July 2011 Moms

FFFC this early? Yes please.

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Re: FFFC this early? Yes please.

  • imagemainemommy:
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    imagebealskri:
    Mine is Monday at 8am. I'll join your post if you start it (won't be back to computer until a bit later that day). The only reason I was even going to post the results (if we can get them, and assuming that the "important" stuff turns out allright) is that I've had 6 dreams about baby and in all 6, it has been a girl. I thought people might be interested to see if that was predictive or not! Perhaps if we included in the post any OWT results that would get rid of the other posts - "for those that are having girls, was the heart rate XXX?" type posts, which are not bad posts, but we have had a lot of them.

     

    My DD has insisted all along it's another girl. So I'll get to share if a sibling prediction was right ;)

    Just so you guys know, people arent down with the consolidation idea, so no need to even attempt it, Ill be excited for both of you & post in both threads a huge congratulations on both of your girls Wink

     LOL - maybe my FFFC today should actually be that I secretly, really want a boy! (Although I'll say the usual blah blah blah, as long as he/she is healthy).

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  • imageJennV514:

    I just thought of another one-

    I LOVE my Steelers. Love them. But if I have to hear "Knocking on Seven's Door", or "Stairway to Seven" one more time I am going to LOSE IT.

    Is it DVE that is playing those? That sounds like the type of songs that Jim and Randy would come up with.

    I LOVE my Steelers too... but I've never liked the songs they put out there for them. I'm sort of happy to be in Cleveland this time of year when we're in the SB, because I don't have to hear all the hype and BS talk about the game. I just get to enjoy the game.

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  • 1. The 2nd trimester has made me into a junk food pig. I buy lots of fruits and veggies and watch my family eat them as I sneak M&Ms and delicious carbs. DH and I polished off a 15 serving bag of chips in 24 hours and it was fantastic.

     

    2. I would love to have groceries delivered to my house. I don't want to go out there even though I am fully capable and should get off my butt and do something productive. How great it would be if food just showed up at my door.

     

    3.  I got back to student teaching full time on Monday and I can't wait to be done with it. I would love to just drop out, which would be insane since I have 3 months until I am done, but oh, I can dream...

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  • imagemrsbaker1128:
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    I'm excited to hear what your Baker babies are, so I'll look for your post on Tuesday. 

    Aw, thanks! DH and I both are so anxious! We haven't seen them since our first ultrasound and I'm just so ready to see how much they've changed and make sure they're okay! haha!

    How have you been feeling?

    Eh, I'm okay. I'll getting nauseous at all hours of the day & night, but I can handle it. It's the indigestion that really bothers me; I had no idea that it would be my most prominent...and obnoxious pregnancy symptom. TGIF though!

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  • imagejdm7:
    imageJennV514:

    I just thought of another one-

    I LOVE my Steelers. Love them. But if I have to hear "Knocking on Seven's Door", or "Stairway to Seven" one more time I am going to LOSE IT.

    Is it DVE that is playing those? That sounds like the type of songs that Jim and Randy would come up with.

    I LOVE my Steelers too... but I've never liked the songs they put out there for them. I'm sort of happy to be in Cleveland this time of year when we're in the SB, because I don't have to hear all the hype and BS talk about the game. I just get to enjoy the game.

    They're not songs- THANK GOD- they're written on signs, title of news casts, ect. Those sayings are everywhere, and they are so stupid. Can't wait till Monday after we WIN and all the signs come down! And I just want to say I love being in Pittsburgh for the actual day of the SB. The energy is so amazing- I love it! Only part that i don't like is that I'll have to be sober. Ha.

    P.S.- I might be one of the few Pittsburghers who actually likes Cleveland, but I think it's a fun town! We used to travel there alot to watch LeBron, and we always had a great time.

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  • imagebealskri:

     LOL - maybe my FFFC today should actually be that I secretly, really want a boy! (Although I'll say the usual blah blah blah, as long as he/she is healthy).

    Ok then, how about I say, I hope you both get the kind you want? LOL

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  • My FFFC: I think that as first time moms, it is important to atleast attempt to breastfeed your baby or pump your breast milk. Unless you or your baby have a medical or physical condition that keeps you from doing so, I just do not understand why you wouldn't try it. I say first time moms because 2+ moms may have already had experiences that have lead to their decisions.

