Pardon my ignorance, but....

Hyfagal

izzourclue:

I don't understand the point of posts like this.  The "come in if you had no trouble getting pregnant" posts.  You feel so alone because you got pregnant right way or didn't need any treatments.  They always come off as insensitive and AWing "look at me, I'm fertile!"  Just be thankful you don't have to go through what you are reading about on these boards and be quiet.  These posts always rub me the wrong way. 

Exactly.

Also for all those that are confused by the complicated abbreviations there is a glossary directly underneath My Boards.

hjk5000

smzsmz2008:

naughty_02_01:

Cleary said in the title..."pardon my ignorance" Geez..so snippy today in the boards. She didn't mean any harm, I never charted and we humped like bunnies..and look where i am too!!!

Soooo, if I said "No offense, but you're a complete dumb@ss and good fvcking for you that you got pregnant from humping like bunnies." that wouldn't be offending because I said "no offense first"?

I can just say what I want as long as I as you to pardon my ignorance or not take offense? 

hmm, I'll have to keep that in mind. 

I like you smzsmz.

naughty_02_01

flgirl79:

naughty_02_01:

Cleary said in the title..."pardon my ignorance" Geez..so snippy today in the boards. She didn't mean any harm, I never charted and we humped like bunnies..and look where i am too!!!

The OP was worded poorly.

"I would hope that most people wouldn't do that unless they needed to."

Whether she meant it to or not, that comment came off as judgemental to me.

 

True...and I missed that, must have read it to quickly

naughty_02_01

smzsmz2008:

naughty_02_01:

Cleary said in the title..."pardon my ignorance" Geez..so snippy today in the boards. She didn't mean any harm, I never charted and we humped like bunnies..and look where i am too!!!

Soooo, if I said "No offense, but you're a complete dumb@ss and good fvcking for you that you got pregnant from humping like bunnies." that wouldn't be offending because I said "no offense first"?

I can just say what I want as long as I as you to pardon my ignorance or not take offense? 

hmm, I'll have to keep that in mind. 

 

Wow...I really didn't mean any harm...it's just people are giving her a hard time, when I REALLY don't think she meant it like that...and she followed up by apologizing in a later post

juliane2004

With DD #1, we just used OPKs.

With this pregnancy, I charted because I recently learned about it. I loved it, because I could really understand my cycles better & see similarities/differences between them. I didnt have anything medically wrong, but I loved charting.

ETA: I didnt have to chart. I wanted to

mrsz2008

hjk5000:

smzsmz2008:

naughty_02_01:

Cleary said in the title..."pardon my ignorance" Geez..so snippy today in the boards. She didn't mean any harm, I never charted and we humped like bunnies..and look where i am too!!!

Soooo, if I said "No offense, but you're a complete dumb@ss and good fvcking for you that you got pregnant from humping like bunnies." that wouldn't be offending because I said "no offense first"?

I can just say what I want as long as I as you to pardon my ignorance or not take offense? 

hmm, I'll have to keep that in mind. 

I like you smzsmz.

Most people do

Monkey304

piecesofflare:

I fvcked my husband twice a day for a year. 

 

Did you really? Cause if you did, you are my new hero. Seriously.

mrsf123

RN536:

You are not the only one. This is my second child and with both pregnancies we only had unprotected sex once and I got pregnant right away. No charting for me, apparently I am very fertile.

Well well well, aren't you a lucky one

mrsz2008

mrsf123:

RN536:

You are not the only one. This is my second child and with both pregnancies we only had unprotected sex once and I got pregnant right away. No charting for me, apparently I am very fertile.

Well well well, aren't you a lucky one

How did I miss this the first time?

Sweet mother of mercy, good thing you've only had unprotected sex twice, otherwise you could have 25 kids by now...

scoutkate

Mrs.McCain:

I started charting while we were TTA because I hated being on the pill.  It helped cut back on how often we needed to use condoms, which was a big plus.  So, when we started TTGP I continued to chart.  It's really not complicated at all, and I know sooo much more about my body now.  Just because I charted doesn't mean we still didn't do it like bunnies.  I kept DH out of the loop about things because he didn't really want to know all the details. It was more for my knowledge than anything else.

My mom and my sister were concerned that charting would make me stressed and that could make it hard for me to get pregnant, but really I think I would have been more stressed if I hadn't charted. I wouldn't have wanted to be peeing on sticks all the time thinking I'm pregnant when I just ovulated later than usual. 

