - we are all going to gain weight and with the hundreds of women that post here someone will always want to compare due to whatever motivation.
I hate Graco. I don't want any battery operated toys. I also hate baby stuff with charecters and cutesy stuff all over it.
I make CDs for my classes with artists like The Beatles, Bob Marley, Skybox, etc. and they love them more than their kid CDs. I'll do the same with our daughter. She needs to be exposed to music of all kinds. The only kid CDs I have are Putamayo multicultural CDs and the Lullabye rock ones. They are awesome.
DH and I are both musical people. We both have a wide range of music likes, some of it matches and some of it doesn't. Our baby will be listening to all sorts of music from Pearl Jam to Cake to Bob Marley to Run DMC to Air Supply (yes, that last one is from my music collection). I find that if you start them off soon with some good music, they'll gain an appreciation for it as they grow older. I love hearing my 6-yr old nephew sing Cakes "Sheeps go to heaven, goats go to hell..." when he was 4yrs old. He also was singing Johnny Cash's "Ring of Fire"
I hate most of my friends.
It's sad but I think some of them resent me because I have a wonderful caring husband who has a great job that allows me to stop working and stay home with our baby when he/she arrives.
I hate that people think women who stay at home, DO NOTHING.
I hate that when most of my friends saw my new home, they seemed snarky about it's size rather than just be f'cking happy for me.
I hate that most of the envy and ignorance stems from jealousy.
I hate that some of my "girlfriends" don't invite me anywhere anymore because I can't drink or I have nothing to complain about with them. I don't rag on my husband to anyone. He's my teammate. You will never hear me betray him like that to anyone.
F*CK YOU! I hate that I let this negativity get to me because in the end, I'm letting these "friendships" hurt me and I need to control that myself.
*deep sigh* thanks.
Just wanted to know that your posts literally make me LOL!! Thank you for being my source of entertainment on this board! Especially on days when I feel like handing out a round of throat punches. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!!!
This.
Wow, I'm not aiming at you personally, so please don't take it that way. I specifically said in my next post that it's not everyone who "brags," but some people do place us in a competition with each other, which I feel is unnecessary.
And FYI, I never said I started out overweight, either, because I didn't. But, I HAVE gained more than a lot of people have/say they have. And when someone says, "but *I* didn't," or "but x person only gained x," it makes it seem like a contest. It's not.
Edit: I think you look adorable and I wouldn't stress your weight gain or lack thereof, as long as you're healthy. This was my whole point... I don't think any of us should feel bad and it's not my objective to make anyone else feel that way.
Another edit: I made a grammar boo-boo. I am going to lose my grammar police badge!!
Love this.
Im a graphic designer and i plan on making all my own decorations and invites and thank you cards cause i know i'll do alot better than what my family will pick out! Unless a friend throws my shower.. i have no idea no ones offered yet!
I opened the weight post only once, and it made me feel like absolute sh!t. I found it interesting that after two pages of posts, not a single person had claimed to have gained over 6lbs. Absolutely impossible when we're all 14+ weeks at the time.
I feel that the people who had gained more (after two plus pages of posts) were ashamed to say something (myself included).
The entire tone of the post was competitive, bragging, and very AWish.
I agree that nothing good can come of that post.
Again, I haven't gone back to it since, but it's glaring at me almost daily. Even that makes me uncomfortable.
Ok...I have one...
Don't invite yourself to my house to watch the Super Bowl and then make demands about how much beer we need for you to drink and that your pregnant girlfriend will need a seat to sit in the whole game. Last time I checked, um, yep, I'M PREGNANT TOO AND IT IS MY HOUSE.
Its a party, no one ever has enough seating for a party. You pull up the dining room chairs into the living, you make some accomodations, you rotate around as potty breaks and food cravings and beer refills come.
My husband just had knee surgery, he is a born and bred Packer's fan, he has waited in since 1996 for this, he needs a seat, he deserves a seat. I am going to spend all day tomorrow cleaning, I had planned to spend it sleeping, but now we are having more than just friends over, we are doing a party, I need to really clean. He would help if he could but he can't. I would like a seat, for a little Sunday, but I will offer mine to my guests first.
Our guest are each bringing something, but they won't, they want to know how much beer we will have.
Dude, grow up, and stop being a douchebag. And tell your girlfriend she isn't the only pregnant girl on the planet...THERE ARE TONS OF US!!! And the best ones are due in July...not May.
Thanks for clarifying. I wish we could all just be proud of our bodies: big or small, bump or no bump. I don't want to make anyone feel bad about themselves either.
DD1, Kathleen 9/15/2007
Trust me, I get it, too. And I definitely get being sensitive, because I am. We all want healthy babies, and we also all want our bodies respected. The first thing someone said to me when I got my BFP was, "You'll never fit in your size 2 jeans again."
This was my AUNT!!
Some of us say, "This is where I am/what I have gained," and it's just commiserating, or sharing our pregnancies. I only feel bad when others are like, "Well, I ONLY...." It's weird. We're all different, like you said.
And when we have #2? It may be completely different than the first time.
That's awesome! I want the exact some for our baby.
