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Pardon my ignorance, but....
am I the only one who just did it like bunny rabbits for several months until we got pg?
The reason I ask is because it seems like everyone on here is talking about DPO and charting and other acronyms I don't even know, and it just made me wonder. ?For those who charted and everything, did you just start charting right away, or did you try first for awhile and then start charting?
Charting/checking your temp/all that stuff just seems too complicated! ?I would hope that most people wouldn't do that unless they needed to.
(No offense to those who are charting....I was just wondering cuz I feel like the minority on this board).?
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Re: Pardon my ignorance, but....
I wasn't fully charting, although I kept meaning to (I bought the TCOYF book). I was tracking my CM but the last month not too much.
I was actually trying to 'avoid' fertile days (not to an exact science with temping) last May - Dec and thought we'd let whatever happen, happen in Jan. I had a m/c, skipped Feb (yeah a whole month of no nookie - DH was upset I think and needed time) then March, we got BFP.
Once we were going to definitely 'try' I was going to start charting seriously. I just don't sleep well so I thought my temps would be all wacky.
ETA: just little change
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Charting was a must for us and we had to use clomid before I got my BFP. It's not as easy as frequent sex for alot or couples.
Wow that comes off pretty judgmental.
Most people I know on the board, humped like rabbits for months and that didn't work. Then one of those fancy tools, what are they called...oh a doctor...said that they have this or that barrier to fertility. Soooo then they went through all of that stuff that is just "too complicated" to make their dreams come through and start a family.
Count yourself lucky and be in awe of the men and women who fought so hard to have their family.
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I charted from the very beginning. I'm 35 and was told by my OB that due to my age it could take up to a year to get pregnant. "Doing it like bunnies" isn't really useful since you're fertile window is so small. I decided to chart on my own so that when we did do it, it was during the right time during my cycle. I didn't want to waste time having sex blindly then start to worry if I wasn't getting pregnant.
I got my BFP on my 3rd cycle and we only did it every other day (total of 3 times) during my fertile window. We could have done it 20 times that month but if it wasn't at the right time, it would have been useless for trying to get pregnant.
I was not charting - but I was also not TTGP. DH and I were planning on starting to try next year. I was actually on the pill when I got KU.
I consider myself very blessed not to be one of the many ladies who had to go through such heartache to conceive. And i am so happy for all of them that ended up getting a BFP - and keep my fingers crossed that everyone else has the same luck
However; if i HAD been TTGP - i would have definitely been charting
Came off pill in March 09. Starting charting (which is seriously idiot proof easy) to make sure I had regular cycles, and also to avoid.
Low and behold, despite having 28 days cycles, I was a very late ovulater with super short luteal phases.
Got down to business in Septmber 09. After two months, went to OB and said, "Test my progesterone, yo. Here is six months of charts to back me up."
OB said, "Ok. Congratulations on being proactive, because without this chart I would never have tested you for progesterone on 28 day cycles. I would have told you to come back after a year of trying."
Me, "Well, luckily I can handle the simple acts of taking my temperature and data input, so test away."
Sure enough, she found my progesterone was low too. I would have never gotten PG on my own even with 28 day cycles. Was referred to an RE, and got pregnant first medicated cycle with him.
So yeah, screwing like bunnies doesn't work for everyone, and charting in a nice way to save yourself a year of heartache and anxiety.
Sorry! ?I wasn't trying to be judgmental at all! ?Quite the opposite! ?I AM in awe of all of you who had to struggle to get pg. ?I know I am very lucky and didn't have to struggle.
It just seems like everyone here is charting and I was just wondering why all the ?charting. ?That's all.?
Also, not for nothing, but it is kind of ignorant. Not that you are being rude, but it is sort of ignorant not to care how your body works.
And I'm not a crazy tree hugger who thinks chemical birth control is the devil. It kept me happily baby free for years.
But really, why would anyone be "stressed" about figuring out how their body naturally works?
The first time with DS I missed a couple of birth control pills and was doubling up and we did it during the prime time I guess and I got a BFP a few days after my missed period (I just checked because I thought my missing pills had something to do with it). I took 7 tests and was shocked! It was a good shock though. We always wanted kids, we just thought we would wait until we were in our mid to late 20s (I was 22 almost 23 when DS was born).
The 2nd time (I had an early mc that time), we just did it a lot that month, especially in the middle of the month.
The 3rd time (this pregnancy), we really wanted to get pregnant so we did it every other day during the window that I found on the internet (no real charting or temp check or anything like that).