This exactly.  We tried for ten months before I finally started charting, and it took so much stress out of the process!  I loved not having to guess at what was going on in there.  As a pp said, it's empowering to understand your body and the way it works, which is often different from the way it is "supposed" to work (ie, ovulation on CD 14).  Honestly, putting my temps into FF every morning was the most exciting part of my day for awhile!  I loved charting and I wish I hadn't waited so long to start.

mrsf123

smzsmz2008:

mrsf123:

RN536:

You are not the only one. This is my second child and with both pregnancies we only had unprotected sex once and I got pregnant right away. No charting for me, apparently I am very fertile.

Well well well, aren't you a lucky one

How did I miss this the first time?

Sweet mother of mercy, good thing you've only had unprotected sex twice, otherwise you could have 25 kids by now...

I know, right!  What a winner!  You can just call her Fertile Myrtle!  (gag)

bethanno

We were not keep track of anything, just trying to have sex every other day. And I told my husband that he couldn't masturbate b/c he was killing sperm. LOL  Hey, we're pregnant now!

mrsz2008

mrsf123:

smzsmz2008:

mrsf123:

RN536:

You are not the only one. This is my second child and with both pregnancies we only had unprotected sex once and I got pregnant right away. No charting for me, apparently I am very fertile.

Well well well, aren't you a lucky one

How did I miss this the first time?

Sweet mother of mercy, good thing you've only had unprotected sex twice, otherwise you could have 25 kids by now...

I know, right!  What a winner!  You can just call her Fertile Myrtle!  (gag)

Seriously, gross.

Although I didn't have TTTC, it was the longest 10 months of my life.

Her comment reminded me of what my sister said when I told her it took us 10 months. She said "It took us 4 months to get pg with #1 and then the 1st try for the other 3. I don't think my body was ready to get pregnant yet since it only took 1 try after that, I'm sure next time it'll only take you one try" ::GAG::

grr_aargh

piecesofflare:

I fvcked my husband twice a day for a year.  Not everyone's as lucky as you.

And it's only complicated if you can't handle putting a thermometer in your mouth and recording the temperature.  I didn't find that particularly challenging, but maybe I just have a gift for basic skills.  *shrug*

Yo. 

JulietL129

piecesofflare:

I fvcked my husband twice a day for a year.  Not everyone's as lucky as you.

And it's only complicated if you can't handle putting a thermometer in your mouth and recording the temperature.  I didn't find that particularly challenging, but maybe I just have a gift for basic skills.  *shrug*

So you can figure out tickers on your own AND taking your own temperature? A jack of all trades, POF, you certainly are a jack of all trades :-P 

mrsf123

smzsmz2008:

Seriously, gross.

Although I didn't have TTTC, it was the longest 10 months of my life.

Her comment reminded me of what my sister said when I told her it took us 10 months. She said "It took us 4 months to get pg with #1 and then the 1st try for the other 3. I don't think my body was ready to get pregnant yet since it only took 1 try after that, I'm sure next time it'll only take you one try" ::GAG::

Ugh.  Gross.  I don't consider myself as having TTTC; it took 8 months and a chemical pregnancy that lasted forever, but I take such offense to things like this for everyone who did.  My Brother's wife's sister (got that?) was on the pill for like 20 years, went off it, a got KU immediately before even getting a period.  ALL I heard from her was to "relax".  Well, deary, relaxing won't make the CP expel fully from my body so I get a new period and ovulate, now will it?  *F*

pepomntpat

I was charting to avoid for almost three years so I just switched to charting to try. It isn't at all complicated or time consuming and it is just smart to know about how your body works.

KCKSarah

Good Lord, does everyone calm the hell down in the 2nd trimester? 

If I wanted to be around this many judgmental women I'd go to the family reunion.

mrsz2008

mrsf123:

smzsmz2008:

Seriously, gross.

Although I didn't have TTTC, it was the longest 10 months of my life.

Her comment reminded me of what my sister said when I told her it took us 10 months. She said "It took us 4 months to get pg with #1 and then the 1st try for the other 3. I don't think my body was ready to get pregnant yet since it only took 1 try after that, I'm sure next time it'll only take you one try" ::GAG::

Ugh.  Gross.  I don't consider myself as having TTTC; it took 8 months and a chemical pregnancy that lasted forever, but I take such offense to things like this for everyone who did.  My Brother's wife's sister (got that?) was on the pill for like 20 years, went off it, a got KU immediately before even getting a period.  ALL I heard from her was to "relax".  Well, deary, relaxing won't make the CP expel fully from my body so I get a new period and ovulate, now will it?  *F*

Got it  

The "relax" phrase is exactly why I didn't tell my mom or sister that we were trying, I don't need that kind of pressure. 