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    I truly hate all cartoons, especially Disney. I won't say never, but I HOPE to keep my kids from watching that stuff as long as possible. Sesame Street and Muppets are where it's at.

    Also, I have some friends that have bought iPads ... for their kids. This, I think is freaking insane.

    Seriously? I dont get this, I also dont get 8 year olds with cell phones, & tvs in toddlers bedrooms either though. If I had an ipad I wouldnt let my kids even touch the thing.

    Exactly! I am iffy about letting my 12-year-old nephew touch my old-as-*** iPhone.

    DH and I let my 6-yr old nephew play Doodle Jump on our iPhones, but he has to be sitting down in a chair/couch and if he needs to get up and go somewhere, he's to set the phone down in the seat (or on the table if there is one there) and then get up. We only let him play doodle jump on it because we don't want him to go messing around elsewhere on our phones.

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  • Ok here is mine:

    1) my boss is a complete moron! he tries to look at his outlook calendar in his e-mail and then calls me when he can't see his appts. And thats just today (and its 8am), I could go on and on from this week alone

    2) It drives me nuts when people on this board complain about things on this board, the weight, the it's a posts, siggy's, etc...GET OVER IT!  Don't friggin read it, you know what the title says. and if its a trick title and you realize its a stupid post back out and press on, no one is making you comment...ITS THE FRIGGIN INTERNET WHO CARES!!

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    Ok here is mine:

    1) my boss is a complete moron! he tries to look at his outlook calendar in his e-mail and then calls me when he can't see his appts. And thats just today (and its 8am), I could go on and on from this week alone

    2) It drives me nuts when people on this board complain about things on this board, the weight, the it's a posts, siggy's, etc...GET OVER IT!  Don't friggin read it, you know what the title says. and if its a trick title and you realize its a stupid post back out and press on, no one is making you comment...ITS THE FRIGGIN INTERNET WHO CARES!!

    I don't read them... it's the getting past those posts to find the posts other posts that I actually want to read. But when the first 10 posts are "It's a..." and "I've gained so much weight...." it's annoying.

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  • imageHappyKlamb10:

    IMO, I think finding out the sex and telling everyone the name beforehand is so anticlimactic.  I am super effin' pumped for the surprise at the birth.

     

    100% agree!

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    imageHappyKlamb10:

    IMO, I think finding out the sex and telling everyone the name beforehand is so anticlimactic.  I am super effin' pumped for the surprise at the birth.

     

    100% agree!

    Me too!

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  • imagekatie4253:

    If people don't want to read it, that's fine.  They can skip over it. 

    I guess my FFFC is that I don't understand why people go into posts they don't like.  It isn't like someone has a gun at your head making you go into posts you don't like.  If a certain type of posts upsets you, there's a simple solution.  Just don't go in them.  

    I completely agree, I just ignore them. 

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  • imageflowers2424:

    My FFFC: I think that as first time moms, it is important to atleast attempt to breastfeed your baby or pump your breast milk. Unless you or your baby have a medical or physical condition that keeps you from doing so, I just do not understand why you wouldn't try it. I say first time moms because 2+ moms may have already had experiences that have lead to their decisions.

    Yes

    Although, I think this is more of an UO and not a FFFC

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  • I sometimes daydream that like July 2012, we are going to a catching up with July 2011 moms reunion, and Dr Drew will be there like in Teen Mom...And we will all get together face to face and our babies will all be crawling around...Embarrassed
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  • imagemainemommy:

    ETA- Im also very aware that its only just begun, because those with late DD's like me arent having anatomy scans till March, Im going to go crazy by March.

     

    My anatomy scan is exactly one month from today on March 4th.  The thought of waiting FOUR MORE WEEKS is making me crazy!  And I am very jealous of everyone finding out so much earlier than me!

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    imageflowers2424:

    My FFFC: I think that as first time moms, it is important to atleast attempt to breastfeed your baby or pump your breast milk. Unless you or your baby have a medical or physical condition that keeps you from doing so, I just do not understand why you wouldn't try it. I say first time moms because 2+ moms may have already had experiences that have lead to their decisions.

    Yes

    Although, I think this is more of an UO and not a FFFC

     

    Whoops, you're right it is.

    My actual confession is lame, we have to go to dinner at the ILs tonight for FILs birthday. I would much rather just go home, I am so anti-social. I am having Chick-fil-a for lunch and I am super excited about that.