It's not complicated.
I could have had all the sex I wanted, I would never have gotten pregnant. Seriously glad humping like rabbits worked for you, but it won't for everyone. I know you don't mean to sound ignorant, but you do.
You are right....I AM ignorant about charting and all of that stuff. ?That's why I was asking. ?With all the acronyms and everything, it does sound complicated to someone who has never done it before.?
Yes let's promote the ridiculous myth that everyone has the exact same cycle and sex on day 14 gets you pregnant. Why would you possibly want to know how your body is working or if something is wrong.
I think some of you are WAY too defensive about this.She isn't attacking anyone or belittling anyone's struggles. And not all of the people here have IF problems.
I started charting while we were TTA because I hated being on the pill. It helped cut back on how often we needed to use condoms, which was a big plus. So, when we started TTGP I continued to chart. It's really not complicated at all, and I know sooo much more about my body now. Just because I charted doesn't mean we still didn't do it like bunnies. I kept DH out of the loop about things because he didn't really want to know all the details. It was more for my knowledge than anything else.
My mom and my sister were concerned that charting would make me stressed and that could make it hard for me to get pregnant, but really I think I would have been more stressed if I hadn't charted. I wouldn't have wanted to be peeing on sticks all the time thinking I'm pregnant when I just ovulated later than usual.
same here
Thank you for your response, Mrs. McCain. ?That makes a lot of sense. :0)?
I meant the "We just humped like rabbits" part of your post. That's great, I'm not trying to say it's not, but we just did it the old fashioned way, I don't get charting, (or why would you chart if your not IF) posts rub me the wrong way. I know you didn't mean to offend anyone, I'm just pointing it out.
We charted from the get go. I wanted to make sure my body was working. I had heard too many horror stories of people trying for a year, only to find out they weren't even ovulating.
Charting is not complicated at all. I think you have a misconception; you should really educate yourself about it before you judge it.
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I was 100% sure we were going to have TTTC so my DH and I started TTGP a year before we wanted to conceive. Turns out I didn't have trouble at all! (1st real try after mapping ovulation) and now I have to start rethinking some travel plans I made for this summer.... whoops!
I guess the line that bothers me is the " I would hope that most people wouldn't do that unless they needed to." I'm sooooo glad I charted, I feel like I know a ton more about getting pregnant than my sister, who's been pregnant 5 times.
Too bad "humping like rabbits" doesn't work for everyone.
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Like POF siad that aren't many of us that wanted to chart for months or spend money on OPKs or fertility specialists. Of course, we'd like to fvck like bunnies and have it happen from one lucky sperm.
am I the only one who just did it like bunny rabbits for several months until we got pg?
So yes this comment did hit a nerve.
I'm not judging! ?And I didn't mean to sound as if I was. ?Obviously from people's responses, charting isn't as difficult as it sounds. ?But you have to admit that all the acronyms and verbage that people use here can certainly sound very confusing!
I guess I was just hoping that the majority of people wouldn't have to do anything complicated to get pg. ?I know that many people do, but I would hope that it wasn't the majority of people (because I wouldn't wish TTC on anyone). ?So please, don't take offense!?
Same here
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Soooo, if I said "No offense, but you're a complete dumb@ss and good fvcking for you that you got pregnant from humping like bunnies." that wouldn't be offending because I said "no offense first"?
I can just say what I want as long as I as you to pardon my ignorance or not take offense?
hmm, I'll have to keep that in mind.
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This!
As part of "Charting Education Wednesday", not everyone who charts is doing it because they have trouble getting pregnant, or even because they want to get pregnant. It is also a very effective means of birth control if used properly.
Personally I didn't chart and temp seriously and I reeeeaaaally regret it now. My cycle was always off a little bit but almost always about 31 days long after my m/c. So we would just hump between day 12-21(which we enjoyed of course) and keep our fingers crossed. After 9 BFNs we were pretty resolved to going to the doctor and finding out how to do it the smart way when we got our BFP in February. Turns out that month I ovulated on day 28. We're just lucky it was Valentine's Day and we boned. Otherwise we would have found out from the dr. what idiots we were for not tracking it and suffering through all those months of disappointment after already losing one baby.
So while I haven't really had TTC problems, I was misinformed about my own cycle and it caused a lot of heartache. That comment was offenseive to me even without true TTC problems, because I like to think of myself as a thoughtful person.
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