ETA: to add, sorry for your c/p

mrsz2008

KCKSarah:

Good Lord, does everyone calm the hell down in the 2nd trimester? 

If I wanted to be around this many judgmental women I'd go to the family reunion.

.....okay....

good one?

izzourclue

KCKSarah:

Good Lord, does everyone calm the hell down in the 2nd trimester? 

If I wanted to be around this many judgmental women I'd go to the family reunion.

Oh snap!

mrsz2008

izzourclue:

KCKSarah:

Good Lord, does everyone calm the hell down in the 2nd trimester? 

If I wanted to be around this many judgmental women I'd go to the family reunion.

Oh snap!

Seriously! I didn't know how to respond to that. But I like yours!

izzourclue

smzsmz2008:

izzourclue:

KCKSarah:

Good Lord, does everyone calm the hell down in the 2nd trimester? 

If I wanted to be around this many judgmental women I'd go to the family reunion.

Oh snap!

Seriously! I didn't know how to respond to that. But I like yours!

I find it appropriate for many scenarios.  There is also the old school "in your face!" or "FACE!"

mrsz2008

izzourclue:

smzsmz2008:

izzourclue:

KCKSarah:

Good Lord, does everyone calm the hell down in the 2nd trimester? 

If I wanted to be around this many judgmental women I'd go to the family reunion.

Oh snap!

Seriously! I didn't know how to respond to that. But I like yours!

I find it appropriate for many scenarios.  There is also the old school "in your face!" or "FACE!"

I literally LOL

I also like the "Oh no you/she didn't!" With the very necessary sassy side-ways "V" snap. 

KCKSarah

OK, lame attempt at humor with the 'calm the hell down' post.

But seriously gals, I am new to thebump (but not to message boards).  My impression is that this board is um, a little high-strung and kinda judgmental. 

Some of you are really good at expressing yourself with the written word, but a lot aren't.  I think that's the case with this thread.  

So, I guess I'm wondering why everyone is making assumptions when  thoughts are poorly expressed.  I'd rather ask a question that get super defensive about something some stranger wrote. (Plus you know what they say when you assume...)

So enough of my rant! Bear with me I'm a touchy-feely nonprofit manager. I can't help myself with the mediation crap, I'm surrounded by social workers every day and that crap rubs off on a gal!

izzourclue

smzsmz2008:

izzourclue:

smzsmz2008:

izzourclue:

KCKSarah:

Good Lord, does everyone calm the hell down in the 2nd trimester? 

If I wanted to be around this many judgmental women I'd go to the family reunion.

Oh snap!

Seriously! I didn't know how to respond to that. But I like yours!

I find it appropriate for many scenarios.  There is also the old school "in your face!" or "FACE!"

I literally LOL

I also like the "Oh no you/she didn't!" With the very necessary sassy side-ways "V" snap. 

Good one.  However, I have to correct you phonetically its "di-ent."  "I used to say 'don't go there,' but that's lame." - Michael Scott.

How long can we make this quote?

mrsz2008

izzourclue:

smzsmz2008:

izzourclue:

smzsmz2008:

izzourclue:

KCKSarah:

Good Lord, does everyone calm the hell down in the 2nd trimester? 

If I wanted to be around this many judgmental women I'd go to the family reunion.

Oh snap!

Seriously! I didn't know how to respond to that. But I like yours!

I find it appropriate for many scenarios.  There is also the old school "in your face!" or "FACE!"

I literally LOL

I also like the "Oh no you/she didn't!" With the very necessary sassy side-ways "V" snap. 

Good one.  However, I have to correct you phonetically its "di-ent."  "I used to say 'don't go there,' but that's lame." - Michael Scott.

How long can we make this quote?

I LOLed again, and am still laughing. I say this quote ALL the time. I Michael Scott.

And I think if we keep coming up with kick-@ss things to say, then it could be endless!

And thank you for the correction! My mistake, yours sounds MUCH better!

 

izzourclue

smzsmz2008:

izzourclue:

smzsmz2008:

izzourclue:

smzsmz2008:

izzourclue:

KCKSarah:

Good Lord, does everyone calm the hell down in the 2nd trimester? 