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  • Other than weight gain and missed periods I have no real pregnancy "symptoms". Nothing not even cravings. 

    That being said, I don't feel pregnant. Not even emotionally. I barely will tell people that we're pregnant. I feel like I have no real attachment to this being growing inside of me. DH touches my stomach and talks to it, but I really almost find it stupid.

     

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  • imageStormy101:
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    I'm pretty sure this is horrible, but I don't want my kid to listen to kid music. Nickjr. totally mutilated Three Little Birds by Bob Marley and everytime I go over to my sisters its on nickjr. and some lame kid song is playing. I'm sure I'm just going to have to get over this but it still drives me nuts!

     

    I totally agree. My parents alway played real music in the house (pop/rock/jazz/classical) while we were growing up and I'm eternally grateful for that. My sister and I had a cassette tape of disney songs, but we only really listened to it at bedtime.

    I COMPLETELY agree!  Although I did cave and buy one of the "Nursery Renditions" CDs because it was of my favorite band...but I'll most likely just play the real music for the baby. 

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  • imageamos07:
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    My FFFC: I think some people spend way to much time on the bump and various other message boards.  I really don't know how they have so much time. That being said I a SAHM so that may be part of it since I am not in an office at all.   

    Im a SAHM to two kids. We live in the age of high speed internet & laptops. TB & FB are always up on mine, I hit refresh & respond accordingly. Id have less time to be online if I had a real job. I mean really there isnt so much to do all day long that there isnt time to sit & be on the computer.

    Maybe not for you, but I definitely don't have much time to be on the computer. DD is napping now and will be in the afternoon and that's generally all the computer time I get.  Maybe I am wrong for this board but on others I know a lot of the people who are on a lot are at work.   

    I don't get it either.  I feel like I'm behind at 10 a.m. when some people have made what seems like 100 posts!  

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  • imageHappyKlamb10:

    I agree about the weight posts, they are so freaking annoying.  You can always tell that the person who started the post just wants a few people to post with weights higher than theirs so that they feel better.  Get some confidence and move on!!!

    My FFFC: I am getting really annoyed by people IRL who are super judgy that we are not finding out the sex.  I never expected to encounter this.  I have at least 5-6 friends and coworkers who have had downright indignant responses when we say we're not finding out.  "OMG WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU'RE NOT FINDING OUT, how are you going to plan for ANYTHING????"  Seriously people?  Is a sandy-biege colored nursery going to completely kill my offspring's chances at a normal life?  IMO, I think finding out the sex and telling everyone the name beforehand is so anticlimactic.  I am super effin' pumped for the surprise at the birth.

    THIS.  I'll be planning everything, thanks.  We'll have a crib, bedding, clothes, etc. Will we have the name embroidered on a pillow? No.  But really, everything else will be done.  I really don't get why MY decision makes everyone else so annoyed!! 

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  • My FFFC:  I'm slathering cocoa butter all over my body everyday.  I don't care if there is no connection between it and preventing stretch marks or not.  I figure it's an OWT for a reason, and my skin is dry anyway so it's worth a shot.  Worst case scenario is it doesn't work -- but at least I tried! 
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    I'm pretty sure this is horrible, but I don't want my kid to listen to kid music. Nickjr. totally mutilated Three Little Birds by Bob Marley and everytime I go over to my sisters its on nickjr. and some lame kid song is playing. I'm sure I'm just going to have to get over this but it still drives me nuts!

     

    I totally agree. My parents alway played real music in the house (pop/rock/jazz/classical) while we were growing up and I'm eternally grateful for that. My sister and I had a cassette tape of disney songs, but we only really listened to it at bedtime.

    I COMPLETELY agree!  Although I did cave and buy one of the "Nursery Renditions" CDs because it was of my favorite band...but I'll most likely just play the real music for the baby. 

    I'm such a music buff, I don't think I'll be able to bring myself to play nursery songs. To me, the early Beatles is great kids music. 

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  • imageMira06:
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    I don't care about the "It's a" posts.  People are excited.  I am sure I'll be excited and post then too.  My scan is on a Tuesday, I won't wait for a specified day to post.  If people don't want to read it, that's fine.  They can skip over it. 

