how would you deal with .....

blessedmamaof4

does anyone have a relative or realatives who are constantly telling you to put your dd/ds on food, add cereal to the diet or just plain stop Breastfeeding? If so how do you respond? My MIL and her mom both keep telling me to put my 9week old DS on cereal and food even though he is gaining weight and growing. Last week mil told me to start taking formula in the diaper bag because not all places would allow me to warm the frozen expressed milk I had with me. UGH!

Qmommy

Just nod and tell them thanks for the advice but for now you're sticking with exclusively BFing.  I never had anyone tell me to stop BFing for tell me to give formula for day trips but I did get the "you should give her cereal to help her sleep longer!"  

If you can't warm frozen milk in a bottle while out and about, you still have the boob!   

BeetleLinz1125

"I appreciate the concern, but the pediatrician and I will work out those issues."

This way they know its not up for discussion.  There's no reason they wouldn't let you warm up frozen milk with water with a cup....I think (and please don't flame me for this) most places would be more receptive to warming something up instead of popping out a boob.  I know we are comfortable with that, but not all places are so welcoming of breastfeeding.

Qmommy

BeetleLinz1125:

"I appreciate the concern, but the pediatrician and I will work out those issues."

This way they know its not up for discussion.  There's no reason they wouldn't let you warm up frozen milk with water with a cup....I think (and please don't flame me for this) most places would be more receptive to warming something up instead of popping out a boob.  I know we are comfortable with that, but not all places are so welcoming of breastfeeding.

I have never had a problem BFing in public.  I have never felt like people were bothered by me feeding my DD in public.  BUT I'm also in CA and not in Indiana.  I guess it depends on where you are in the world. 

blessedmamaof4

thank you for the responses, this is basically what I have been doing but they just keep getting more pushy!  I have no problem nursing in public, my veiw is the kid has to eat LOL MIL was against it from the moment we found out we were expecting! I guess I just dont understand why she is so against doing what is best for my DS

 

BeetleLinz1125

Qmommy:

BeetleLinz1125:

"I appreciate the concern, but the pediatrician and I will work out those issues."

This way they know its not up for discussion.  There's no reason they wouldn't let you warm up frozen milk with water with a cup....I think (and please don't flame me for this) most places would be more receptive to warming something up instead of popping out a boob.  I know we are comfortable with that, but not all places are so welcoming of breastfeeding.

I have never had a problem BFing in public.  I have never felt like people were bothered by me feeding my DD in public.  BUT I'm also in CA and not in Indiana.  I guess it depends on where you are in the world. 

I'm not saying people do have a problem BF in public...and they honestly shouldn't...I EP, so I haven't run into any problems.  I just know that in my area there are a lot of close-minded people who don't welcome it like it should be.  I would honestly be afraid to NIP if I had to in my town.  I get funny looks from people when they ask me what type of formula I use and I tell them I don't use formula, she gets breastmilk.  They don't understand, mostly because they are so uneducated.  The next question is "Isn't that so much harder?" or "Eww. That's gross."

CopperT0p

My MIL has been like OP's since before L was born.  She only lasted BF'ing for 3 weeks with one of her three kids (the others she lasted less than that).  So she has this mentality that BF'ing is too hard on Mom, and how can I know he is getting enough, etc.  I have tried explaining it to her medically with supply and demand, and that he was a happy baby, so obviously he wasn't starving.  The problem we had was the L is naturally a smaller baby, and his cousin that is 1.5 years older is always at the 100th percentile, so she compares them and thinks we're starving L because he's so much smaller.

Eventually medical facts and pediatrician recommendations seemed to get through her skull around 4 months, but when that finally ended, then she got on my case about starting food.  I again backed up our decision with medical recommendations, and basically would let her comments roll off our backs.  

Goodluck! 

Teresa1896

I got my DD this onesie (or one just like it from Target, actually). Subtle, huh? :-)

 https://babybrewing.com/my-mom-doesnt-want-your-advice/

 

mexicolombiana

I have to admit I would not be as tactful as other people.  If my mother or MIL or anyone else was trying to TELL me NOT to breastfeed my child ? I would be SO angry and tell them that breastfeeding is best and to STOP giving me any suggestions about formula and that I would NOT BE GIVING MY CHILD FORMULA.  PERIOD.  end of story. 

sorry I would just be pissed.  I mean I can understand if you were giving your child 7-up in a bottle then they can say something to you, but discouraging you from breastfeeding your CHILD? Unacceptable IMO.

ABizzity

"This topic is not up for discussion."

That is what I would say every.single.time until they got it through their thick skulls.