If I wanted to be around this many judgmental women I'd go to the family reunion.

Oh snap!

Seriously! I didn't know how to respond to that. But I like yours!

I find it appropriate for many scenarios.  There is also the old school "in your face!" or "FACE!"

I literally LOL

I also like the "Oh no you/she didn't!" With the very necessary sassy side-ways "V" snap. 

Good one.  However, I have to correct you phonetically its "di-ent."  "I used to say 'don't go there,' but that's lame." - Michael Scott.

How long can we make this quote?

I LOLed again, and am still laughing. I say this quote ALL the time. I Michael Scott.

And I think if we keep coming up with kick-@ss things to say, then it could be endless!

And thank you for the correction! My mistake, yours sounds MUCH better!

 

Ok one more...

izzourclue

smzsmz2008:

izzourclue:

smzsmz2008:

izzourclue:

smzsmz2008:

izzourclue:

KCKSarah:

Good Lord, does everyone calm the hell down in the 2nd trimester? 

If I wanted to be around this many judgmental women I'd go to the family reunion.

Oh snap!

Seriously! I didn't know how to respond to that. But I like yours!

I find it appropriate for many scenarios.  There is also the old school "in your face!" or "FACE!"

I literally LOL

I also like the "Oh no you/she didn't!" With the very necessary sassy side-ways "V" snap. 

Good one.  However, I have to correct you phonetically its "di-ent."  "I used to say 'don't go there,' but that's lame." - Michael Scott.

How long can we make this quote?

I LOLed again, and am still laughing. I say this quote ALL the time. I Michael Scott.

And I think if we keep coming up with kick-@ss things to say, then it could be endless!

And thank you for the correction! My mistake, yours sounds MUCH better!

 

Ok one more...

izzourclue

Damn, didn't work.  Nevermind ::slinks away in shame::

mrsz2008

izzourclue:

Damn, didn't work.  Nevermind ::slinks away in shame::

Sad! You're still a winner in my books!

MrsTechie

KCKSarah:

OK, lame attempt at humor with the 'calm the hell down' post.

But seriously gals, I am new to thebump (but not to message boards).  My impression is that this board is um, a little high-strung and kinda judgmental. 

Some of you are really good at expressing yourself with the written word, but a lot aren't.  I think that's the case with this thread.  

So, I guess I'm wondering why everyone is making assumptions when  thoughts are poorly expressed.  I'd rather ask a question that get super defensive about something some stranger wrote. (Plus you know what they say when you assume...)

So enough of my rant! Bear with me I'm a touchy-feely nonprofit manager. I can't help myself with the mediation crap, I'm surrounded by social workers every day and that crap rubs off on a gal!

You fell into the "a lot aren't" with your previous post.

You're new so I suggest you lurk. Read and get a feel for how the board operates. I wouldn't recommend making a judgement call on how the board operates when you haven't been around long enough to get a true feel.

If you don't like it or aren't comfortable with it- find another board to hang out on- you'll enjoy the experience more. Or go to another community. This is not me being rude- this is an honest suggestion. Posting your annoyance about this community will not magically make it morph to your expectations of what it should be.

MrsTechie

To the OP:

I started charting right away. Not because I had fertility issues or expected to have them. But because my husband and I decided it was time to try to get pregnant. To our way of thinking, we made a conscious decision to try, so we made a conscious effort to make it work.

Simply having lots of sex around the time that you think you might be able to get pregnant doesn't work most of them time. You only get a 20% chance when you time it perfectly.

Some people just take a more cerebral approach, I guess.

CinemaGoddess

MrsTechie:

To the OP:

I started charting right away. Not because I had fertility issues or expected to have them. But because my husband and I decided it was time to try to get pregnant. To our way of thinking, we made a conscious decision to try, so we made a conscious effort to make it work.

Simply having lots of sex around the time that you think you might be able to get pregnant doesn't work most of them time. You only get a 20% chance when you time it perfectly.

Some people just take a more cerebral approach, I guess.

This is offensive.  Just because someone didn't chart to get pregnant doesn't mean they're stupid or ignorant. 

ETA - I read TCOYF.  Charting wasn't my style. 

- the woman who got pregnant without charting while on birth control 

izzourclue

smzsmz2008:

izzourclue:

Damn, didn't work.  Nevermind ::slinks away in shame::

Sad! You're still a winner in my books!

Think I got it...