    I guess my FFFC is that I don't understand why people go into posts they don't like.  It isn't like someone has a gun at your head making you go into posts you don't like.  If a certain type of posts upsets you, there's a simple solution.  Just don't go in them.  

    I agree. This has always boggled my mind about the bump and nest.  Yeah, I don't like the "lets compare our weight gain" posts either.  So guess what?  I don't open it.  Simple.  

     

    This exactly!

    Also, just because people may not be able to post as often as others and aren't recognized as much doesn't mean I'm any less happy that they had a good appt, u/s, or that I won't support them or be understanding when they need it.

  • MY FFFC: I want to throat-punch my husband. I know I am hormonal right now but seriously all I can fixate on right now is his growing list of faults! For example:

    (1) He burrows like a f*cking cat in bed, tossing and turning and shaking the damn thing all night. Wakes me up ALL the time.

    (2) He is completely anti-social. I guess I knew this, but being in a new state where I have NO social connections and HE does (since he's from here) if frustrating because he never makes plans with anyone to do ANYTHING!!! I am sitting here at home, going CRAZY with no one to talk to. Then, since he is anti-social, he barely talks to me when he gets home. ARGH!

    (3) He will dig his socks out of the clean laundry basket for weeks but will never think to just put the damn laundry AWAY!

    (4) He (admittedly) has a lot going on at work and with grad school, but he shuts down EVEN MORE when he is stressed. Then, he's all "clenched up" and won't admit it, and blows up at random stuff.  All the while denying that he is being a d-bag due to stress.

    (5) His idea of foreplay is grabbing my b00bs, making stupid "hey how YOU doin' " comments, and kissing my neck while making random animal noises in my ear.  WTF?!?!?

    Will stop now. Grrr. 

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    MY FFFC: I want to throat-punch my husband. I know I am hormonal right now but seriously all I can fixate on right now is his growing list of faults! For example:

    (1) He burrows like a f*cking cat in bed, tossing and turning and shaking the damn thing all night. Wakes me up ALL the time.

    (2) He is completely anti-social. I guess I knew this, but being in a new state where I have NO social connections and HE does (since he's from here) if frustrating because he never makes plans with anyone to do ANYTHING!!! I am sitting here at home, going CRAZY with no one to talk to. Then, since he is anti-social, he barely talks to me when he gets home. ARGH!

    (3) He will dig his socks out of the clean laundry basket for weeks but will never think to just put the damn laundry AWAY!

    (4) He (admittedly) has a lot going on at work and with grad school, but he shuts down EVEN MORE when he is stressed. Then, he's all "clenched up" and won't admit it, and blows up at random stuff.  All the while denying that he is being a d-bag due to stress.

    (5) His idea of foreplay is grabbing my b00bs, making stupid "hey how YOU doin' " comments, and kissing my neck while making random animal noises in my ear.  WTF?!?!?

    Will stop now. Grrr. 

    Hmm Wow... just wow

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  • imageFive_letter:

    Other than weight gain and missed periods I have no real pregnancy "symptoms". Nothing not even cravings. 

    That being said, I don't feel pregnant. Not even emotionally. I barely will tell people that we're pregnant. I feel like I have no real attachment to this being growing inside of me. DH touches my stomach and talks to it, but I really almost find it stupid.

     

    Me either.  I hope I get a little more attached once I can really feel movement or know the sex.  But I have serious doubts that it is going to happen.  

    Other people are more "attached" than I am.   I never tell anyone (but H) how I feel, because they would totally judge me.  

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  • I'm tired of people asking how I'm feeling. I mean, it's nice that they care, but I don't know what they expect to hear?

    Whenever I reply "fine" or "well"...I get the "really?" comment. Honestly, people, PG just isn't that difficult for me. Sorry to dissapoint you by not rattling off days of m/s, painful hips, etc. I stil enjoy food and sleep.

    I also hate the question (and dread it) 'Oh, is this your first?" I don't know how to answer that. Any answer I give other than "yes, this is our first" is going to snowball into more questions.

    Once again, I get that people are asking it because they are being nice. But a "congrats" would be just as wonderful.


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  • imageAuburnt:

    My confession?

    I feel like one of the only bumpies that couldn't care less about the anatomy posts, weight gain posts, etc (besides, I've hardly seen a weight gain post lol). If I get tired of reading them or whatnot, I just skip over it and move onto something that appeals more to me. I feel no obligation whatsoever to respond or even read them. If you let it bug you, it will! I have enough in RL to be driving me crazy!