People side-eye me at work when I have my one Coke per day. I don't even have coffee anymore, just the one can of coke. 35 mg of caffeine. They can kiss my ass.
I hate when people don't discipline their kids, and then bring them to my house. I have dogs. If your kids run in the house, my dogs will run too. I am sorry your kid is scared, but perhaps you can teach them not to run in my house. I suppose if they fall you will probably sue me? </snark>
I agree with the music posts! I want my kids to be raised on good music. And you know what else? Don't buy your kids the kiddie CDs and then complain when they want to hear it OVER and OVER and OVER. Don't you remember when you got that first CD you REALLY loved?
If you want to take your kids to restaurants/church/anywhere and have them behave, you have to first take them there from an early age and have them learn what behavior is appropriate. Don't expect to never sit in church and then randomly bring a 3 year old there on a Sunday morning. MAYHEM.
Okay, my ranting is done!
our son loves Pomplamoose and to just sit on my lap watching Pomplamoose songs on you tube. He is really into anything we put on like vampire weekend, spoon, and any beatles song he can dance to. He really likes when DH plays The National, fake empire on the piano.
I think kids just like music in general so you can really play whatever you like and they will get into it. (maybe not after a certain age!)
Being a sahm mom isnt that hard, I actually think its harder to be a working mom because they have to do everything I do with less time because they work. Sure the house isnt as much of a mess because there are several hours the little ones arent at home making it a mess but still.
By the time baby comes Ill have been home for 6 years. If there are days I dont get things done its because of my laziness or a rare occasion where the kids have had a terrible day. I dont get sahm's that cant get things accomplished, kids are not that difficult to deal with.
& I know Im not doing it wrong because my kids have been on track or ahead their whole lives, theyre happy social smart children.
So I don't mind "it's a..." posts, I love them actually. I will probably post for the other people who like to read the "it's a..." posts. Very easy to skip!
I also totally understand people who are worried about gaining too much or too little weight, though hopefully those posts are more because they are concerned about having a healthy baby and pregnancy and not about their looks. Again, very easy to just skip over!
So shouldn't we be posting things we have done that we would normally get flamed for and not be complaining about posts or flame people for posts they made in the past? I though that was what FFF was for?
and I got a good one...
OK I got another one! I HATE the "AW Facebook Couple" The super sweet, so sugary comments back and forth that make you wanna puke like you ate waaay too much cotton candy and went on the tilt-a whirl
I am friends with MANY couples on FB and there are the like 2 or 3 that comment every 5 minutes how wonderful their S/o is and how they are the breath they breath, and how their life would have no meaning if it wasn't for their S/O. It is usually followed with a comment from that S/O that states Awwwww babe!! ur so sweet!!! I love you more!!!!
and this is from people who just got together maybe 2 years ago...maybe its being with DH for 10 years that I am waaaay over that honeymoon stage, or that I feel its more meaningful to actually say that to your S/O FACE. I assume you love your s/o thats why you are with them.... I understand DH needs so public aw-ing so I commet something once in a while along the lines of "you rock my socks" on his page, so if he wants to delete it he has that option
Here is a nice controversial flame worthy post.
Subconscious Gender Preference.
I thought I was pretty neutral but I have been having dreams where the doctor tells me it's a boy and I start crying or get really disappointed.
Like everyone here I just want a healthy baby but my subconscious is more than swaying for a girl. I guess I would like one of each to experience raising both but it would be really cool for my son to have a little brother and honestly two little boys sounds pretty great.
I just thought I was much more indifferent to the gender then my dreams are telling me. I don't know maybe a dream is a dream but I wake up pretty sad.
crazy vivid pregnancy dreams
I love the ones that end every.single.post with heart heart heart loving my husband heart heart heart
Really? He's your husband I really hope that you love him, I always feel like theyre trying to convince themselves its true lol
This!! Last week I told somebody we were keeping it a surprise, and she said, "Are you crazy??!" Uh... people have had the surprise for thousands of years! Why is it now mandatory to find out just because we can?? I love what the potential adoptive dad on Juno says - "It's not like the kid's gonna come charging in here demanding dessert colored walls!" ... There are bigger things in life than prepping a nursery.
Jess & Adam, married 2009, precious Audrey born in 2011. BFP 1/6/13, 6-wk MMC discovered at 9 wks 2/11/13. D&C 2/18/13, second D&C 4/23/13 for retained placenta.
BFP 8/24/13!! EDD 5/1/14, delivered healthy and sweet Zoey Leanne on 5/5/14 by repeat c-section.
We went out to dinner earlier this week with MIL, FIL, & SIL (for her bday). SIL works in a restaurant and was telling us a story about a VERY pregnant woman who ordered an alcoholic drink at the bar. I said I knew several women that choose to drink throughout pregnancy (with their Dr's approval) but I personally believed it wasn't worth the risk.
MIL raises her eyebrows at me and says, "Well, I see you haven't given up caffeine..." (I was drinking a Coke). Seriously? STFU. I gave up my morning coffee and my mid-afternoon Starbucks. I am not about to give up an occasional Coke!