GIFSoup

mchupie

cinema_goddess:

MrsTechie:

To the OP:

I started charting right away. Not because I had fertility issues or expected to have them. But because my husband and I decided it was time to try to get pregnant. To our way of thinking, we made a conscious decision to try, so we made a conscious effort to make it work.

Simply having lots of sex around the time that you think you might be able to get pregnant doesn't work most of them time. You only get a 20% chance when you time it perfectly.

Some people just take a more cerebral approach, I guess.

This is offensive.  Just because someone didn't chart to get pregnant doesn't mean they're stupid or ignorant. 

ETA - I read TCOYF.  Charting wasn't my style. 

- the woman who got pregnant without charting while on birth control 

Is this really necessary to point out?

How easily you got pregnant is a very sensitive issue on these boards.  Please don't be smug about it.

Also, I don't think MrsTechie was implying that people who didn't chart are stupid or ignorant.  I didn't read that in her post at all.

jennim1984

It took me 3.5 years 2 IVF's and over 20k. Not everyone is a fertile mertile.

CinemaGoddess

mchupie:

cinema_goddess:

MrsTechie:

To the OP:

I started charting right away. Not because I had fertility issues or expected to have them. But because my husband and I decided it was time to try to get pregnant. To our way of thinking, we made a conscious decision to try, so we made a conscious effort to make it work.

Simply having lots of sex around the time that you think you might be able to get pregnant doesn't work most of them time. You only get a 20% chance when you time it perfectly.

Some people just take a more cerebral approach, I guess.

This is offensive.  Just because someone didn't chart to get pregnant doesn't mean they're stupid or ignorant. 

ETA - I read TCOYF.  Charting wasn't my style. 

- the woman who got pregnant without charting while on birth control 

Is this really necessary to point out?

How easily you got pregnant is a very sensitive issue on these boards.  Please don't be smug about it.

Also, I don't think MrsTechie was implying that people who didn't chart are stupid or ignorant.  I didn't read that in her post at all.

I wasn't trying to be smug.  I've said this before on threads in first-tri. 

The point I was trying to make is similar to what someone said in another thread, the people come here having gotten pregnant in different ways.  To say one way of getting pregnant is more worthy or should be more respected than another is offensive.  I did get pregnant easily.  Too easily, IMO. 

To call one way of getting pregnant "more cerebral" than another is implying that other ways of getting pregnant are less intellectual, hence: stupid.  I've personally been called ignorant by 1st tri posters in the past when I said I didn't know I was pregnant until I was 6+ weeks pregnant. 

 

mchupie

cinema_goddess:

I wasn't trying to be smug.  I've said this before on threads in first-tri. 

The point I was trying to make is similar to what someone said in another thread, the people come here having gotten pregnant in different ways.  To say one way of getting pregnant is more worthy or should be more respected than another is offensive.  I did get pregnant easily.  Too easily, IMO. 

To call one way of getting pregnant "more cerebral" than another is implying that other ways of getting pregnant are less intellectual, hence: stupid.  I've personally been called ignorant by 1st tri posters in the past when I said I didn't know I was pregnant until I was 6+ weeks pregnant. 

Saying something is less intellectual =/= stupid

I think it's a fact (as opposed to an opinion) that charting is more cerebral than not charting.  It's not meant as a judgment.

P.S. I am so loving Colin Firth in your siggy

CinemaGoddess

mchupie:

cinema_goddess:

I wasn't trying to be smug.  I've said this before on threads in first-tri. 

The point I was trying to make is similar to what someone said in another thread, the people come here having gotten pregnant in different ways.  To say one way of getting pregnant is more worthy or should be more respected than another is offensive.  I did get pregnant easily.  Too easily, IMO. 

To call one way of getting pregnant "more cerebral" than another is implying that other ways of getting pregnant are less intellectual, hence: stupid.  I've personally been called ignorant by 1st tri posters in the past when I said I didn't know I was pregnant until I was 6+ weeks pregnant. 

Saying something is less intellectual =/= stupid

I think it's a fact (as opposed to an opinion) that charting is more cerebral than not charting.  It's not meant as a judgment.

P.S. I am so loving Colin Firth in your siggy

Understood.  Maybe it was the way the poster worded it, but it did sound like a pretty serious judgment.  It really was hard being on this board knowing it was easy for me.  FWIW - sometimes getting pregnant easily isn't a good thing. Especially when you're not prepared for it.  At.all. 

Colin heals all wounds.  Truth.