    I'm with you, sister!  I'm Team Green, which probably has something to do with it.  Its a boy or a girl, its not like we're finding out some other "or what's behind door number 3?!" surprise.  I preferred when the board was a helpful forum to share ideas on gear, nursery ideas, symptoms (not weight!), etc...

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  • imageAuburnt:

    My confession?

    I feel like one of the only bumpies that couldn't care less about the anatomy posts, weight gain posts, etc (besides, I've hardly seen a weight gain post lol). If I get tired of reading them or whatnot, I just skip over it and move onto something that appeals more to me. I feel no obligation whatsoever to respond or even read them. If you let it bug you, it will! I have enough in RL to be driving me crazy!

    I'm with you, sister!  I'm Team Green, which probably has something to do with it.  Its a boy or a girl, its not like we're finding out some other "or what's behind door number 3?!" surprise.  I preferred when the board was a helpful forum to share ideas on gear, nursery ideas, symptoms (not weight!), etc... The AW stuff mostly just irritates me so I skip it.

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  • imagetxaggie2002:

    I'm just copying and pasting my response to the "how much weight have you gained so far?" post from yesterday:

     

    Every time I see these weight posts they make me anxious for some reason.  I don't like seeing how much everyone has gained/lost.  It almost feels competitive to me.  Seems like nothing good could come from a bunch of women talking about weight.  Maybe I should've saved this for FFFC...or maybe it's just been a long week and I'm super sensitive and shouldn't have opened the post.  Either way, carry on.

    It makes me anxious, too.  Maybe I am sensitive because I gained some weight before my BFP and I am already up about 10lbs since the BFP.  People are freaking out over 2lbs and it makes me feel like a fatass.  Also, I suspect *some* of the 2lbers are lying.

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    I don't care about the "It's a" posts.  People are excited.  I am sure I'll be excited and post then too.  My scan is on a Tuesday, I won't wait for a specified day to post.  If people don't want to read it, that's fine.  They can skip over it. 

    I guess my FFFC is that I don't understand why people go into posts they don't like.  It isn't like someone has a gun at your head making you go into posts you don't like.  If a certain type of posts upsets you, there's a simple solution.  Just don't go in them.  

    This. That's why I don't read the OU posts... I really don't care, so instead of opening it and getting all worked up, I just don't even bother. 

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  • MY FFFC:  I don't like the 2nd trimester board.  Some of those gals are just rude.

     

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  • People need to stop being super judgy about finding or not finding out the sex. Yes there are pros to both- find out and you can plan, wait and you get a nice surprise at birth. One way isn't better than the other. If you find out or if you can wait it doesn't make you any better than someone who did the opposite. I'm sick of hearing, "We have to plan or the world is going to end" or "Our birth will be more special because of the surprise." Well, not in those exact words, but you know what I mean. Team green, pink, and blue need to unite and respect each other's choices!
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  • imageKristin131:

    And also IRL, I appreciate these nice comments of "wow you look great for having had a baby...". Thank you, but he's 15 months old now. Did you expect me to look huge still?

     

    I hate that the general attitude is that you're supposed to be fat after kids, no matter what.  I have a friend and people are like, "Can you believe she's had 2 kids and looks this great?"  Yes, I can.  Because she's a normal person who cares about her health and HER YOUNGEST IS ALREADY THREE!  Why do people assume your life and body are forever ruined?  I am sure for some it's much harder than for others, but this attitude is so annoying!

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  • imagedamabo80:

    I also hate the question (and dread it) 'Oh, is this your first?" I don't know how to answer that. Any answer I give other than "yes, this is our first" is going to snowball into more questions.

    Once again, I get that people are asking it because they are being nice. But a "congrats" would be just as wonderful.

    I am with you there... what else can you say?  I don't want to go there with everyone I meet.

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  • imageMFAinNYC:
    imagetxaggie2002:

    I'm just copying and pasting my response to the "how much weight have you gained so far?" post from yesterday:

     

    Every time I see these weight posts they make me anxious for some reason.  I don't like seeing how much everyone has gained/lost.  It almost feels competitive to me.  Seems like nothing good could come from a bunch of women talking about weight.  Maybe I should've saved this for FFFC...or maybe it's just been a long week and I'm super sensitive and shouldn't have opened the post.  Either way, carry on.

