I often joke that I can't wait to go home and have a drink, but the truth is I don't drink, I don't like wine, absolutely hate beer, and while I like a cocktail when we go out on occasion, I sure as hell don't have time to be mixing them up at home.
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Re: "Wine o'clock" article - discuss
I don't drink every day, but I certainly drink.
Frankly, I'd rather come home and have a cup of coffee or hot chocolate and some toast or a cookie.
I rarely even think to drink a glass of wine or cocktail on a weeknight. DH has a drink most nights when he gets home. Its just never been my thing.
I usually have a glass or two of wine in the evening. The same as before DD.
To answer your question, I have 1-2 glasses of wine probably 3-4 nights a week (including weekends, which my DH often works.)
But it really kind of bothers me that this study, and article, focuses just on working moms. I've done it all - Worked FT, PT, SAH, WAH - and I think I probably drank the most when I SAH. Maybe it was just my personality (i.e. not cut out for SAH) but I swear that sometimes my DH would walk in the door and I'd be rushing to pour myself a glass of wine. Now I work FT and come home from work excited to play with my kids, not drink wine. Like I said, sometimes I'll have a glass or two with dinner, or after they're in bed, but it's more of a treat than what feels like a necessity. Obviously not all SAHMs are like this, but I'm sure I wasn't the only one.
I guess the article/study can choose to focus on whatever specific group they want, but the way it read I just didn't like how it gave off the impression that substance abuse is just a working mom issue, versus just a mom issue in general.
This.
I have become a serious light weight. I used to drink 1-2 martinis when we went out. Now, one martini would put me under the table. Even two glasses of wine has me feeling sluggish the next day.
I like the idea of it more than I like actually doing it.
My twins are 5! My baby is 3!
DS#2 - Allergic to Cashew, Pistachio, Kiwi
DS#3 - Allergic to Milk, Egg, Peanut, Tree Nuts and Sesame
I can't vote because it's not that I don't drink (I do) and it's not that I'm having a drink every night I get home. I'd say I average 1-2 drinks over a two week period, sometimes more or less depending if DH and I are going out for dinner (alone). But I can't fathom drinking much because I'm a lightweight and it's not like I have a full-time night-nanny or anything.
DD -- 5YO
DS -- 3YO
The article has no statistics on working mothers. It says more people are drinking and then throws in some crap about Xanax? And from that WM, in particular, are hitting the bottle due to stressors?
I knew I disliked that magazine.
I question their methods when they say that 5.3 million women out of 300 million people drink in a way that threatens their safety and then turn around and say that "one in four children has an addictive parent".
This statistically doesn't make sense. Even if 2X as many men as women have a drinking problem, it still doesn't make sense, unless there are a lot more alcoholic families like the Duggars.
I am at home now, but I drink less than I did when I worked, if only because I have less time and much more of my socialization is in places where drinking doesn't make sense, like the pool, park, lessons, library.
Oh goodie it must be open season on working moms! This "study" is alarmist horse $hit. If you co to the actual article in Working Mothers magazine, it tells you several stories about addict moms that are extremely upsetting but anecdotal, then asks you to make the leap that more and more working moms are addicts. For the "research" they ask you to click "here" for statistics that support their theory. The "statistics" they list are:
I could spend all day picking apart each of these bullets. Not only is the wording nebulous, they don't even site their sources. The whole thing is garbage.
Phew, I need a drink!
Obviously I'm not drinking now (KU with #2), but outside of pregnancy, I drink, but not every day. Usually once or twice a week. It varies from 1/2 a drink (watching a movie with DH before I fall asleep) to 5 drinks over the course of a 5-6 hour party. The latter, probably occurs less than once per month.
I think someone actually posted this in the comments on the article page - that there are a lot of closet drinkers in the SAH crowd too! Very valid point.
I only put the choices they offered in the original article online because I wanted it to compare to the general population that may have responded to that poll vs. what the working bumpie would pick. I know they kinda pigeon holed it to having a drink everyday vs. none.at.all and I know that is not very realistic. I see nothing wrong with having a few on the weekends and would guess that is really what most WM do, otherwise like all pp's have pretty much said -way too exhausted to even pour a drink