    It makes me anxious, too.  Maybe I am sensitive because I gained some weight before my BFP and I am already up about 10lbs since the BFP.  People are freaking out over 2lbs and it makes me feel like a fatass.  Also, I suspect *some* of the 2lbers are lying.

    This makes me sad. The weight posts don't bother me personally, but this is the reason I dislike them - people shouldn't read things and then feel bad about themselves because of what's going on with someone else.

    Just keep in mind, for all you know the people who've only gained 1-2 lbs were overweight to begin with so they are gaining less overall.  Or perhaps the poster is just trying to reassure herself that the 1 lb she gained is ok and baby is fine. And the weight gain at 14/15 weeks will be different than for the same poster at 18/19 weeks. It's hard to compare with so many variables.

    My friend was very concerned that she didn't gain any weight until about 20 weeks (she was overweight before getting pregnant) so it's not always that someone is 'bragging' about their lack of weight gain.



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  • imageJessandIgli:
    People need to stop being super judgy about finding or not finding out the sex. Yes there are pros to both- find out and you can plan, wait and you get a nice surprise at birth. One way isn't better than the other. If you find out or if you can wait it doesn't make you any better than someone who did the opposite. I'm sick of hearing, "We have to plan or the world is going to end" or "Our birth will be more special because of the surprise." Well, not in those exact words, but you know what I mean. Team green, pink, and blue need to unite and respect each other's choices!

    ITA. 

    I really hate the 'Our birth will be soooo special because we don't know". Are you trying to imply my birth will be boring or otherwise not special because we do know? Because that's how it comes across.

    I'm pretty sure all people can plan for the baby and all births will be special.



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    imagetxaggie2002:

    I'm just copying and pasting my response to the "how much weight have you gained so far?" post from yesterday:

     

    Every time I see these weight posts they make me anxious for some reason.  I don't like seeing how much everyone has gained/lost.  It almost feels competitive to me.  Seems like nothing good could come from a bunch of women talking about weight.  Maybe I should've saved this for FFFC...or maybe it's just been a long week and I'm super sensitive and shouldn't have opened the post.  Either way, carry on.

    It makes me anxious, too.  Maybe I am sensitive because I gained some weight before my BFP and I am already up about 10lbs since the BFP.  People are freaking out over 2lbs and it makes me feel like a fatass.  Also, I suspect *some* of the 2lbers are lying.

    This makes me sad. The weight posts don't bother me personally, but this is the reason I dislike them - people shouldn't read things and then feel bad about themselves because of what's going on with someone else.

    Just keep in mind, for all you know the people who've only gained 1-2 lbs were overweight to begin with so they are gaining less overall.  Or perhaps the poster is just trying to reassure herself that the 1 lb she gained is ok and baby is fine. And the weight gain at 14/15 weeks will be different than for the same poster at 18/19 weeks. It's hard to compare with so many variables.

    My friend was very concerned that she didn't gain any weight until about 20 weeks (she was overweight before getting pregnant) so it's not always that someone is 'bragging' about their lack of weight gain.

    It's not "always," yes, I totally agree.  But there are *some* people who do.  Even IRL, people ask all the time and then compare themselves to you or someone else they knew.  It should not be a competition.  I am sure a lot of us have heard, "Oh at x weeks, I only gained x lbs," in response.  THAT'S what I am talking about.

    When it comes down to it, a woman's weight is too often a measure of her worth, pregnant or not.  I think that's why the subject of weight from Father of the Bride II came up yesterday.  We're all expected to fit the same mold and quite simply - we don't.  And we never will.

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  • imagetxaggie2002:

    I'm just copying and pasting my response to the "how much weight have you gained so far?" post from yesterday:

     

    Every time I see these weight posts they make me anxious for some reason.  I don't like seeing how much everyone has gained/lost.  It almost feels competitive to me.  Seems like nothing good could come from a bunch of women talking about weight.  Maybe I should've saved this for FFFC...or maybe it's just been a long week and I'm super sensitive and shouldn't have opened the post.  Either way, carry on.

    Yes  I wanted to give you a shout-out yesterday for this but didn't have the time to post. I think you summarized it perfectly.

    I would also like to note that your schnauzer is freaking adorable and makes me miss having them! We bred them growing up, and I hope to someday have another when LO is older.

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